My son is about to marry a blonde

[Anonymous]

Good luck to your son! Hope he knows exactly what he's doing.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she's pregnant. Seriously, how often do 22 year old educated white women have a one week long engagement?

Sometimes they do. Sometimes they are also pregnant. That would explain why maybe he hadn't introduced her, etc, in the past. Also, we are all just taking him for his word that it has been a one year relationship.

The son deserves to have as many parents as possible at his wedding, no matter how quick the engagement. If your child invites you to a major milestone event, you show up. That is the American culture, which is the culture of at least 50% of the happy couple.

[Anonymous]

Bleached or true blonde?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your wife is a racist b**tch.

Wait... what???? Asians can be racist???
Liberals say only Caucasians could be racist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did the son want to alienate his parents by waiting one week before his wedding to inform them that he was getting married to someone they never met? Cultural issue aside, that's alienating for any parents.

The parents didn't know he was dating anyone. Who doesn't introduce their SOs to their parents if they know that they're in a serious relationship that's headed towards marriage? And no, I don't feel sympathy for the son because the mother would've disapproved. It's one thing to not tell your parents about someone they would've disapproved of when you're just dating. It's whole another issue to deliberately hide a potential spouse from your parents. If you love someone, you fight for them. That includes fighting with your parents for them to accept that their child will be marrying outside their ethnic group.

It would've made more sense to have this situation sorted out before the stakes were so high. Maybe the mother would've accepted the fiancee if she got to know her as a person. Maybe she would've come to terms with the situation if she had more time. Maybe she would've chosen to come to the wedding just to support her son even if she still disapproved of his new wife. We will never know. Because right now, the mother's pissed off and there's only one week before the wedding. If the son wanted to his mother to accept his non-Vietnamese fiancee, then this wasn't the way to go about it.

Thank you! finally, someone with a voice of reason. It is HUGELY disrespectful for a child, let alone an only child, to treat his parents this way. Who tells his parents about a wedding a week before it takes place? The child is treating his parents like dirt. He should have introduced his GF to the family when things became serious so that parents share in the evolution of his life and can look forward to the wedding. If he foresaw objections on the part of the family, that would have been his opportunity to show his intentions by standing by his girlfriend, and the mother would have certainly come around.

I 100% understand his mother's reaction. To find out that my son is getting married a week from the day he tells me means my son has no respect for me whatsoever. Think about it. Unless this is an elopement, the couple was probably engaged for a while, told her parents, picked a venue, planned the entire wedding, invited NO ONE from his side of the family, nothing! He is treating his parents as if they don't exist. Huge, huge betrayal. This is why I think this is a troll post, no one treats their parents that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

1- I am not against the marriage. I am very happy for him and his GF. That's why I told him and his GF they should get married,
2- I can't attend the wedding if my wife is not going. As much as I am happy for my son and his wife to be, she is still my wife,
3- No, my wife and I do NOT plan to live with them when we get older. In fact, we're ready to give them the house in Great Falls so that we can move into a condo. My wife is still in shock that his wife to be is not Asians. I think she will get over it in time, I just don't know how long,
4- I was raised in a culture where parents are never wrong, even when they clearly are. As a son or daughter, you just have to accept that fact and keep trying. One day, water will be under the bridge when they see grand children, everything will be good.

I know those days will come. I just hope those days will come sooner rather than later. Right now, I am her punching bag and nothing I said matter


thank you all for sharing your thoughts

You should go to the wedding to support your son whether your wife does or not, I wish you well and I hope your wife comes to support your sons decision in time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did the son want to alienate his parents by waiting one week before his wedding to inform them that he was getting married to someone they never met? Cultural issue aside, that's alienating for any parents.

The parents didn't know he was dating anyone. Who doesn't introduce their SOs to their parents if they know that they're in a serious relationship that's headed towards marriage? And no, I don't feel sympathy for the son because the mother would've disapproved. It's one thing to not tell your parents about someone they would've disapproved of when you're just dating. It's whole another issue to deliberately hide a potential spouse from your parents. If you love someone, you fight for them. That includes fighting with your parents for them to accept that their child will be marrying outside their ethnic group.

It would've made more sense to have this situation sorted out before the stakes were so high. Maybe the mother would've accepted the fiancee if she got to know her as a person. Maybe she would've come to terms with the situation if she had more time. Maybe she would've chosen to come to the wedding just to support her son even if she still disapproved of his new wife. We will never know. Because right now, the mother's pissed off and there's only one week before the wedding. If the son wanted to his mother to accept his non-Vietnamese fiancee, then this wasn't the way to go about it.

Thank you! finally, someone with a voice of reason. It is HUGELY disrespectful for a child, let alone an only child, to treat his parents this way. Who tells his parents about a wedding a week before it takes place? The child is treating his parents like dirt. He should have introduced his GF to the family when things became serious so that parents share in the evolution of his life and can look forward to the wedding. If he foresaw objections on the part of the family, that would have been his opportunity to show his intentions by standing by his girlfriend, and the mother would have certainly come around.

I 100% understand his mother's reaction. To find out that my son is getting married a week from the day he tells me means my son has no respect for me whatsoever. Think about it. Unless this is an elopement, the couple was probably engaged for a while, told her parents, picked a venue, planned the entire wedding, invited NO ONE from his side of the family, nothing! He is treating his parents as if they don't exist. Huge, huge betrayal. This is why I think this is a troll post, no one treats their parents that way.

No people do choose who they will marry without their parents approval and if short notice bothers you this much then you sound like a control freak. A normal loving parent would be happy for the son and support them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife is a racist b**tch.

Wait... what???? Asians can be racist???
Liberals say only Caucasians could be racist.

ANYONE can be racist and yes its racist to not like her sons partner based on race.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - your wife will come around. time is the best medicine.

- another Asian with "white" people messed up the gene pool

Am from a very mixed family as well, but my husband's parents crossed that bridge too.

I think you are both blindsided by the fact that your son told you with ONE WEEK'S NOTICE that he's getting married. That's a lot for anyone to digest, and likely costly last minute flights as well.

Why the rush? Why the lack of communication until now? Sounds like he (and she) came to visit you both recently? Maybe throw a party in the Fall in Great Falls?

Your wife will have to digest this and talk with her friends, many of whom may have gone through similar things. Your son and his fiance are quite young.

[Anonymous]

The Big Sick

Rent this movie asap, with your wife

[Anonymous]

yeah a PP was right. Troll post.

[Anonymous]

Don't worry she'll soon tire of the novelty and.cheat on him.

[Anonymous]

A white woman is not going to give a hoot that Asian MIL from hell won't be at the wedding. She'll be happy as it will be one less hassle to deal with. No one here seems to understand that the son is dominated by his bride just like OP is. The sons fiance is the one who told him to keep it quiet until a week before. She's a gold digging model in it for the money. Op already said they plan to give their house to the newlyweds so op must be loaded. Once she's got enough of his assets she will tire of his small Asian penis and start cheating if she isn't already. She might pop out some kids before divorcing but most likely they won't have a drop of Asian DNA in them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did the son want to alienate his parents by waiting one week before his wedding to inform them that he was getting married to someone they never met? Cultural issue aside, that's alienating for any parents.

The parents didn't know he was dating anyone. Who doesn't introduce their SOs to their parents if they know that they're in a serious relationship that's headed towards marriage? And no, I don't feel sympathy for the son because the mother would've disapproved. It's one thing to not tell your parents about someone they would've disapproved of when you're just dating. It's whole another issue to deliberately hide a potential spouse from your parents. If you love someone, you fight for them. That includes fighting with your parents for them to accept that their child will be marrying outside their ethnic group.

It would've made more sense to have this situation sorted out before the stakes were so high. Maybe the mother would've accepted the fiancee if she got to know her as a person. Maybe she would've come to terms with the situation if she had more time. Maybe she would've chosen to come to the wedding just to support her son even if she still disapproved of his new wife. We will never know. Because right now, the mother's pissed off and there's only one week before the wedding. If the son wanted to his mother to accept his non-Vietnamese fiancee, then this wasn't the way to go about it.

Thank you! finally, someone with a voice of reason. It is HUGELY disrespectful for a child, let alone an only child, to treat his parents this way. Who tells his parents about a wedding a week before it takes place? The child is treating his parents like dirt. He should have introduced his GF to the family when things became serious so that parents share in the evolution of his life and can look forward to the wedding. If he foresaw objections on the part of the family, that would have been his opportunity to show his intentions by standing by his girlfriend, and the mother would have certainly come around.

I 100% understand his mother's reaction. To find out that my son is getting married a week from the day he tells me means my son has no respect for me whatsoever. Think about it. Unless this is an elopement, the couple was probably engaged for a while, told her parents, picked a venue, planned the entire wedding, invited NO ONE from his side of the family, nothing! He is treating his parents as if they don't exist. Huge, huge betrayal. This is why I think this is a troll post, no one treats their parents that way.

You just don't understand the culture. I didn't either until I'd married into it and been able to observe for a couple of decades. Adult kids do this ALL THE TIME in Asian families, because you're not allowed to say no to your parent, so you don't tell them, and then you present the thing you know they'll object to as already done. As has been said earlier in the thread, it's a lesser sin for them to ask forgiveness for a deed done than to ask permission and then disobey.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps a nice party when they return and your wife calms down. This happens in every culture. You are doing the right thing for the sake of your family.