Why vacation without the kids?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm PP. Just discussed this with a friend whose kids are about 10 years older than mine. Last year she traveled to France with her daughter who recently graduated from college. They had a great time together and the daughter was super appreciative because she now realizes how much a 10-day trip (non-budget/hostel) to Europe costs. She said she was really glad they had not spent their money on expensive trips back when the kids were little so that she can afford to do it now that they're older. They were good about saving money for retirement throughout life (probably instead of spending it to take 5 people to Stockholm) so they're now able to do expensive trips guilt-free.

Some of us have more money than this friend of yours.

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Anonymous wrote:"why vacation without the kids?" said no parent of multiple kids... ever

+1.
I spend 51 weeks per year with my kids. It's ok if I want to spend 1 week per year without them.

But how many weeks vacation do you get?
The question is why are you okay with spending 1/2 1/3 or 1/4 of your vacation time away from your kids?

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Anonymous wrote:Vacations are in way perfect for spending more time and connecting with your family, so why many people vacation without their kids? I am not trying to be judging, I want to understand what the thought process.

Because there are things I enjoy, and want to do, that my kids don't want to do, or aren't appropriate for them. And I see no reason why my spouse and I should have to wait 15 years to go wine tasting in Napa, for example.

Our kids stay with their grandparents, and all parties involved love the arrangements.

So, let me ask you - what is difficult to understand about this? Do you have a hard time interacting with your spouse if your kids aren't present? Do you need the kids as a buffer?

Nope. My kids are 20 and 18 now . We have a very strong marriage. Napa is not a necessity and is selfish. I would save that for when the kids are grown.

Do you know delayed gratification? Do you always put yourself first? You can manage without Napa.

You sound insufferable. Also the message your kids got may not be the one you thought you were sending by never prioritizing your marriage.

I do prioritize my marriage, I have been married 21 years. BUT I don't need to dump my kids off for a week to do that. Date night is good enough.

Pp probably doesn’t have a lot of money. Her kids are already adults so she has all the time in the world with her husband.

I have 3 young kids. I stay home. I spend so much time with my kids. There is no shortage of family time. My kids crawl into bed with us everyday. I love to travel with and without my kids. I love my girlfriend getaways, family vacations and DH only getaways.

I have plenty of money. I was a SAHM mom until 5 years ago and now I work 1-2 days a week. I have tons of money. But my kids are more important.

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Anonymous wrote:Vacations are in way perfect for spending more time and connecting with your family, so why many people vacation without their kids? I am not trying to be judging, I want to understand what the thought process.

To neglect our relationship is to do a disservice to our kids.

You don’t have to neglect your kids for a week to avoid neglecting your relationship. Date night works well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"why vacation without the kids?" said no parent of multiple kids... ever

+1.
I spend 51 weeks per year with my kids. It's ok if I want to spend 1 week per year without them.

But how many weeks vacation do you get?
The question is why are you okay with spending 1/2 1/3 or 1/4 of your vacation time away from your kids?

I get 3 weeks of vacation.

I'm ok with it because I enjoy time alone with my husband and my children have fun at their grandparents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t want time away from them. I get plenty of it as it is. We like to bring them along to experience new things together.

Many of our happiest family memories are of vacations.

We have a great marriage, regular sex at home and on vacation (this is partly why we do Airbnb over hotel suites) and don’t feel the need to leave our kids at home. We could if we wanted to, both sets of grandparents have offered, but we just don’t want to.

We travel 4 times a year plus a few long weekends and ski trips.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"why vacation without the kids?" said no parent of multiple kids... ever

I did

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Anonymous wrote:The answer is kinky, hot hotel sex. If you don’t get that now, give it a shot and report back.

Airbnb or Vrbo - rent a whole house, apartment, or villa so you can get it on and they can’t hear.

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Anonymous wrote:Vacations are in way perfect for spending more time and connecting with your family, so why many people vacation without their kids? I am not trying to be judging, I want to understand what the thought process.

Because there are things I enjoy, and want to do, that my kids don't want to do, or aren't appropriate for them. And I see no reason why my spouse and I should have to wait 15 years to go wine tasting in Napa, for example.

Our kids stay with their grandparents, and all parties involved love the arrangements.

So, let me ask you - what is difficult to understand about this? Do you have a hard time interacting with your spouse if your kids aren't present? Do you need the kids as a buffer?

Nope. My kids are 20 and 18 now . We have a very strong marriage. Napa is not a necessity and is selfish. I would save that for when the kids are grown.

Do you know delayed gratification? Do you always put yourself first? You can manage without Napa.

You sound insufferable. Also the message your kids got may not be the one you thought you were sending by never prioritizing your marriage.

I do prioritize my marriage, I have been married 21 years. BUT I don't need to dump my kids off for a week to do that. Date night is good enough.

Pp probably doesn’t have a lot of money. Her kids are already adults so she has all the time in the world with her husband.

I have 3 young kids. I stay home. I spend so much time with my kids. There is no shortage of family time. My kids crawl into bed with us everyday. I love to travel with and without my kids. I love my girlfriend getaways, family vacations and DH only getaways.

I have plenty of money. I was a SAHM mom until 5 years ago and now I work 1-2 days a week. I have tons of money. But my kids are more important.

Gosh, I WISH I could care about my kids as much as you do. Could you write a book?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I overheard my daughter's friend (they're seniors in HS) talking about how her parents are taking their first trip alone in a few weeks..and she was going on about "what are they even going to talk about? It's going to be so awkward!"...that made me kinda sad.

Worry about yourself. Lord knows what your kid I said telling her friend.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"why vacation without the kids?" said no parent of multiple kids... ever

+1.
I spend 51 weeks per year with my kids. It's ok if I want to spend 1 week per year without them.

But how many weeks vacation do you get?
The question is why are you okay with spending 1/2 1/3 or 1/4 of your vacation time away from your kids?

I get 3 weeks of vacation.

I'm ok with it because I enjoy time alone with my husband and my children have fun at their grandparents.

So your give up 33% of your vacation time for travel without the kids. You truly suck.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t want time away from them. I get plenty of it as it is. We like to bring them along to experience new things together.

Many of our happiest family memories are of vacations.

We have a great marriage, regular sex at home and on vacation (this is partly why we do Airbnb over hotel suites) and don’t feel the need to leave our kids at home. We could if we wanted to, both sets of grandparents have offered, but we just don’t want to.

We travel 4 times a year plus a few long weekends and ski trips.

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t want time away from them. I get plenty of it as it is. We like to bring them along to experience new things together.

Many of our happiest family memories are of vacations.

We have a great marriage, regular sex at home and on vacation (this is partly why we do Airbnb over hotel suites) and don’t feel the need to leave our kids at home. We could if we wanted to, both sets of grandparents have offered, but we just don’t want to.

We travel 4 times a year plus a few long weekends and ski trips.

+1

Our kids are like our little buddies. We would be sad without them. We just really like being with them, I don’t know how else to explain it (I mean, we did raise them so it makes sense that we e turned them into people we enjoy spending time with).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t want time away from them. I get plenty of it as it is. We like to bring them along to experience new things together.

Many of our happiest family memories are of vacations.

We have a great marriage, regular sex at home and on vacation (this is partly why we do Airbnb over hotel suites) and don’t feel the need to leave our kids at home. We could if we wanted to, both sets of grandparents have offered, but we just don’t want to.

We travel 4 times a year plus a few long weekends and ski trips.

+1

Our kids are like our little buddies. We would be sad without them. We just really like being with them, I don’t know how else to explain it (I mean, we did raise them so it makes sense that we e turned them into people we enjoy spending time with).

Great. Congrats on being superior people to the rest of us, I guess. So happy for you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We enjoy our kids so we bring them. But it makes it much more expensive. We have 3.

And we typically have to d Airbnb over a luxe hotel.

NEWSFLASH.

Those of us that do trips without our kids ALSO enjoy our kids. Good lord people. Why is it so hard to comprehend that you can adore your children and still value time away from them???

I don’t want time away from them. I get plenty of it as it is. We like to bring them along to experience new things together.

Many of our happiest family memories are of vacations.

We have a great marriage, regular sex at home and on vacation (this is partly why we do Airbnb over hotel suites) and don’t feel the need to leave our kids at home. We could if we wanted to, both sets of grandparents have offered, but we just don’t want to.

We travel 4 times a year plus a few long weekends and ski trips.

+1

Our kids are like our little buddies. We would be sad without them. We just really like being with them, I don’t know how else to explain it (I mean, we did raise them so it makes sense that we e turned them into people we enjoy spending time with).

Great. Congrats on being superior people to the rest of us, I guess. So happy for you!

I would not want to be your kid.
The previous poster, yes I would love to be their kid.
Think about that.