Spendthrift DH

[Anonymous]

This post just sounds very braggy. OP you do sound like a control freak. I get having money later on but live a little. You have to compromise.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it impossible for you to discuss your agenda without insulting everyone else in the process?

I have actually seen not seen OP insult people as much as people have insulted her....

Not really, she's very defensive and anyone who disagrees with her and points out weaknesses in her position is either a fake Asian, or a silly white chick, or destined for life on the streets by 70. I tell you, people who grew up middle and upper class in Asia don't tend to have that much resentment built up. None of the wealthy Nigerians, Bengalis or Chinese we know are like that.

OP has severe money anxiety. She also compensates for having been an outsider in this country by relying heavily on her achievements for self esteem and to denigrate the natives who she sees as all being born with silver spoons. She has a lot of resentment and envy towards native-born Americans.

You would be like OP if you were in her shoes. My DH's grandfather grew up wretchedly poor. He traumatized his whole family with his obsession with money.

So the cycle goes...

Seems like when they grow up with little and accumulate wealth they become more anti family and have a me first attitude that makes them rude, obnoxious, selfish due to their constant greed of wanting more and more money. They fear the money will run out and they will be back to drinking from tin cans again. So I wonder how this plays out in the OP's morals as a lawyer? I don't think she must be a very good one and probably went into law not for a passion but for the money. Weird that she married a man who is financially unstable and broke though because she doesn't seem to love him. Idk what kind of marriage that is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it impossible for you to discuss your agenda without insulting everyone else in the process?

I have actually seen not seen OP insult people as much as people have insulted her....

Not really, she's very defensive and anyone who disagrees with her and points out weaknesses in her position is either a fake Asian, or a silly white chick, or destined for life on the streets by 70. I tell you, people who grew up middle and upper class in Asia don't tend to have that much resentment built up. None of the wealthy Nigerians, Bengalis or Chinese we know are like that.

OP has severe money anxiety. She also compensates for having been an outsider in this country by relying heavily on her achievements for self esteem and to denigrate the natives who she sees as all being born with silver spoons. She has a lot of resentment and envy towards native-born Americans.

You would be like OP if you were in her shoes. My DH's grandfather grew up wretchedly poor. He traumatized his whole family with his obsession with money.

So the cycle goes...

Seems like when they grow up with little and accumulate wealth they become more anti family and have a me first attitude that makes them rude, obnoxious, selfish due to their constant greed of wanting more and more money. They fear the money will run out and they will be back to drinking from tin cans again. So I wonder how this plays out in the OP's morals as a lawyer? I don't think she must be a very good one and probably went into law not for a passion but for the money. Weird that she married a man who is financially unstable and broke though because she doesn't seem to love him. Idk what kind of marriage that is.

So she's a regular lawyer

[Anonymous]

This is such a weird thread. OP makes reasonable points about her DH's spending and then some of you attack.

What is really going on here?

We have one kook who keeps projecting onto OP from the broke mother, grandfather, relatives she has in her own family.

We have another kook whose underlying problem is that he or she, probably he, thinks she should have stuck to her own race.

It sounds like the same two people patting each other's here.

Weird part is that OP has mentioned $10,000 trips and being willing to eat out, just in moderation. Some creep even asked her about a hypothetical kid and ice cream cone, and she answered perfectly. Yet the posts keep coming as if she is some crazy penny pincher who can't live.

Yea she threw shade on Americans but that is literally it. The rest of the accusations here are not making any sense.

[Anonymous]

PP - that should say "same two people patting each other's backs here."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it impossible for you to discuss your agenda without insulting everyone else in the process?

I have actually seen not seen OP insult people as much as people have insulted her....

Not really, she's very defensive and anyone who disagrees with her and points out weaknesses in her position is either a fake Asian, or a silly white chick, or destined for life on the streets by 70. I tell you, people who grew up middle and upper class in Asia don't tend to have that much resentment built up. None of the wealthy Nigerians, Bengalis or Chinese we know are like that.

OP has severe money anxiety. She also compensates for having been an outsider in this country by relying heavily on her achievements for self esteem and to denigrate the natives who she sees as all being born with silver spoons. She has a lot of resentment and envy towards native-born Americans.

You would be like OP if you were in her shoes. My DH's grandfather grew up wretchedly poor. He traumatized his whole family with his obsession with money.

So the cycle goes...

Last point - unless you know the OP, da fuq are you both talking about? Sounds like you need therapy to heal from the cheapos in your own families. The thread has freakin jumped the shark. This doesn't have anything to do with the OP any more.

Seems like when they grow up with little and accumulate wealth they become more anti family and have a me first attitude that makes them rude, obnoxious, selfish due to their constant greed of wanting more and more money. They fear the money will run out and they will be back to drinking from tin cans again. So I wonder how this plays out in the OP's morals as a lawyer? I don't think she must be a very good one and probably went into law not for a passion but for the money. Weird that she married a man who is financially unstable and broke though because she doesn't seem to love him. Idk what kind of marriage that is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it impossible for you to discuss your agenda without insulting everyone else in the process?

I have actually seen not seen OP insult people as much as people have insulted her....

Not really, she's very defensive and anyone who disagrees with her and points out weaknesses in her position is either a fake Asian, or a silly white chick, or destined for life on the streets by 70. I tell you, people who grew up middle and upper class in Asia don't tend to have that much resentment built up. None of the wealthy Nigerians, Bengalis or Chinese we know are like that.

OP has severe money anxiety. She also compensates for having been an outsider in this country by relying heavily on her achievements for self esteem and to denigrate the natives who she sees as all being born with silver spoons. She has a lot of resentment and envy towards native-born Americans.

You would be like OP if you were in her shoes. My DH's grandfather grew up wretchedly poor. He traumatized his whole family with his obsession with money.

So the cycle goes...

Seems like when they grow up with little and accumulate wealth they become more anti family and have a me first attitude that makes them rude, obnoxious, selfish due to their constant greed of wanting more and more money. They fear the money will run out and they will be back to drinking from tin cans again. So I wonder how this plays out in the OP's morals as a lawyer? I don't think she must be a very good one and probably went into law not for a passion but for the money. Weird that she married a man who is financially unstable and broke though because she doesn't seem to love him. Idk what kind of marriage that is.

Last point - unless you know the OP, da fuq are you both talking about? Sounds like you both need therapy to heal from the cheapos in your own families. The thread has freakin jumped the shark. This doesn't have anything to do with the OP any more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP - that should say "same two people patting each other's backs here."

Literally only OP and another PP who has weirdly connected her own poverty 30 years ago to OP's DH being punished like the bad boy he is

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I really like idea of an allowance. I am going to implement that. I am going to confiscate his credit cards and give him instead a fixed sum for him to spend on whatever he wants. Therapy and a spending tracker would probably be most useful, but we honestly don't have time for that. I itemize all our expenditures (our checking, savings, and credit cards are all joint), but can't get him to sit down with me to go over them because he feels defensive. I don't have time for fighting over his spending and fighting over his refusal to sit down to go over his spending, lol.

Therapy would be very helpful... for you. Lots and lots of therapy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP - that should say "same two people patting each other's backs here."

Literally only OP and another PP who has weirdly connected her own poverty 30 years ago to OP's DH being punished like the bad boy he is

This is 3:51 - listen say whatever you need to in order to feel justified in attacking OP. Just know that the main haters in this thread are showing their own issues big time. No one who attacks strangerd with such animosity is in the position to tell OP she needs therapy.

* Sprinkling thread with antipsychotics and mood stabilizers *

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP - that should say "same two people patting each other's backs here."

Literally only OP and another PP who has weirdly connected her own poverty 30 years ago to OP's DH being punished like the bad boy he is

This is 3:51 - listen say whatever you need to in order to feel justified in attacking OP. Just know that the main haters in this thread are showing their own issues big time. No one who attacks strangerd with such animosity is in the position to tell OP she needs therapy.

* Sprinkling thread with antipsychotics and mood stabilizers *

You are one of two people on this thread with issues, get over yourself or own it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP - that should say "same two people patting each other's backs here."

Literally only OP and another PP who has weirdly connected her own poverty 30 years ago to OP's DH being punished like the bad boy he is

This is 3:51 - listen say whatever you need to in order to feel justified in attacking OP. Just know that the main haters in this thread are showing their own issues big time. No one who attacks strangerd with such animosity is in the position to tell OP she needs therapy.

* Sprinkling thread with antipsychotics and mood stabilizers *

You are one of two people on this thread with issues, get over yourself or own it

Where are you getting two people from? I'm not the PP you are addressing btw. OP is being a bitch so she's getting bitched at. Such is internet life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP - that should say "same two people patting each other's backs here."

Literally only OP and another PP who has weirdly connected her own poverty 30 years ago to OP's DH being punished like the bad boy he is

This is 3:51 - listen say whatever you need to in order to feel justified in attacking OP. Just know that the main haters in this thread are showing their own issues big time. No one who attacks strangerd with such animosity is in the position to tell OP she needs therapy.

* Sprinkling thread with antipsychotics and mood stabilizers *

You are one of two people on this thread with issues, get over yourself or own it

Where are you getting two people from? I'm not the PP you are addressing btw. OP is being a bitch so she's getting bitched at. Such is internet life.

It's pretty clear from syntax and sentence structure that there are only two people in this thread bashing OP over and over again. You're one of them.

[Anonymous]

OP, try to work out a compromise. He is never going to be as good a penny pinching as you. Try to find a middle ground between wasting money all the time and being a total miser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP - that should say "same two people patting each other's backs here."

Literally only OP and another PP who has weirdly connected her own poverty 30 years ago to OP's DH being punished like the bad boy he is

This is 3:51 - listen say whatever you need to in order to feel justified in attacking OP. Just know that the main haters in this thread are showing their own issues big time. No one who attacks strangerd with such animosity is in the position to tell OP she needs therapy.

* Sprinkling thread with antipsychotics and mood stabilizers *

You are one of two people on this thread with issues, get over yourself or own it

Where are you getting two people from? I'm not the PP you are addressing btw. OP is being a bitch so she's getting bitched at. Such is internet life.

It's pretty clear from syntax and sentence structure that there are only two people in this thread bashing OP over and over again. You're one of them.

Really? It's pretty clear you aren't as clever as you think you are.