My son is about to marry a blonde

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is a good example of how little Americans understand Asian culture or any other cultures in that matter.

I agree. I'm married to Asian and i completely understand OP and what he's going through. I totally understand his "i am not allowed to attend the wedding either" - he and his wife are one whole.
Most Americans who posted here sound so selfish, so self-righteous. No attempt at finding compromises. "If the mom didn't accept DOL immediately then there's no place for her in the son's (and his family's) life for the rest of their lives". SERIOUSLY?? Is this really how most Americans are? People need to learn to forgive, especially when it comes to parents.

Having close people in your life is mostly about compromises.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is a good example of how little Americans understand Asian culture or any other cultures in that matter.

I agree. I'm married to Asian and i completely understand OP and what he's going through. I totally understand his "i am not allowed to attend the wedding either" - he and his wife are one whole.
Most Americans who posted here sound so selfish, so self-righteous. No attempt at finding compromises. "If the mom didn't accept DOL immediately then there's no place for her in the son's (and his family's) life for the rest of their lives". SERIOUSLY?? Is this really how most Americans are? People need to learn to forgive, especially when it comes to parents.

Having close people in your life is mostly about compromises.

I do get it.

However, what I don't get with the sympathetic posts is how no one seems to really notice that "blonde" is a translated slur.

[Anonymous]

troll

[Anonymous]

Blondes aren't dumb. They can learn Vietnamese too.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I am happy to report that everything is fine and I now have a DIL.

I am not going to bore you with all the details so this is a short version of how things got unfolded.

- My now DIL is 10 weeks pregnant. That's why they want to have quick wedding,

- my niece, who is like a daughter to me, has known my now DIL since middle school. My niece and now DIL do
volunteer work in vietnam in the summer for the past four years. My niece introduced my now DIL to my son
when he joined them for volunteer work in vietnam two years ago. My niece vouched for my now DIL that she is
a good person and my wife has nothing to worry about. That did the trick for my wife

- My wife and I met the DIL parents last week and everything went well. They are nice people.

- The wedding was very small, less than 15 people. Just family members and yes my wife and I were there

- Son and DIL are in Mexico for honeymoon and South America for the next five weeks

- the new couple will settle in our Mclean condo. The plan is to give them our house in Great Falls and we move into the condo.

- My wife, DIL and niece will take a trip to Vietnam in April for couple of months to do volunteer work there. That will give them
plenty of time to bond with each other, but most importantly, free time for me.

I am so happy that everything works out in the end. I've never seen my wife happier. Happy wife, happy life !!!!

Thanks again everyone for your comments.

[Anonymous]

I'm glad everything has worked out.

[Anonymous]

And congratulations!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I am happy to report that everything is fine and I now have a DIL.

I am not going to bore you with all the details so this is a short version of how things got unfolded.

- My now DIL is 10 weeks pregnant. That's why they want to have quick wedding,

- my niece, who is like a daughter to me, has known my now DIL since middle school. My niece and now DIL do
volunteer work in vietnam in the summer for the past four years. My niece introduced my now DIL to my son
when he joined them for volunteer work in vietnam two years ago. My niece vouched for my now DIL that she is
a good person and my wife has nothing to worry about. That did the trick for my wife

- My wife and I met the DIL parents last week and everything went well. They are nice people.

- The wedding was very small, less than 15 people. Just family members and yes my wife and I were there

- Son and DIL are in Mexico for honeymoon and South America for the next five weeks

- the new couple will settle in our Mclean condo. The plan is to give them our house in Great Falls and we move into the condo.

- My wife, DIL and niece will take a trip to Vietnam in April for couple of months to do volunteer work there. That will give them
plenty of time to bond with each other, but most importantly, free time for me.

I am so happy that everything works out in the end. I've never seen my wife happier. Happy wife, happy life !!!!

Thanks again everyone for your comments.

I’m super happy for you, OP. Though I am just a tiny bit suspicious about this post because of the detail that your DIL is pregnant and honeymooning in Mexico/South America. I don’t know any pregnant woman who would do that due to Zika risk......it makes me wonder if this is real but I hope that it is!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I’m super happy for you, OP. Though I am just a tiny bit suspicious about this post because of the detail that your DIL is pregnant and honeymooning in Mexico/South America. I don’t know any pregnant woman who would do that due to Zika risk......it makes me wonder if this is real but I hope that it is!!!

What stood out to me is that the new MIL would be okay with DIL flying to Vietnam to volunteer, while pregnant. My own family didn't want me to volunteer abroad in our home country while I was pregnant (refugee camps, third world country). My MIL would've blocked me from the plane!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I’m super happy for you, OP. Though I am just a tiny bit suspicious about this post because of the detail that your DIL is pregnant and honeymooning in Mexico/South America. I don’t know any pregnant woman who would do that due to Zika risk......it makes me wonder if this is real but I hope that it is!!!

What stood out to me is that the new MIL would be okay with DIL flying to Vietnam to volunteer, while pregnant. My own family didn't want me to volunteer abroad in our home country while I was pregnant (refugee camps, third world country). My MIL would've blocked me from the plane!

Agree. I’m starting to think this really is a troll. But why? Why all the details then?

[Anonymous]

lol Your wife magically showed up to the wedding? Your son with the MD is really vacationing in Mexico and South America with his newly pregnant wife, then going to go to Vietnam? And they lived happily ever after, The End!
Two thumbs down. You're a terrible story teller.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol Your wife magically showed up to the wedding? Your son with the MD is really vacationing in Mexico and South America with his newly pregnant wife, then going to go to Vietnam? And they lived happily ever after, The End!
Two thumbs down. You're a terrible story teller.

LOL!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First generation immigrant from Vietnam. Came here when I was 15 years old and my wife is also vietnamese. Living a good life in Great falls VA. Son is 26 years old and he informed my wife and I that he will get marry to his 22 years old blonde GF of one year next week. He just finished his medical residency and she just graduated with a BS degree in accounting. She is also a part time model. Before last week, I didn't even know he was even dating. The GF seems very nice and friendly.

I have some reservations about my son marry someone of a different race but I am open minded. My wife on the other hand, wanted him to marry to an Asian lady so she didn't take this very well. Her reason is that she always wanted a daughter in law who can speak vietnamese with her. My wife will not be attending the wedding and I am not allowed to attend either. She is not being reasonable.

I told my son and his GF, without telling my wife ofcourse, go ahead and get married. Have a wonderful life. You and your wife can come back when you have kids because time and grand kids will heal wound. They just left for CA this morning.

Not sure how I can convince my wife to get over this. Thoughts?

Tell your wife to go back in time and return to Vietnam before your son meets the blonde. That would vastly increase the chances that he would marry a vietnamese girl.

How stupid is she to be that narrow minded?

[Anonymous]

Ok Op, sure. you are a much better English writer than all my fellow Vietnamese friends’ fathers...!... fascinating

[Anonymous]

Once again, this is the biggest load of bullshit I've read in awhile.