Why vacation without the kids?

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is more important than being parents. You should always put your marriage first. Obviously kids are a close second. If your marriage falls apart your kids suffer.

I actually don’t want to hike Machu Picchu with my baby and toddler. I can’t imagine the majority of people would? I don’t even want to take them on easy trips like to Western Europe. They get to go to Disney world, a place kids enjoy. Unless OP never goes anywhere adventurous.

Not OP but we saved those adventurous trips for when the kids were older. Not a hardship. Kids aren't young for long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my experience these couples end up divorced. I always view it as a sign of weakness. I don't need to go far away to reconnect with DH.

LOL then I guess we're weak. So so weak. I'm feeling weak again, guess we better sneak off for some hotel sex and Michelin-starred food to reinforce our crumbling marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marriage is more important than being parents. You should always put your marriage first. Obviously kids are a close second. If your marriage falls apart your kids suffer.

I actually don’t want to hike Machu Picchu with my baby and toddler. I can’t imagine the majority of people would? I don’t even want to take them on easy trips like to Western Europe. They get to go to Disney world, a place kids enjoy. Unless OP never goes anywhere adventurous.

Not OP but we saved those adventurous trips for when the kids were older. Not a hardship. Kids aren't young for long.

Maybe yours weren't young for long but I have big age gaps between kids. Started in my 20s and won't have the last in HS until I'm 50.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think most families do both....and it’s healthy for a marriage.

Most families do NOT do both. I think it would be nice to get away without kids, but it’s not common.

[Anonymous]

My entire idea of a vacation is to enjoy stress-free time with my kids and husband, all together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My entire idea of a vacation is to enjoy stress-free time with my kids and husband, all together.

There is no such thing as stress-free time with kids under 2. Luckily I have local grandparents so we have both kinds of vacations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marriage is more important than being parents. You should always put your marriage first. Obviously kids are a close second. If your marriage falls apart your kids suffer.

I actually don’t want to hike Machu Picchu with my baby and toddler. I can’t imagine the majority of people would? I don’t even want to take them on easy trips like to Western Europe. They get to go to Disney world, a place kids enjoy. Unless OP never goes anywhere adventurous.

Not OP but we saved those adventurous trips for when the kids were older. Not a hardship. Kids aren't young for long.

Maybe yours weren't young for long but I have big age gaps between kids. Started in my 20s and won't have the last in HS until I'm 50.

Life choices......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marriage is more important than being parents. You should always put your marriage first. Obviously kids are a close second. If your marriage falls apart your kids suffer.

I actually don’t want to hike Machu Picchu with my baby and toddler. I can’t imagine the majority of people would? I don’t even want to take them on easy trips like to Western Europe. They get to go to Disney world, a place kids enjoy. Unless OP never goes anywhere adventurous.

Not OP but we saved those adventurous trips for when the kids were older. Not a hardship. Kids aren't young for long.

Maybe yours weren't young for long but I have big age gaps between kids. Started in my 20s and won't have the last in HS until I'm 50.

You could have had the older ones watch the younger ones while you went for dinner alone on a family vacation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marriage is more important than being parents. You should always put your marriage first. Obviously kids are a close second. If your marriage falls apart your kids suffer.

I actually don’t want to hike Machu Picchu with my baby and toddler. I can’t imagine the majority of people would? I don’t even want to take them on easy trips like to Western Europe. They get to go to Disney world, a place kids enjoy. Unless OP never goes anywhere adventurous.

Not OP but we saved those adventurous trips for when the kids were older. Not a hardship. Kids aren't young for long.

But dh and I won’t be young then. We want to have the energy to climb and backpack.

Also, we probably won’t ever bring kids on super expensive vacations. Seeing gorillas in Kenya with a guide? I love my kids but they can save for their own expensive vacations with their spouses. I’ll gladly watch my grandkids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My entire idea of a vacation is to enjoy stress-free time with my kids and husband, all together.

There is no such thing as stress-free time with kids under 2. Luckily I have local grandparents so we have both kinds of vacations.

I find our family vacations fantastic. You need to adjust your expectations for vacations with kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marriage is more important than being parents. You should always put your marriage first. Obviously kids are a close second. If your marriage falls apart your kids suffer.

I actually don’t want to hike Machu Picchu with my baby and toddler. I can’t imagine the majority of people would? I don’t even want to take them on easy trips like to Western Europe. They get to go to Disney world, a place kids enjoy. Unless OP never goes anywhere adventurous.

Not OP but we saved those adventurous trips for when the kids were older. Not a hardship. Kids aren't young for long.

But dh and I won’t be young then. We want to have the energy to climb and backpack.

Also, we probably won’t ever bring kids on super expensive vacations. Seeing gorillas in Kenya with a guide? I love my kids but they can save for their own expensive vacations with their spouses. I’ll gladly watch my grandkids.

You sound selfish. You could have travelled before having kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think most families do both....and it’s healthy for a marriage.

Most families do NOT do both. I think it would be nice to get away without kids, but it’s not common.

Are you saying most people don’t get a kid free vacation? Or are you saying people only have kid free vacations?

Most people I know get a kid free vacation at least every other year. Grandparents, nannies or close family/ friends watch the kids. I think the divorce rate would be a lot lower if everyone had the vacation with their spouse yearly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think most families do both....and it’s healthy for a marriage.

Most families do NOT do both. I think it would be nice to get away without kids, but it’s not common.

Are you saying most people don’t get a kid free vacation? Or are you saying people only have kid free vacations?

Most people I know get a kid free vacation at least every other year. Grandparents, nannies or close family/ friends watch the kids. I think the divorce rate would be a lot lower if everyone had the vacation with their spouse yearly.

The only person I knew who did kid free vacations ended up divorced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marriage is more important than being parents. You should always put your marriage first. Obviously kids are a close second. If your marriage falls apart your kids suffer.

I actually don’t want to hike Machu Picchu with my baby and toddler. I can’t imagine the majority of people would? I don’t even want to take them on easy trips like to Western Europe. They get to go to Disney world, a place kids enjoy. Unless OP never goes anywhere adventurous.

Not OP but we saved those adventurous trips for when the kids were older. Not a hardship. Kids aren't young for long.

But dh and I won’t be young then. We want to have the energy to climb and backpack.

Also, we probably won’t ever bring kids on super expensive vacations. Seeing gorillas in Kenya with a guide? I love my kids but they can save for their own expensive vacations with their spouses. I’ll gladly watch my grandkids.

You sound selfish. You could have travelled before having kids.

We did! And I truly love my kids and still have fabulous vacations with them. But once a year I enjoy a vacation with dh. My parents look forward to it and my kids adore my parents. It’s a win all around.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My entire idea of a vacation is to enjoy stress-free time with my kids and husband, all together.

There is no such thing as stress-free time with kids under 2. Luckily I have local grandparents so we have both kinds of vacations.

I find our family vacations fantastic. You need to adjust your expectations for vacations with kids.

So wait you mean if I “adjust my expectations” that “stress free” means “actually stressful but still good because I love my kids”? Uh pass I’ll keep having some literally stress-free trips.