Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, there’s not really a reason to make such a big deal about an 18 year old being pregnant by a 40 year old. What’s the big issue with that? It’s not that uncommon. OP

It is extremely uncommon in the US, are you writing from another country where men have more of a property interest in their wives?

I’m in the US, I’m just saying that it’s not that uncommon, it does happen thought not often.

I know zero teenagers who married 40 year old men. Is the rest of your marriage a nightmare or just this one vacation?

I honestly don’t get the outrage here. If he were 70, sure, but he was only 40, which seemed too young to me even back then—come on. I was 18 when I got pregnant, but I wasn’t super young, and we were already talking about a long-term marriage. We just went with the flow, and when we found out I was pregnant, of course we were excited. Age was never a big deal for us. I loved my husband for who he was, not because of anything superficial. OP

What teenager thinks 40 year olds are TOO YOUNG for her?

I did, I liked older men (40s, 50s and some 60s), I’m certain I’m not the only one. I consider 40 quite young; but that was an okay minimum age then.

[Anonymous]

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Your husband and his ex wife are still banging.

I don’t really care about that, I just want him to give my son a vacation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, there’s not really a reason to make such a big deal about an 18 year old being pregnant by a 40 year old. What’s the big issue with that? It’s not that uncommon. OP

It is extremely uncommon in the US, are you writing from another country where men have more of a property interest in their wives?

I’m in the US, I’m just saying that it’s not that uncommon, it does happen thought not often.

I know zero teenagers who married 40 year old men. Is the rest of your marriage a nightmare or just this one vacation?

I honestly don’t get the outrage here. If he were 70, sure, but he was only 40, which seemed too young to me even back then—come on. I was 18 when I got pregnant, but I wasn’t super young, and we were already talking about a long-term marriage. We just went with the flow, and when we found out I was pregnant, of course we were excited. Age was never a big deal for us. I loved my husband for who he was, not because of anything superficial. OP

What teenager thinks 40 year olds are TOO YOUNG for her?

A troll

Agreed, this must be a troll. I have never met anyone this dumb who was also literate

[Anonymous]

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Your husband and his ex wife are still banging.

I don’t really care about that, I just want him to give my son a vacation.

He doesn’t care about your son. He wanted to sleep with a teenager and you wanted to sleep with a man at least twice your age and your son is an unfortunate byproduct

[Anonymous]

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Your husband and his ex wife are still banging.

I don’t really care about that, I just want him to give my son a vacation.

Try harder.

[Anonymous]

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Your husband and his ex wife are still banging.

I don’t really care about that, I just want him to give my son a vacation.

He doesn’t care about your son. He wanted to sleep with a teenager and you wanted to sleep with a man at least twice your age and your son is an unfortunate byproduct

No, that’s not accurate. He was not interested in sleeping with a teenager, and I was not interested in sleeping with an older man. He wanted to remarry and have a child. He is a wonderful father to our child. Not all relationships between younger women and older men fit the stereotypes you might assume.

[Anonymous]

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Your husband and his ex wife are still banging.

I don’t really care about that, I just want him to give my son a vacation.

He doesn’t care about your son. He wanted to sleep with a teenager and you wanted to sleep with a man at least twice your age and your son is an unfortunate byproduct

No, that’s not accurate. He was not interested in sleeping with a teenager, and I was not interested in sleeping with an older man. He wanted to remarry and have a child. He is a wonderful father to our child. Not all relationships between younger women and older men fit the stereotypes you might assume.

You’ve said he picked you up when you were a high school student in a club as a 40 year old and that you were looking for a man aged 40-60. Since marrying him as a pregnant teenager you have never held a job. He doesn’t let you spend money on things like vacations and wants to spend his free time with his first family without you or your child. This is much worse than the stereotypes.

[Anonymous]

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Your husband and his ex wife are still banging.

I don’t really care about that, I just want him to give my son a vacation.

He doesn’t care about your son. He wanted to sleep with a teenager and you wanted to sleep with a man at least twice your age and your son is an unfortunate byproduct

No, that’s not accurate. He was not interested in sleeping with a teenager, and I was not interested in sleeping with an older man. He wanted to remarry and have a child. He is a wonderful father to our child. Not all relationships between younger women and older men fit the stereotypes you might assume.

A wonderful father who refuses to vacation with your child and also refuses to allow your child to vacation at all? So wonderful!

[Anonymous]

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Your husband and his ex wife are still banging.

I don’t really care about that, I just want him to give my son a vacation.

He doesn’t care about your son. He wanted to sleep with a teenager and you wanted to sleep with a man at least twice your age and your son is an unfortunate byproduct

No, that’s not accurate. He was not interested in sleeping with a teenager, and I was not interested in sleeping with an older man. He wanted to remarry and have a child. He is a wonderful father to our child. Not all relationships between younger women and older men fit the stereotypes you might assume.

You’ve said he picked you up when you were a high school student in a club as a 40 year old and that you were looking for a man aged 40-60. Since marrying him as a pregnant teenager you have never held a job. He doesn’t let you spend money on things like vacations and wants to spend his free time with his first family without you or your child. This is much worse than the stereotypes.

He did not approach me at a club, nor was he seeking women of a particular age. The event was private, attended mostly by older adults rather than younger people, and it wasn’t a teen club or a regular 21+ club, it was 25+z He was unaware of my age, and I was interested in dating an older man—not for casual sexual purposes, but for a relationship. That was not the purpose of my attendance at the event. And I never said that I’ve never had a job.

[Anonymous]

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Your husband and his ex wife are still banging.

I don’t really care about that, I just want him to give my son a vacation.

He doesn’t care about your son. He wanted to sleep with a teenager and you wanted to sleep with a man at least twice your age and your son is an unfortunate byproduct

No, that’s not accurate. He was not interested in sleeping with a teenager, and I was not interested in sleeping with an older man. He wanted to remarry and have a child. He is a wonderful father to our child. Not all relationships between younger women and older men fit the stereotypes you might assume.

You’ve said he picked you up when you were a high school student in a club as a 40 year old and that you were looking for a man aged 40-60. Since marrying him as a pregnant teenager you have never held a job. He doesn’t let you spend money on things like vacations and wants to spend his free time with his first family without you or your child. This is much worse than the stereotypes.

He did not approach me at a club, nor was he seeking women of a particular age. The event was private, attended mostly by older adults rather than younger people, and it wasn’t a teen club or a regular 21+ club, it was 25+z He was unaware of my age, and I was interested in dating an older man—not for casual sexual purposes, but for a relationship. That was not the purpose of my attendance at the event. And I never said that I’ve never had a job.

So while you were in high school you attended a private event at a club for older adults 25+ for the purpose of finding an older man for a relationship, you got pregnant by the 40 year old you met within months and then you got married while pregnant, and now that relationship involves him wanting to spend his vacation with his first family? Did I get that right? You don’t say you never had a job but also don’t say you do, but in any case I can see why he doesn’t really value you or your child given the origins of the relationship

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Your husband and his ex wife are still banging.

I don’t really care about that, I just want him to give my son a vacation.

He doesn’t care about your son. He wanted to sleep with a teenager and you wanted to sleep with a man at least twice your age and your son is an unfortunate byproduct

No, that’s not accurate. He was not interested in sleeping with a teenager, and I was not interested in sleeping with an older man. He wanted to remarry and have a child. He is a wonderful father to our child. Not all relationships between younger women and older men fit the stereotypes you might assume.

You’ve said he picked you up when you were a high school student in a club as a 40 year old and that you were looking for a man aged 40-60. Since marrying him as a pregnant teenager you have never held a job. He doesn’t let you spend money on things like vacations and wants to spend his free time with his first family without you or your child. This is much worse than the stereotypes.

He did not approach me at a club, nor was he seeking women of a particular age. The event was private, attended mostly by older adults rather than younger people, and it wasn’t a teen club or a regular 21+ club, it was 25+z He was unaware of my age, and I was interested in dating an older man—not for casual sexual purposes, but for a relationship. That was not the purpose of my attendance at the event. And I never said that I’ve never had a job.

Ah ok. So it was a gentleman’s club. And you were an employee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Your husband and his ex wife are still banging.

I don’t really care about that, I just want him to give my son a vacation.

He doesn’t care about your son. He wanted to sleep with a teenager and you wanted to sleep with a man at least twice your age and your son is an unfortunate byproduct

No, that’s not accurate. He was not interested in sleeping with a teenager, and I was not interested in sleeping with an older man. He wanted to remarry and have a child. He is a wonderful father to our child. Not all relationships between younger women and older men fit the stereotypes you might assume.

You’ve said he picked you up when you were a high school student in a club as a 40 year old and that you were looking for a man aged 40-60. Since marrying him as a pregnant teenager you have never held a job. He doesn’t let you spend money on things like vacations and wants to spend his free time with his first family without you or your child. This is much worse than the stereotypes.

He did not approach me at a club, nor was he seeking women of a particular age. The event was private, attended mostly by older adults rather than younger people, and it wasn’t a teen club or a regular 21+ club, it was 25+z He was unaware of my age, and I was interested in dating an older man—not for casual sexual purposes, but for a relationship. That was not the purpose of my attendance at the event. And I never said that I’ve never had a job.

Ah ok. So it was a gentleman’s club. And you were an employee.

No, I was too young. It was 21+.

[Anonymous]

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Your husband and his ex wife are still banging.

I don’t really care about that, I just want him to give my son a vacation.

Try harder.

+1

She be still looking for a free lunch

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Your husband and his ex wife are still banging.

I don’t really care about that, I just want him to give my son a vacation.

He doesn’t care about your son. He wanted to sleep with a teenager and you wanted to sleep with a man at least twice your age and your son is an unfortunate byproduct

No, that’s not accurate. He was not interested in sleeping with a teenager, and I was not interested in sleeping with an older man. He wanted to remarry and have a child. He is a wonderful father to our child. Not all relationships between younger women and older men fit the stereotypes you might assume.

So wonderful.

What’s his next cool vacation he’s taking his 8 yo son and second wife on?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find this story so hard to believe because I have two daughters late in high school and they and their friends consider any man older than early 20s to be a hideous geriatric dad type. How would you meet a 40 year old while still in high school, be dumb enough to sleep with him and then marry him within months? Do you not have any friends or family smacking any sense into you? Wasn’t this embarrassing to everyone at the time?

Well, all teenagers arent like that I don’t think 40 is old, and why is it dumb to sleep and marry with someone that you love?