I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question, OP: what was your childhood like? Were you deprived of attention? Parents divorced? Mother more interested in dating than parenting? Why does your self esteem suck so badly that you crave the attention of anonymous people on a message board?

That is not a nice thing to say to a person. Someone is engaging in negative self talk.

Warbler

t was a fair question. Healthy people do not engage in the behavior OP did. Assuming she actually did. She is refusing to answer the tough questions and only answers with cute little quips that spell troll.

I like trolls.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A kid glad they have two homes because their dad beat their mom is totally different than a kid glad their dad cheated and married the AP.

Also, most kids in abuse situations don't have two homes. If the mom actually leaves, dad doesn't see them at all.

You are talking about purely physical abuse....there is more to abuse than "beating mom/the kids", I am currently married to someone who has been diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and has put me through a tremendous amount of emotional and verbal abuse and guess what, I am getting a divorce. My Son will most likely have two homes because it is extremely hard to prove in a court of law this type of abuse, but we will see...however, I feel that I am doing the right thing by my son by getting a divorce. Having him grow up in a toxic household is not "better" and I think when he is older and understands why I had to leave he will be glad that I did not stay with his crazy farther. I think your post is totally ignorant and very black and white. Are you one of those people that walk around saying things like, "oh you should stay, its not like he beats you every day?".....

If your husband is so crazy why procreate with him?
I never understood women like you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you embarrassed that your relationship started as an affair? What did your friends and family think? were children involved?

Not at all, you can't help who you fall in love with. They didn't like it at first, but they see how happy we are together. He has one kid with his ex. We're TTC now.

What's ttc?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how did you meet him?

He was my personal trainer.

Is he still a PT now?
What do you do?
How can you afford a life together?

Yes, he does that part time. He works for the government full time. I'm a CRA at a biotech company. We're doing just fine financially.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't have any questions, because I already know everything I need to know about your character.

[b]

Exactly. You're disgusting, OP. I'm single and not married, thank you for taking a loser out of my dating pool. Can't wait until he cheats on you! I don't usually wish people bad things but you deserve nothing but the worst.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you embarrassed that your relationship started as an affair? What did your friends and family think? were children involved?

Not at all, you can't help who you fall in love with. They didn't like it at first, but they see how happy we are together. He has one kid with his ex. We're TTC now.

What's ttc?

Trying to conceive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So are you younger and hotter? Was his wife a hag? Did you appreciate him far more than she did?

[b]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you that you couldn't get any of the quality single men to date you?


Follow up, what is attractive to you about a man who has proven he will leave his wife and kid when he gets bored?


Are you prepared to be a single mom?

I met plenty of single guys, but I didn't connect with any of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So are you younger and hotter? Was his wife a hag? Did you appreciate him far more than she did?

[b]

I answered this already.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:op, do you realize that this forum is full of married women who are worried that someone will steal their dh?

A man can't be "stolen" he either wants to be with you or he doesn't. The ex didn't do anything to make him want to stay with her (no cooking, cleaning, or BJs) so she only has herself to blame.

[b]

So that's what you bring to the table?? Haaaaaa cooking, cleaning BJs. You guys are perfect for each other. Next time at least steal a man who isn't pathetic. A personal trainer lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how did you meet him?

He was my personal trainer.

Is he still a PT now?
What do you do?
How can you afford a life together?

Yes, he does that part time. He works for the government full time. I'm a CRA at a biotech company. We're doing just fine financially.

[b]

Love all the new 'identifying' details you're adding, so that no one recognizes you.Just own it lady.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how did you meet him?

He was my personal trainer.

Is he still a PT now?
What do you do?
How can you afford a life together?

Yes, he does that part time. He works for the government full time. I'm a CRA at a biotech company. We're doing just fine financially.

[b]

Love all the new 'identifying' details you're adding, so that no one recognizes you. Just own it lady.

Not the OP, but the gov't has so many employees, it would be nearly impossible to figure it out. There are several biotech companies in the DC area too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:op, do you realize that this forum is full of married women who are worried that someone will steal their dh?

A man can't be "stolen" he either wants to be with you or he doesn't. The ex didn't do anything to make him want to stay with her (no cooking, cleaning, or BJs) so she only has herself to blame.

[b]

So that's what you bring to the table?? Haaaaaa cooking, cleaning BJs. You guys are perfect for each other. Next time at least steal a man who isn't pathetic. A personal trainer lol.

I'm also there for emotional support, I'm there for him financially (his ex could never keep a job), I'm not ghetto, and we have more in common.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:op, do you realize that this forum is full of married women who are worried that someone will steal their dh?

A man can't be "stolen" he either wants to be with you or he doesn't. The ex didn't do anything to make him want to stay with her (no cooking, cleaning, or BJs) so she only has herself to blame.

[b]

So that's what you bring to the table?? Haaaaaa cooking, cleaning BJs. You guys are perfect for each other. Next time at least steal a man who isn't pathetic. A personal trainer lol.

I'm also there for emotional support, I'm there for him financially (his ex could never keep a job), I'm not ghetto, and we have more in common.

She does not "only have herself to blame" for her husband cheating and leaving her and their child for another woman. I think it's actually pretty safe to blame him for that, and you. That you don't realize that is why people are ragging on you so hard.

I am divorced and remarried, and I recognize the importance of spouses taking care of each other more now than in my first marriage. I was younger and a lot more selfish then, and I fully admit that that selfishness was part of why my first marriage fell apart. But if my husband left me for another woman because I didn't blow him enough, that would be on him, not on me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:op, do you realize that this forum is full of married women who are worried that someone will steal their dh?

A man can't be "stolen" he either wants to be with you or he doesn't. The ex didn't do anything to make him want to stay with her (no cooking, cleaning, or BJs) so she only has herself to blame.

[b]

So that's what you bring to the table?? Haaaaaa cooking, cleaning BJs. You guys are perfect for each other. Next time at least steal a man who isn't pathetic. A personal trainer lol.

I'm also there for emotional support, I'm there for him financially (his ex could never keep a job), I'm not ghetto, and we have more in common.

Why didn't you list those things first? They sound like better building blocks for a marriage. Why were the cooking, cleaning, and blowjobs the first thing that came to your mind?