Baby Now or Wait 2 Years?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thank you for all the responses. It was nice getting first hand accounts from people who know what a CRNA does, and understands how intensive the program will be. My DH I feel wants kids because of the outside pressure ( family and friend getting pregnant). I don't think he realizes how hard it will be with a baby. We talked and decided that waiting to try in a year for my second year of school is the best option. I will try and coordinate with graduation, so I won't have to take a maternity leave so quickly at a new job. I want 2, maybe 3. He said 4 but I don't think that will happen. If only 2, spreading it out 2-3 between children is a better option for our careers.

I think this is very smart OP. The hysteria here over two years is astonishing.

Also, baby one is big wakeup call. So it will be good to have your ducks in a row before you have that child. You will have a much better understanding of your family dynamics then.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are going to be 35 when you finish this program. Then you plan to work full time while having three babies in rapid succession? Or take time off, and then go back to work full time 6-7 years later?

I don't really understand how this will work. If you already had a child, or were only planning to have one or two, this would all make sense. As it is, how will you build up any experience working with three maternity leaves? And then you have a technical degree, which is less marketable as time without a job goes by.

I know you are thinking that lots of women work and have children, but most do not have three in quick succession when they first enter the workforce in their field. Those who do often struggle.

My vote is child now, start classes, try to make it work. Or, wait and go back to school when you're at least halfway done having kids.

This all sounds possible before the pregnancy or child exists, and then you discover that your life is much less your own than you ever thought possible, unless you have lots of money to hire help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are going to be 35 when you finish this program. Then you plan to work full time while having three babies in rapid succession? Or take time off, and then go back to work full time 6-7 years later?

I don't really understand how this will work. If you already had a child, or were only planning to have one or two, this would all make sense. As it is, how will you build up any experience working with three maternity leaves? And then you have a technical degree, which is less marketable as time without a job goes by.

I know you are thinking that lots of women work and have children, but most do not have three in quick succession when they first enter the workforce in their field. Those who do often struggle.

My vote is child now, start classes, try to make it work. Or, wait and go back to school when you're at least halfway done having kids.

This all sounds possible before the pregnancy or child exists, and then you discover that your life is much less your own than you ever thought possible, unless you have lots of money to hire help.

Her plan makes perfect sense. She'll have the baby right after graduation, look for a job, work for a year before trying for another, rinse reapeat.

Lots of women do this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are going to be 35 when you finish this program. Then you plan to work full time while having three babies in rapid succession? Or take time off, and then go back to work full time 6-7 years later?

I don't really understand how this will work. If you already had a child, or were only planning to have one or two, this would all make sense. As it is, how will you build up any experience working with three maternity leaves? And then you have a technical degree, which is less marketable as time without a job goes by.

I know you are thinking that lots of women work and have children, but most do not have three in quick succession when they first enter the workforce in their field. Those who do often struggle.

My vote is child now, start classes, try to make it work. Or, wait and go back to school when you're at least halfway done having kids.

This all sounds possible before the pregnancy or child exists, and then you discover that your life is much less your own than you ever thought possible, unless you have lots of money to hire help.

Op already posted that she wants 2 and they will be waiting a year to coordinate with her school. I thinks is every smart considering getting a CRNA with a baby will be impossible. It's not like 34 or 35 is old. She posted she has frozen eggs and willing to adopt.

[Anonymous]

I think your plan sounds reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are going to be 35 when you finish this program. Then you plan to work full time while having three babies in rapid succession? Or take time off, and then go back to work full time 6-7 years later?

I don't really understand how this will work. If you already had a child, or were only planning to have one or two, this would all make sense. As it is, how will you build up any experience working with three maternity leaves? And then you have a technical degree, which is less marketable as time without a job goes by.

I know you are thinking that lots of women work and have children, but most do not have three in quick succession when they first enter the workforce in their field. Those who do often struggle.

My vote is child now, start classes, try to make it work. Or, wait and go back to school when you're at least halfway done having kids.

This all sounds possible before the pregnancy or child exists, and then you discover that your life is much less your own than you ever thought possible, unless you have lots of money to hire help.

OP has the money but doesn't feel like leaving a baby with a caregiver. also her husband works a lot and, since she used to be a nanny, she knows babies are too much work. but this will all be very different in two years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are going to be 35 when you finish this program. Then you plan to work full time while having three babies in rapid succession? Or take time off, and then go back to work full time 6-7 years later?

I don't really understand how this will work. If you already had a child, or were only planning to have one or two, this would all make sense. As it is, how will you build up any experience working with three maternity leaves? And then you have a technical degree, which is less marketable as time without a job goes by.

I know you are thinking that lots of women work and have children, but most do not have three in quick succession when they first enter the workforce in their field. Those who do often struggle.

My vote is child now, start classes, try to make it work. Or, wait and go back to school when you're at least halfway done having kids.

This all sounds possible before the pregnancy or child exists, and then you discover that your life is much less your own than you ever thought possible, unless you have lots of money to hire help.

Her plan makes perfect sense. She'll have the baby right after graduation, look for a job, work for a year before trying for another, rinse reapeat.

Lots of women do this.

+1. You must not understand or know what a CRNA program entails. As other posters said, you need a stable life. I think school, work, and baby will add too much pressure and likely lead to a divorce or a strained marriage. Waiting is the smartest choice. It's only a year more. It's not like she's 44.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are going to be 35 when you finish this program. Then you plan to work full time while having three babies in rapid succession? Or take time off, and then go back to work full time 6-7 years later?

I don't really understand how this will work. If you already had a child, or were only planning to have one or two, this would all make sense. As it is, how will you build up any experience working with three maternity leaves? And then you have a technical degree, which is less marketable as time without a job goes by.

I know you are thinking that lots of women work and have children, but most do not have three in quick succession when they first enter the workforce in their field. Those who do often struggle.

My vote is child now, start classes, try to make it work. Or, wait and go back to school when you're at least halfway done having kids.

This all sounds possible before the pregnancy or child exists, and then you discover that your life is much less your own than you ever thought possible, unless you have lots of money to hire help.

OP has the money but doesn't feel like leaving a baby with a caregiver. also her husband works a lot and, since she used to be a nanny, she knows babies are too much work. but this will all be very different in two years.

Op here. You're right. I did say having a child while going working and going for my CRNA will be too difficult. I am realistic enough to know that it's hard to have a baby, and I don't want to take that on while in school. I want to enjoy my baby, not hire a nanny to be the caregiver while I'm always gone.

[Anonymous]

I just think this sounds like so many women who think they have it all figured out, then post on this board two years later about being exhausted and overwhelmed and depressed. We do not support working families in this country at all, so yes, the burdens of pregnancy and the early days of babies will be on her.

New marriage, new (intense) career, new babies all at once? Good luck to you, OP. I side with those who say that this is a lot to put on a new marriage. I also suggest that you try to remain flexible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are going to be 35 when you finish this program. Then you plan to work full time while having three babies in rapid succession? Or take time off, and then go back to work full time 6-7 years later?

I don't really understand how this will work. If you already had a child, or were only planning to have one or two, this would all make sense. As it is, how will you build up any experience working with three maternity leaves? And then you have a technical degree, which is less marketable as time without a job goes by.

I know you are thinking that lots of women work and have children, but most do not have three in quick succession when they first enter the workforce in their field. Those who do often struggle.

My vote is child now, start classes, try to make it work. Or, wait and go back to school when you're at least halfway done having kids.

This all sounds possible before the pregnancy or child exists, and then you discover that your life is much less your own than you ever thought possible, unless you have lots of money to hire help.

OP has the money but doesn't feel like leaving a baby with a caregiver. also her husband works a lot and, since she used to be a nanny, she knows babies are too much work. but this will all be very different in two years.

Op here. You're right. I did say having a child while going working and going for my CRNA will be too difficult. I am realistic enough to know that it's hard to have a baby, and I don't want to take that on while in school. I want to enjoy my baby, not hire a nanny to be the caregiver while I'm always gone.

Then when will you start working? Will your degree still be valuable if you are a SAHM for some time right after you get it? Otherwise, won't you need a nanny/daycare anyway?

[Anonymous]

Childfree 33 year old here. I mention that because I am in no way a baby-pusher. But I think it's insane that you'd wait if you know for sure you want kids, and especially that you want 2 - 3.

The CRNA program will be there later if it's too hard with a newborn or while pregnant.

Just because you're open to adoption doesn't mean it's always a possibility. Adopting a healthy infant gets harder every year as unwanted pregnancy drops, and many children that are slightly older but physically healthy may have serious emotional trauma from the circumstances that led to them being placed for adoption at a slightly older age. How will you react if you can't pursue your career because of health or emotional needs of your children, whether biological or adopted?

I'm a big believer in putting having kids first ahead of career once you know you want them. Not to mention, every year you delay having children is a year less of their lives you'll get to enjoy when you are older.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Op already posted that she wants 2 and they will be waiting a year to coordinate with her school. I thinks is every smart considering getting a CRNA with a baby will be impossible. It's not like 34 or 35 is old. She posted she has frozen eggs and willing to adopt.

Frozen eggs (vs. frozen embryos) are quite a crapshoot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are going to be 35 when you finish this program. Then you plan to work full time while having three babies in rapid succession? Or take time off, and then go back to work full time 6-7 years later?

I don't really understand how this will work. If you already had a child, or were only planning to have one or two, this would all make sense. As it is, how will you build up any experience working with three maternity leaves? And then you have a technical degree, which is less marketable as time without a job goes by.

I know you are thinking that lots of women work and have children, but most do not have three in quick succession when they first enter the workforce in their field. Those who do often struggle.

My vote is child now, start classes, try to make it work. Or, wait and go back to school when you're at least halfway done having kids.

This all sounds possible before the pregnancy or child exists, and then you discover that your life is much less your own than you ever thought possible, unless you have lots of money to hire help.

OP has the money but doesn't feel like leaving a baby with a caregiver. also her husband works a lot and, since she used to be a nanny, she knows babies are too much work. but this will all be very different in two years.

Op here. You're right. I did say having a child while going working and going for my CRNA will be too difficult. I am realistic enough to know that it's hard to have a baby, and I don't want to take that on while in school. I want to enjoy my baby, not hire a nanny to be the caregiver while I'm always gone.

Then when will you start working? Will your degree still be valuable if you are a SAHM for some time right after you get it? Otherwise, won't you need a nanny/daycare anyway?

Op here. I stated this many times. We have decided to wait a year until I'm in my second year of school. We will try to coordinate graduation and having a baby. Then I can take 3-4 months before getting a CRNA job. We will them have my MIL and a nanny for childcare.

[Anonymous]

OP, do you have to take out debt to go back for the CRNA?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are going to be 35 when you finish this program. Then you plan to work full time while having three babies in rapid succession? Or take time off, and then go back to work full time 6-7 years later?

I don't really understand how this will work. If you already had a child, or were only planning to have one or two, this would all make sense. As it is, how will you build up any experience working with three maternity leaves? And then you have a technical degree, which is less marketable as time without a job goes by.

I know you are thinking that lots of women work and have children, but most do not have three in quick succession when they first enter the workforce in their field. Those who do often struggle.

My vote is child now, start classes, try to make it work. Or, wait and go back to school when you're at least halfway done having kids.

This all sounds possible before the pregnancy or child exists, and then you discover that your life is much less your own than you ever thought possible, unless you have lots of money to hire help.

OP has the money but doesn't feel like leaving a baby with a caregiver. also her husband works a lot and, since she used to be a nanny, she knows babies are too much work. but this will all be very different in two years.

Op here. You're right. I did say having a child while going working and going for my CRNA will be too difficult. I am realistic enough to know that it's hard to have a baby, and I don't want to take that on while in school. I want to enjoy my baby, not hire a nanny to be the caregiver while I'm always gone.

Then when will you start working? Will your degree still be valuable if you are a SAHM for some time right after you get it? Otherwise, won't you need a nanny/daycare anyway?

Op here. I stated this many times. We have decided to wait a year until I'm in my second year of school. We will try to coordinate graduation and having a baby. Then I can take 3-4 months before getting a CRNA job. We will them have my MIL and a nanny for childcare.

I thought you didn't want to impose on your MIL...