Paying for dates

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who are these guys harping on here? I’m a man and I pay. I will always feed you. I don’t care if it is the first date or the last one. I have no problem picking up the check. I don’t care who you are. I have a job and don’t go around penny pinching my dates. If you’re going to worry about this then stay home. Get out of the dating pool until you grow up. This isn’t high school.

This isn’t high school nor is this the era of hunter-gatherers. These are two gainfully employed modern adults sharing a meal and getting to know if they like each other enough to meet again. Nobody owes other person anything.

Yes, you should definitely tell that sweet, cute girl sitting across from you giggling over her plate of tacos that you don’t “owe (her) anything!” and she needs to pay for that order of guacamole. Sometimes I pity men for their dating woes, but then this guy shows up.

Why are you dating a high schooler at Taco Bell?

LOL!! Good question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. I don't enjoy eating out, and I'm an excellent cook.

2. I always pay, and if it's ongoing I pay for the first three dates.

3. But I've found myself being taken advantage of far too often, so lately, despite dozens of matches on OLD, I'm not asking anyone out. I've gone from 3-4 dinners a month to 3-4 dinners a year.

4. Because some women were greedy, other women aren't meeting me, or getting a meal.

5. My favorite date during the past year was someone who just wanted to meet to hike, and we'd cook each other dinner at our houses. Never bought a meal out.

Hikes and cooking for each other are nice in an established relationship, but as a woman, a first date needs to be in a public place. It can be cheap, or free, but I’m not going to your house or inviting you to mine until we’ve been on a few dates.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is it? You want to be treated as an equal or not? Don’t send mixed messages with double standards when it comes to give and take.

It’s not a mixed message. I pay for my friends birthday dinner, does that make me not their equal? I take my sister out for her promotion, am I saying she’s not my equal?

Don’t confuse being a cheap misogynist for being some kind of feminist. The tell is “treated as”.

You have ongoing relationships with them. Don’t confuse being stingy with being treated. What are you getting treated for? You are two people having a meal together.

Because someone has asked to take me out to eat. He can certainly than ask/expect that I pay half but that’s not something I’m looking for in a partner so that will ensure no second date.

[Anonymous]

I think there may be some younger women who really really want to split, but for mid-millennials on up, it’s a test. We offer, you say no and you pay for the first date. When you’re in a more established relationship then it’s kind of random who pays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are these guys harping on here? I’m a man and I pay. I will always feed you. I don’t care if it is the first date or the last one. I have no problem picking up the check. I don’t care who you are. I have a job and don’t go around penny pinching my dates. If you’re going to worry about this then stay home. Get out of the dating pool until you grow up. This isn’t high school.

This isn’t high school nor is this the era of hunter-gatherers. These are two gainfully employed modern adults sharing a meal and getting to know if they like each other enough to meet again. Nobody owes other person anything.

Yes, you should definitely tell that sweet, cute girl sitting across from you giggling over her plate of tacos that you don’t “owe (her) anything!” and she needs to pay for that order of guacamole. Sometimes I pity men for their dating woes, but then this guy shows up.

Thing is this guy never has a date and he’s really upset about it. That’s why he’s here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who are these guys harping on here? I’m a man and I pay. I will always feed you. I don’t care if it is the first date or the last one. I have no problem picking up the check. I don’t care who you are. I have a job and don’t go around penny pinching my dates. If you’re going to worry about this then stay home. Get out of the dating pool until you grow up. This isn’t high school.

Your parents raised you well, you are probably a fun person on a date if you’re not busy worrying about the check at the end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who are these guys harping on here? I’m a man and I pay. I will always feed you. I don’t care if it is the first date or the last one. I have no problem picking up the check. I don’t care who you are. I have a job and don’t go around penny pinching my dates. If you’re going to worry about this then stay home. Get out of the dating pool until you grow up. This isn’t high school.

In my experience as a woman I find most men behave like you, the ones complaining aren't the type worth dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think there may be some younger women who really really want to split, but for mid-millennials on up, it’s a test. We offer, you say no and you pay for the first date. When you’re in a more established relationship then it’s kind of random who pays.

It’s not a game or a test for one player, it’s a meet up of two mature people to see if they enjoy each other’s company and want to do this again for brunch on Sunday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are these guys harping on here? I’m a man and I pay. I will always feed you. I don’t care if it is the first date or the last one. I have no problem picking up the check. I don’t care who you are. I have a job and don’t go around penny pinching my dates. If you’re going to worry about this then stay home. Get out of the dating pool until you grow up. This isn’t high school.

Your parents raised you well, you are probably a fun person on a date if you’re not busy worrying about the check at the end.

No. His parents taught him to believe in patriarchy and chauvinism, he earns well and is desperate for dates. If he was such a great and fun catch, wouldn’t be single and alone at 30+.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are these guys harping on here? I’m a man and I pay. I will always feed you. I don’t care if it is the first date or the last one. I have no problem picking up the check. I don’t care who you are. I have a job and don’t go around penny pinching my dates. If you’re going to worry about this then stay home. Get out of the dating pool until you grow up. This isn’t high school.

In my experience as a woman I find most men behave like you, the ones complaining aren't the type worth dating.

In your experience stingy women gauging guy’s net worth are are worth it?

[Anonymous]

If you ask me out on a date and expect me to pay half, don't even bother because I know we're not going on that date and we're not going to be compatible

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are these guys harping on here? I’m a man and I pay. I will always feed you. I don’t care if it is the first date or the last one. I have no problem picking up the check. I don’t care who you are. I have a job and don’t go around penny pinching my dates. If you’re going to worry about this then stay home. Get out of the dating pool until you grow up. This isn’t high school.

Your parents raised you well, you are probably a fun person on a date if you’re not busy worrying about the check at the end.

No. His parents taught him to believe in patriarchy and chauvinism, he earns well and is desperate for dates. If he was such a great and fun catch, wouldn’t be single and alone at 30+.

You could calm down? Someone paying for dinner is chauvinistic now? What if you just only date men who want you to pay, and other people only date men who expect to pay? It’s not like anyone is being forced to go on a date and it sounds like there are plenty of both types represented— lots of dates to go around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you ask me out on a date and expect me to pay half, don't even bother because I know we're not going on that date and we're not going to be compatible

… because a free meal is the only good start for a good relationship with a stingy and greedy women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are these guys harping on here? I’m a man and I pay. I will always feed you. I don’t care if it is the first date or the last one. I have no problem picking up the check. I don’t care who you are. I have a job and don’t go around penny pinching my dates. If you’re going to worry about this then stay home. Get out of the dating pool until you grow up. This isn’t high school.

Your parents raised you well, you are probably a fun person on a date if you’re not busy worrying about the check at the end.

No. His parents taught him to believe in patriarchy and chauvinism, he earns well and is desperate for dates. If he was such a great and fun catch, wouldn’t be single and alone at 30+.

And yet you the pro feminist anti chauvinist and misogynist are running around this thread calling women who don't agree with you all sorts of nasty names, generally seem mean spirited and you are also single. Given the choice I'd go with the guy who seems nice, and less likely to be a bean counter

[Anonymous]

haha free food is directly related to increased compatibility