Started seeing this new guy. Overhead him on the phone say “I don’t hate her. It’s not like that”?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one has yet to explain why this guy didn’t tell his ex “no I don’t have feelings for her” when she asked. If he didn’t have feelings for OP he just would’ve come right and said that but he didn’t, why?

You know why. Because he does.

He was waffling to OP.

I don’t even think it’s that. If he was so worried about OPs feelings he wouldn’t have answered his ex’s call to begin with. Even OP was sitting at home if he cared he wouldn’t gotten into a discussion about OP with his ex.

He found out that his ex was on a date last month, got upset about it, and had so much of an issue he had to contact his ex. His ex, a month later in turn asks him if he has feelings for OP. He responds “I don’t hate her”. He knows his ex is looking for him to confirm or deny with a yes or no, preferably deny with a no. So he’s not giving his ex a concrete answer with “I don’t date her. It’s not like that”. Of course he doesn’t hate OP. However, he is hurt that his ex is out here dating. He doesn’t want to say yes because it’s not true but isn’t going to say no to give his ex the satisfaction that he’s still hung up on her 100% and to not appear so vulnerable.

I hope this makes sense lol.

Girl, I tried to follow but I’m old and my eyes confused. Bottom line. He still sounds like a player in the game. Ain’t. Ivory got time for that. ‘Cept rookies.

Haha basically what I’m saying is he’s hurt that his ex went on a date last month. When his ex questioned him about OP he gave her an evasive answer to stick it to her. He wasn’t going to say yes he has feelings because 1 it’s not true and 2 it would take it too far. So instead he said “I don’t hate her” (which is. true he doesn’t). It’s his way of getting back at the ex since he’s hurt and to not appear vulnerable.

he's sticking it in her face with “I don’t hate her”/avoiding saying no because he's hurt about her moving on...he's relishing in her anguish, punishing her.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry ladies, OP was wrong for looking at his phone, creepy eavesdropping, and then confronting him about what she heard. You all seem to have missed that he was honest with her. He didn't deny it was his ex, he truthfully told her what was said. So, who's the immature, crazy cakes? It was a group gathering with lots of people. He stepped away to take a call. OP has shown her insecurity, and opened the door for him to leave.

Ladies I'm going to peep some game for you thanks to this charming male or male-identified poster..

These type of men love to play games and mess with your head. The first game he tried was 1. They aren't exclusive. This is true, but not being exclusive does not equal not deserving of respectful behavior. 2. They will lie and twist facts to make you feel like you are in the wrong.and feel like you should accept their bum behavior, example here is the phone, OP wasn't going through his phone .

3. Honesty in order to gaslight you later- I told you I was talking to her and that we were c" talking a month ago" I was hiding anything. you should be glad I was honest with you you don't have the right to be upset if I'm honest.

4. honesty in order to see how much you'll tolerate trust this guy and pp know this is bum behavior but he wants a woman or women who will tolerate his bum behavior, someone who will say well at least he was honest.

5. calling you crazy and insecure not only is this language abusive it's also them lashing out at you for daring to have standards for yourself.

Stay away from bums and fbois ladies. Plenty of good men out there who don't engage in this childish nonsense.

I'm dead

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one has yet to explain why this guy didn’t tell his ex “no I don’t have feelings for her” when she asked. If he didn’t have feelings for OP he just would’ve come right and said that but he didn’t, why?

You know why. Because he does.

He was waffling to OP.

I don’t even think it’s that. If he was so worried about OPs feelings he wouldn’t have answered his ex’s call to begin with. Even OP was sitting at home if he cared he wouldn’t gotten into a discussion about OP with his ex.

He found out that his ex was on a date last month, got upset about it, and had so much of an issue he had to contact his ex. His ex, a month later in turn asks him if he has feelings for OP. He responds “I don’t hate her”. He knows his ex is looking for him to confirm or deny with a yes or no, preferably deny with a no. So he’s not giving his ex a concrete answer with “I don’t date her. It’s not like that”. Of course he doesn’t hate OP. However, he is hurt that his ex is out here dating. He doesn’t want to say yes because it’s not true but isn’t going to say no to give his ex the satisfaction that he’s still hung up on her 100% and to not appear so vulnerable.

I hope this makes sense lol.

Girl, I tried to follow but I’m old and my eyes confused. Bottom line. He still sounds like a player in the game. Ain’t. Ivory got time for that. ‘Cept rookies.

Haha basically what I’m saying is he’s hurt that his ex went on a date last month. When his ex questioned him about OP he gave her an evasive answer to stick it to her. He wasn’t going to say yes he has feelings because 1 it’s not true and 2 it would take it too far. So instead he said “I don’t hate her” (which is. true he doesn’t). It’s his way of getting back at the ex since he’s hurt and to not appear vulnerable.

he's sticking it in her face with “I don’t hate her”/avoiding saying no because he's hurt about her moving on...he's relishing in her anguish, punishing her.

I can definitely see that. Everything seems to point to that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry ladies, OP was wrong for looking at his phone, creepy eavesdropping, and then confronting him about what she heard. You all seem to have missed that he was honest with her. He didn't deny it was his ex, he truthfully told her what was said. So, who's the immature, crazy cakes? It was a group gathering with lots of people. He stepped away to take a call. OP has shown her insecurity, and opened the door for him to leave.

She wasn't snooping through his phone and she wasn't eavesdropping, if you need to make up alternative facts it's safe to say your argument is DOA. You've already tried your crazy and insecure schtick in here. It's old it's tired. Guys like you and guys like the one OP is dating are a waste of time. Move along. OP needs to move on too.

I'm not a guy, pp. I didn't say she snooped though his phone. She looked at his screen and saw the name Michelle (knowing his ex's name is Michelle). Then she followed him and, yes, she did eavesdrop, then confronted him. My facts are exactly the facts OP stated. It is very insecure behavior. It's a moot point anyway because like I said above, he's not sticking around.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry ladies, OP was wrong for looking at his phone, creepy eavesdropping, and then confronting him about what she heard. You all seem to have missed that he was honest with her. He didn't deny it was his ex, he truthfully told her what was said. So, who's the immature, crazy cakes? It was a group gathering with lots of people. He stepped away to take a call. OP has shown her insecurity, and opened the door for him to leave.

She wasn't snooping through his phone and she wasn't eavesdropping, if you need to make up alternative facts it's safe to say your argument is DOA. You've already tried your crazy and insecure schtick in here. It's old it's tired. Guys like you and guys like the one OP is dating are a waste of time. Move along. OP needs to move on too.

I'm not a guy, pp. I didn't say she snooped though his phone. She looked at his screen and saw the name Michelle (knowing his ex's name is Michelle). Then she followed him and, yes, she did eavesdrop, then confronted him. My facts are exactly the facts OP stated. It is very insecure behavior. It's a moot point anyway because like I said above, he's not sticking around.

Please don’t procreate.

[Anonymous]

Update: so he’s supposed to come over here to talk in a few hours. He just sent a voice message saying he’s sorry Then he went on to say he shouldn’t when his ex brought up ending it with me he felt bad for saying, “yea, you’re right I should” to his ex. Then he reiterated how he was sorry and that he shouldn’t have had the conversation with his while I was there because it was rude.

BAHAHA

He thought I heard that part too. This is...is...I can’t believe this is happening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update: so he’s supposed to come over here to talk in a few hours. He just sent a voice message saying he’s sorry Then he went on to say he shouldn’t when his ex brought up ending it with me he felt bad for saying, “yea, you’re right I should” to his ex. Then he reiterated how he was sorry and that he shouldn’t have had the conversation with his while I was there because it was rude.

BAHAHA

He thought I heard that part too. This is...is...I can’t believe this is happening.

He must be reading your posts on dcum and (formerly) Reddit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update: so he’s supposed to come over here to talk in a few hours. He just sent a voice message saying he’s sorry Then he went on to say he shouldn’t when his ex brought up ending it with me he felt bad for saying, “yea, you’re right I should” to his ex. Then he reiterated how he was sorry and that he shouldn’t have had the conversation with his while I was there because it was rude.

BAHAHA

He thought I heard that part too. This is...is...I can’t believe this is happening.

Ouch. I’m sorry OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update: so he’s supposed to come over here to talk in a few hours. He just sent a voice message saying he’s sorry Then he went on to say he shouldn’t when his ex brought up ending it with me he felt bad for saying, “yea, you’re right I should” to his ex. Then he reiterated how he was sorry and that he shouldn’t have had the conversation with his while I was there because it was rude.

BAHAHA

He thought I heard that part too. This is...is...I can’t believe this is happening.

OP, isn't this whole thing a lot of effort to be putting into a relationship that isn't even exclusive? He sounds like a waste of time to me. I would tell him not to bother coming over and then cut all ties. There are plenty of guys out there who aren't going to play childish games.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update: so he’s supposed to come over here to talk in a few hours. He just sent a voice message saying he’s sorry Then he went on to say he shouldn’t when his ex brought up ending it with me he felt bad for saying, “yea, you’re right I should” to his ex. Then he reiterated how he was sorry and that he shouldn’t have had the conversation with his while I was there because it was rude.

BAHAHA

He thought I heard that part too. This is...is...I can’t believe this is happening.

OP, isn't this whole thing a lot of effort to be putting into a relationship that isn't even exclusive? He sounds like a waste of time to me. I would tell him not to bother coming over and then cut all ties. There are plenty of guys out there who aren't going to play childish games.

He’s a single guy who hasn’t lead OP on. I don’t see how that’s playing games.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry ladies, OP was wrong for looking at his phone, creepy eavesdropping, and then confronting him about what she heard. You all seem to have missed that he was honest with her. He didn't deny it was his ex, he truthfully told her what was said. So, who's the immature, crazy cakes? It was a group gathering with lots of people. He stepped away to take a call. OP has shown her insecurity, and opened the door for him to leave.

She wasn't snooping through his phone and she wasn't eavesdropping, if you need to make up alternative facts it's safe to say your argument is DOA. You've already tried your crazy and insecure schtick in here. It's old it's tired. Guys like you and guys like the one OP is dating are a waste of time. Move along. OP needs to move on too.

I'm not a guy, pp. I didn't say she snooped though his phone. She looked at his screen and saw the name Michelle (knowing his ex's name is Michelle). Then she followed him and, yes, she did eavesdrop, then confronted him. My facts are exactly the facts OP stated. It is very insecure behavior. It's a moot point anyway because like I said above, he's not sticking around.

Please don’t procreate.

She probably already has and is teaching her daughter to be as pathetic as she is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update: so he’s supposed to come over here to talk in a few hours. He just sent a voice message saying he’s sorry Then he went on to say he shouldn’t when his ex brought up ending it with me he felt bad for saying, “yea, you’re right I should” to his ex. Then he reiterated how he was sorry and that he shouldn’t have had the conversation with his while I was there because it was rude.

BAHAHA

He thought I heard that part too. This is...is...I can’t believe this is happening.

OP, isn't this whole thing a lot of effort to be putting into a relationship that isn't even exclusive? He sounds like a waste of time to me. I would tell him not to bother coming over and then cut all ties. There are plenty of guys out there who aren't going to play childish games.

He’s a single guy who hasn’t lead OP on. I don’t see how that’s playing games.

There's probaly a lot you don't see or understand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update: so he’s supposed to come over here to talk in a few hours. He just sent a voice message saying he’s sorry Then he went on to say he shouldn’t when his ex brought up ending it with me he felt bad for saying, “yea, you’re right I should” to his ex. Then he reiterated how he was sorry and that he shouldn’t have had the conversation with his while I was there because it was rude.

BAHAHA

He thought I heard that part too. This is...is...I can’t believe this is happening.

Why are you entertaining this mess? How is this adding to or improving your life in any way? You must love nonsense and drama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update: so he’s supposed to come over here to talk in a few hours. He just sent a voice message saying he’s sorry Then he went on to say he shouldn’t when his ex brought up ending it with me he felt bad for saying, “yea, you’re right I should” to his ex. Then he reiterated how he was sorry and that he shouldn’t have had the conversation with his while I was there because it was rude.

BAHAHA

He thought I heard that part too. This is...is...I can’t believe this is happening.

Please update us OP - I told you he’s playing you on the first page so I’m dying to see what his excuses are and how this ends. And wow the conversation went even worse huh?