Baby Now or Wait 2 Years?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why not do med school if you are so smart? Oh yeah, you aren't.

She probably went to pharmacy to begin with because she couldn't make the med school. Then she realized she cared less about prestige than about the day to day work. But will still insist nursing is like a totally prestigious incredibly competitive profession.

You're ignorant. I'm not OP but I'm a doctor. I wonder what you you do that you feel you're superior? Is nursing hard? Yes. Is it prestigious? No. Is CRNA hard and prestigious? Yes. You are completely ignorant to what a CRNA even does or how hard the work to become one. A CRNA deals with ICU patients by checking vitals, intubating, standing in for anesthesiologists, etc., but no, they and OP are dumb. Spend one day in that life and then tell me how easy it is.

Geez, your grammar is atrocious. You’re a doctor? I guess doctors just aren’t very smart nowadays. OP, you sound ridiculous. You’ve only been married for 3 years to a lawyer on partner track who wants 3-4 kids? He may be indulging your silly idea now to become a CRNA and have 3 kids later, but let’s see what happens 3 years later when you’re struggling to deliver on your promise. He’ll find a younger, hotter wife and breeder so fast...

Op here. I have to laugh at this dumb response. I wanted to be a CRNA before I even met my husband. He fully supports me. We are very happily married. I am wise enough to know you don't have a child when you're not ready for one, or you don't think you can handle it. You may be fine with a nanny or daycare raising your children, but I'm not.

If you wanted to become a crna before you even met your husband, why didn’t you do the program before? You could have finished it by now. Did you not get in? Honestly, it sounds like you’re a dumb trophy wife that your husband primarily married to have kids. I bet he doesn’t know about the egg freezing. Who freezes their eggs when they’re 19 just for kicks? Seriously that’s just weird.

Op here. Do you know what a CRNA is? I had to get my BSN, and work a year in ICU in order to go for CRNA. That takes 6 years to complete. I was previously a pharmacist, but hated it.

I didn't get my eggs frozen for " kicks". I explained why in other posts. I am not from DC, and got my eggs frozen where I was born. It is true that they will likely be unusable.

I am not a trophy anything. Last time I checked, trophy wives don't have a PharmD.

BSN is four years, plus one year working in ICU. That's five, not six years.

Op here. It is six. BSN is not always 4 years. Many states now offer a 3 year program. I did 3 years for my BSN, one year in ICU, and now about to do a 2 year CRNA program. 5 years for school, 6 if you count working in ICU for a year.

Get moving OP. I was an RN with a BSN at 21. Had a kid at 24, another at 26.
Lucky me, I'm 42 with an 18 and 16 year old.
You have wasted so many years.
BTW! Pharmacy is much better than nursing. Why on earth would you leave a great pharmacy profession?

Not OP but thats bs. To say someone " wasted" their years because I they didn't have children at 24 and 26 is ignorant. Most people on this board didn't stay at 24. I had mine at 31. Did I waste my years, too? Everyone leads their own life. Wh

o are you to say she or anyone wasted their years because they didn't follow the path you did? That's arrogant and uncalled for.

+ OP. Not everyone wants to become a parent at the young age of 24.

OP is not 24 anymore.

I know that genius. The op said she had hers at 24 and Op wasted her years. I was stating that not everyone wants to have a child at 24 like pp. Most don't want to be a young mom.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why not do med school if you are so smart? Oh yeah, you aren't.

She probably went to pharmacy to begin with because she couldn't make the med school. Then she realized she cared less about prestige than about the day to day work. But will still insist nursing is like a totally prestigious incredibly competitive profession.

You're ignorant. I'm not OP but I'm a doctor. I wonder what you you do that you feel you're superior? Is nursing hard? Yes. Is it prestigious? No. Is CRNA hard and prestigious? Yes. You are completely ignorant to what a CRNA even does or how hard the work to become one. A CRNA deals with ICU patients by checking vitals, intubating, standing in for anesthesiologists, etc., but no, they and OP are dumb. Spend one day in that life and then tell me how easy it is.

Geez, your grammar is atrocious. You’re a doctor? I guess doctors just aren’t very smart nowadays. OP, you sound ridiculous. You’ve only been married for 3 years to a lawyer on partner track who wants 3-4 kids? He may be indulging your silly idea now to become a CRNA and have 3 kids later, but let’s see what happens 3 years later when you’re struggling to deliver on your promise. He’ll find a younger, hotter wife and breeder so fast...

Op here. I have to laugh at this dumb response. I wanted to be a CRNA before I even met my husband. He fully supports me. We are very happily married. I am wise enough to know you don't have a child when you're not ready for one, or you don't think you can handle it. You may be fine with a nanny or daycare raising your children, but I'm not.

If you wanted to become a crna before you even met your husband, why didn’t you do the program before? You could have finished it by now. Did you not get in? Honestly, it sounds like you’re a dumb trophy wife that your husband primarily married to have kids. I bet he doesn’t know about the egg freezing. Who freezes their eggs when they’re 19 just for kicks? Seriously that’s just weird.

Op here. Do you know what a CRNA is? I had to get my BSN, and work a year in ICU in order to go for CRNA. That takes 6 years to complete. I was previously a pharmacist, but hated it.

I didn't get my eggs frozen for " kicks". I explained why in other posts. I am not from DC, and got my eggs frozen where I was born. It is true that they will likely be unusable.

I am not a trophy anything. Last time I checked, trophy wives don't have a PharmD.

BSN is four years, plus one year working in ICU. That's five, not six years.

Op here. It is six. BSN is not always 4 years. Many states now offer a 3 year program. I did 3 years for my BSN, one year in ICU, and now about to do a 2 year CRNA program. 5 years for school, 6 if you count working in ICU for a year.

Get moving OP. I was an RN with a BSN at 21. Had a kid at 24, another at 26.
Lucky me, I'm 42 with an 18 and 16 year old.
You have wasted so many years.
BTW! Pharmacy is much better than nursing. Why on earth would you leave a great pharmacy profession?

Op here. Good for you for having a child at 24 and 26. I was enjoying my single years. I would never want to have a child at 24, but that you. I didn't waste any of my years. Pharmacy is a good profession but it wasn't for me. I starred when I was young. As I grew and figured who out who am I, and what I want, I realized pharmacy didn't make me happy, and I didn't want to spend my time at a job that I didn't like. I am not just an RN, I will be a CRNA.

I can easily say you wasted your free 20's having kids young, but I won't because that is what you wanted. Neither path is wrong. Don't belittle or put others down because they didn't chose to have kids young and or empty nesters at 42.

Wow, aren't you special? BFD. You are still a nurse. What does the N is CRNA stand for?

seriously. and she hasn't even gotten her certificate yet!

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, given that the OP is 33 and wants 3 kids - I would just drop the idea of the program and start a family now. This is from someone who had her first after having establishing her career at 35 - but my career at that point was well established and I could afford to take plenty of time and enjoy the kids (eventually 3 of them - though we both had not initially planned on more than 1, which is why we had felt comfortable waiting). Once OP finishes her program at 36, she'll want to get started in what sounds like a tough job, while at the same time having 3 kids in 3 or 4 years (??? Quite a feat in your 20's). It simply isn't plausible. Also, postponing the start of the career until 3 kids are out of diapers/toddlerhood (as the OP doesn't like daycare/nannies) would mean starting in her 40's. Also not great. If family were a priority, it would be best to work as a nurse in a family friendly environment and get started now, as it looks like money is not an issue.
My guess? The OP will give priority to her career, and maybe end up with 1 kid in her late 30s. THAT is the discussion she should be having with her husband NOW. Will he be happy if that is the outcome?

Op here. I will be 35 when I graduate, not 36. I am honestly fine with having 1-2 kids. We plan to start in a year. I may be in a new marriage, but from reading on here, some of you are married 10+ years without a solid marriage. I will take my chances. I will not let anyone force me into something as major as having a child before I am ready.

I am the "Honestly..." poster. Something in your timeline doesn't add up. You said you just turned 33, will start the 2 year program next fall at almost 34, and therefore will be almost 36 by the time you graduate. But I guess you'll get pregnant just in time for delivery in the few months in-between graduation and your 36th birthday (you wanted your first at 35). And if it's as rigorous a program as you claim, you'll really want to be pregnant during your second year (?!). You are so naive!!
If you are fine with just 1 kid - then you've wasted the time of a lot of people: It's not a big deal to delay by a couple of years in that case. Is your husband ok with that?
I've been with my husband for over 20 years, and we've been through plenty of tough times. You are still in the honeymoon phase.

Op here. It you read everything, you will see where I said I mistyped. I am starting school in January 2018 and will graduate fall 2020. I will be 35. I plan to start trying for a ball in fall of 2019.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why not do med school if you are so smart? Oh yeah, you aren't.

She probably went to pharmacy to begin with because she couldn't make the med school. Then she realized she cared less about prestige than about the day to day work. But will still insist nursing is like a totally prestigious incredibly competitive profession.

You're ignorant. I'm not OP but I'm a doctor. I wonder what you you do that you feel you're superior? Is nursing hard? Yes. Is it prestigious? No. Is CRNA hard and prestigious? Yes. You are completely ignorant to what a CRNA even does or how hard the work to become one. A CRNA deals with ICU patients by checking vitals, intubating, standing in for anesthesiologists, etc., but no, they and OP are dumb. Spend one day in that life and then tell me how easy it is.

Geez, your grammar is atrocious. You’re a doctor? I guess doctors just aren’t very smart nowadays. OP, you sound ridiculous. You’ve only been married for 3 years to a lawyer on partner track who wants 3-4 kids? He may be indulging your silly idea now to become a CRNA and have 3 kids later, but let’s see what happens 3 years later when you’re struggling to deliver on your promise. He’ll find a younger, hotter wife and breeder so fast...

Op here. I have to laugh at this dumb response. I wanted to be a CRNA before I even met my husband. He fully supports me. We are very happily married. I am wise enough to know you don't have a child when you're not ready for one, or you don't think you can handle it. You may be fine with a nanny or daycare raising your children, but I'm not.

If you wanted to become a crna before you even met your husband, why didn’t you do the program before? You could have finished it by now. Did you not get in? Honestly, it sounds like you’re a dumb trophy wife that your husband primarily married to have kids. I bet he doesn’t know about the egg freezing. Who freezes their eggs when they’re 19 just for kicks? Seriously that’s just weird.

Op here. Do you know what a CRNA is? I had to get my BSN, and work a year in ICU in order to go for CRNA. That takes 6 years to complete. I was previously a pharmacist, but hated it.

I didn't get my eggs frozen for " kicks". I explained why in other posts. I am not from DC, and got my eggs frozen where I was born. It is true that they will likely be unusable.

I am not a trophy anything. Last time I checked, trophy wives don't have a PharmD.

BSN is four years, plus one year working in ICU. That's five, not six years.

Op here. It is six. BSN is not always 4 years. Many states now offer a 3 year program. I did 3 years for my BSN, one year in ICU, and now about to do a 2 year CRNA program. 5 years for school, 6 if you count working in ICU for a year.

Get moving OP. I was an RN with a BSN at 21. Had a kid at 24, another at 26.
Lucky me, I'm 42 with an 18 and 16 year old.
You have wasted so many years.
BTW! Pharmacy is much better than nursing. Why on earth would you leave a great pharmacy profession?

Op here. Good for you for having a child at 24 and 26. I was enjoying my single years. I would never want to have a child at 24, but that you. I didn't waste any of my years. Pharmacy is a good profession but it wasn't for me. I starred when I was young. As I grew and figured who out who am I, and what I want, I realized pharmacy didn't make me happy, and I didn't want to spend my time at a job that I didn't like. I am not just an RN, I will be a CRNA.

I can easily say you wasted your free 20's having kids young, but I won't because that is what you wanted. Neither path is wrong. Don't belittle or put others down because they didn't chose to have kids young and or empty nesters at 42.

Wow, aren't you special? BFD. You are still a nurse. What does the N is CRNA stand for?

seriously. and she hasn't even gotten her certificate yet!

NP here. CRNAs don't get a certificate. They get a degree and a license.

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Anonymous wrote:You went from a Pharmacist to an RN? That's a downgrade.

BTW! I'm an RN too.

Op here. Yes. I am going for my CRNA. That's an upgrade!

As an RN, I disagree. A pharmacist is higher than a CRNA.
Plus, you did downgrade, now you are working your way up.....at the expense of having kids.

It may be a downgrade in terms of pay & prestige but, for someone who values patient interaction, it is a huge upgrade in terms of job satisfaction.

I'm a nurse, I regret not going into pharmacy. Nursing is stressful.

My dad is a pharmacist. He thinks it's very stressful.

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Op here. I will be 35 when I graduate, not 36. I am honestly fine with having 1-2 kids. We plan to start in a year. I may be in a new marriage, but from reading on here, some of you are married 10+ years without a solid marriage. I will take my chances. I will not let anyone force me into something as major as having a child before I am ready.

I am the "Honestly..." poster. Something in your timeline doesn't add up. You said you just turned 33, will start the 2 year program next fall at almost 34, and therefore will be almost 36 by the time you graduate. But I guess you'll get pregnant just in time for delivery in the few months in-between graduation and your 36th birthday (you wanted your first at 35). And if it's as rigorous a program as you claim, you'll really want to be pregnant during your second year (?!). You are so naive!!
If you are fine with just 1 kid - then you've wasted the time of a lot of people: It's not a big deal to delay by a couple of years in that case. Is your husband ok with that?
I've been with my husband for over 20 years, and we've been through plenty of tough times. You are still in the honeymoon phase.



Op here. It you read everything, you will see where I said I mistyped. I am starting school in January 2018 and will graduate fall 2020. I will be 35. I plan to start trying for a ball in fall of 2019.

How does this typo matter? You are now 33. So when you graduate in fall 2020, you will be almost 36. Come back and update this thread if you will actually fall pregnant in fall 2019 - I believe you will postpone pregnancy (being pregnant and completing schooling can be tough!). And you've never answered if your husband would be happy with just 1 kid.

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This is not my field. I am a lawyer who waited until I was over 5 years out of law school to start my family. I don't understand how it is easier to have kids at the start of a new career than it is to have a baby while in school. I think that working is tougher than school. Do employers discriminate against older graduates? If not, I'd have the kids and then do school and new career.

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I love how OP asked posters what they would do and if she’s being realistic, and when people answered honestly, she shut everyone down and yelled at them for belittling her...and made unfounded assumptions that people on this board are uneducated sahm’s who are also willing to dump their kids on a nanny or daycare at the drop of a hat. OP is immature and condescending, and doesn’t deserve half the good advice on here.

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I disagree with people who freak out about fertility. I got pregnant literally having sex once at 33 and 36. I thought it would take awhile. It was instant. I would start the CRNA program. It will be very hard to do with a kid and your income increases a lot with a CRNA.

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree with people who freak out about fertility. I got pregnant literally having sex once at 33 and 36. I thought it would take awhile. It was instant. I would start the CRNA program. It will be very hard to do with a kid and your income increases a lot with a CRNA.

I’m a NP but had to post to agree with this. This was me at 35 and 38. I have been married for 10 years now, we simply decided to wait until we were ready. I think OP is making the right choice and is being smart about it. The key is to understand what happens if things don’t work out. For us, we were totally ok with remaining childless or looking into some assistance options. But rushing into kids before bing ready (for any reason) is a recipe for a disaster.

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If she only wants 1 kid now, then none of this matters. For one kid, OP, do what you want.

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I haven't read the whole thread, but I am gonna throw it out there that I had a very difficult time getting pregnant. I was a very healthy, very in shape 28 year old and it took me over a year of charting and all that. So, no matter how healthy you are you never know how it's gonna work out. I NEVER expected it to be hard. My mom and sister both got pregnant as soon as they wanted to. Not me. So, as others have stated, please don't act like you can plan when you will get pregnant. You can't.

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my sister is an md phd, a CEO of a big hospital with hundreds of publications and i have never heard her speaking about her accomplishments the way OP speaks about hers (such as those are).

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why not do med school if you are so smart? Oh yeah, you aren't.

She probably went to pharmacy to begin with because she couldn't make the med school. Then she realized she cared less about prestige than about the day to day work. But will still insist nursing is like a totally prestigious incredibly competitive profession.

You're ignorant. I'm not OP but I'm a doctor. I wonder what you you do that you feel you're superior? Is nursing hard? Yes. Is it prestigious? No. Is CRNA hard and prestigious? Yes. You are completely ignorant to what a CRNA even does or how hard the work to become one. A CRNA deals with ICU patients by checking vitals, intubating, standing in for anesthesiologists, etc., but no, they and OP are dumb. Spend one day in that life and then tell me how easy it is.

Geez, your grammar is atrocious. You’re a doctor? I guess doctors just aren’t very smart nowadays. OP, you sound ridiculous. You’ve only been married for 3 years to a lawyer on partner track who wants 3-4 kids? He may be indulging your silly idea now to become a CRNA and have 3 kids later, but let’s see what happens 3 years later when you’re struggling to deliver on your promise. He’ll find a younger, hotter wife and breeder so fast...

Op here. I have to laugh at this dumb response. I wanted to be a CRNA before I even met my husband. He fully supports me. We are very happily married. I am wise enough to know you don't have a child when you're not ready for one, or you don't think you can handle it. You may be fine with a nanny or daycare raising your children, but I'm not.

If you wanted to become a crna before you even met your husband, why didn’t you do the program before? You could have finished it by now. Did you not get in? Honestly, it sounds like you’re a dumb trophy wife that your husband primarily married to have kids. I bet he doesn’t know about the egg freezing. Who freezes their eggs when they’re 19 just for kicks? Seriously that’s just weird.

Op here. Do you know what a CRNA is? I had to get my BSN, and work a year in ICU in order to go for CRNA. That takes 6 years to complete. I was previously a pharmacist, but hated it.

I didn't get my eggs frozen for " kicks". I explained why in other posts. I am not from DC, and got my eggs frozen where I was born. It is true that they will likely be unusable.

I am not a trophy anything. Last time I checked, trophy wives don't have a PharmD.

BSN is four years, plus one year working in ICU. That's five, not six years.

Op here. It is six. BSN is not always 4 years. Many states now offer a 3 year program. I did 3 years for my BSN, one year in ICU, and now about to do a 2 year CRNA program. 5 years for school, 6 if you count working in ICU for a year.

Get moving OP. I was an RN with a BSN at 21. Had a kid at 24, another at 26.
Lucky me, I'm 42 with an 18 and 16 year old.
You have wasted so many years.
BTW! Pharmacy is much better than nursing. Why on earth would you leave a great pharmacy profession?

Op here. Good for you for having a child at 24 and 26. I was enjoying my single years. I would never want to have a child at 24, but that you. I didn't waste any of my years. Pharmacy is a good profession but it wasn't for me. I starred when I was young. As I grew and figured who out who am I, and what I want, I realized pharmacy didn't make me happy, and I didn't want to spend my time at a job that I didn't like. I am not just an RN, I will be a CRNA.

I can easily say you wasted your free 20's having kids young, but I won't because that is what you wanted. Neither path is wrong. Don't belittle or put others down because they didn't chose to have kids young and or empty nesters at 42.

Wow, aren't you special? BFD. You are still a nurse. What does the N is CRNA stand for?

seriously. and she hasn't even gotten her certificate yet!

NP here. CRNAs don't get a certificate. They get a degree and a license.

OMG so tired of this stupid certificate that any moron could get being made into a nobel prize level accomplishment.