what's your biggest regret in life?

[Anonymous]

Chickening out and not asking "her" out back in 7th grade even though I liked her, knew she liked me and everyone expected us to hook up - seriously, that was the first step in a looong history of romantic cowardice and cluelessness that affected my relationships with people in general, and not in a good way.

[Anonymous]

Not saving money at an earlier age.

[Anonymous]

I regret not taking advantage of an amazing career opportunity to travel internationally, work with top-tier global clients, and gain expertise in a field that I found (and still find) significantly more exciting and stimulating than my chosen career path. It was a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity in my industry. I turned it down to stay locally because I had recently learned that my husband had developed substance abuse problems and needed my care. I love my husband more than life itself, and I likely saved his life by standing by his side rather than walking way (which given the circumstances most people would have done), but I'm still sad that I had to turn down my dream career as a result of his issues and dishonestly. Realistically, at this stage, I won't ever have that same or similar work opportunity again. But my husband is healthy and alive, and I don't regret that one bit, plus my "second choice" career, albeit boring, has been good to me. But I still dream of what could have been. That dream job was what I fantasized about when growing up poor and isolated, and I feel like my one chance to realize that dream slipped right through my hands through no fault of my own. But, life isn't always what you dream it will be.

[Anonymous]

I regret being such a bitch to my mom in my teens and early 20s, and also for just hanging up the phone when she said "I love you" after a fight we had when I was 22, because that was our last conversation; she died suddenly the next day. I will never forgive myself, and I still hurt so much just thinking about it every day. I'm 36 now. I expect I'll regret this for the rest of my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

HA HA HA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many of you are so hard on yourselves. You have so many expectations for the end result, and you do not enjoy the process. Let me tell you, the end result of life is death so you better start enjoying the journey more.

I survived a near death experience and ever since then, everything that has happened in my life has been a bonus. My biggest accomplishment in life was not dying and fighting to survive. Since then, I've been very lucky and successful with career, money and family but I it's because I took the pressure off of myself and just enjoyed being here.

+1 Thanks for posting.

I was thinking about this topic and you know - wisdom is hard won. But wisdom is definitely worth getting.

+1

I agree entirely. Some people just have not had this kind of experience, so have have little, if any point of reference. They fail to see the biggest picture of all.

[Anonymous]

I regret having an affair behind my husbands back. He eventually found out about it and we are working on our marriage. It has been a rough road. I wish I had addressed our problems before allowing myself to get involved with another man. I have shattered my family. My three children know about my affair. It has been two years since I was discovered and I still have so much shame and self hatred. I hate what I have put my husband and children through. We have gone to couples therapy and I have had some individual therapy. I still have so much work to do to heal my marriage. I am grateful that my husband allowed me to stay!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I regret being such a bitch to my mom in my teens and early 20s, and also for just hanging up the phone when she said "I love you" after a fight we had when I was 22, because that was our last conversation; she died suddenly the next day. I will never forgive myself, and I still hurt so much just thinking about it every day. I'm 36 now. I expect I'll regret this for the rest of my life.

I'm so sorry, PP.

[Anonymous]

Wasted my time worrying too much, didn't take enough risks.