Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong

[Anonymous]

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Your husband and his ex wife are still banging.

I don’t really care about that, I just want him to give my son a vacation.

He doesn’t care about your son. He wanted to sleep with a teenager and you wanted to sleep with a man at least twice your age and your son is an unfortunate byproduct

No, that’s not accurate. He was not interested in sleeping with a teenager, and I was not interested in sleeping with an older man. He wanted to remarry and have a child. He is a wonderful father to our child. Not all relationships between younger women and older men fit the stereotypes you might assume.

So wonderful.

What’s his next cool vacation he’s taking his 8 yo son and second wife on?

I don’t know. He’s not allowing it and won’t tell me why. I don’t know what to tell our son.

[Anonymous]

Look on the bright side, OP. You can use this time alone to start auditioning your next husband.

[Anonymous]

This whole situation is very, very weird.

[Anonymous]

I would use this time alone to talk to a lawyer and change the locks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look on the bright side, OP. You can use this time alone to start auditioning your next husband.

Yes, time to go back to the nightclub and set your sights on 50-70 year olds, you could be pregnant enough to make him marry you by the summer!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find this story so hard to believe because I have two daughters late in high school and they and their friends consider any man older than early 20s to be a hideous geriatric dad type. How would you meet a 40 year old while still in high school, be dumb enough to sleep with him and then marry him within months? Do you not have any friends or family smacking any sense into you? Wasn’t this embarrassing to everyone at the time?

Well, all teenagers arent like that I don’t think 40 is old, and why is it dumb to sleep and marry with someone that you love?

It is dumb for a teenager to sleep with a 40 year old divorced dad of 3. It is dumb to get pregnant within a few months of dating such a man. Is is dumb to get married as a pregnant teenager and expect that you will be treated respectfully especially if you never have a job or contribute

[Anonymous]

Take the credit card and take your son to Ocean City while your husband has his 3 other children.

[Anonymous]

Do you have a car?

[Anonymous]

Book a vacation. You don’t need permission. You’re full grown now.

[Anonymous]

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This is not normal. You know this.

+1. Are you sure he's actually divorced?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find this story so hard to believe because I have two daughters late in high school and they and their friends consider any man older than early 20s to be a hideous geriatric dad type. How would you meet a 40 year old while still in high school, be dumb enough to sleep with him and then marry him within months? Do you not have any friends or family smacking any sense into you? Wasn’t this embarrassing to everyone at the time?

Well, all teenagers arent like that I don’t think 40 is old, and why is it dumb to sleep and marry with someone that you love?

It is dumb for a teenager to sleep with a 40 year old divorced dad of 3. It is dumb to get pregnant within a few months of dating such a man. Is is dumb to get married as a pregnant teenager and expect that you will be treated respectfully especially if you never have a job or contribute

What's wrong with being divorced or 40? Neither was an issue for me. I genuinely wanted to date him (not just sleep with him), and I did. There’s nothing foolish about marrying someone who intends to marry you, regardless of whether you're pregnant or not. I wasn't a teenager/kid, and none of this is tied to having a job.

[Anonymous]

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This is not normal. You know this.

+1. Are you sure he's actually divorced?

Yes, his ex-girlfriend from before we got together—who he was once planning to marry—reached out to me, and now we're actually pretty good friends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find this story so hard to believe because I have two daughters late in high school and they and their friends consider any man older than early 20s to be a hideous geriatric dad type. How would you meet a 40 year old while still in high school, be dumb enough to sleep with him and then marry him within months? Do you not have any friends or family smacking any sense into you? Wasn’t this embarrassing to everyone at the time?

Well, all teenagers arent like that I don’t think 40 is old, and why is it dumb to sleep and marry with someone that you love?

It is dumb for a teenager to sleep with a 40 year old divorced dad of 3. It is dumb to get pregnant within a few months of dating such a man. Is is dumb to get married as a pregnant teenager and expect that you will be treated respectfully especially if you never have a job or contribute

What's wrong with being divorced or 40? Neither was an issue for me. I genuinely wanted to date him (not just sleep with him), and I did. There’s nothing foolish about marrying someone who intends to marry you, regardless of whether you're pregnant or not. I wasn't a teenager/kid, and none of this is tied to having a job.

You said you were 18, isn’t that a teenager?

The fact that you haven’t had any job means you are entirely financially dependent on your much older husband who gets to control your spending on vacations. You have no other options as a pregnant teen bride.

It is very unusual for an unwed 18 year old to get pregnant by a 40 year old, as much as you think this was a great idea most teenagers and anyone who cares about them does not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is my sons biological father, and the three kids are also my husbands kids. I thought it was clear, sorry. OP

No, because you called them HER kids.

He is as related to them as he is to yours.

I like that he wants to go on vacation with his adult kids, but why can’t you and your son go? You don’t have to all be together for all activities.

He needs to treat all kids equally well.

I don’t like the dynamic you are setting up. Do the age (and money?) differences give him more power than you? If so, get marriage counseling now.

You sound more like his child (or mistress) then his wife. (Were you his mistress? If so, that would nix my advice)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are the young girl he knocked up at 19 while he was 41. He married you because he needed to but sees his 1st wife and there kids as his family.

He is obviously sleazy, veering into predatory in my book.