what's your biggest regret in life?

[Anonymous]

I'm envious of those who espouse to the theory of no regrets in life. I have so many, I don't know where to begin. From where to grad school, to career decisions and even how I've kept up with friends. But my biggest regrets are letting go of my soul mate (I was young and stupid) and marrying my husband (we are not a good fit).

Anyone else?

[Anonymous]

Law school.

[Anonymous]

Not marrying my husband sooner. I wasn't sure and wasted three years on finding myself. Would have been nice to forego all that drama and have the kids earlier.

[Anonymous]

Having children so young (teen Mom).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm envious of those who espouse to the theory of no regrets in life. I have so many, I don't know where to begin. From where to grad school, to career decisions and even how I've kept up with friends. But my biggest regrets are letting go of my soul mate (I was young and stupid) and marrying my husband (we are not a good fit).

Anyone else?

I regret turning Samantha Mathis down. She was soooo hot.

[Anonymous]

Not being more adventurous when I was younger and had the chance. I particularly wish I had lived abroad for a while.

[Anonymous]

No regrets.

[Anonymous]

Well I have things I might not have chosen if I knew then what I know now. But! I am definitely one of the no-regrets-ers bc everything I did landed me with my husband whom I love and my daughter whom I adore. Currently we feel faced with a big decision that could leave us all with coulda woulda feelings so it's not like the potential for regrets is over. Turned around on you op, your life's not over yet. Do you have kids with your not soulmate? If not, then get out of this marriage, stop nostalgizing an old flame, and find the one. If you do have kids, you should recognize that this marriage is something you can work hard to improve. And then be proud of the results! Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Gaining so much weight.

[Anonymous]

Not finishing college.

[Anonymous]

I used to always say I wanted to live a life with no regrets, and I find myself at 44 staring a long list. And I'm not quite sure how I got here.

But the big one I think will be only having two children. I truly regret not having more (and my age and fertility means this really is a done deal). My secondary regret is having children so late. If my children wait as long as I did to have children, I will be a burden, and not a help, for my grandchildren.

[Anonymous]

Being born, though obviously not my choice.

[Anonymous]

abortion

[Anonymous]

I probably should have been a speech or occupational therapist. I didn't pursue speech therapy because I wanted to do somethng different from my big sister, and my father thought I was "too bright." It would have been a better fit for me than what I do; however, I really enjoy my job. I just feel like I would be making a positive impact in the world in direct service.

I am glad I married my high school sweetheart (although not every minute of every day). He has mild depression (has on and off his whole life). I thought it was attractive - kind of like Lord Byron or Morrissey - when we were 17. As an adult, sometimes I yearn for an internal optimist as a partner. I love the kids we've made together, and who DH is as a parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well I have things I might not have chosen if I knew then what I know now. But! I am definitely one of the no-regrets-ers bc everything I did landed me with my husband whom I love and my daughter whom I adore. Currently we feel faced with a big decision that could leave us all with coulda woulda feelings so it's not like the potential for regrets is over. Turned around on you op, your life's not over yet. Do you have kids with your not soulmate? If not, then get out of this marriage, stop nostalgizing an old flame, and find the one. If you do have kids, you should recognize that this marriage is something you can work hard to improve. And then be proud of the results! Good luck.

THis is me, too. I would have done high school completely differently (I was one of those weird kids that no one liked and I think if I had dressed/ acted differently I could have had more friends and been a lot happier) but then I never would have met my husband or had our son and Im really happy in my life now.