what's your biggest regret in life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Law school. And not getting implants when I was younger.

Love this one.

[Anonymous]

Not learning to speak Arabic when I lived in Kuwait for 5 years (as a child).

To the AMA TTCer, keep the faith- the child you'll have is the one you'll have meant to be a mom to.

[Anonymous]

Like two of the posters, I've made some mistakes (pretty big ones- poor career choices, poor relationship choices, poor financial choices), but I don't have anything I truly regret.

I had an abortion at 22, that probably comes the closest. It was absolutely the right decision to make (the father was abusive, my family wanted nothing to do with me, I wasn't ready to do it 100% on my own), but I do wish I had never put myself in that situation to begin with.
On the other hand, it gave me the shove I needed to leave abusive X, reconnect with my family and take control of my life. I have nightmares sometimes about what my life could have been like if I had stayed, I wake up and have to wander my apartment and check on my kid to make sure that THIS is my reality (which is hard at times due to my poor choices) and that I really got away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm envious of those who espouse to the theory of no regrets in life. I have so many, I don't know where to begin. From where to grad school, to career decisions and even how I've kept up with friends. But my biggest regrets are letting go of my soul mate (I was young and stupid) and marrying my husband (we are not a good fit).

Anyone else?

I regret turning Samantha Mathis down. She was soooo hot.

riiiiiight

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My tattoo. I H.A.T.E. it. On my shoulder. So tacky. I've done a few treatments to get it removed, but it is painful and expensive.

Ditto. Except it's on my arm. Don't really hate the tattoo itself, just the placement.

[Anonymous]

1) studied law
2) not gained so much weight
3) wouldnt have wasted so much time in my 20s worrying about what others think
4) been a DJ. I really wanted to be one but thought it was not practical
5) not co-signed on a lcar loan for my ex-husband. He didnt pay, car got repossesed. Learned my lesson though
6) married my husband 2 years earlier

that pretty much wraps it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Like two of the posters, I've made some mistakes (pretty big ones- poor career choices, poor relationship choices, poor financial choices), but I don't have anything I truly regret.

I had an abortion at 22, that probably comes the closest. It was absolutely the right decision to make (the father was abusive, my family wanted nothing to do with me, I wasn't ready to do it 100% on my own), but I do wish I had never put myself in that situation to begin with.
On the other hand, it gave me the shove I needed to leave abusive X, reconnect with my family and take control of my life. I have nightmares sometimes about what my life could have been like if I had stayed, I wake up and have to wander my apartment and check on my kid to make sure that THIS is my reality (which is hard at times due to my poor choices) and that I really got away.

+1

[Anonymous]

Janet

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Law school. I should have been a journalist. Hated the law so much, now I stay home.

This. Are you me?

[Anonymous]

Dropping out of the U of Michigan freshman year because I could not handle being away from home and such a big school. I finished at a 3rd tier school, which actually was a tremendous help with my career, and went to a top 15 business school, but no matter how succcesful I am, it bothers me. Rationally I know that there were schools better suited for me, but emotionally it has always been a problem.

[Anonymous]

My absolute biggest regret is my total and absolute failure as a mother to my oldest son. I have failed him by all of my standards. I push him too hard. I'm too demanding. I'm too critical. I have continually failed to meet him where his is academically emotionally, physically--his entire life. I regret that he has me for a mother. He deserves a better, kinder, more forgiving, more accepting mother. I am trying every day to be a better mom to him--but every year, as I look back I feel I have gotten worse and worse. He is only 12. I have tried therapy on and off for years. I will again. I am almost wild with grief that there are only 3 weeks left of summer and then we are back to our eternal battle ground issue: school.

[Anonymous]

I regret law school. I was pushed before I was ready and really, really, it has never suited me. Luckily I went when an ivy league degree could be had for around 40k. Wish I'd never done it though.

[Anonymous]

Promiscuity and unprotected sex. Cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Janet

tell me more. Are you HK?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My absolute biggest regret is my total and absolute failure as a mother to my oldest son. I have failed him by all of my standards. I push him too hard. I'm too demanding. I'm too critical. I have continually failed to meet him where his is academically emotionally, physically--his entire life. I regret that he has me for a mother. He deserves a better, kinder, more forgiving, more accepting mother. I am trying every day to be a better mom to him--but every year, as I look back I feel I have gotten worse and worse. He is only 12. I have tried therapy on and off for years. I will again. I am almost wild with grief that there are only 3 weeks left of summer and then we are back to our eternal battle ground issue: school.

Can you stop? Can you just let him take control of school and let it go?