Why vacation without the kids?

[Anonymous]

PP here.

I wonder if some of this disconnect between respondents is just related to having kids at different ages. Mine are 6-11 which is very different from 1-3!

We did bring our toddlers on vacation but it's a lot more fun the older they get!!!!

This is actually one of the big reasons we stopped at 3. We wanted to move on to the stage where we could start taking them on fun adventures.

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Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t value my time away from them. It makes me sad to be away from them.

And that statement makes me sad.

Why would this make you sad?

Fwiw, my oldest is 11. I can already see that our remaining time with him living at home is so fleeting. I've really been loving the elementary school aged years: 5-12ish. It's such a fun age: the kids are old enough to be interesting and interactive and funny but still young enough to think we hung the stars and to want to spend time with us. It won't last forever. I'm trying to soak it up as much as I can.

I think I will probably look back at these years as the best in my life.

Well I have 2 under 2. It’s not fleeting. There is no way I could go on a vacation with them. They go to bed at 7. They nap twice a day. They would hate art museums or long dinners. Sure I could wait 16 more years until they’re at college to do anything I want to do but grandparents love them and are excited to stay with them. It’s a win all around.

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Ok but surely you can use your imagination to envision what it will be like when your kids are 6and 7 or 7 and 8 or 9 and 10 and so on and so forth? You're not going to want to leave them behind then. It's actually a really fun age. That's what the PP is talking about.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t value my time away from them. It makes me sad to be away from them.

And that statement makes me sad.

Why would this make you sad?

Fwiw, my oldest is 11. I can already see that our remaining time with him living at home is so fleeting. I've really been loving the elementary school aged years: 5-12ish. It's such a fun age: the kids are old enough to be interesting and interactive and funny but still young enough to think we hung the stars and to want to spend time with us. It won't last forever. I'm trying to soak it up as much as I can.

I think I will probably look back at these years as the best in my life.

Well I have 2 under 2. It’s not fleeting. There is no way I could go on a vacation with them. They go to bed at 7. They nap twice a day. They would hate art museums or long dinners. Sure I could wait 16 more years until they’re at college to do anything I want to do but grandparents love them and are excited to stay with them. It’s a win all around.

Vacationing with kids gets soooo much better the older they get. Fun for everyone.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t value my time away from them. It makes me sad to be away from them.

And that statement makes me sad.

Why would this make you sad?

Fwiw, my oldest is 11. I can already see that our remaining time with him living at home is so fleeting. I've really been loving the elementary school aged years: 5-12ish. It's such a fun age: the kids are old enough to be interesting and interactive and funny but still young enough to think we hung the stars and to want to spend time with us. It won't last forever. I'm trying to soak it up as much as I can.

I think I will probably look back at these years as the best in my life.

Well I have 2 under 2. It’s not fleeting. There is no way I could go on a vacation with them. They go to bed at 7. They nap twice a day. They would hate art museums or long dinners. Sure I could wait 16 more years until they’re at college to do anything I want to do but grandparents love them and are excited to stay with them. It’s a win all around.

PP you're quoting. We had 2u2 too (and 3u4) so I feel you! We used to bring our nanny with us back in those days. It was expensive but worth it to us because we didn't want to just completely cut travel out of our lives (and also our parents were leery of keeping a baby or toddler who still woke up at night or wore diapers for a week, although now they beg us to take our elementary kids).

[Anonymous]

This entire trend is just crazy. What is wrong with taking time away from your kids? Seriously? 1 week or a long weekend in the grand scheme of life is not going to be the end of the world.

We have only taken 1 vacation without our kids (10 yr anniversary trip) mostly due to not having easy access to child care, had to fly my parents here for the one trip we took. But that one trip, 5 days in total was so nice. I love my kids and I love traveling with them, I really do. We've done lots of big trips with them, But it is also really nice to have some adult time away. To do everything on your own schedule, to not have to deal with the kids fighting, to go out for a late dinner and so forth.

I get limited vacation time so I can't see doing this once a year with my husband, but if I had more vacation time I would. Last year I took a few "girls weekend trips" and those we nice too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This entire trend is just crazy. What is wrong with taking time away from your kids? Seriously? 1 week or a long weekend in the grand scheme of life is not going to be the end of the world.

We have only taken 1 vacation without our kids (10 yr anniversary trip) mostly due to not having easy access to child care, had to fly my parents here for the one trip we took. But that one trip, 5 days in total was so nice. I love my kids and I love traveling with them, I really do. We've done lots of big trips with them, But it is also really nice to have some adult time away. To do everything on your own schedule, to not have to deal with the kids fighting, to go out for a late dinner and so forth.

I get limited vacation time so I can't see doing this once a year with my husband, but if I had more vacation time I would. Last year I took a few "girls weekend trips" and those we nice too.

We have limited vacation time too (and budget), so that’s why we never take solo trips. If we didn’t have restrictions, I wouldn’t mind a getaway w/ my husband. But in my reality: we take one summer vacation a year and I love traveling with my kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This entire trend is just crazy. What is wrong with taking time away from your kids? Seriously? 1 week or a long weekend in the grand scheme of life is not going to be the end of the world.

We have only taken 1 vacation without our kids (10 yr anniversary trip) mostly due to not having easy access to child care, had to fly my parents here for the one trip we took. But that one trip, 5 days in total was so nice. I love my kids and I love traveling with them, I really do. We've done lots of big trips with them, But it is also really nice to have some adult time away. To do everything on your own schedule, to not have to deal with the kids fighting, to go out for a late dinner and so forth.

I get limited vacation time so I can't see doing this once a year with my husband, but if I had more vacation time I would. Last year I took a few "girls weekend trips" and those we nice too.

We have limited vacation time too (and budget), so that’s why we never take solo trips. If we didn’t have restrictions, I wouldn’t mind a getaway w/ my husband. But in my reality: we take one summer vacation a year and I love traveling with my kids.

Love you mama show em how it’s done.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t value my time away from them. It makes me sad to be away from them.

And that statement makes me sad.

Why would this make you sad?

Fwiw, my oldest is 11. I can already see that our remaining time with him living at home is so fleeting. I've really been loving the elementary school aged years: 5-12ish. It's such a fun age: the kids are old enough to be interesting and interactive and funny but still young enough to think we hung the stars and to want to spend time with us. It won't last forever. I'm trying to soak it up as much as I can.

I think I will probably look back at these years as the best in my life.

Well I have 2 under 2. It’s not fleeting. There is no way I could go on a vacation with them. They go to bed at 7. They nap twice a day. They would hate art museums or long dinners. Sure I could wait 16 more years until they’re at college to do anything I want to do but grandparents love them and are excited to stay with them. It’s a win all around.

New Poster.

Ok but surely you can use your imagination to envision what it will be like when your kids are 6and 7 or 7 and 8 or 9 and 10 and so on and so forth? You're not going to want to leave them behind then. It's actually a really fun age. That's what the PP is talking about.

Yeah, they still don't want to do adult type museums.

Nothing wrong with a few days away from your kids, helicopter moms!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This entire trend is just crazy. What is wrong with taking time away from your kids? Seriously? 1 week or a long weekend in the grand scheme of life is not going to be the end of the world.

We have only taken 1 vacation without our kids (10 yr anniversary trip) mostly due to not having easy access to child care, had to fly my parents here for the one trip we took. But that one trip, 5 days in total was so nice. I love my kids and I love traveling with them, I really do. We've done lots of big trips with them, But it is also really nice to have some adult time away. To do everything on your own schedule, to not have to deal with the kids fighting, to go out for a late dinner and so forth.

I get limited vacation time so I can't see doing this once a year with my husband, but if I had more vacation time I would. Last year I took a few "girls weekend trips" and those we nice too.

Nothing and no one said it was weird. Many said the opposite is weird though (wanting to travel with your kids and not wanting to leave them behind) and were pretty rude about it.

I don't care what you do but don't call my family weird just because you do something different.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This entire trend is just crazy. What is wrong with taking time away from your kids? Seriously? 1 week or a long weekend in the grand scheme of life is not going to be the end of the world.

We have only taken 1 vacation without our kids (10 yr anniversary trip) mostly due to not having easy access to child care, had to fly my parents here for the one trip we took. But that one trip, 5 days in total was so nice. I love my kids and I love traveling with them, I really do. We've done lots of big trips with them, But it is also really nice to have some adult time away. To do everything on your own schedule, to not have to deal with the kids fighting, to go out for a late dinner and so forth.

I get limited vacation time so I can't see doing this once a year with my husband, but if I had more vacation time I would. Last year I took a few "girls weekend trips" and those we nice too.

Nothing and no one said it was weird. Many said the opposite is weird though (wanting to travel with your kids and not wanting to leave them behind) and were pretty rude about it.

I don't care what you do but don't call my family weird just because you do something different.

I don’t think you’re weird for having different vacation preferences but do question whether we have been reading the same thread.....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"why vacation without the kids?" said no parent of multiple kids... ever

+1.
I spend 51 weeks per year with my kids. It's ok if I want to spend 1 week per year without them.

But how many weeks vacation do you get?
The question is why are you okay with spending 1/2 1/3 or 1/4 of your vacation time away from your kids?

Was this one of the posts you were referring to PP?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Vacations are in way perfect for spending more time and connecting with your family, so why many people vacation without their kids? I am not trying to be judging, I want to understand what the thought process.

To neglect our relationship is to do a disservice to our kids.

You don’t have to neglect your kids for a week to avoid neglecting your relationship. Date night works well.

Or this one?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"why vacation without the kids?" said no parent of multiple kids... ever

+1.
I spend 51 weeks per year with my kids. It's ok if I want to spend 1 week per year without them.

But how many weeks vacation do you get?
The question is why are you okay with spending 1/2 1/3 or 1/4 of your vacation time away from your kids?

I get 3 weeks of vacation.

I'm ok with it because I enjoy time alone with my husband and my children have fun at their grandparents.

So your give up 33% of your vacation time for travel without the kids. You truly suck.

No this must be it....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"why vacation without the kids?" said no parent of multiple kids... ever

+1.
I spend 51 weeks per year with my kids. It's ok if I want to spend 1 week per year without them.

But how many weeks vacation do you get?
The question is why are you okay with spending 1/2 1/3 or 1/4 of your vacation time away from your kids?

Because I am more than a mother. I am a woman who wants to have be pampered and relax and have hot sex with my husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Vacations are in way perfect for spending more time and connecting with your family, so why many people vacation without their kids? I am not trying to be judging, I want to understand what the thought process.

To neglect our relationship is to do a disservice to our kids.

You don’t have to neglect your kids for a week to avoid neglecting your relationship. Date night works well.

We do both. Date night and couples trips!