Paying for dates

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can afford to pick up the tab but I’m not running a charity for hungry single women and certainly doesn’t want to date stingy hypocrite women trying to gauge my bank account and willingness to add them as joint owners.

Amen.

[Anonymous]

My money is mine and your money is ours. This seems to be the new line of thinking among women.

[Anonymous]

Before ordering ask if other person if he/she wants equal split of total bill or pay separately. It’s 2022, be straightforward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who are these guys harping on here? I’m a man and I pay. I will always feed you. I don’t care if it is the first date or the last one. I have no problem picking up the check. I don’t care who you are. I have a job and don’t go around penny pinching my dates. If you’re going to worry about this then stay home. Get out of the dating pool until you grow up. This isn’t high school.

This isn’t high school nor is this the era of hunter-gatherers. These are two gainfully employed modern adults sharing a meal and getting to know if they like each other enough to meet again. Nobody owes other person anything.

[Anonymous]

Soup kitchen for hungry single women of DC.

[Anonymous]

As a woman I never pay. A large part of my thinking on this has to do with the fact that men regularly misrepresent their intentions. I’m not paying for some loser lying and saying he wants a relationship but really just wants sex.

[Anonymous]

First date and you had asked her out--you pay. This seems pretty obvious. If you're too cheap to do so, please do women a favor and stop dating.

I also don't understand why it's adding up for you. Are you just going on a bunch of first dates? Once you're in a relationship, it makes sense to split costs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a woman I never pay. A large part of my thinking on this has to do with the fact that men regularly misrepresent their intentions. I’m not paying for some loser lying and saying he wants a relationship but really just wants sex.

Same goes for women. You don’t know what she is looking for and if only going out with you for a free meal because she has nothing better to do.

[Anonymous]

1. I don't enjoy eating out, and I'm an excellent cook.

2. I always pay, and if it's ongoing I pay for the first three dates.

3. But I've found myself being taken advantage of far too often, so lately, despite dozens of matches on OLD, I'm not asking anyone out. I've gone from 3-4 dinners a month to 3-4 dinners a year.

4. Because some women were greedy, other women aren't meeting me, or getting a meal.

5. My favorite date during the past year was someone who just wanted to meet to hike, and we'd cook each other dinner at our houses. Never bought a meal out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First date and you had asked her out--you pay. This seems pretty obvious. If you're too cheap to do so, please do women a favor and stop dating.

I also don't understand why it's adding up for you. Are you just going on a bunch of first dates? Once you're in a relationship, it makes sense to split costs.

First date and you agreed to go out- you pay your bill. This seems pretty obvious. If you’re too cheap to do so, please do men a favor and stop dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are these guys harping on here? I’m a man and I pay. I will always feed you. I don’t care if it is the first date or the last one. I have no problem picking up the check. I don’t care who you are. I have a job and don’t go around penny pinching my dates. If you’re going to worry about this then stay home. Get out of the dating pool until you grow up. This isn’t high school.

This isn’t high school nor is this the era of hunter-gatherers. These are two gainfully employed modern adults sharing a meal and getting to know if they like each other enough to meet again. Nobody owes other person anything.

Yes, you should definitely tell that sweet, cute girl sitting across from you giggling over her plate of tacos that you don’t “owe (her) anything!” and she needs to pay for that order of guacamole. Sometimes I pity men for their dating woes, but then this guy shows up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a woman I never pay. A large part of my thinking on this has to do with the fact that men regularly misrepresent their intentions. I’m not paying for some loser lying and saying he wants a relationship but really just wants sex.

Same goes for women. You don’t know what she is looking for and if only going out with you for a free meal because she has nothing better to do.

I’ve considered this, but at this age and income bracket, going on pointless dinners isn’t free. My time I is valuable literally. I don’t want to waste it getting dolled up. I can take my self out for less of a sacrifice.

[Anonymous]

There is no such thing as a free lunch and nor it should be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are these guys harping on here? I’m a man and I pay. I will always feed you. I don’t care if it is the first date or the last one. I have no problem picking up the check. I don’t care who you are. I have a job and don’t go around penny pinching my dates. If you’re going to worry about this then stay home. Get out of the dating pool until you grow up. This isn’t high school.

This isn’t high school nor is this the era of hunter-gatherers. These are two gainfully employed modern adults sharing a meal and getting to know if they like each other enough to meet again. Nobody owes other person anything.

Yes, you should definitely tell that sweet, cute girl sitting across from you giggling over her plate of tacos that you don’t “owe (her) anything!” and she needs to pay for that order of guacamole. Sometimes I pity men for their dating woes, but then this guy shows up.

Why are you dating a high schooler at Taco Bell?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a woman I never pay. A large part of my thinking on this has to do with the fact that men regularly misrepresent their intentions. I’m not paying for some loser lying and saying he wants a relationship but really just wants sex.

Same goes for women. You don’t know what she is looking for and if only going out with you for a free meal because she has nothing better to do.

I’ve considered this, but at this age and income bracket, going on pointless dinners isn’t free. My time I is valuable literally. I don’t want to waste it getting dolled up. I can take my self out for less of a sacrifice.

Don’t get dolled but don’t feel defeated. Give someone a try, dress casually, split the bill, have fun. If both had a good time, rinse and repeat or forget and forgive.