Need advice - I have zero attraction to DH and avoid sex

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If your affection felt good, no one would eviscerate you for it. Perhaps you should ponder the mystery of what makes your touch so repellent.

My GF loves my affection, unfortunately for you dried up prunes.

Then marry her and be happy. Why do you care that other women you don't know don't like to be touched by other men you don't know? You think any woman should be delighted to be touched by a man in any which way?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your affection felt good, no one would eviscerate you for it. Perhaps you should ponder the mystery of what makes your touch so repellent.

My GF loves my affection, unfortunately for you dried up prunes.

True you can't disappoint a virtual gf or wife. Nor she you.

I believe you PP. just because the women here are ice queens doesn't mean they all are

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is interesting because a year or so ago I posted asking women about how they felt being groped and pawed at by their DHs, and specifically used the example of this occurring at the sink while DW is doing dishes. Many women replied that they loved it and would drop what they are doing and get it on right then and there. The bottom line with OP's situation is that she has lost sexual desire and while DH's approach might not be the best, I don't think they would be having more sex if he stopped the aggressive advances and tried a different technique. OP is able to avoid accountability for her loss of desire by blaming DH's approach.

Exactly, it's not disgusting. This is not a drunk stranger at a bar, but your hot husband desiring you. I love when my husband does this.

Have you had a health checkup lately? Does premature ovarian failure run in your family?
Do you have regular periods? How is your thyroid functioning?

You love it. But she doesn't. She's angry at her DH and no chemical adjustment is going to fix that until they talk things out. I'm nowhere near menopause, and understand exactly what OP is going through. It is emotional, expressed physically.

You say that but she didn't. She should speak for herself.
Having no sex drive at all is not normal at all, tired or not.

THere are MILLIONS of women with no sex drive. Have you read about so many in sex-less marriages. It's TOTALLY normal. It is the male driven society that wants women to believe it needs to be fixed so they can get laid more often.

And if you actually read you'll see sexless marriages are not normal - in fact it's only 10-12% that are. To add, experts agree it's unhealthy for a marriage and will lead to problems.

I hope you aren't married and if you are you should divorce your husband so he can be with someone who loves him and wants to be intimate with him. You should die fat and alone with your cats

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is interesting because a year or so ago I posted asking women about how they felt being groped and pawed at by their DHs, and specifically used the example of this occurring at the sink while DW is doing dishes. Many women replied that they loved it and would drop what they are doing and get it on right then and there. The bottom line with OP's situation is that she has lost sexual desire and while DH's approach might not be the best, I don't think they would be having more sex if he stopped the aggressive advances and tried a different technique. OP is able to avoid accountability for her loss of desire by blaming DH's approach.

Exactly, it's not disgusting. This is not a drunk stranger at a bar, but your hot husband desiring you. I love when my husband does this.

Have you had a health checkup lately? Does premature ovarian failure run in your family?
Do you have regular periods? How is your thyroid functioning?

You love it. But she doesn't. She's angry at her DH and no chemical adjustment is going to fix that until they talk things out. I'm nowhere near menopause, and understand exactly what OP is going through. It is emotional, expressed physically.

You say that but she didn't. She should speak for herself.
Having no sex drive at all is not normal at all, tired or not.

THere are MILLIONS of women with no sex drive. Have you read about so many in sex-less marriages. It's TOTALLY normal. It is the male driven society that wants women to believe it needs to be fixed so they can get laid more often.

And if you actually read you'll see sexless marriages are not normal - in fact it's only 10-12% that are. To add, experts agree it's unhealthy for a marriage and will lead to problems.

I hope you aren't married and if you are you should divorce your husband so he can be with someone who loves him and wants to be intimate with him. You should die fat and alone with your cats

Many single women love being alone enjoying their kids and grand kids. As you saw from the dog thread most women would choose their pets over their dh. If a dh views marriage solely for his sexual needs he can hit the road, or teach his hands some new tricks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op again - I should add DH works about 70 hours a week. Sometimes 7 days a week. So I think his lack of ownership over any household duties is a combination of his long hours.

Boy, you think? What an ungrateful bitch you are.

+1001

OP, you're very ungrateful. Your husband works hard and sometime 7 days a week. If you want to be with him hire some help and go on some date nights and plan a get away for the two of you. If you're still not into him you have two options:
- Allow him to have a lover so he gets that part of his life back
- Divorce him so he can find someone who will love him for who he is and wants to be with him.


You're robbing him of one of the most important parts of a marriage and you're being selfish

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op again - I should add DH works about 70 hours a week. Sometimes 7 days a week. So I think his lack of ownership over any household duties is a combination of his long hours.

Boy, you think? What an ungrateful bitch you are.

+1001

OP, you're very ungrateful. Your husband works hard and sometime 7 days a week. If you want to be with him hire some help and go on some date nights and plan a get away for the two of you. If you're still not into him you have two options:
- Allow him to have a lover so he gets that part of his life back
- Divorce him so he can find someone who will love him for who he is and wants to be with him.


You're robbing him of one of the most important parts of a marriage and you're being selfish

What does she have to be grateful for? She works too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is interesting because a year or so ago I posted asking women about how they felt being groped and pawed at by their DHs, and specifically used the example of this occurring at the sink while DW is doing dishes. Many women replied that they loved it and would drop what they are doing and get it on right then and there. The bottom line with OP's situation is that she has lost sexual desire and while DH's approach might not be the best, I don't think they would be having more sex if he stopped the aggressive advances and tried a different technique. OP is able to avoid accountability for her loss of desire by blaming DH's approach.

Exactly, it's not disgusting. This is not a drunk stranger at a bar, but your hot husband desiring you. I love when my husband does this.

Have you had a health checkup lately? Does premature ovarian failure run in your family?
Do you have regular periods? How is your thyroid functioning?

You love it. But she doesn't. She's angry at her DH and no chemical adjustment is going to fix that until they talk things out. I'm nowhere near menopause, and understand exactly what OP is going through. It is emotional, expressed physically.

You say that but she didn't. She should speak for herself.
Having no sex drive at all is not normal at all, tired or not.

THere are MILLIONS of women with no sex drive. Have you read about so many in sex-less marriages. It's TOTALLY normal. It is the male driven society that wants women to believe it needs to be fixed so they can get laid more often.

And if you actually read you'll see sexless marriages are not normal - in fact it's only 10-12% that are. To add, experts agree it's unhealthy for a marriage and will lead to problems.

I hope you aren't married and if you are you should divorce your husband so he can be with someone who loves him and wants to be intimate with him. You should die fat and alone with your cats

Many single women love being alone enjoying their kids and grand kids. As you saw from the dog thread most women would choose their pets over their dh. If a dh views marriage solely for his sexual needs he can hit the road, or teach his hands some new tricks.

I personally take the opinion of marriage experts over some bitter dried up hag on DCUM. All experts agree sex is important and if it's not in a marriage then the marriage will fail.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Ep2MAx95m20

If you don't want to have sex with your husband ever than you should leave him, end of story

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op again - I should add DH works about 70 hours a week. Sometimes 7 days a week. So I think his lack of ownership over any household duties is a combination of his long hours.

Boy, you think? What an ungrateful bitch you are.

+1001

OP, you're very ungrateful. Your husband works hard and sometime 7 days a week. If you want to be with him hire some help and go on some date nights and plan a get away for the two of you. If you're still not into him you have two options:
- Allow him to have a lover so he gets that part of his life back
- Divorce him so he can find someone who will love him for who he is and wants to be with him.


You're robbing him of one of the most important parts of a marriage and you're being selfish

What does she have to be grateful for? She works too.

I guess you're not so good at reading. OP stated sometimes DH works 7 days a week. And often more hours. He's probably just as exhausted

She needs to hire help. Plus, she's lucky he still feels anything for her after how she acts

[Anonymous]

I take it you think the husband is under no obligation to make sex feel good for his wife? She just ought to have it like a flu shot?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op again - I should add DH works about 70 hours a week. Sometimes 7 days a week. So I think his lack of ownership over any household duties is a combination of his long hours.

Boy, you think? What an ungrateful bitch you are.

+1001

OP, you're very ungrateful. Your husband works hard and sometime 7 days a week. If you want to be with him hire some help and go on some date nights and plan a get away for the two of you. If you're still not into him you have two options:
- Allow him to have a lover so he gets that part of his life back
- Divorce him so he can find someone who will love him for who he is and wants to be with him.


You're robbing him of one of the most important parts of a marriage and you're being selfish

What does she have to be grateful for? She works too.

I guess you're not so good at reading. OP stated sometimes DH works 7 days a week. And often more hours. He's probably just as exhausted

She needs to hire help. Plus, she's lucky he still feels anything for her after how she acts

So what? She works too, and she takes 100% care of their child. Is he grateful for the household that runs without any of his input, and his child being raised without his help?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I take it you think the husband is under no obligation to make sex feel good for his wife? She just ought to have it like a flu shot?

He can't, she has her mind made up already she's repulsed. She needs to decide whether she loves him or not and if not stop acting like a little girl and let him go and be happy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I take it you think the husband is under no obligation to make sex feel good for his wife? She just ought to have it like a flu shot?

He can't, she has her mind made up already she's repulsed. She needs to decide whether she loves him or not and if not stop acting like a little girl and let him go and be happy

No woman is repulsed by something that feels good.

You can't enjoy the unenjoyable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op again - I should add DH works about 70 hours a week. Sometimes 7 days a week. So I think his lack of ownership over any household duties is a combination of his long hours.

Boy, you think? What an ungrateful bitch you are.

+1001

OP, you're very ungrateful. Your husband works hard and sometime 7 days a week. If you want to be with him hire some help and go on some date nights and plan a get away for the two of you. If you're still not into him you have two options:
- Allow him to have a lover so he gets that part of his life back
- Divorce him so he can find someone who will love him for who he is and wants to be with him.


You're robbing him of one of the most important parts of a marriage and you're being selfish

What does she have to be grateful for? She works too.

I guess you're not so good at reading. OP stated sometimes DH works 7 days a week. And often more hours. He's probably just as exhausted

She needs to hire help. Plus, she's lucky he still feels anything for her after how she acts

So what? She works too, and she takes 100% care of their child. Is he grateful for the household that runs without any of his input, and his child being raised without his help?

Obviously not as much. Hours I work more my DW takes in parenting as I'm exhausted. Same the other way. Perhaps she should stop feeling entitled and grow a pair and buck up. Hire some help with the house, find out if you still love your husband. If you don't then set him free

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I take it you think the husband is under no obligation to make sex feel good for his wife? She just ought to have it like a flu shot?

He can't, she has her mind made up already she's repulsed. She needs to decide whether she loves him or not and if not stop acting like a little girl and let him go and be happy

No woman is repulsed by something that feels good.

You can't enjoy the unenjoyable.

How do you know if he's good at sex, you fuck him too?

Her mind is made up, she should make a decision

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I take it you think the husband is under no obligation to make sex feel good for his wife? She just ought to have it like a flu shot?

He can't, she has her mind made up already she's repulsed. She needs to decide whether she loves him or not and if not stop acting like a little girl and let him go and be happy

No woman is repulsed by something that feels good.

You can't enjoy the unenjoyable.

How do you know if he's good at sex, you fuck him too?

Her mind is made up, she should make a decision

His wife tells me his touch doesn't feel good, so I believe her. I have no clue whether he's good at sex, but his wife says his touch doesn't feel good.