Started seeing this new guy. Overhead him on the phone say “I don’t hate her. It’s not like that”?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP. I guess it’s better to find out now rather than later.

Very true. I’m just glad not too much time was invested.

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Anonymous wrote:Update: so he’s supposed to come over here to talk in a few hours. He just sent a voice message saying he’s sorry Then he went on to say he shouldn’t when his ex brought up ending it with me he felt bad for saying, “yea, you’re right I should” to his ex. Then he reiterated how he was sorry and that he shouldn’t have had the conversation with his while I was there because it was rude.

BAHAHA

He thought I heard that part too. This is...is...I can’t believe this is happening.

OP, isn't this whole thing a lot of effort to be putting into a relationship that isn't even exclusive? He sounds like a waste of time to me. I would tell him not to bother coming over and then cut all ties. There are plenty of guys out there who aren't going to play childish games.

OP is childish herself. She's getting a kick out of this and lives for drama. Some people like playing in the gutter and have zero standards for their relationships.

I didn’t even respond to him and I have no intention on saying anything in either. So no, I’m not childish.

+1 she is 27 y/o. Time to grow up.

But he is going to your house. How old are you?

If she has no intent on responding to him now or in the future why do you think she’d let him in her home? I see common sense ain’t so common....

Because she is an idiot.

[Anonymous]

OP, did he come to your house to explain as planned? Update us!

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Anonymous wrote:I’m the line person who thinks that phone call doesn’t mean much. OP don’t jump to conclusions. If he has kids he still had to talk to ex. Or if divorce not final. Or many other reasons.

They don’t have kids. No property. Nothing. I asked him why she felt so comfortable calling him to discuss this and he said it’s probably because they talked last month. I said, okay sooo? He said he saw her on a date while out and texted her and they ended up talking that day.

Oh hell no! OP, these 2 are not done dealing with each other and are incredibly childish and drama-filled. Don't waste your time with this nonsense. Drop the guy. There are other men.

You promise you’re not Valentine girl? Because my heart breaks thinking you’re two separate posters.

I'm telling you the bar is in hell for so may women. Just look at the 2 or 3 who are telling her this is totally acceptable, and she should just laugh about it because this is how guys are.

Pretty sure those posters are actually OP.

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Anonymous wrote:https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/ndn4b0/overheard_the_guy_im_seeing_tell_his_ex_i_dont/

OP deleted it! What did it say?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m the line person who thinks that phone call doesn’t mean much. OP don’t jump to conclusions. If he has kids he still had to talk to ex. Or if divorce not final. Or many other reasons.

They don’t have kids. No property. Nothing. I asked him why she felt so comfortable calling him to discuss this and he said it’s probably because they talked last month. I said, okay sooo? He said he saw her on a date while out and texted her and they ended up talking that day.

He's texting her during her date to mess up her new relationship; she's calling him and grilling him about you during your date to mess up your relationship. Whatever was between them is not over. I would be gone, but some people love drama.

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Anonymous wrote:https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/ndn4b0/overheard_the_guy_im_seeing_tell_his_ex_i_dont/

OP deleted it! What did it say?

It was just the exact same thing posted here.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m the line person who thinks that phone call doesn’t mean much. OP don’t jump to conclusions. If he has kids he still had to talk to ex. Or if divorce not final. Or many other reasons.

They don’t have kids. No property. Nothing. I asked him why she felt so comfortable calling him to discuss this and he said it’s probably because they talked last month. I said, okay sooo? He said he saw her on a date while out and texted her and they ended up talking that day.

He's texting her during her date to mess up her new relationship; she's calling him and grilling him about you during your date to mess up your relationship. Whatever was between them is not over. I would be gone, but some people love drama.

Don’t forget he contacted the ex because he saw she was on a date prior to this, which makes this so much worse.

[Anonymous]

Piece of advice, questioning a new guy about a snippet of a snippet of a phone conversation you "overheard" (snooped on) is crazy. You come off as a bunny boiler. This is likely why the relationship never got off the ground in the first place. Chill and stop investing so much so early!

No loss though, men are like buses.

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Anonymous wrote:Piece of advice, questioning a new guy about a snippet of a snippet of a phone conversation you "overheard" (snooped on) is crazy. You come off as a bunny boiler. This is likely why the relationship never got off the ground in the first place. Chill and stop investing so much so early!

No loss though, men are like buses.

Piece of advice read the entire thread before commenting.

Piece advice part deux: gain some self respect, raise your standards for men demand respect , stop upholding misogyny.

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Anonymous wrote:Piece of advice, questioning a new guy about a snippet of a snippet of a phone conversation you "overheard" (snooped on) is crazy. You come off as a bunny boiler. This is likely why the relationship never got off the ground in the first place. Chill and stop investing so much so early!

No loss though, men are like buses.

No it’s not. Following your gut intuition is never crazy. It’s “not likely why the relationship got off the ground” it’s because the guy still wants to be with his ex and OP felt something was off and calmly communicated with him.

No one please listen to this advice. I promise you’ll find yourself a doormat if you do.

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Anonymous wrote:Piece of advice, questioning a new guy about a snippet of a snippet of a phone conversation you "overheard" (snooped on) is crazy. You come off as a bunny boiler. This is likely why the relationship never got off the ground in the first place. Chill and stop investing so much so early!

No loss though, men are like buses.

Piece of advice read the entire thread before commenting.

Piece advice part deux: gain some self respect, raise your standards for men demand respect , stop upholding misogyny.

Raising your standards would necessitate gathering the self respect that comes from knowing your value and acting like you have options beyond the first doctor still enmeshed with his ex girlfriend that comes sniffing at your door.

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Anonymous wrote:Piece of advice, questioning a new guy about a snippet of a snippet of a phone conversation you "overheard" (snooped on) is crazy. You come off as a bunny boiler. This is likely why the relationship never got off the ground in the first place. Chill and stop investing so much so early!

No loss though, men are like buses.

Piece of advice read the entire thread before commenting.

Piece advice part deux: gain some self respect, raise your standards for men demand respect , stop upholding misogyny.

Raising your standards would necessitate gathering the self respect that comes from knowing your value and acting like you have options beyond the first doctor still enmeshed with his ex girlfriend that comes sniffing at your door.

Please stop commenting.

As the PP said please read before you comment. OP has kicked the guy to the curb.

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Anonymous wrote:Piece of advice, questioning a new guy about a snippet of a snippet of a phone conversation you "overheard" (snooped on) is crazy. You come off as a bunny boiler. This is likely why the relationship never got off the ground in the first place. Chill and stop investing so much so early!

No loss though, men are like buses.

No it’s not. Following your gut intuition is never crazy. It’s “not likely why the relationship got off the ground” it’s because the guy still wants to be with his ex and OP felt something was off and calmly communicated with him.

No one please listen to this advice. I promise you’ll find yourself a doormat if you do.

Calm: say nothing because I was having a good time and didn’t snoop and watch the name on his screen in the first place
Not a doormat: immediately leave a man even giving the impression he’s interested in his ex while literally on a date with me
Following intuition: say nothing and watch if his actions align with what I think he may have done
Snoop, confront, and nag for intimate details on a non-exclusive partner of 8 weeks: crazy person DRAMA

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Anonymous wrote:Piece of advice, questioning a new guy about a snippet of a snippet of a phone conversation you "overheard" (snooped on) is crazy. You come off as a bunny boiler. This is likely why the relationship never got off the ground in the first place. Chill and stop investing so much so early!

No loss though, men are like buses.

No it’s not. Following your gut intuition is never crazy. It’s “not likely why the relationship got off the ground” it’s because the guy still wants to be with his ex and OP felt something was off and calmly communicated with him.

No one please listen to this advice. I promise you’ll find yourself a doormat if you do.

Calm: say nothing because I was having a good time and didn’t snoop and watch the name on his screen in the first place
Not a doormat: immediately leave a man even giving the impression he’s interested in his ex while literally on a date with me
Following intuition: say nothing and watch if his actions align with what I think he may have done
Snoop, confront, and nag for intimate details on a non-exclusive partner of 8 weeks: crazy person DRAMA

For the love of God please shut up already