Paying for dates

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you ask me out on a date and expect me to pay half, don't even bother because I know we're not going on that date and we're not going to be compatible

… because a free meal is the only good start for a good relationship with a stingy and greedy women.

Thank you for proving my point a guy who gets upset and resorts to name calling when I disagree with him is not someone I'm interested in dating.

[Anonymous]

only women should count beans men need to go hunt a deer or a cow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are these guys harping on here? I’m a man and I pay. I will always feed you. I don’t care if it is the first date or the last one. I have no problem picking up the check. I don’t care who you are. I have a job and don’t go around penny pinching my dates. If you’re going to worry about this then stay home. Get out of the dating pool until you grow up. This isn’t high school.

Your parents raised you well, you are probably a fun person on a date if you’re not busy worrying about the check at the end.

No. His parents taught him to believe in patriarchy and chauvinism, he earns well and is desperate for dates. If he was such a great and fun catch, wouldn’t be single and alone at 30+.

And yet you the pro feminist anti chauvinist and misogynist are running around this thread calling women who don't agree with you all sorts of nasty names, generally seem mean spirited and you are also single. Given the choice I'd go with the guy who seems nice, and less likely to be a bean counter

By seems nice you mean seems to have money to throw around.

[Anonymous]

Once upon a time, a guy would ask out a girl in real life after meeting in real life. If the guy was interested and wanted to take the girl out on a date, it should not be a big deal for the guy to pay.

On these online apps, guy may meet girl and not like her and then complain that he does not want to pay for her. If he actually liked her, wanted to get laid in the future, he would not mind paying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are these guys harping on here? I’m a man and I pay. I will always feed you. I don’t care if it is the first date or the last one. I have no problem picking up the check. I don’t care who you are. I have a job and don’t go around penny pinching my dates. If you’re going to worry about this then stay home. Get out of the dating pool until you grow up. This isn’t high school.

Your parents raised you well, you are probably a fun person on a date if you’re not busy worrying about the check at the end.

No. His parents taught him to believe in patriarchy and chauvinism, he earns well and is desperate for dates. If he was such a great and fun catch, wouldn’t be single and alone at 30+.

And yet you the pro feminist anti chauvinist and misogynist are running around this thread calling women who don't agree with you all sorts of nasty names, generally seem mean spirited and you are also single. Given the choice I'd go with the guy who seems nice, and less likely to be a bean counter

By seems nice you mean seems to have money to throw around.

No , it's that pp seems like a nice person, someone I'd want to spend time with. Not grouchy and prone to arguments.

He also doesn't seem to hate women like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are these guys harping on here? I’m a man and I pay. I will always feed you. I don’t care if it is the first date or the last one. I have no problem picking up the check. I don’t care who you are. I have a job and don’t go around penny pinching my dates. If you’re going to worry about this then stay home. Get out of the dating pool until you grow up. This isn’t high school.

In my experience as a woman I find most men behave like you, the ones complaining aren't the type worth dating.

In your experience stingy women gauging guy’s net worth are are worth it?

This is hilarious. I met my husband in graduate school. Net worth?! I did know he’d rather spend money on a $5 ice cream cone with me than another beer for himself at a bar but that’s hardly an assessment of net worth

[Anonymous]

A woman should always offer to pay her share. Then, you have the option to decline. My husband didn't have a lot of money when we dated, I always shared or switched off. Now he pays for everything.

Next time pick cheaper restaurants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are these guys harping on here? I’m a man and I pay. I will always feed you. I don’t care if it is the first date or the last one. I have no problem picking up the check. I don’t care who you are. I have a job and don’t go around penny pinching my dates. If you’re going to worry about this then stay home. Get out of the dating pool until you grow up. This isn’t high school.

This isn’t high school nor is this the era of hunter-gatherers. These are two gainfully employed modern adults sharing a meal and getting to know if they like each other enough to meet again. Nobody owes other person anything.

I'm guessing no one is meeting you again. pathetic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Starting to date after an LT marriage ended. In my mid 40's and haven't dated in almost 20 years.

I've gone out a few times with different people. I asked them out. Both times, when the check came, the date didn't even offer to split it. The one where we just had a few drinks over a happy hour doesn't hurt. It was less than $50. However, the second one went on to order a full-blown meal where the expectation was to just meet for a few drinks to see if we actually like each other in person. Just her part was $60 including appetizer, dinner, and dessert. When the check came, she had to use the restroom. I disconnected from both of them. Even if they offered to pay for their own order, would have made me feel better but it seemed like it was expected that I would pay. Also, these aren't some 20-30 year old people I'm talking about. Both ladies were my age +/- a few years.

Should I tell people up front that we will split the check? I don't want to be a dick but this is going to start to add up.

Question for women - is it expected for the man to pay for the first date?

Question for men - Do you just tell the server at the end for separate checks? Again, I don't want to be an ass about it but especially if the date is not going well, why should I end up paying for both.

Np Whoever asks should pay. Doesn't matter the gender. If you can't afford dinner suggest coffee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are these guys harping on here? I’m a man and I pay. I will always feed you. I don’t care if it is the first date or the last one. I have no problem picking up the check. I don’t care who you are. I have a job and don’t go around penny pinching my dates. If you’re going to worry about this then stay home. Get out of the dating pool until you grow up. This isn’t high school.

Your parents raised you well, you are probably a fun person on a date if you’re not busy worrying about the check at the end.

No. His parents taught him to believe in patriarchy and chauvinism, he earns well and is desperate for dates. If he was such a great and fun catch, wouldn’t be single and alone at 30+.

And yet you the pro feminist anti chauvinist and misogynist are running around this thread calling women who don't agree with you all sorts of nasty names, generally seem mean spirited and you are also single. Given the choice I'd go with the guy who seems nice, and less likely to be a bean counter

By seems nice you mean seems to have money to throw around.

If you don't have money for the date GTFO

[Anonymous]

I’m curious about men who adamantly believe women should pay— if you’re doing online dating, do you tell people this before you meet up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is it? You want to be treated as an equal or not? Don’t send mixed messages with double standards when it comes to give and take.

But we aren't treated as equal. So let's stop the pretend. Everything we do costs us more. Paid less for work? Paying more for other services? Haircuts? Dry cleaning? etc etc. If you ask me than go somewhere you can afford.

[Anonymous]

Well, double standards here are fascinating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are these guys harping on here? I’m a man and I pay. I will always feed you. I don’t care if it is the first date or the last one. I have no problem picking up the check. I don’t care who you are. I have a job and don’t go around penny pinching my dates. If you’re going to worry about this then stay home. Get out of the dating pool until you grow up. This isn’t high school.

This isn’t high school nor is this the era of hunter-gatherers. These are two gainfully employed modern adults sharing a meal and getting to know if they like each other enough to meet again. Nobody owes other person anything.

I'm guessing no one is meeting you again. pathetic

Equality is overrated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once upon a time, a guy would ask out a girl in real life after meeting in real life. If the guy was interested and wanted to take the girl out on a date, it should not be a big deal for the guy to pay.

On these online apps, guy may meet girl and not like her and then complain that he does not want to pay for her. If he actually liked her, wanted to get laid in the future, he would not mind paying.

Why is that okay in the C21