Started seeing this new guy. Overhead him on the phone say “I don’t hate her. It’s not like that”?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Update: so he’s supposed to come over here to talk in a few hours. He just sent a voice message saying he’s sorry Then he went on to say he shouldn’t when his ex brought up ending it with me he felt bad for saying, “yea, you’re right I should” to his ex. Then he reiterated how he was sorry and that he shouldn’t have had the conversation with his while I was there because it was rude.

BAHAHA

He thought I heard that part too. This is...is...I can’t believe this is happening.

OP, isn't this whole thing a lot of effort to be putting into a relationship that isn't even exclusive? He sounds like a waste of time to me. I would tell him not to bother coming over and then cut all ties. There are plenty of guys out there who aren't going to play childish games.

If I were op I would want to have the convo for closure purposes. And coming over to talk in person is the decent thing to do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Piece of advice, questioning a new guy about a snippet of a snippet of a phone conversation you "overheard" (snooped on) is crazy. You come off as a bunny boiler. This is likely why the relationship never got off the ground in the first place. Chill and stop investing so much so early!

No loss though, men are like buses.

Piece of advice read the entire thread before commenting.

Piece advice part deux: gain some self respect, raise your standards for men demand respect , stop upholding misogyny.

Raising your standards would necessitate gathering the self respect that comes from knowing your value and acting like you have options beyond the first doctor still enmeshed with his ex girlfriend that comes sniffing at your door.

Please stop commenting.

As the PP said please read before you comment. OP has kicked the guy to the curb.

The point of the advice was so that she avoids being a drama queen the next time. Sorry officer

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Piece of advice, questioning a new guy about a snippet of a snippet of a phone conversation you "overheard" (snooped on) is crazy. You come off as a bunny boiler. This is likely why the relationship never got off the ground in the first place. Chill and stop investing so much so early!

No loss though, men are like buses.

Piece of advice read the entire thread before commenting.

Piece advice part deux: gain some self respect, raise your standards for men demand respect , stop upholding misogyny.

Raising your standards would necessitate gathering the self respect that comes from knowing your value and acting like you have options beyond the first doctor still enmeshed with his ex girlfriend that comes sniffing at your door.

Please stop commenting.

As the PP said please read before you comment. OP has kicked the guy to the curb.

The point of the advice was so that she avoids being a drama queen the next time. Sorry officer

I am sure that PP is OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Piece of advice, questioning a new guy about a snippet of a snippet of a phone conversation you "overheard" (snooped on) is crazy. You come off as a bunny boiler. This is likely why the relationship never got off the ground in the first place. Chill and stop investing so much so early!

No loss though, men are like buses.

No it’s not. Following your gut intuition is never crazy. It’s “not likely why the relationship got off the ground” it’s because the guy still wants to be with his ex and OP felt something was off and calmly communicated with him.

No one please listen to this advice. I promise you’ll find yourself a doormat if you do.

Calm: say nothing because I was having a good time and didn’t snoop and watch the name on his screen in the first place
Not a doormat: immediately leave a man even giving the impression he’s interested in his ex while literally on a date with me
Following intuition: say nothing and watch if his actions align with what I think he may have done
Snoop, confront, and nag for intimate details on a non-exclusive partner of 8 weeks: crazy person DRAMA

If this was the case you would have left him on Valentine's day.

[Anonymous]

Talk to him in person. This is the best way to find out what’s going on —
not FaceTime, not phone, not text.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Talk to him in person. This is the best way to find out what’s going on —
not FaceTime, not phone, not text.

Do not do this. Do not meet him in person. Invited or uninvited just - no.