Baby Now or Wait 2 Years?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why not do med school if you are so smart? Oh yeah, you aren't.

She probably went to pharmacy to begin with because she couldn't make the med school. Then she realized she cared less about prestige than about the day to day work. But will still insist nursing is like a totally prestigious incredibly competitive profession.

You're ignorant. I'm not OP but I'm a doctor. I wonder what you you do that you feel you're superior? Is nursing hard? Yes. Is it prestigious? No. Is CRNA hard and prestigious? Yes. You are completely ignorant to what a CRNA even does or how hard the work to become one. A CRNA deals with ICU patients by checking vitals, intubating, standing in for anesthesiologists, etc., but no, they and OP are dumb. Spend one day in that life and then tell me how easy it is.

Geez, your grammar is atrocious. You’re a doctor? I guess doctors just aren’t very smart nowadays. OP, you sound ridiculous. You’ve only been married for 3 years to a lawyer on partner track who wants 3-4 kids? He may be indulging your silly idea now to become a CRNA and have 3 kids later, but let’s see what happens 3 years later when you’re struggling to deliver on your promise. He’ll find a younger, hotter wife and breeder so fast...

Op here. I have to laugh at this dumb response. I wanted to be a CRNA before I even met my husband. He fully supports me. We are very happily married. I am wise enough to know you don't have a child when you're not ready for one, or you don't think you can handle it. You may be fine with a nanny or daycare raising your children, but I'm not.

If you wanted to become a crna before you even met your husband, why didn’t you do the program before? You could have finished it by now. Did you not get in? Honestly, it sounds like you’re a dumb trophy wife that your husband primarily married to have kids. I bet he doesn’t know about the egg freezing. Who freezes their eggs when they’re 19 just for kicks? Seriously that’s just weird.

Op here. Do you know what a CRNA is? I had to get my BSN, and work a year in ICU in order to go for CRNA. That takes 6 years to complete. I was previously a pharmacist, but hated it.

I didn't get my eggs frozen for " kicks". I explained why in other posts. I am not from DC, and got my eggs frozen where I was born. It is true that they will likely be unusable.

I am not a trophy anything. Last time I checked, trophy wives don't have a PharmD.

BSN is four years, plus one year working in ICU. That's five, not six years.

Op here. It is six. BSN is not always 4 years. Many states now offer a 3 year program. I did 3 years for my BSN, one year in ICU, and now about to do a 2 year CRNA program. 5 years for school, 6 if you count working in ICU for a year.

Get moving OP. I was an RN with a BSN at 21. Had a kid at 24, another at 26.
Lucky me, I'm 42 with an 18 and 16 year old.
You have wasted so many years.
BTW! Pharmacy is much better than nursing. Why on earth would you leave a great pharmacy profession?

Not OP but thats bs. To say someone " wasted" their years because I they didn't have children at 24 and 26 is ignorant. Most people on this board didn't stay at 24. I had mine at 31. Did I waste my years, too? Everyone leads their own life. Who are you to say she or anyone wasted their years because they didn't follow the path you did? That's arrogant and uncalled for.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, given that the OP is 33 and wants 3 kids - I would just drop the idea of the program and start a family now. This is from someone who had her first after having establishing her career at 35 - but my career at that point was well established and I could afford to take plenty of time and enjoy the kids (eventually 3 of them - though we both had not initially planned on more than 1, which is why we had felt comfortable waiting). Once OP finishes her program at 36, she'll want to get started in what sounds like a tough job, while at the same time having 3 kids in 3 or 4 years (??? Quite a feat in your 20's). It simply isn't plausible. Also, postponing the start of the career until 3 kids are out of diapers/toddlerhood (as the OP doesn't like daycare/nannies) would mean starting in her 40's. Also not great. If family were a priority, it would be best to work as a nurse in a family friendly environment and get started now, as it looks like money is not an issue.
My guess? The OP will give priority to her career, and maybe end up with 1 kid in her late 30s. THAT is the discussion she should be having with her husband NOW. Will he be happy if that is the outcome?

Op here. I will be 35 when I graduate, not 36. I am honestly fine with having 1-2 kids. We plan to start in a year. I may be in a new marriage, but from reading on here, some of you are married 10+ years without a solid marriage. I will take my chances. I will not let anyone force me into something as major as having a child before I am ready.

you are fine with 1-2 but your husband wants 4. that's a big disconnect.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why not do med school if you are so smart? Oh yeah, you aren't.

She probably went to pharmacy to begin with because she couldn't make the med school. Then she realized she cared less about prestige than about the day to day work. But will still insist nursing is like a totally prestigious incredibly competitive profession.

You're ignorant. I'm not OP but I'm a doctor. I wonder what you you do that you feel you're superior? Is nursing hard? Yes. Is it prestigious? No. Is CRNA hard and prestigious? Yes. You are completely ignorant to what a CRNA even does or how hard the work to become one. A CRNA deals with ICU patients by checking vitals, intubating, standing in for anesthesiologists, etc., but no, they and OP are dumb. Spend one day in that life and then tell me how easy it is.

Geez, your grammar is atrocious. You’re a doctor? I guess doctors just aren’t very smart nowadays. OP, you sound ridiculous. You’ve only been married for 3 years to a lawyer on partner track who wants 3-4 kids? He may be indulging your silly idea now to become a CRNA and have 3 kids later, but let’s see what happens 3 years later when you’re struggling to deliver on your promise. He’ll find a younger, hotter wife and breeder so fast...

Op here. I have to laugh at this dumb response. I wanted to be a CRNA before I even met my husband. He fully supports me. We are very happily married. I am wise enough to know you don't have a child when you're not ready for one, or you don't think you can handle it. You may be fine with a nanny or daycare raising your children, but I'm not.

If you wanted to become a crna before you even met your husband, why didn’t you do the program before? You could have finished it by now. Did you not get in? Honestly, it sounds like you’re a dumb trophy wife that your husband primarily married to have kids. I bet he doesn’t know about the egg freezing. Who freezes their eggs when they’re 19 just for kicks? Seriously that’s just weird.

Op here. Do you know what a CRNA is? I had to get my BSN, and work a year in ICU in order to go for CRNA. That takes 6 years to complete. I was previously a pharmacist, but hated it.

I didn't get my eggs frozen for " kicks". I explained why in other posts. I am not from DC, and got my eggs frozen where I was born. It is true that they will likely be unusable.

I am not a trophy anything. Last time I checked, trophy wives don't have a PharmD.

BSN is four years, plus one year working in ICU. That's five, not six years.

Op here. It is six. BSN is not always 4 years. Many states now offer a 3 year program. I did 3 years for my BSN, one year in ICU, and now about to do a 2 year CRNA program. 5 years for school, 6 if you count working in ICU for a year.

Get moving OP. I was an RN with a BSN at 21. Had a kid at 24, another at 26.
Lucky me, I'm 42 with an 18 and 16 year old.
You have wasted so many years.
BTW! Pharmacy is much better than nursing. Why on earth would you leave a great pharmacy profession?

Op here. Good for you for having a child at 24 and 26. I was enjoying my single years. I would never want to have a child at 24, but that you. I didn't waste any of my years. Pharmacy is a good profession but it wasn't for me. I starred when I was young. As I grew and figured who out who am I, and what I want, I realized pharmacy didn't make me happy, and I didn't want to spend my time at a job that I didn't like. I am not just an RN, I will be a CRNA.

I can easily say you wasted your free 20's having kids young, but I won't because that is what you wanted. Neither path is wrong. Don't belittle or put others down because they didn't chose to have kids young and or empty nesters at 42.

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Anonymous wrote:Most people won't have trouble having kids at 35-39. Problem is you don't know if you're most people.

I'd do some testing with my OB. They can tell you a decent amount through some simple bloodwork in terms of whether or not you're looking like an early fertility decliner. No guarantees though in any case.

+ 1

My mother and grandmother were fertilility goddesses. Me? I had trouble conceiving starting at age 32.

Was lucky to get to 2 babies by age 39 and then my ovaries gave out.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why not do med school if you are so smart? Oh yeah, you aren't.

She probably went to pharmacy to begin with because she couldn't make the med school. Then she realized she cared less about prestige than about the day to day work. But will still insist nursing is like a totally prestigious incredibly competitive profession.

You're ignorant. I'm not OP but I'm a doctor. I wonder what you you do that you feel you're superior? Is nursing hard? Yes. Is it prestigious? No. Is CRNA hard and prestigious? Yes. You are completely ignorant to what a CRNA even does or how hard the work to become one. A CRNA deals with ICU patients by checking vitals, intubating, standing in for anesthesiologists, etc., but no, they and OP are dumb. Spend one day in that life and then tell me how easy it is.

Geez, your grammar is atrocious. You’re a doctor? I guess doctors just aren’t very smart nowadays. OP, you sound ridiculous. You’ve only been married for 3 years to a lawyer on partner track who wants 3-4 kids? He may be indulging your silly idea now to become a CRNA and have 3 kids later, but let’s see what happens 3 years later when you’re struggling to deliver on your promise. He’ll find a younger, hotter wife and breeder so fast...

Op here. I have to laugh at this dumb response. I wanted to be a CRNA before I even met my husband. He fully supports me. We are very happily married. I am wise enough to know you don't have a child when you're not ready for one, or you don't think you can handle it. You may be fine with a nanny or daycare raising your children, but I'm not.

If you wanted to become a crna before you even met your husband, why didn’t you do the program before? You could have finished it by now. Did you not get in? Honestly, it sounds like you’re a dumb trophy wife that your husband primarily married to have kids. I bet he doesn’t know about the egg freezing. Who freezes their eggs when they’re 19 just for kicks? Seriously that’s just weird.

Op here. Do you know what a CRNA is? I had to get my BSN, and work a year in ICU in order to go for CRNA. That takes 6 years to complete. I was previously a pharmacist, but hated it.

I didn't get my eggs frozen for " kicks". I explained why in other posts. I am not from DC, and got my eggs frozen where I was born. It is true that they will likely be unusable.

I am not a trophy anything. Last time I checked, trophy wives don't have a PharmD.

BSN is four years, plus one year working in ICU. That's five, not six years.

Op here. It is six. BSN is not always 4 years. Many states now offer a 3 year program. I did 3 years for my BSN, one year in ICU, and now about to do a 2 year CRNA program. 5 years for school, 6 if you count working in ICU for a year.

Get moving OP. I was an RN with a BSN at 21. Had a kid at 24, another at 26.
Lucky me, I'm 42 with an 18 and 16 year old.
You have wasted so many years.
BTW! Pharmacy is much better than nursing. Why on earth would you leave a great pharmacy profession?

Not OP but thats bs. To say someone " wasted" their years because I they didn't have children at 24 and 26 is ignorant. Most people on this board didn't stay at 24. I had mine at 31. Did I waste my years, too? Everyone leads their own life. Wh

o are you to say she or anyone wasted their years because they didn't follow the path you did? That's arrogant and uncalled for.

+ OP. Not everyone wants to become a parent at the young age of 24.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, given that the OP is 33 and wants 3 kids - I would just drop the idea of the program and start a family now. This is from someone who had her first after having establishing her career at 35 - but my career at that point was well established and I could afford to take plenty of time and enjoy the kids (eventually 3 of them - though we both had not initially planned on more than 1, which is why we had felt comfortable waiting). Once OP finishes her program at 36, she'll want to get started in what sounds like a tough job, while at the same time having 3 kids in 3 or 4 years (??? Quite a feat in your 20's). It simply isn't plausible. Also, postponing the start of the career until 3 kids are out of diapers/toddlerhood (as the OP doesn't like daycare/nannies) would mean starting in her 40's. Also not great. If family were a priority, it would be best to work as a nurse in a family friendly environment and get started now, as it looks like money is not an issue.
My guess? The OP will give priority to her career, and maybe end up with 1 kid in her late 30s. THAT is the discussion she should be having with her husband NOW. Will he be happy if that is the outcome?

Op here. I will be 35 when I graduate, not 36. I am honestly fine with having 1-2 kids. We plan to start in a year. I may be in a new marriage, but from reading on here, some of you are married 10+ years without a solid marriage. I will take my chances. I will not let anyone force me into something as major as having a child before I am ready.

I am the "Honestly..." poster. Something in your timeline doesn't add up. You said you just turned 33, will start the 2 year program next fall at almost 34, and therefore will be almost 36 by the time you graduate. But I guess you'll get pregnant just in time for delivery in the few months in-between graduation and your 36th birthday (you wanted your first at 35). And if it's as rigorous a program as you claim, you'll really want to be pregnant during your second year (?!). You are so naive!!
If you are fine with just 1 kid - then you've wasted the time of a lot of people: It's not a big deal to delay by a couple of years in that case. Is your husband ok with that?
I've been with my husband for over 20 years, and we've been through plenty of tough times. You are still in the honeymoon phase.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, given that the OP is 33 and wants 3 kids - I would just drop the idea of the program and start a family now. This is from someone who had her first after having establishing her career at 35 - but my career at that point was well established and I could afford to take plenty of time and enjoy the kids (eventually 3 of them - though we both had not initially planned on more than 1, which is why we had felt comfortable waiting). Once OP finishes her program at 36, she'll want to get started in what sounds like a tough job, while at the same time having 3 kids in 3 or 4 years (??? Quite a feat in your 20's). It simply isn't plausible. Also, postponing the start of the career until 3 kids are out of diapers/toddlerhood (as the OP doesn't like daycare/nannies) would mean starting in her 40's. Also not great. If family were a priority, it would be best to work as a nurse in a family friendly environment and get started now, as it looks like money is not an issue.
My guess? The OP will give priority to her career, and maybe end up with 1 kid in her late 30s. THAT is the discussion she should be having with her husband NOW. Will he be happy if that is the outcome?

Op here. I will be 35 when I graduate, not 36. I am honestly fine with having 1-2 kids. We plan to start in a year. I may be in a new marriage, but from reading on here, some of you are married 10+ years without a solid marriage. I will take my chances. I will not let anyone force me into something as major as having a child before I am ready.

Even those marriages were probably decently strong in the beginning.

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Anonymous wrote:You went from a Pharmacist to an RN? That's a downgrade.

BTW! I'm an RN too.

Op here. Yes. I am going for my CRNA. That's an upgrade!

As an RN, I disagree. A pharmacist is higher than a CRNA.
Plus, you did downgrade, now you are working your way up.....at the expense of having kids.

It may be a downgrade in terms of pay & prestige but, for someone who values patient interaction, it is a huge upgrade in terms of job satisfaction.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why not do med school if you are so smart? Oh yeah, you aren't.

She probably went to pharmacy to begin with because she couldn't make the med school. Then she realized she cared less about prestige than about the day to day work. But will still insist nursing is like a totally prestigious incredibly competitive profession.

You're ignorant. I'm not OP but I'm a doctor. I wonder what you you do that you feel you're superior? Is nursing hard? Yes. Is it prestigious? No. Is CRNA hard and prestigious? Yes. You are completely ignorant to what a CRNA even does or how hard the work to become one. A CRNA deals with ICU patients by checking vitals, intubating, standing in for anesthesiologists, etc., but no, they and OP are dumb. Spend one day in that life and then tell me how easy it is.

Geez, your grammar is atrocious. You’re a doctor? I guess doctors just aren’t very smart nowadays. OP, you sound ridiculous. You’ve only been married for 3 years to a lawyer on partner track who wants 3-4 kids? He may be indulging your silly idea now to become a CRNA and have 3 kids later, but let’s see what happens 3 years later when you’re struggling to deliver on your promise. He’ll find a younger, hotter wife and breeder so fast...

Op here. I have to laugh at this dumb response. I wanted to be a CRNA before I even met my husband. He fully supports me. We are very happily married. I am wise enough to know you don't have a child when you're not ready for one, or you don't think you can handle it. You may be fine with a nanny or daycare raising your children, but I'm not.

If you wanted to become a crna before you even met your husband, why didn’t you do the program before? You could have finished it by now. Did you not get in? Honestly, it sounds like you’re a dumb trophy wife that your husband primarily married to have kids. I bet he doesn’t know about the egg freezing. Who freezes their eggs when they’re 19 just for kicks? Seriously that’s just weird.

Op here. Do you know what a CRNA is? I had to get my BSN, and work a year in ICU in order to go for CRNA. That takes 6 years to complete. I was previously a pharmacist, but hated it.

I didn't get my eggs frozen for " kicks". I explained why in other posts. I am not from DC, and got my eggs frozen where I was born. It is true that they will likely be unusable.

I am not a trophy anything. Last time I checked, trophy wives don't have a PharmD.

BSN is four years, plus one year working in ICU. That's five, not six years.

Op here. It is six. BSN is not always 4 years. Many states now offer a 3 year program. I did 3 years for my BSN, one year in ICU, and now about to do a 2 year CRNA program. 5 years for school, 6 if you count working in ICU for a year.

Get moving OP. I was an RN with a BSN at 21. Had a kid at 24, another at 26.
Lucky me, I'm 42 with an 18 and 16 year old.
You have wasted so many years.
BTW! Pharmacy is much better than nursing. Why on earth would you leave a great pharmacy profession?

Op here. Good for you for having a child at 24 and 26. I was enjoying my single years. I would never want to have a child at 24, but that you. I didn't waste any of my years. Pharmacy is a good profession but it wasn't for me. I starred when I was young. As I grew and figured who out who am I, and what I want, I realized pharmacy didn't make me happy, and I didn't want to spend my time at a job that I didn't like. I am not just an RN, I will be a CRNA.

I can easily say you wasted your free 20's having kids young, but I won't because that is what you wanted. Neither path is wrong. Don't belittle or put others down because they didn't chose to have kids young and or empty nesters at 42.

Wow, aren't you special? BFD. You are still a nurse. What does the N is CRNA stand for?

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Anonymous wrote:You went from a Pharmacist to an RN? That's a downgrade.

BTW! I'm an RN too.

Op here. Yes. I am going for my CRNA. That's an upgrade!

As an RN, I disagree. A pharmacist is higher than a CRNA.
Plus, you did downgrade, now you are working your way up.....at the expense of having kids.

It may be a downgrade in terms of pay & prestige but, for someone who values patient interaction, it is a huge upgrade in terms of job satisfaction.

I'm a nurse, I regret not going into pharmacy. Nursing is stressful.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why not do med school if you are so smart? Oh yeah, you aren't.

Perhaps because med school is more expensive, becoming a doctor is a longer process requiring a multi-year residency with low pay & very long hours, because nursing typically alllows for more patient interaction, &/or because nursing is a much better field for those looking to work a flexible schedule/a schedule that is more conducive to raising a family?

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Def wait. Having a baby while working and going to school all at the same time is insanity,

Many many women get pregnant at 35 easily with no issues. Don’t worry about that. It’s a myth that fertility falls off a cliff at 35. It’s more like early 40s.

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I had my kids back to back - 25, 27, 29, and 31. I’m an RN too. I wouldn’t recommend that course of action, lol. It’s a LOT of work. Have one and see how you feel then.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why not do med school if you are so smart? Oh yeah, you aren't.

She probably went to pharmacy to begin with because she couldn't make the med school. Then she realized she cared less about prestige than about the day to day work. But will still insist nursing is like a totally prestigious incredibly competitive profession.

You're ignorant. I'm not OP but I'm a doctor. I wonder what you you do that you feel you're superior? Is nursing hard? Yes. Is it prestigious? No. Is CRNA hard and prestigious? Yes. You are completely ignorant to what a CRNA even does or how hard the work to become one. A CRNA deals with ICU patients by checking vitals, intubating, standing in for anesthesiologists, etc., but no, they and OP are dumb. Spend one day in that life and then tell me how easy it is.

Geez, your grammar is atrocious. You’re a doctor? I guess doctors just aren’t very smart nowadays. OP, you sound ridiculous. You’ve only been married for 3 years to a lawyer on partner track who wants 3-4 kids? He may be indulging your silly idea now to become a CRNA and have 3 kids later, but let’s see what happens 3 years later when you’re struggling to deliver on your promise. He’ll find a younger, hotter wife and breeder so fast...

Op here. I have to laugh at this dumb response. I wanted to be a CRNA before I even met my husband. He fully supports me. We are very happily married. I am wise enough to know you don't have a child when you're not ready for one, or you don't think you can handle it. You may be fine with a nanny or daycare raising your children, but I'm not.

If you wanted to become a crna before you even met your husband, why didn’t you do the program before? You could have finished it by now. Did you not get in? Honestly, it sounds like you’re a dumb trophy wife that your husband primarily married to have kids. I bet he doesn’t know about the egg freezing. Who freezes their eggs when they’re 19 just for kicks? Seriously that’s just weird.

Op here. Do you know what a CRNA is? I had to get my BSN, and work a year in ICU in order to go for CRNA. That takes 6 years to complete. I was previously a pharmacist, but hated it.

I didn't get my eggs frozen for " kicks". I explained why in other posts. I am not from DC, and got my eggs frozen where I was born. It is true that they will likely be unusable.

I am not a trophy anything. Last time I checked, trophy wives don't have a PharmD.

BSN is four years, plus one year working in ICU. That's five, not six years.

Op here. It is six. BSN is not always 4 years. Many states now offer a 3 year program. I did 3 years for my BSN, one year in ICU, and now about to do a 2 year CRNA program. 5 years for school, 6 if you count working in ICU for a year.

Get moving OP. I was an RN with a BSN at 21. Had a kid at 24, another at 26.
Lucky me, I'm 42 with an 18 and 16 year old.
You have wasted so many years.
BTW! Pharmacy is much better than nursing. Why on earth would you leave a great pharmacy profession?

Not OP but thats bs. To say someone " wasted" their years because I they didn't have children at 24 and 26 is ignorant. Most people on this board didn't stay at 24. I had mine at 31. Did I waste my years, too? Everyone leads their own life. Wh

o are you to say she or anyone wasted their years because they didn't follow the path you did? That's arrogant and uncalled for.

+ OP. Not everyone wants to become a parent at the young age of 24.

OP is not 24 anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:You went from a Pharmacist to an RN? That's a downgrade.

BTW! I'm an RN too.

Op here. Yes. I am going for my CRNA. That's an upgrade!

As an RN, I disagree. A pharmacist is higher than a CRNA.
Plus, you did downgrade, now you are working your way up.....at the expense of having kids.

It may be a downgrade in terms of pay & prestige but, for someone who values patient interaction, it is a huge upgrade in terms of job satisfaction.

In my state CRNA makes roughly $185,000 gross, while pharmacist makes $110,000. That's a hug pay difference.