MIL getting up when baby cried: what would you do?

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Anonymous wrote:So much drama. Why didn’t you just keep your door closed and not go out in the hallway? You could have waited to use the bathroom once the baby was settled and everyone was back in bed.

Yeah, why did you continue to go out into the hall each night knowing you would meet her there and have to deal with her?

Do you think maybe because OP had to pee and didn’t want to be sitting there uncomfortable, needing to pee for 15 minutes while breastfeeding? -np

They both need to use the bathroom every time the baby wakes up? Weird.

I think a lot of people need to pee in the middle of the night, especially if they are woken up by something other than their body, like a car alarm. I know I do.

[Anonymous]

who says restroom for an in home bathroom? That's my take away from all of this. Weird.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can we come back to the “brushed past her”— did you just body check you MIL?

Read the thread or don't comment 15 pages in!

apparently, OP meant ignored and walked past her, not that she touched MIL with her body.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:who says restroom for an in home bathroom? That's my take away from all of this. Weird.

People who insist that homeowners stay in their room, not walk around their home lest they be considered prowlers, and never ask questions or inquire if all is well, in their own home. In other words, weirdos.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can we come back to the “brushed past her”— did you just body check you MIL?

Read the thread or don't comment 15 pages in!

apparently, OP meant ignored and walked past her, not that she touched MIL with her body.

It's hard to know what to believe. OP uses interesting words to describe behavior like: prowling, nuisance, and brushing which seem hyperbolic and she walked back the brushing when pressed for details.. It's all very dramatic.

[Anonymous]

Was the MIL and FIL angry at both of you when the baby cried at night? No?

Then, you could have just been a normal, decent, polite human being and said "she's ok. she will sleep soon" and then quietly said "I am so sorry that you are getting disturbed". Rinse and repeat every day.

That's all you needed to say. She is probably an anxious person and wants to be helpful. That's all.

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Anonymous wrote:So much drama. Why didn’t you just keep your door closed and not go out in the hallway? You could have waited to use the bathroom once the baby was settled and everyone was back in bed.

Yeah, why did you continue to go out into the hall each night knowing you would meet her there and have to deal with her?

Do you think maybe because OP had to pee and didn’t want to be sitting there uncomfortable, needing to pee for 15 minutes while breastfeeding? -np

They both need to use the bathroom every time the baby wakes up? Weird.

I think a lot of people need to pee in the middle of the night, especially if they are woken up by something other than their body, like a car alarm. I know I do.

So… maybe like MIL, also woken up by something either than her body?

[Anonymous]

Your husband has it under control, and he’s got the right attitude. You don’t worry about this a moment longer and focus on enjoying your baby without stuffing her into the car for five hours.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So much drama. Why didn’t you just keep your door closed and not go out in the hallway? You could have waited to use the bathroom once the baby was settled and everyone was back in bed.

Yeah, why did you continue to go out into the hall each night knowing you would meet her there and have to deal with her?

Do you think maybe because OP had to pee and didn’t want to be sitting there uncomfortable, needing to pee for 15 minutes while breastfeeding? -np

They both need to use the bathroom every time the baby wakes up? Weird.

I think a lot of people need to pee in the middle of the night, especially if they are woken up by something other than their body, like a car alarm. I know I do.

So… maybe like MIL, also woken up by something either than her body?

Right…so maybe MIL could do as she was asked for several nights in a row, and even before the trip commenced, and leave the parents/baby alone during the one night wake up? Maybe? So maybe like MIL could use the restroom and then go back to bed, instead of loudly talking and generally getting in the way when she had already been told multiple times that the parents didn’t want help? Like, maybe?

[Anonymous]

MIL wanted to swoop in and "rescue" you from a crying baby. You denied her that and now she's pissed. This will be a pattern. Continue to set and keep boundaries.

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Anonymous wrote:So much drama. Why didn’t you just keep your door closed and not go out in the hallway? You could have waited to use the bathroom once the baby was settled and everyone was back in bed.

Yeah, why did you continue to go out into the hall each night knowing you would meet her there and have to deal with her?

Do you think maybe because OP had to pee and didn’t want to be sitting there uncomfortable, needing to pee for 15 minutes while breastfeeding? -np

They both need to use the bathroom every time the baby wakes up? Weird.

I think a lot of people need to pee in the middle of the night, especially if they are woken up by something other than their body, like a car alarm. I know I do.

So… maybe like MIL, also woken up by something either than her body?

Right…so maybe MIL could do as she was asked for several nights in a row, and even before the trip commenced, and leave the parents/baby alone during the one night wake up? Maybe? So maybe like MIL could use the restroom and then go back to bed, instead of loudly talking and generally getting in the way when she had already been told multiple times that the parents didn’t want help? Like, maybe?

Like, maybe, but she didn't. Maybe she didn't like being told what to do in her own house, maybe? So, now what? Burn the witch?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So much drama. Why didn’t you just keep your door closed and not go out in the hallway? You could have waited to use the bathroom once the baby was settled and everyone was back in bed.

Yeah, why did you continue to go out into the hall each night knowing you would meet her there and have to deal with her?

Do you think maybe because OP had to pee and didn’t want to be sitting there uncomfortable, needing to pee for 15 minutes while breastfeeding? -np

They both need to use the bathroom every time the baby wakes up? Weird.

I think a lot of people need to pee in the middle of the night, especially if they are woken up by something other than their body, like a car alarm. I know I do.

So… maybe like MIL, also woken up by something either than her body?

Right…so maybe MIL could do as she was asked for several nights in a row, and even before the trip commenced, and leave the parents/baby alone during the one night wake up? Maybe? So maybe like MIL could use the restroom and then go back to bed, instead of loudly talking and generally getting in the way when she had already been told multiple times that the parents didn’t want help? Like, maybe?

Like, maybe, but she didn't. Maybe she didn't like being told what to do in her own house, maybe? So, now what? Burn the witch?

Oh, there’s no “maybe,” and there’s no “burning.” MIL was free to keep butting in even after she was asked not to. Grandbaby won’t be staying in her home anymore. Oh well! She can roam the halls alone now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is not a big deal. You two were creating more communication than needed with BOTH of you getting up and walking the halls and using the bathroom while baby cries. This is a one parent thing to handle. While annoying, when you told her you don’t need help she went back to her room, right? Just move on. Hotel next time

If I wake up in the middle of the night—whether it is because of a baby crying or a car alarm or my FIL rattling around in the kitchen straining turkey stock (a real thing that has happened to me at 4 a.m.)—I need to pee. So OP and DH probably needed to pee. Makes sense that OP would pee first, get back to the room to breastfeed, and then DH would pee.

I didn’t get the sense that they were both “walking the halls while baby cried.” OP peed while DH picked up baby and shushed/changed, then OP popped a boob in baby’s mouth while DH went to pee.

-np

It is still two people up walking in the halls separately plus one baby crying. They could have minimized this by just one parent waking. The other one can pee after baby is back to sleep another time. Just tell her no thanks to help in the hall. Shouldn’t be a huge deal

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Anonymous wrote:So much drama. Why didn’t you just keep your door closed and not go out in the hallway? You could have waited to use the bathroom once the baby was settled and everyone was back in bed.

Yeah, why did you continue to go out into the hall each night knowing you would meet her there and have to deal with her?

Do you think maybe because OP had to pee and didn’t want to be sitting there uncomfortable, needing to pee for 15 minutes while breastfeeding? -np

They both need to use the bathroom every time the baby wakes up? Weird.

I think a lot of people need to pee in the middle of the night, especially if they are woken up by something other than their body, like a car alarm. I know I do.

So… maybe like MIL, also woken up by something either than her body?

Right…so maybe MIL could do as she was asked for several nights in a row, and even before the trip commenced, and leave the parents/baby alone during the one night wake up? Maybe? So maybe like MIL could use the restroom and then go back to bed, instead of loudly talking and generally getting in the way when she had already been told multiple times that the parents didn’t want help? Like, maybe?

Like, maybe, but she didn't. Maybe she didn't like being told what to do in her own house, maybe? So, now what? Burn the witch?

Oh, there’s no “maybe,” and there’s no “burning.” MIL was free to keep butting in even after she was asked not to. Grandbaby won’t be staying in her home anymore. Oh well! She can roam the halls alone now.

Oh well. Probably for the best. DIL sounds like a control freak pain in the ass.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So much drama. Why didn’t you just keep your door closed and not go out in the hallway? You could have waited to use the bathroom once the baby was settled and everyone was back in bed.

Yeah, why did you continue to go out into the hall each night knowing you would meet her there and have to deal with her?

Do you think maybe because OP had to pee and didn’t want to be sitting there uncomfortable, needing to pee for 15 minutes while breastfeeding? -np

They both need to use the bathroom every time the baby wakes up? Weird.

I think a lot of people need to pee in the middle of the night, especially if they are woken up by something other than their body, like a car alarm. I know I do.

So… maybe like MIL, also woken up by something either than her body?

Right…so maybe MIL could do as she was asked for several nights in a row, and even before the trip commenced, and leave the parents/baby alone during the one night wake up? Maybe? So maybe like MIL could use the restroom and then go back to bed, instead of loudly talking and generally getting in the way when she had already been told multiple times that the parents didn’t want help? Like, maybe?

Like, maybe, but she didn't. Maybe she didn't like being told what to do in her own house, maybe? So, now what? Burn the witch?

Oh, there’s no “maybe,” and there’s no “burning.” MIL was free to keep butting in even after she was asked not to. Grandbaby won’t be staying in her home anymore. Oh well! She can roam the halls alone now.

Oh well. Probably for the best. DIL sounds like a control freak pain in the ass.

Disagree. I think she sounds like a normal rational person who got irritated that her MIL kept asking her 4 or 5 nights in a row if everything g was ok, even though she was repeatedly told everything was fine.

You, however, DO sound like a pain in the a$$.