Why vacation without the kids?
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Anonymous
How many people do you know who got divorced and only did family vacations? |
Anonymous
We did! 
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Anonymous
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lmao literally my favorite DCUM threads are when all the martyr moms come out
sitting tight for “why did you even have kids then” like I was supposed to take some vow of martyrdom to get knocked up |
Anonymous
And I CHOOSE vacation! |
Anonymous
Seriously, this. I choose to have a happy life taking advantage of my many blessings including super involved grandparents. |
Anonymous
PP here. I meant that most people do not get a kid-free vacation. It’s seems like a luxury and not common. Most people (in my world) just don’t want to leave their kids that long and don’t have grandparents to take care of young ones. |
Anonymous
| Every couple needs a break! After our kids were born it was almost 20 years before we went away for a week on our own and it was wonderful. We had had a bunch of long weekends together often related to business but a solo week was great. |
Anonymous
me too. I find vacations without them fantastic, too! |
Anonymous
| I’d say that 90% of our vacation time is with the whole family and 10% is just the two of us. When it’s just the two of us we don’t have to be concerned about kid friendly places or things to do and it’s just about us. We dine late, stay out late and if we want to have early morning sex we don’t worry about someone in the next room wanting to climb in our bed. I really believe that those couples who have no desire to do a couples vacation have issues with their marriage. |
Anonymous
Right. Most people don’t have the ability to take childfree vacations (either you need healthy, willing, and trustworthy grandparents or extremely expensive full time paid help) but it’s DCUM so martyr mommies turn not being able to do something into a virtue by abstaining. |
Anonymous
| long dinners at whatever restaurant we want without worrying about kids getting antsy, sex whenever we want, long walks on the beach/park/cityscape/etc. without having to carry anyone or wrangle a stroller, adult discussion, deciding, "Hey, I think we'll sleep in until 10 today", not having to go back to the room for naps, the list goes on and on and on. Why WOULDN'T you vacation without the kids?! |
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Lucky all of you who had grandparents to care for your children. From the time our children were born until they graduated from high school my husband and I had one weekend away (while my brother & SIL cared for our first child) and that was to attend a reunion not a romantic vacation.
Oh the other hand, my husband's sister and her husband took many, many, many weekend and week and two week long vacations starting from the time that their son was a baby until he was a teenager. But Grandma & Grandpa (my husband's parents) lived only a ten minute drive away from them vs. 1,000 miles away from us. I'm not really complaining because we enjoyed traveling together as a family but it would have been nice to have the option of a romantic weekend or vacation without kids even once every five or ten years of marriage. Parents who take vacations alone aren't selfish! Tending to the marriage is very important. It is, after, the foundation upon which the family is built.. |
Anonymous
| To avoid parenting. |
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I don't really get it either.
We actually love vacations and travel, but we take our kids. Almost always. We want them to have the same experiences that we do, and childhood is so short. Ours are in their late teens. We have also taken them to resorts that have programs for children. That's a great compromise. We took them to Hawaii a few times and they loved it. They have these at other price points to. I think it's a good compromise. They are in their late teens now. We did go abroad without them - now I wish we took them. My husband and I will have 30 or 40 years to travel alone. Parenthood - the really together and close part where kids are always excited about any travel plans that you make lasts about 15 years. That said, I don't think that a child will be scarred for life if you take one vacation when they are eight or nine. We never really wanted to leave them with anyone. Aunts uncles and grandparents are not primary care givers. They are people we see on holidays once in a while. That's it. |
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This is such a personal thing and every kid, parent, family, situation, etc. is different. But personally we wouldn't have been able to enjoy any sort of vacation or holiday or whatever without our kids being with us when they were young (under 12 or so). We would have worried too much or missed them too much or just simply thought about them too much to really relax and enjoy the rest and freedom.
I think when they are young, being away for a day was nice, but overnights we just never did. Now, however, they are teenagers and we take trips away without them and it's very enjoyable! |