38F - OLD apps: not getting any matches

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:38 is pretty old in the eyes of most men in the age group she is looking at. She needs to up the age to mid 50s.

What are you talking about ? I’m 48 never dated anyone more than 5 years older. Mid 50s man is unlikely to want kids, and he will be too low energy to run after a new toddler.
Of course 38 is young. It’s just men her age group are at different life stages by now.

She’s too old for the young guys but too young for the old guys. Especially when you factor wanting a kid into the picture. If she didn’t want kids, totally different story.

I think she’s totally fine for 40s 5’3-5’8 men who still didn’t have kids. Men are also on the clock to marry and much younger women won’t be particular interested in families with men that short.
Chances that a 50+ man would want babies with OP are even slimmer. And even if one does, I bet OP wouldn’t be interested in that man

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if you get your BMI down to 20 and get better pics you will get plenty of interest. Sorry to say it, but I get way more attention from men with a BMI of 19 than I got when I had a BMI of 23. They are so shallow.

Men wanting a certain weight is shallow but women wanting a certain height is not?

In OPs case, she’s likely outside most men’s height search criteria . Of course she can want whatever but won’t find a mate

My recommendation is to put 5’3 height on profile and wear heels to dates.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:118 pounds at 5'0 is a normal BMI for a woman.

It’s not thin though. For reference I am 5’8” and 124. BMI 18. That is slim. She is a full 8 inches shorter and only 6 pounds lighter. She may still be plenty attractive but slim she is not.

You are clinically underweight. Please don’t bring this ana shit into DCUM.

+1.

The pretty ones always get attacked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:38 is pretty old in the eyes of most men in the age group she is looking at. She needs to up the age to mid 50s.

Ew. I wish the gross old men would stop trying to troll op.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:38 is pretty old in the eyes of most men in the age group she is looking at. She needs to up the age to mid 50s.

Ew. I wish the gross old men would stop trying to troll op.

Right? OP is a million times better off being single than with an old man. Old men = baggage, liabilities, and a reminder that death is imminent. Avoid them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you get your BMI down to 20 and get better pics you will get plenty of interest. Sorry to say it, but I get way more attention from men with a BMI of 19 than I got when I had a BMI of 23. They are so shallow.

Men wanting a certain weight is shallow but women wanting a certain height is not?

In OPs case, she’s likely outside most men’s height search criteria . Of course she can want whatever but won’t find a mate

My recommendation is to put 5’3 height on profile and wear heels to dates.

Your advice is to lie? About something very easily seen as false when they meet IRL? LOL dumb.

OP, your weight is fine. The people responding to you are men who like girls built like 12 year old boys. No woman with any T&A is going to be as underweight as some of the men are claiming they are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:38 is pretty old in the eyes of most men in the age group she is looking at. She needs to up the age to mid 50s.

What are you talking about ? I’m 48 never dated anyone more than 5 years older. Mid 50s man is unlikely to want kids, and he will be too low energy to run after a new toddler.
Of course 38 is young. It’s just men her age group are at different life stages by now.

She’s too old for the young guys but too young for the old guys. Especially when you factor wanting a kid into the picture. If she didn’t want kids, totally different story.

I think she’s totally fine for 40s 5’3-5’8 men who still didn’t have kids. Men are also on the clock to marry and much younger women won’t be particular interested in families with men that short.
Chances that a 50+ man would want babies with OP are even slimmer. And even if one does, I bet OP wouldn’t be interested in that man

I don’t think widening the height filter is going to move the needle too much. There are a very small number of single men in their mid to late 30s to early 40s who are unmarried, presumably don’t already have kids, and who also want kids, AND who are ok with the very tight timeline of doing so with a 38 year old woman. It’s just a numbers game and numbers aren’t on OP’s side, no matter what she looks like. If anything she should relax on the education requirements and look at more blue collar guys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:38 is pretty old in the eyes of most men in the age group she is looking at. She needs to up the age to mid 50s.

What are you talking about ? I’m 48 never dated anyone more than 5 years older. Mid 50s man is unlikely to want kids, and he will be too low energy to run after a new toddler.
Of course 38 is young. It’s just men her age group are at different life stages by now.

She’s too old for the young guys but too young for the old guys. Especially when you factor wanting a kid into the picture. If she didn’t want kids, totally different story.

I think she’s totally fine for 40s 5’3-5’8 men who still didn’t have kids. Men are also on the clock to marry and much younger women won’t be particular interested in families with men that short.
Chances that a 50+ man would want babies with OP are even slimmer. And even if one does, I bet OP wouldn’t be interested in that man

I don’t think widening the height filter is going to move the needle too much. There are a very small number of single men in their mid to late 30s to early 40s who are unmarried, presumably don’t already have kids, and who also want kids, AND who are ok with the very tight timeline of doing so with a 38 year old woman. It’s just a numbers game and numbers aren’t on OP’s side, no matter what she looks like. If anything she should relax on the education requirements and look at more blue collar guys.

Maybe she doesn't want her children to be dumb as a brick. Nothing wrong with wanting a college educated man.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:38 is pretty old in the eyes of most men in the age group she is looking at. She needs to up the age to mid 50s.

Ew. I wish the gross old men would stop trying to troll op.

Right? OP is a million times better off being single than with an old man. Old men = baggage, liabilities, and a reminder that death is imminent. Avoid them.

But beggars can't be choosers, so...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:38 is pretty old in the eyes of most men in the age group she is looking at. She needs to up the age to mid 50s.

Ew. I wish the gross old men would stop trying to troll op.

Right? OP is a million times better off being single than with an old man. Old men = baggage, liabilities, and a reminder that death is imminent. Avoid them.

But beggars can't be choosers, so...

Who's begging? If the options are alone or be with a nasty old saggy ball uneducated misogynistic short loser, maybe it's still better to be alone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're short and fat. And you won't date short men. And the tall men can do waaaaay better. I can't believe you didn't figure this out on your own.

OP is slim. The rest is true.

38F on a 5 feet frame would not look slim usually.

She is a 38-year-old woman. This is not a bra size.

38F is a huge bra size.

5’0” and 38F would have me swipe right immediately!

There's a lid for every pot, but I don’t think this looks like what you think it does. A 38 ribcage is a big barrel chest on a woman that height and those F cups probably hang to her crotch. It's like an apple body type.

Yep.

That is the worst.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if you get your BMI down to 20 and get better pics you will get plenty of interest. Sorry to say it, but I get way more attention from men with a BMI of 19 than I got when I had a BMI of 23. They are so shallow.

Men wanting a certain weight is shallow but women wanting a certain height is not?

Height is something you can't change. Weight is a result of lifestyle choices and can be changed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you get your BMI down to 20 and get better pics you will get plenty of interest. Sorry to say it, but I get way more attention from men with a BMI of 19 than I got when I had a BMI of 23. They are so shallow.

Men wanting a certain weight is shallow but women wanting a certain height is not?

Height is something you can't change. Weight is a result of lifestyle choices and can be changed.

Height is something you can change now. Surgery is expensive, but you certainly can change it if you are so inclined.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:38 is pretty old in the eyes of most men in the age group she is looking at. She needs to up the age to mid 50s.

Ew. I wish the gross old men would stop trying to troll op.

Right? OP is a million times better off being single than with an old man. Old men = baggage, liabilities, and a reminder that death is imminent. Avoid them.

But beggars can't be choosers, so...

Who's begging? If the options are alone or be with a nasty old saggy ball uneducated misogynistic short loser, maybe it's still better to be alone.

If you're a 38 year old woman and you don't have kids yet and you want to, then yes you are a beggar.

The best men are taken, and many of the available ones will choose someone younger than you.

So yeah you can be alone. Or you can make some compromises. How badly do you want kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:38 is pretty old in the eyes of most men in the age group she is looking at. She needs to up the age to mid 50s.

Ew. I wish the gross old men would stop trying to troll op.

Right? OP is a million times better off being single than with an old man. Old men = baggage, liabilities, and a reminder that death is imminent. Avoid them.

But beggars can't be choosers, so...

Who's begging? If the options are alone or be with a nasty old saggy ball uneducated misogynistic short loser, maybe it's still better to be alone.

Not to state the obvious, but why is misogyny mentioned in every thread on DCUM? It's become this meaningless insult (like short dick energy). So your (implicit) argument is that older men are necessarily losers and misogynistic? Or only older men without a college degree? Or only older men who are short (and maybe without a college degree)?