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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did the son want to alienate his parents by waiting one week before his wedding to inform them that he was getting married to someone they never met? Cultural issue aside, that's alienating for any parents.

The parents didn't know he was dating anyone. Who doesn't introduce their SOs to their parents if they know that they're in a serious relationship that's headed towards marriage? And no, I don't feel sympathy for the son because the mother would've disapproved. It's one thing to not tell your parents about someone they would've disapproved of when you're just dating. It's whole another issue to deliberately hide a potential spouse from your parents. If you love someone, you fight for them. That includes fighting with your parents for them to accept that their child will be marrying outside their ethnic group.

It would've made more sense to have this situation sorted out before the stakes were so high. Maybe the mother would've accepted the fiancee if she got to know her as a person. Maybe she would've come to terms with the situation if she had more time. Maybe she would've chosen to come to the wedding just to support her son even if she still disapproved of his new wife. We will never know. Because right now, the mother's pissed off and there's only one week before the wedding. If the son wanted to his mother to accept his non-Vietnamese fiancee, then this wasn't the way to go about it.
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Thank you! finally, someone with a voice of reason. It is HUGELY disrespectful for a child, let alone an only child, to treat his parents this way.  Who tells his parents about a wedding a week before it takes place? The child is treating his parents like dirt.  He should have introduced his GF to the family when things became serious so that parents share in the evolution of his life and can look forward to the wedding. If he foresaw objections on the part of the family, that would have been his opportunity to show his intentions by standing by his girlfriend, and the mother would have certainly come around.

I 100% understand his mother's reaction. To find out that my son is getting married a week from the day he tells me means my son has no respect for me whatsoever.  Think about it. Unless this is an elopement, the couple was probably engaged for a while, told her parents, picked a venue, planned the entire wedding, invited NO ONE from his side of the family, nothing! He is treating his parents as if they don't exist. Huge, huge betrayal. This is why I think this is a troll post, no one treats their parents that way. [/quote]

No people do choose who they will marry without their parents approval and if short notice bothers you this much then you sound like a control freak. A normal loving parent would be happy for the son and support them.[/quote]

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