Why vacation without the kids?

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Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t want time away from them. I get plenty of it as it is. We like to bring them along to experience new things together.

Many of our happiest family memories are of vacations.

We have a great marriage, regular sex at home and on vacation (this is partly why we do Airbnb over hotel suites) and don’t feel the need to leave our kids at home. We could if we wanted to, both sets of grandparents have offered, but we just don’t want to.

We travel 4 times a year plus a few long weekends and ski trips.

+1

Our kids are like our little buddies. We would be sad without them. We just really like being with them, I don’t know how else to explain it (I mean, we did raise them so it makes sense that we e turned them into people we enjoy spending time with).

Us too. We love being with our kids. I mean, we did raise them so it makes sense that we turned them into people we enjoy spending time with. Yet, we also enjoy spending time alone as a couple. Gasp!

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Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t want time away from them. I get plenty of it as it is. We like to bring them along to experience new things together.

Many of our happiest family memories are of vacations.

We have a great marriage, regular sex at home and on vacation (this is partly why we do Airbnb over hotel suites) and don’t feel the need to leave our kids at home. We could if we wanted to, both sets of grandparents have offered, but we just don’t want to.

We travel 4 times a year plus a few long weekends and ski trips.

+1

Our kids are like our little buddies. We would be sad without them. We just really like being with them, I don’t know how else to explain it (I mean, we did raise them so it makes sense that we e turned them into people we enjoy spending time with).

Great. Congrats on being superior people to the rest of us, I guess. So happy for you!

I don’t think we are superior but you or pp kept pressing like, how can this be??? Like it’s unheard of for parents to genuinely enjoy their own children.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t want time away from them. I get plenty of it as it is. We like to bring them along to experience new things together.

Many of our happiest family memories are of vacations.

We have a great marriage, regular sex at home and on vacation (this is partly why we do Airbnb over hotel suites) and don’t feel the need to leave our kids at home. We could if we wanted to, both sets of grandparents have offered, but we just don’t want to.

We travel 4 times a year plus a few long weekends and ski trips.

+1

Our kids are like our little buddies. We would be sad without them. We just really like being with them, I don’t know how else to explain it (I mean, we did raise them so it makes sense that we e turned them into people we enjoy spending time with).

Great. Congrats on being superior people to the rest of us, I guess. So happy for you!

I would not want to be your kid.
The previous poster, yes I would love to be their kid.
Think about that.

I should think about the fact that you want to be someone's kid/don't want to be someone's kid based off a few sentences on an anonymous message board?

....okay.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t want time away from them. I get plenty of it as it is. We like to bring them along to experience new things together.

Many of our happiest family memories are of vacations.

We have a great marriage, regular sex at home and on vacation (this is partly why we do Airbnb over hotel suites) and don’t feel the need to leave our kids at home. We could if we wanted to, both sets of grandparents have offered, but we just don’t want to.

We travel 4 times a year plus a few long weekends and ski trips.

+1

Our kids are like our little buddies. We would be sad without them. We just really like being with them, I don’t know how else to explain it (I mean, we did raise them so it makes sense that we e turned them into people we enjoy spending time with).

Great. Congrats on being superior people to the rest of us, I guess. So happy for you!

I don’t think we are superior but you or pp kept pressing like, how can this be??? Like it’s unheard of for parents to genuinely enjoy their own children.

huh? who is saying that?

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Anonymous wrote:"why vacation without the kids?" said no parent of multiple kids... ever

+1.
I spend 51 weeks per year with my kids. It's ok if I want to spend 1 week per year without them.

But how many weeks vacation do you get?
The question is why are you okay with spending 1/2 1/3 or 1/4 of your vacation time away from your kids?

I get 3 weeks of vacation.

I'm ok with it because I enjoy time alone with my husband and my children have fun at their grandparents.

So your give up 33% of your vacation time for travel without the kids. You truly suck.

I do. Maybe you would like to adopt my poor, abused children with the sucky mother.

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Dang. Of all the things to be an obnoxious martyr about, THIS is what you choose?

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Anonymous wrote:Vacations are in way perfect for spending more time and connecting with your family, so why many people vacation without their kids? I am not trying to be judging, I want to understand what the thought process.

Because there are things I enjoy, and want to do, that my kids don't want to do, or aren't appropriate for them. And I see no reason why my spouse and I should have to wait 15 years to go wine tasting in Napa, for example.

Our kids stay with their grandparents, and all parties involved love the arrangements.

So, let me ask you - what is difficult to understand about this? Do you have a hard time interacting with your spouse if your kids aren't present? Do you need the kids as a buffer?

Nope. My kids are 20 and 18 now . We have a very strong marriage. Napa is not a necessity and is selfish. I would save that for when the kids are grown.

Do you know delayed gratification? Do you always put yourself first? You can manage without Napa.

You sound insufferable. Also the message your kids got may not be the one you thought you were sending by never prioritizing your marriage.

I do prioritize my marriage, I have been married 21 years. BUT I don't need to dump my kids off for a week to do that. Date night is good enough.

Pp probably doesn’t have a lot of money. Her kids are already adults so she has all the time in the world with her husband.

I have 3 young kids. I stay home. I spend so much time with my kids. There is no shortage of family time. My kids crawl into bed with us everyday. I love to travel with and without my kids. I love my girlfriend getaways, family vacations and DH only getaways.

I have plenty of money. I was a SAHM mom until 5 years ago and now I work 1-2 days a week. I have tons of money. But my kids are more important.

Gosh lady, you are truly annoying. I’m a SAHM so I’m not sure if you are implying my kids are not important to me. DH earns a seven figure income so I don’t have to work. We have money to travel with and without kids. Traveling without my kids doesn’t make me love them less.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"why vacation without the kids?" said no parent of multiple kids... ever

+1.
I spend 51 weeks per year with my kids. It's ok if I want to spend 1 week per year without them.

But how many weeks vacation do you get?
The question is why are you okay with spending 1/2 1/3 or 1/4 of your vacation time away from your kids?

The question is why are you so invested in choices other people make? Go live your life hon and stop being so judgey for a change. Be a better role model for your kids, they are watching and learning from you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"why vacation without the kids?" said no parent of multiple kids... ever

+1.
I spend 51 weeks per year with my kids. It's ok if I want to spend 1 week per year without them.

But how many weeks vacation do you get?
The question is why are you okay with spending 1/2 1/3 or 1/4 of your vacation time away from your kids?

I get 3 weeks of vacation.

I'm ok with it because I enjoy time alone with my husband and my children have fun at their grandparents.

Yeah for us it’s a dual benefit- we get a bit of time on our own AND the kids get some quality time with their grandparents. Both sets of my grandparents were local when I grew up and I spent so much time with them, often without my parents around. Both my parents and ILs live in a different state than us so my kids just don’t get that on a regular basis. They have a blast when they get a long weekend with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t value my time away from them. It makes me sad to be away from them.

And that statement makes me sad.

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I truly believe the same person is the responder to the majority of the last two pages.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t want time away from them. I get plenty of it as it is. We like to bring them along to experience new things together.

Many of our happiest family memories are of vacations.

We have a great marriage, regular sex at home and on vacation (this is partly why we do Airbnb over hotel suites) and don’t feel the need to leave our kids at home. We could if we wanted to, both sets of grandparents have offered, but we just don’t want to.

We travel 4 times a year plus a few long weekends and ski trips.

+1

Our kids are like our little buddies. We would be sad without them. We just really like being with them, I don’t know how else to explain it (I mean, we did raise them so it makes sense that we e turned them into people we enjoy spending time with).

Great. Congrats on being superior people to the rest of us, I guess. So happy for you!

I don’t think we are superior but you or pp kept pressing like, how can this be??? Like it’s unheard of for parents to genuinely enjoy their own children.

huh? who is saying that?

Um, most posts in this thread? lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t value my time away from them. It makes me sad to be away from them.

And that statement makes me sad.

Why would this make you sad?

Fwiw, my oldest is 11. I can already see that our remaining time with him living at home is so fleeting. I've really been loving the elementary school aged years: 5-12ish. It's such a fun age: the kids are old enough to be interesting and interactive and funny but still young enough to think we hung the stars and to want to spend time with us. It won't last forever. I'm trying to soak it up as much as I can.

I think I will probably look back at these years as the best in my life.

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Anonymous wrote:I truly believe the same person is the responder to the majority of the last two pages.

Agreed. Judgy mom

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t value my time away from them. It makes me sad to be away from them.

And that statement makes me sad.

Why would this make you sad?

Fwiw, my oldest is 11. I can already see that our remaining time with him living at home is so fleeting. I've really been loving the elementary school aged years: 5-12ish. It's such a fun age: the kids are old enough to be interesting and interactive and funny but still young enough to think we hung the stars and to want to spend time with us. It won't last forever. I'm trying to soak it up as much as I can.

I think I will probably look back at these years as the best in my life.

Well I have 2 under 2. It’s not fleeting. There is no way I could go on a vacation with them. They go to bed at 7. They nap twice a day. They would hate art museums or long dinners. Sure I could wait 16 more years until they’re at college to do anything I want to do but grandparents love them and are excited to stay with them. It’s a win all around.