I caught her on a date with another guy.

[Anonymous]

I hope you come back and update us, OP.

[Anonymous]

Any update, op? Hopefully you are with the girl rather than on dcurbanmom....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just don't think the two of you are really into each other.

14 dates over three months? By three months, my now-DH and I were spending all weekends together and seeing each other at least evening during the week. I cannot imagine that either of you would seem so lukewarm about each other if this relationship really has potential.

OP here. We have been seeing each other other often but we both work for a living. I sometimes put in 16 hour days, and she is a pharmacy student who works as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:More fragile than the wings of a butterfly is the ego of a man.

No joke. Come on op. You've been dating since...January. A whole 8 weeks (if that). She can date and/or sleep with however she wants. You done overly controlling and possessive btw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can you be angry if (1) you don't know anything about the circumstances and (2) you never told her you wanted to be exclusive? What if this was a cousin, a friend, a contact from work?

It was definitely work. She was cuddled up next to him I'm a booth.


She doesn't sleep around. She's not that type of woman and I won let you insinuate that she is.

Dude how do you know that she isnt that type?you didnt even expect her to be on dates with other men until you caught her in the act.like one poster said get out while you can man.most women in this day and age are trouble

What kind of woman is that exactly? A woman who has sex with people other than you? The horror.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just don't think the two of you are really into each other.

14 dates over three months? By three months, my now-DH and I were spending all weekends together and seeing each other at least evening during the week. I cannot imagine that either of you would seem so lukewarm about each other if this relationship really has potential.

OP here. We have been seeing each other other often but we both work for a living. I sometimes put in 16 hour days, and she is a pharmacy student who works as well.

So did you guys work it out? Are you exclusive?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:More fragile than the wings of a butterfly is the ego of a man.

No joke. Come on op. You've been dating since...January. A whole 8 weeks (if that). She can date and/or sleep with however she wants. You done overly controlling and possessive btw.

He stopped seeing anyone else a week after meeting her. He should tell her she can date and sleep with whomever she wants, but he should hightail out of there. Clearly they are not on the same wavelength and she is not as into him as he is into her.

That said, her loss, he seems like a solid guy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just don't think the two of you are really into each other.

14 dates over three months? By three months, my now-DH and I were spending all weekends together and seeing each other at least evening during the week. I cannot imagine that either of you would seem so lukewarm about each other if this relationship really has potential.

OP here. We have been seeing each other other often but we both work for a living. I sometimes put in 16 hour days, and she is a pharmacy student who works as well.

It makes sense, but it isn't the classic model of a relationship that it is so clearly exclusive that it can be unspoken. Generally those involve sacrificing sleep for sex and intimacy for some period of time. It would involve assumptions that you would be seeing each other and sleeping over somewhere at least on the weekends if not more. Not that your taking it slow method can't be exclusive, but you would definitely always have to have a discussion before making such an assumption.

[Anonymous]

Funny. I'm the pp from 10:22. 10:19 and I were thinking the exact same thing!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Funny. I'm the pp from 10:22. 10:19 and I were thinking the exact same thing!

I posted something similar yesterday - although I think it is a mutual lack of interest:

"I just don't think the two of you are really into each other.

14 dates over three months? By three months, my now-DH and I were spending all weekends together and seeing each other at least evening during the week. I cannot imagine that either of you would seem so lukewarm about each other if this relationship really has potential."

[Anonymous]

If they've already had sex several times, yet she's snuggling guys behind his back, it shows she has formed no significant emotional bond with him and is probably completely incapable of it. It has nothing to do with any false notion of having an exclusivity talk. If she hasn't bonded with him after several sexual encounters she can't or wont. She is a casual sex chick, nothing more.

Op never try to turn a ho into a housewife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they've already had sex several times, yet she's snuggling guys behind his back, it shows she has formed no significant emotional bond with him and is probably completely incapable of it. It has nothing to do with any false notion of having an exclusivity talk. If she hasn't bonded with him after several sexual encounters she can't or wont. She is a casual sex chick, nothing more.

Op never try to turn a ho into a housewife.

THIS!!!

PREACH IT!!!

[Anonymous]

Op here. I didn't corner her into anything. You seem like the clingy type. Not everyone sees each other everyday. Sine people earn a living. I didn't force her to do anything and I don't appreciate you saying that I have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I didn't corner her into anything. You seem like the clingy type. Not everyone sees each other everyday. Sine people earn a living. I didn't force her to do anything and I don't appreciate you saying that I have.

OP, a different PP here. I had posted that you two seemed to be missing that spark since you weren't actually that focused on seeing each other. But it sounds now as if you have mutually decided to really invest time and effort in this, so maybe it was just a slow simmer. That can happen, too - like when friends decide they want to be together. So good luck!

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I didn't corner her into anything. You seem like the clingy type. Not everyone sees each other everyday. Sine people earn a living. I didn't force her to do anything and I don't appreciate you saying that I have.

OP, a different PP here. I had posted that you two seemed to be missing that spark since you weren't actually that focused on seeing each other. But it sounds now as if you have mutually decided to really invest time and effort in this, so maybe it was just a slow simmer. That can happen, too - like when friends decide they want to be together. So good luck!

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