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Anonymous wrote:Is it impossible for you to discuss your agenda without insulting everyone else in the process?

I have actually seen not seen OP insult people as much as people have insulted her....

Not really, she's very defensive and anyone who disagrees with her and points out weaknesses in her position is either a fake Asian, or a silly white chick, or destined for life on the streets by 70. I tell you, people who grew up middle and upper class in Asia don't tend to have that much resentment built up. None of the wealthy Nigerians, Bengalis or Chinese we know are like that.

OP here. Lol. I love the posters in this thread. Suddenly everyone is hanging out with the international jet set and is from an upper class background. No doubt you're currently in transit to some exotic location and just decided put your champagne glass down for a second to school the poors on DCUM, huh? I am so thankful that you came down from heaven to tell me how my betters live and think.

You honestly think there are no Nigerian attorneys or Bengali surgeons out there? Not everyone in Asia lacked clothes growing up.

OP here, it seems you're another one of the "jetset" who doesn't know how to read. Please quote where I wrote that there are no Nigerian attorneys or Bengali surgeons. It seems a lot of you "upper class" people in this thread have been too busy putting on airs on DCUM to study!

You said, a number of times, that Asian and African values are different from Americans. That's a very broad generalization. People are responding, quite logically, that not every Asian and not every African thinks the way you do. Not all Asians and Africans grew up poor. Stop trying to weasel out of what you said.

She asked you to quote her...where's the quote...lmao. OP is taking y'all to school.

There is a collection of her quotes somewhere on p. 7 or 6 of this thread, go look it up.

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Op, what do you spend monthly?

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Anonymous wrote:Is it impossible for you to discuss your agenda without insulting everyone else in the process?

I have actually seen not seen OP insult people as much as people have insulted her....

Not really, she's very defensive and anyone who disagrees with her and points out weaknesses in her position is either a fake Asian, or a silly white chick, or destined for life on the streets by 70. I tell you, people who grew up middle and upper class in Asia don't tend to have that much resentment built up. None of the wealthy Nigerians, Bengalis or Chinese we know are like that.

OP here. Lol. I love the posters in this thread. Suddenly everyone is hanging out with the international jet set and is from an upper class background. No doubt you're currently in transit to some exotic location and just decided put your champagne glass down for a second to school the poors on DCUM, huh? I am so thankful that you came down from heaven to tell me how my betters live and think.

You honestly think there are no Nigerian attorneys or Bengali surgeons out there? Not everyone in Asia lacked clothes growing up.

OP here, it seems you're another one of the "jetset" who doesn't know how to read. Please quote where I wrote that there are no Nigerian attorneys or Bengali surgeons. It seems a lot of you "upper class" people in this thread have been too busy putting on airs on DCUM to study!

You said, a number of times, that Asian and African values are different from Americans. That's a very broad generalization. People are responding, quite logically, that not every Asian and not every African thinks the way you do. Not all Asians and Africans grew up poor. Stop trying to weasel out of what you said.

She asked you to quote her...where's the quote...lmao. OP is taking y'all to school.

There is a collection of her quotes somewhere on p. 7 or 6 of this thread, go look it up.

OP here, you pulled the part in bold out of your silly butt and now can't back it up. You look stupid and you know it. Just quit.

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Anonymous wrote:Your views of Asians are effed up. I am Asian and as a general rule, yes, saving and financial stability is important; that's why kids are pushed towards medicine, engineering, law etc. BUT not every Asian family is living under the model of saving every dollar for retirement as you seem to be doing. You came here in your teens, having never had new clothes before. [b]It's a bit different for the Asians born and raised here, or even for the Asians who immigrated who were engineers or MBAs or whatever in their own countries; sure they came here to do "better," but there weren't totally lacking in their own country either. They had a middle class life -- so they were used to eating out or grabbing a coffee or treating their kids to an ice cream cone, and they didn't stop doing that just bc they got to the U.S. and decided retirement savings was it.[/b] You sound like you'd freak out if your kid asked for a $5 ice cream cone.

OP here, I was wondering how long it would take for one of you self hating Asian Americans to show up in this thread. I get it, you were born here, you're not "really Asian", and you are "honorary white" in your head. Whatever. For what it's worth, you are talking about a caricature in your head, not me, when you suggest I would freak out over an ice cream cone. You have not asked me what expenditures I consider excessive, so you are just being silly to speculate.

Here is an Asian person saying to the OP that not every Asian is like her. Her response was to call him a fake, self-hating honorary white. Telling.

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Anonymous wrote:Your views of Asians are effed up. I am Asian and as a general rule, yes, saving and financial stability is important; that's why kids are pushed towards medicine, engineering, law etc. BUT not every Asian family is living under the model of saving every dollar for retirement as you seem to be doing. You came here in your teens, having never had new clothes before. It's a bit different for the Asians born and raised here, or even for the Asians who immigrated who were engineers or MBAs or whatever in their own countries; sure they came here to do "better," but there weren't totally lacking in their own country either. They had a middle class life -- so they were used to eating out or grabbing a coffee or treating their kids to an ice cream cone, and they didn't stop doing that just bc they got to the U.S. and decided retirement savings was it. You sound like you'd freak out if your kid asked for a $5 ice cream cone.

OP here, I was wondering how long it would take for one of you self hating Asian Americans to show up in this thread. I get it, you were born here, you're not "really Asian", and you are "honorary white" in your head. Whatever. For what it's worth, you are talking about a caricature in your head, not me, when you suggest I would freak out over an ice cream cone. You have not asked me what expenditures I consider excessive, so you are just being silly to speculate.

Ok - so what amount would be excessive. Say you're out with your kid and they ask for something you could make them at home for pennies on the dollar -- what dollar amount causes you to say no?

OP here, this is a stupid question. It is all about the context, budget, and interests to be served. There is no amount that is too much or too little. If my kid is in the habit of always getting ice cream cones, the next time s/he asks might be the time to teach a lesson about financial responsibility. I might suggest s/he remind me to get a tub of ice cream from the grocery store instead and then explain the difference in price per serving. If my kid just got a great grade, I might let him or her get an ice cream cone and something else from the store too. If the ice cream cone at the particular store is more expensive than at the store down the block, I might take my kid down the block. If my kid is saving up for something (I would always encourage my kids to save up in order to learn deferment of enjoyment and the pleasure that comes from achieving goals), then I might give him the option to have the ice cream cone or have the money in cash to put in his piggy bank.

You simplistic people who want to boil me down to fixed dollar amounts are telling on yourselves. Financial responsibility is about making careful inquiries and being aware of trade offs. It is not about fixed rules that may or may not make sense in any given context.

I like how no one has touched this post by OP. It makes too much sense, so the attackers are going to skip right over it.

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OP here, you pulled the part in bold out of your silly butt and now can't back it up. You look stupid and you know it. Just quit.

You have a husband. Go tell him what to do. No one here is married to you.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it impossible for you to discuss your agenda without insulting everyone else in the process?

I have actually seen not seen OP insult people as much as people have insulted her....

Not really, she's very defensive and anyone who disagrees with her and points out weaknesses in her position is either a fake Asian, or a silly white chick, or destined for life on the streets by 70. I tell you, people who grew up middle and upper class in Asia don't tend to have that much resentment built up. None of the wealthy Nigerians, Bengalis or Chinese we know are like that.

OP here. Lol. I love the posters in this thread. Suddenly everyone is hanging out with the international jet set and is from an upper class background. No doubt you're currently in transit to some exotic location and just decided put your champagne glass down for a second to school the poors on DCUM, huh? I am so thankful that you came down from heaven to tell me how my betters live and think.

You honestly think there are no Nigerian attorneys or Bengali surgeons out there? Not everyone in Asia lacked clothes growing up.

OP here, it seems you're another one of the "jetset" who doesn't know how to read. Please quote where I wrote that there are no Nigerian attorneys or Bengali surgeons. It seems a lot of you "upper class" people in this thread have been too busy putting on airs on DCUM to study!

You said, a number of times, that Asian and African values are different from Americans. That's a very broad generalization. People are responding, quite logically, that not every Asian and not every African thinks the way you do. Not all Asians and Africans grew up poor. Stop trying to weasel out of what you said.

She asked you to quote her...where's the quote...lmao. OP is taking y'all to school.

There is a collection of her quotes somewhere on p. 7 or 6 of this thread, go look it up.

OP here, you pulled the part in bold out of your silly butt and now can't back it up. You look stupid and you know it. Just quit.

A poster above said wealthy third-world people aren't like you. In response, you doubted that someone here can be from an upper class background or "hanging out with an international jet set". Surgeons and attorneys aren't jet-set. They simply grew up with food to eat and clothes to wear - sometimes even in Asia.

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Anonymous wrote:Your views of Asians are effed up. I am Asian and as a general rule, yes, saving and financial stability is important; that's why kids are pushed towards medicine, engineering, law etc. BUT not every Asian family is living under the model of saving every dollar for retirement as you seem to be doing. You came here in your teens, having never had new clothes before. It's a bit different for the Asians born and raised here, or even for the Asians who immigrated who were engineers or MBAs or whatever in their own countries; sure they came here to do "better," but there weren't totally lacking in their own country either. They had a middle class life -- so they were used to eating out or grabbing a coffee or treating their kids to an ice cream cone, and they didn't stop doing that just bc they got to the U.S. and decided retirement savings was it. You sound like you'd freak out if your kid asked for a $5 ice cream cone.

OP here, I was wondering how long it would take for one of you self hating Asian Americans to show up in this thread. I get it, you were born here, you're not "really Asian", and you are "honorary white" in your head. Whatever. For what it's worth, you are talking about a caricature in your head, not me, when you suggest I would freak out over an ice cream cone. You have not asked me what expenditures I consider excessive, so you are just being silly to speculate.

Ok - so what amount would be excessive. Say you're out with your kid and they ask for something you could make them at home for pennies on the dollar -- what dollar amount causes you to say no?

OP here, this is a stupid question. It is all about the context, budget, and interests to be served. There is no amount that is too much or too little. If my kid is in the habit of always getting ice cream cones, the next time s/he asks might be the time to teach a lesson about financial responsibility. I might suggest s/he remind me to get a tub of ice cream from the grocery store instead and then explain the difference in price per serving. If my kid just got a great grade, I might let him or her get an ice cream cone and something else from the store too. If the ice cream cone at the particular store is more expensive than at the store down the block, I might take my kid down the block. If my kid is saving up for something (I would always encourage my kids to save up in order to learn deferment of enjoyment and the pleasure that comes from achieving goals), then I might give him the option to have the ice cream cone or have the money in cash to put in his piggy bank.

You simplistic people who want to boil me down to fixed dollar amounts are telling on yourselves. Financial responsibility is about making careful inquiries and being aware of trade offs. It is not about fixed rules that may or may not make sense in any given context.

I like how no one has touched this post by OP. It makes too much sense, so the attackers are going to skip right over it.

No, it's too silly to pick apart. This is how it went.

Another Asian: Not everyone is like you.
OP: You haven't even asked me what amount I consider excessive!
Another poster: OK, I'm asking - what amount do you consider excessive?
OP: That's a stupid question!

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Anonymous wrote:Is it impossible for you to discuss your agenda without insulting everyone else in the process?

I have actually seen not seen OP insult people as much as people have insulted her....

Not really, she's very defensive and anyone who disagrees with her and points out weaknesses in her position is either a fake Asian, or a silly white chick, or destined for life on the streets by 70. I tell you, people who grew up middle and upper class in Asia don't tend to have that much resentment built up. None of the wealthy Nigerians, Bengalis or Chinese we know are like that.

OP here. Lol. I love the posters in this thread. Suddenly everyone is hanging out with the international jet set and is from an upper class background. No doubt you're currently in transit to some exotic location and just decided put your champagne glass down for a second to school the poors on DCUM, huh? I am so thankful that you came down from heaven to tell me how my betters live and think.

You honestly think there are no Nigerian attorneys or Bengali surgeons out there? Not everyone in Asia lacked clothes growing up.

OP here, it seems you're another one of the "jetset" who doesn't know how to read. Please quote where I wrote that there are no Nigerian attorneys or Bengali surgeons. It seems a lot of you "upper class" people in this thread have been too busy putting on airs on DCUM to study!

You said, a number of times, that Asian and African values are different from Americans. That's a very broad generalization. People are responding, quite logically, that not every Asian and not every African thinks the way you do. Not all Asians and Africans grew up poor. Stop trying to weasel out of what you said.

She asked you to quote her...where's the quote...lmao. OP is taking y'all to school.

There is a collection of her quotes somewhere on p. 7 or 6 of this thread, go look it up.

OP here, you pulled the part in bold out of your silly butt and now can't back it up. You look stupid and you know it. Just quit.

A poster above said wealthy third-world people aren't like you. In response, you doubted that someone here can be from an upper class background or "hanging out with an international jet set". Surgeons and attorneys aren't jet-set. They simply grew up with food to eat and clothes to wear - sometimes even in Asia.

Actually, the poster said "wealthy." That suggests that he was referring to people who have a lot more than the average doctor/lawyer.

Unless "wealthy" to YOU means someone who has food to eat and clothes to wear.

I think most people would think of the jetset when they hear "wealthy" before they think of an average doctor/lawyer.

Just saying.

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It's the same angry asian male posting multiple times to attack OP. Stop feeding the troll.

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Anonymous wrote:It's the same angry asian male posting multiple times to attack OP. Stop feeding the troll.

OP has the anger market cornered. There's enough there to fill The Yellow Sea.

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Anonymous wrote:It's the same angry asian male posting multiple times to attack OP. Stop feeding the troll.

OP has the anger market cornered. There's enough there to fill The Yellow Sea.

Hello angry asian dude. I've encountered enough of you in real life to know.

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Anonymous wrote:It's the same angry asian male posting multiple times to attack OP. Stop feeding the troll.

I would be money (if the OP let's me that is) that it's not. You are really reaching.

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Anonymous wrote:You can cut the condescension here with a knife! You clearly don't give a fuck what we think, we're faceless jerks on the internet, so why post at all? Wait, I get it now, here you go:

YOU ARE BETTER THAN ALL OF US. YOUR STUPID HUSBAND IS SO LUCKY TO HAVE YOU! MAYBE THIS MONTH HE CAN SPEND HIS ALLOWANCE ON A NEW LEASH!

OP here, whew. You are really mad right now. Usually, I have to actually try in order to whip people into this much of a frenzy.

I wasn't mad at all, just making sure you can hear me.

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OP, don't have time to read all the pages but it sounds like we are married to the same person. Both of them have the money skills of a thirteen year old. My suggestions? First, you cannot argue with a mentality. Talking to DH about prudent money practices will be as effective as communicating with a doorknob. Separate finances and learn in a calm voice to say NO. DW has this habit of always wanting to eat out, which is an endless money sucker. I refuse to go out with her on weekends because we will inevitably wind up in a restaurant. Tough love? You bet your ass if it keeps me solvent!