Started seeing this new guy. Overhead him on the phone say “I don’t hate her. It’s not like that”?

[Anonymous]

I'd let this go for now. Don't get too invested until you're sure he is. Keep your eyes and ears open.

[Anonymous]

Michelle after 🍷🍷🍷: Wellshp tf youz feelin bout this ho? You in shlove?

Ex: Well, I don't hate her

Michelle: Sho youpLofher?

Ex: It's not like that (yet)

[Anonymous]

He should not have picked up a call from his ex while on a date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's on a date with OP. He should not have picked up the call with an "ex", because that's discourteous. And then he compounds it when there was a chance one of the other people might wander past while he's discussing his relationship with OP within earshot? Good grief. It's bad enough OP overheard, it would be humiliating if someone else overheard. That is completely inappropriate. I'd dump his sorry ass.

All of this. OP, it's early days be glad you found out how immature this guy is now. Cut him loose and date others. I'd also advise you not to get so invested in 1 guy so early again that way it's easier for you to walk away when he's not treating you right. Date multiple guys until you are ready to be exclusive with one.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, and the pager going off in the middle of a difficult conversation? Hmmm, convenient. (Who uses a pager these days, for that matter?)

Doctors who are on call do...and OPs guy is a doctor

Where does OP say he's a doctor? Doctors don't even use pager anymore.

Some do actually if they’re holding “the phone” for an ED, for instance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How are you confused by this? They’re obviously talking about you. Im guessing Michelle asked “are you in love with her”
He played it both ways said “I don’t hate her” and then pause and clarify that he’s not in love with you “it’s not like that”

Ditch him he’s obviously in love still with his ex.

How is that him playing it both ways?

[Anonymous]

Reading these posts is like watching a tennis match.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who knows? Maybe Michelle was upset because she thinks he hates her and her friend took the phone to talk to him. How can anyone here know if you don’t??

If it was about Michelle he would’ve said, “I don’t hate you.

My money is on that they were in fact talking about you.

Not in the outlined scenario.

If his ex/Michelle called and asked do you have feelings for her why would he respond I don’t hate her if they were talking about Michelle/the ex? Unless she’s some weirdo who talks in third person they were talking about OP

Agree. What you beard doesn’t make sense in the context of an ex asking about the new girl. Just ignore for now but keep an eye out. Or ask him what’s up with that you walked by.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How are you confused by this? They’re obviously talking about you. Im guessing Michelle asked “are you in love with her”
He played it both ways said “I don’t hate her” and then pause and clarify that he’s not in love with you “it’s not like that”

Ditch him he’s obviously in love still with his ex.

How is that him playing it both ways?

It's not it's totally fine. In fact, OP should never question anything..The bar is in hell for some of you.

[Anonymous]

She probably asked if he liked you. He didn't want to say yes, so he said he didn't hate you. No big deal. Don't read too much into it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How are you confused by this? They’re obviously talking about you. Im guessing Michelle asked “are you in love with her”
He played it both ways said “I don’t hate her” and then pause and clarify that he’s not in love with you “it’s not like that”

Ditch him he’s obviously in love still with his ex.

How is that him playing it both ways?

It's not it's totally fine. In fact, OP should never question anything..The bar is in hell for some of you.

I never said it was fine. I was genuinely asking how was his response playing it both ways?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She probably asked if he liked you. He didn't want to say yes, so he said he didn't hate you. No big deal. Don't read too much into it.

You forgot he then added “it’s not like that”? Plus why avoid telling his ex that he does like her?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How are you confused by this? They’re obviously talking about you. Im guessing Michelle asked “are you in love with her”
He played it both ways said “I don’t hate her” and then pause and clarify that he’s not in love with you “it’s not like that”

Ditch him he’s obviously in love still with his ex.

How is that him playing it both ways?

It's not it's totally fine. In fact, OP should never question anything..The bar is in hell for some of you.

I never said it was fine. I was genuinely asking how was his response playing it both ways?

I’m the original poster, he’s playing it both ways because he didn’t say “I’m not in love with her” I bet you he knew she was nearby so he’s trying to be ambiguous like I don’t hate her. And when Michelle digs in, so you love her or it’s serious?, he says it’s not like that.

This gives OP “hope” if she hears this when he explains it, like he wasn’t sure of his feelings, but we all know he’s in love with Michelle.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How are you confused by this? They’re obviously talking about you. Im guessing Michelle asked “are you in love with her”
He played it both ways said “I don’t hate her” and then pause and clarify that he’s not in love with you “it’s not like that”

Ditch him he’s obviously in love still with his ex.

How is that him playing it both ways?

It's not it's totally fine. In fact, OP should never question anything..The bar is in hell for some of you.

I never said it was fine. I was genuinely asking how was his response playing it both ways?

I’m the original poster, he’s playing it both ways because he didn’t say “I’m not in love with her” I bet you he knew she was nearby so he’s trying to be ambiguous like I don’t hate her. And when Michelle digs in, so you love her or it’s serious?, he says it’s not like that.

This gives OP “hope” if she hears this when he explains it, like he wasn’t sure of his feelings, but we all know he’s in love with Michelle.

PP, I see what you’re saying. You don’t think it’s because he didn’t want to tell his ex “yes” I like her to spare her feelings so he went with “I don’t hate her”?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How are you confused by this? They’re obviously talking about you. Im guessing Michelle asked “are you in love with her”
He played it both ways said “I don’t hate her” and then pause and clarify that he’s not in love with you “it’s not like that”

Ditch him he’s obviously in love still with his ex.

How is that him playing it both ways?

It's not it's totally fine. In fact, OP should never question anything..The bar is in hell for some of you.

I never said it was fine. I was genuinely asking how was his response playing it both ways?

I’m the original poster, he’s playing it both ways because he didn’t say “I’m not in love with her” I bet you he knew she was nearby so he’s trying to be ambiguous like I don’t hate her. And when Michelle digs in, so you love her or it’s serious?, he says it’s not like that.

This gives OP “hope” if she hears this when he explains it, like he wasn’t sure of his feelings, but we all know he’s in love with Michelle.

PP, I see what you’re saying. You don’t think it’s because he didn’t want to tell his ex “yes” I like her to spare her feelings so he went with “I don’t hate her”?

Yeah you put it better, now this I bet will make OP feel better, but if a guy likes you, he’ll say it and own it. He then backtracked with “it’s not like that” when the ex asked him to clarify. I legit heard similar conversation a few years ago with one of my close friends (he was the guy and ended up breaking up with the girl he was “not hating”)