what's your biggest regret in life?

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Anonymous wrote:Never finishing college. I dropped out to move back home to be close to my long distance boyfriend, he later cheated on my and we broke up.

Now I have to work as a nanny because I have no other skills.

It's never too late to go back to school.

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Anonymous wrote:Letting my kodakgallery account go inactive. All of my single fun life in my 20s in NYC was documented in photos saved on kodakgallery that were deleted. I feel like crying every time I think about it.

My kodack gallery was automatically switched to shutterfly a few months ago when kodack shut down. Maybe your pics are still out there

Nah, this was years ago. Around 2008 or 09. They don't do this anymore.

[Anonymous]

The last words I ever said to my Dad were: "Fuck off, I hate you!" and I ran away from home.

He died of a heart attack the next morning. I was 16.

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Anonymous wrote:Not being able to have a second child. I am so lucky to have DS, but I am an only, DH is an only with no living family to speak of, and I never imagined we would just have one. I regret not being able to parent more than one, and I regret that someday DS could be very alone in the world.

I'm sorry. Have you considered adoption?

Not the PP, but in the same situation, and although I realize your response was well-intentioned, it really is THE most aggravating question you can ask someone who wants more kids than they can have. Yes, we have all heard of and have considered adoption. We were not unaware of the concept of adoption before you brought it to our attention. I know you didn't mean it that way, but the question really comes across as condescending.

To be fair, your original post didn't say that you regretted not being able to have another bio child. You just talked about how you want to parent another and how your son will be all alone in the world.

I am the original PP here, that was someone else who responded about the adoption comment being aggravating.

To the poster who asked if we've considered adoption, yes. We have. I am open to it, but for a number of reasons beyond the scope of this thread, DH is not. We are also not pursuing fertility treatments for a variety of reasons. I realize there are many ways to build a family, but I am nearly positive that the family we have now (which I am immensely grateful for) is it numbers-wise. And, at this moment, I regret that my old, tired, shriveled up uterus and ovaries couldn't make it happen one more time.

To the poster who mentioned that the adoption comment can be aggravating, I'm sorry you're in this boat with me, although it's nice to know I'm not the only one. Hang in there.

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Bob

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Not going to Vassar. My life would have been very different.

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Anonymous wrote:Cutting off my sister who had major issues- she was a very business smart/ successful- 300K salary but was a mess- she disowned her family- I was her last connection and she stood us up with BS excuse too many times so I told her I was done. It wasn't apparent to use but she was socially controlling with the family in her 20s and grew more so later on. It was like constantly being threatened if you do x you'll never hear from me again- and she really appeared not to care. Anyway- she committed suicide and no my parents are guardians for her messed up 16 year old. It has damaged our family "dynamics" - my mom and I were getting closer but when sister died she got nsty with me beyond belief- and for over a year. Not easy to have a mom telling you that you are crap constantly- before sis died I was so appreciated what I did- now it;s not enoug.

I'm sorry. Hugs.

Thanks.. this unfortunately highlighted how far apart DH and I are where i called my friends and talked to them for hours (my male best friend who is a family friend with his wife who is my best friend - for like 4 hours at a time) but nothing with him.. a year later I found (just a a gut= never looked before) emails with an ex which were really sexual- we are in therapy.. Job situation gets iffy and unstable too so it's just been really been a crappy domino effect. Thank God our kids are typical age issues but great.

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Anonymous wrote:I regret that I ever met the man I later married.

Love the kid, though.

Ditto

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Anonymous wrote:Law school.

+1 (or plus 1,000,000 if I speak for all the others I know!)

I do not regret it but would like to do something else at some point but probably can't afford to with husband making a measly $60k
I have been in practice 12 yrs. I work at a corporation and can switch to the business side though at same pay. I may work towards that.

[Anonymous]

I loved my experience at a black college that was close to home but wonder what life would be like had I gone Ivy instead of turning them down due to being uncomfortable with moving so far away from home and my desire to experience not being a minority for a change. The college I chose did do wonders for my self confidence and was a nurturing place to grow into an adult and fostered pride I never had before in being Black. I know that was invaluable in shaping who I am today but I still always wonder ....what if.

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I do not understand this post at all.

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Anonymous wrote:23:23

I do not understand this post at all.

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While she yammered on the phone for four hour stretches with her friends, he appeared more introverted. Turns out, he had a close friend, err...sex partner, too. Thank goodness the kids didn't find out!

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Anonymous wrote:I loved my experience at a black college that was close to home but wonder what life would be like had I gone Ivy instead of turning them down due to being uncomfortable with moving so far away from home and my desire to experience not being a minority for a change. The college I chose did do wonders for my self confidence and was a nurturing place to grow into an adult and fostered pride I never had before in being Black. I know that was invaluable in shaping who I am today but I still always wonder ....what if.

On the flip side, I sometimes wish I had gone to an HBCU for the exact reasons you mentioned. Those grads exude a sense of confidence and poise that has always impressed me. They also take such pride in their alma mater - returning for Homecoming etc, whereas I haven't stepped foot on my campus since I graduated.

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Anonymous wrote:I loved my experience at a black college that was close to home but wonder what life would be like had I gone Ivy instead of turning them down due to being uncomfortable with moving so far away from home and my desire to experience not being a minority for a change. The college I chose did do wonders for my self confidence and was a nurturing place to grow into an adult and fostered pride I never had before in being Black. I know that was invaluable in shaping who I am today but I still always wonder ....what if.

On the flip side, I sometimes wish I had gone to an HBCU for the exact reasons you mentioned. Those grads exude a sense of confidence and poise that has always impressed me. They also take such pride in their alma mater - returning for Homecoming etc, whereas I haven't stepped foot on my campus since I graduated.

I am another PROUD HBCU graduate.
Scores of my college friends are doctors, lawyers, corporate execs, SAHM, artists, business owners,etc.
They are doing the same things their Ivy Leageu counterparts are doing -- LOTS OF DIFFERENT THINGS.
I am not where I intended or where I want to be right now -- but life is what you make it.
I am here because of the SUM of the choices I made -- just like everyone else.
I don't get the obsession with the Ivy League in this area -- it's not a MAGIC BULLET!
It can be a nice start for some -- but it's not going ti guarntee you yur dream life.

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Not going to college