Spendthrift DH

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your views of Asians are effed up. I am Asian and as a general rule, yes, saving and financial stability is important; that's why kids are pushed towards medicine, engineering, law etc. BUT not every Asian family is living under the model of saving every dollar for retirement as you seem to be doing. You came here in your teens, having never had new clothes before. It's a bit different for the Asians born and raised here, or even for the Asians who immigrated who were engineers or MBAs or whatever in their own countries; sure they came here to do "better," but there weren't totally lacking in their own country either. They had a middle class life -- so they were used to eating out or grabbing a coffee or treating their kids to an ice cream cone, and they didn't stop doing that just bc they got to the U.S. and decided retirement savings was it. You sound like you'd freak out if your kid asked for a $5 ice cream cone.

OP here, I was wondering how long it would take for one of you self hating Asian Americans to show up in this thread. I get it, you were born here, you're not "really Asian", and you are "honorary white" in your head. Whatever. For what it's worth, you are talking about a caricature in your head, not me, when you suggest I would freak out over an ice cream cone. You have not asked me what expenditures I consider excessive, so you are just being silly to speculate.

Asians who come from Asian professional class aren't really Asians? Are Asians all required to be poor to pass your test? I promise you, there are actual middle and upperclass people in Asia. They aren't anything like you. You don't represent Asia in toto.

OP here, are you sure you know anything about the middle and upper class? If you were a member of either of these classes, you would know how to read. Where in my post did you read that all people who come from the Asian professional class aren't really Asians? Talk about reading with your issues, rather than your eyes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it impossible for you to discuss your agenda without insulting everyone else in the process?

I have actually seen not seen OP insult people as much as people have insulted her....

Not really, she's very defensive and anyone who disagrees with her and points out weaknesses in her position is either a fake Asian, or a silly white chick, or destined for life on the streets by 70. I tell you, people who grew up middle and upper class in Asia don't tend to have that much resentment built up. None of the wealthy Nigerians, Bengalis or Chinese we know are like that.

OP here. Lol. I love the posters in this thread. Suddenly everyone is hanging out with the international jet set and is from an upper class background. No doubt you're currently in transit to some exotic location and just decided put your champagne glass down for a second to school the poors on DCUM, huh? I am so thankful that you came down from heaven to tell me how my betters live and think.

[Anonymous]

Not sure what your problem is, but you sound like a peach. I mean you are THE BEST. Your family is THE BEST. Your African friends are THE BEST. Everyone else is white or honorary white or will be wandering the street destitute at 70 or will leave nothing to their kids. Not sure why you need lowly DCUM's advice since you are THE BEST.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it impossible for you to discuss your agenda without insulting everyone else in the process?

I have actually seen not seen OP insult people as much as people have insulted her....

You might want to reread the thread then.
She got the info she needed, now she's just trolling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure what your problem is, but you sound like a peach. I mean you are THE BEST. Your family is THE BEST. Your African friends are THE BEST. Everyone else is white or honorary white or will be wandering the street destitute at 70 or will leave nothing to their kids. Not sure why you need lowly DCUM's advice since you are THE BEST.

That's why she's trolling. She comes to Americans with their messed up fiscal philosophies to get advice for how to exert even more control over her husband's spending? That's just stupid. She clearly just needed some attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it impossible for you to discuss your agenda without insulting everyone else in the process?

I have actually seen not seen OP insult people as much as people have insulted her....

You might want to reread the thread then.
She got the info she needed, now she's just trolling.

A lot of you are reeeeeally projecting. She is defending herself from attacks. You are reading along and you see that. But your version is that she is trolling. Ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your views of Asians are effed up. I am Asian and as a general rule, yes, saving and financial stability is important; that's why kids are pushed towards medicine, engineering, law etc. BUT not every Asian family is living under the model of saving every dollar for retirement as you seem to be doing. You came here in your teens, having never had new clothes before. It's a bit different for the Asians born and raised here, or even for the Asians who immigrated who were engineers or MBAs or whatever in their own countries; sure they came here to do "better," but there weren't totally lacking in their own country either. They had a middle class life -- so they were used to eating out or grabbing a coffee or treating their kids to an ice cream cone, and they didn't stop doing that just bc they got to the U.S. and decided retirement savings was it. You sound like you'd freak out if your kid asked for a $5 ice cream cone.

OP here, I was wondering how long it would take for one of you self hating Asian Americans to show up in this thread. I get it, you were born here, you're not "really Asian", and you are "honorary white" in your head. Whatever. For what it's worth, you are talking about a caricature in your head, not me, when you suggest I would freak out over an ice cream cone. You have not asked me what expenditures I consider excessive, so you are just being silly to speculate.

Asians who come from Asian professional class aren't really Asians? Are Asians all required to be poor to pass your test? I promise you, there are actual middle and upperclass people in Asia. They aren't anything like you. You don't represent Asia in toto.

OP here, are you sure you know anything about the middle and upper class? If you were a member of either of these classes, you would know how to read. Where in my post did you read that all people who come from the Asian professional class aren't really Asians? Talk about reading with your issues, rather than your eyes.

You called a poster who responded to you a fake, self-hating Asian because he told you Asians who were born here OR Asian middle-class immigrants with engineering or MBA degrees don't live the way you do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it impossible for you to discuss your agenda without insulting everyone else in the process?

I have actually seen not seen OP insult people as much as people have insulted her....

Not really, she's very defensive and anyone who disagrees with her and points out weaknesses in her position is either a fake Asian, or a silly white chick, or destined for life on the streets by 70. I tell you, people who grew up middle and upper class in Asia don't tend to have that much resentment built up. None of the wealthy Nigerians, Bengalis or Chinese we know are like that.

OP here. Lol. I love the posters in this thread. Suddenly everyone is hanging out with the international jet set and is from an upper class background. No doubt you're currently in transit to some exotic location and just decided put your champagne glass down for a second to school the poors on DCUM, huh? I am so thankful that you came down from heaven to tell me how my betters live and think.

You honestly think there are no Nigerian attorneys or Bengali surgeons out there? Not everyone in Asia lacked clothes growing up.

[Anonymous]

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OP here. Typical nouveau riche nonsense. I don't care about the designers you pretend to wear or your claims to be able to spot a self-sewn one. You clearly do not know anything about the industry if you don't realize that seamstresses of color are almost always the ones who make your designer wear (including the designs that are labeled as having originated in Europe!). Your ignorance is why designers are able to charge you so much. My Ghanaian friend is rolling out her own line anyway, so I am glad that people like you exist to pay her 90 times what it cost her to have the items made.

No one cares about your Ghanaian friend or her clothes, either. Clothing lines appear and disappear into oblivion every day. Yawn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it impossible for you to discuss your agenda without insulting everyone else in the process?

I have actually seen not seen OP insult people as much as people have insulted her....

Not really, she's very defensive and anyone who disagrees with her and points out weaknesses in her position is either a fake Asian, or a silly white chick, or destined for life on the streets by 70. I tell you, people who grew up middle and upper class in Asia don't tend to have that much resentment built up. None of the wealthy Nigerians, Bengalis or Chinese we know are like that.

OP here. Lol. I love the posters in this thread. Suddenly everyone is hanging out with the international jet set and is from an upper class background. No doubt you're currently in transit to some exotic location and just decided put your champagne glass down for a second to school the poors on DCUM, huh? I am so thankful that you came down from heaven to tell me how my betters live and think.

You honestly think there are no Nigerian attorneys or Bengali surgeons out there? Not everyone in Asia lacked clothes growing up.

OP here, it seems you're another one of the "jetset" who doesn't know how to read. Please quote where I wrote that there are no Nigerian attorneys or Bengali surgeons. It seems a lot of you "upper class" people in this thread have been too busy putting on airs on DCUM to study!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, haven't been on this thread since yesterday. I am the one whose dad died when I was 10 and mom scraped by. I must say, most of you folks on DCUM are distorted. It is clear to me that most of the PPs have never had to really scrape by. Have any of you ever had to live on welfare or on nothing? Do you know how to not only live without cable, but also without a car or wondering if you were going to pay for food or gas first? It changes you. And don't think this doesn't happen in the US. It has been ubiquitous since 2008, just not in NW DC, or MOCo or Fairfax, or at least not in your community. If you lost a $20 bill, would that break your budget for the month?

Get off your horses. The OP has a problem. The OPs husband has a problem, and all she sees is the $$ bleeding out the door. I am sure it brings a lot of feelings of her childhood. If you choose to eat nothing but beans to make sure there is money in the bank, it has to be irritating to hear DH went out and dropped $100 on lunch at a restaurant. All OP is asking for is advice on how to get DH to spend reasonably, say $15 for lunch instead.

The only problem OP has is that she married someone very different from her, and is now angry that she can't force him to become exactly like her. Aren't there enough born-poor Asians out there she could have married? Why go out look for problems?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
OP here. Typical nouveau riche nonsense. I don't care about the designers you pretend to wear or your claims to be able to spot a self-sewn one. You clearly do not know anything about the industry if you don't realize that seamstresses of color are almost always the ones who make your designer wear (including the designs that are labeled as having originated in Europe!). Your ignorance is why designers are able to charge you so much. My Ghanaian friend is rolling out her own line anyway, so I am glad that people like you exist to pay her 90 times what it cost her to have the items made.

No one cares about your Ghanaian friend or her clothes, either. Clothing lines appear and disappear into oblivion every day. Yawn.

OP here, I am surprised you could stop googling and posting the names of designers long enough to respond. You'd better get off DCUM and get back to your post before you miss an opportunity to catch someone wearing non-designer goods.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it impossible for you to discuss your agenda without insulting everyone else in the process?

I have actually seen not seen OP insult people as much as people have insulted her....

Not really, she's very defensive and anyone who disagrees with her and points out weaknesses in her position is either a fake Asian, or a silly white chick, or destined for life on the streets by 70. I tell you, people who grew up middle and upper class in Asia don't tend to have that much resentment built up. None of the wealthy Nigerians, Bengalis or Chinese we know are like that.

OP here. Lol. I love the posters in this thread. Suddenly everyone is hanging out with the international jet set and is from an upper class background. No doubt you're currently in transit to some exotic location and just decided put your champagne glass down for a second to school the poors on DCUM, huh? I am so thankful that you came down from heaven to tell me how my betters live and think.

You honestly think there are no Nigerian attorneys or Bengali surgeons out there? Not everyone in Asia lacked clothes growing up.

OP here, it seems you're another one of the "jetset" who doesn't know how to read. Please quote where I wrote that there are no Nigerian attorneys or Bengali surgeons. It seems a lot of you "upper class" people in this thread have been too busy putting on airs on DCUM to study!

You said, a number of times, that Asian and African values are different from Americans. That's a very broad generalization. People are responding, quite logically, that not every Asian and not every African thinks the way you do. Not all Asians and Africans grew up poor. Stop trying to weasel out of what you said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it impossible for you to discuss your agenda without insulting everyone else in the process?

I have actually seen not seen OP insult people as much as people have insulted her....

Not really, she's very defensive and anyone who disagrees with her and points out weaknesses in her position is either a fake Asian, or a silly white chick, or destined for life on the streets by 70. I tell you, people who grew up middle and upper class in Asia don't tend to have that much resentment built up. None of the wealthy Nigerians, Bengalis or Chinese we know are like that.

OP here. Lol. I love the posters in this thread. Suddenly everyone is hanging out with the international jet set and is from an upper class background. No doubt you're currently in transit to some exotic location and just decided put your champagne glass down for a second to school the poors on DCUM, huh? I am so thankful that you came down from heaven to tell me how my betters live and think.

You honestly think there are no Nigerian attorneys or Bengali surgeons out there? Not everyone in Asia lacked clothes growing up.

OP here, it seems you're another one of the "jetset" who doesn't know how to read. Please quote where I wrote that there are no Nigerian attorneys or Bengali surgeons. It seems a lot of you "upper class" people in this thread have been too busy putting on airs on DCUM to study!

You said, a number of times, that Asian and African values are different from Americans. That's a very broad generalization. People are responding, quite logically, that not every Asian and not every African thinks the way you do. Not all Asians and Africans grew up poor. Stop trying to weasel out of what you said.

She asked you to quote her...where's the quote...lmao. OP is taking y'all to school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, haven't been on this thread since yesterday. I am the one whose dad died when I was 10 and mom scraped by. I must say, most of you folks on DCUM are distorted. It is clear to me that most of the PPs have never had to really scrape by. Have any of you ever had to live on welfare or on nothing? Do you know how to not only live without cable, but also without a car or wondering if you were going to pay for food or gas first? It changes you. And don't think this doesn't happen in the US. It has been ubiquitous since 2008, just not in NW DC, or MOCo or Fairfax, or at least not in your community. If you lost a $20 bill, would that break your budget for the month?

Get off your horses. The OP has a problem. The OPs husband has a problem, and all she sees is the $$ bleeding out the door. I am sure it brings a lot of feelings of her childhood. If you choose to eat nothing but beans to make sure there is money in the bank, it has to be irritating to hear DH went out and dropped $100 on lunch at a restaurant. All OP is asking for is advice on how to get DH to spend reasonably, say $15 for lunch instead.

The only problem OP has is that she married someone very different from her, and is now angry that she can't force him to become exactly like her. Aren't there enough born-poor Asians out there she could have married? Why go out look for problems?

You've given yourself away. I has a feeling most of OP's haters in this thread were asian males angry about asian females dating white.