Dealing with jealous sister who's still TTC

[Anonymous]

Is this still a thing???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

privileges and benefits

Op Those of us who truly have an abundance of privileges and benefits don't feel the need to constantly comment on our privileges. It is in extreme poor taste, and makes you look very insecure.

You are a complete idiot, PP. I just got done saying I DON'T comment on my privileges and benefits, to anyone. I acknoweldge what I have are benefits and privileges, many of them not of my control or effort. So of course it would be in poor taste to mention them to people I know. I'm acknowledging it here, for the first time, on an anonymous board to highlight some possible reasons for my sister's jealousy. If I simply said she was jealous, the idiot snarks would ask, "How can it be that she's so jealous of you?" "Why would she be so jelaous of you?" or "Sorry OP, without more information, we think you must be making it all up and you're probably a troll." I'm quite content with my life. I think by acknowledging these privileges it has irked you, despite it being anonymous. Sorry, PP, but people should be able to say things on an anonymous board they would not say otherwise, especially if it actually serves a purpose, and here, commenting on the differences between my sister and my life is highly relevant to determining WHY my sister is so jealous and the best way to deal with it. IF it really irks you that much, leave the thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Loopy loopy OP, stop and have some self respect. We pity your family who have to deal with you, especially your poor husband and children.

Sure, lonely woman, as soon as you do.

NP to this thread, although I have been reading it since day one.

Ladies, it is clear that there is no reason to keep posting. OP is clearly someone who desperately needs to have the last word. Why? Insecurity. She is clearly under the delusion that having the last word somehow means "winning" the argument. She has not learned that there is no more value in the last word than in any others in any debate.

[Anonymous]

Yeah..I'm the poster who got her degree in psych 101 from a "community college". Anytime a person disagrees with OP's approach she feels the need to attack. How is it possible she is ignoring her sister's comments/behavior that infuriate her so much she has already listed every interaction on here about three times plus? Anyone else find this *HIGHLY* unlikely?

OP, I'm glad a psychiatrist gave you some help with your sis. Generally speaking, psychiatrists don't do family therapy nor have specific training in it. Also, you went to this psych by yourself, if you went in for family counseling, with your sister, trust me, it would look completely different. You would need to examine your own role, something you are not capable of doing. I see that you are getting agitated again by the way you are writing. You might consider that beyond feeling irritated or attacked on here by some, you might be hearing some things that are simply hard to hear, because they are true. I know you can't/won't consider this, but I do hope the best for you.

I also think it can't be a very happy time to be pregnant and come on here day in and day out and have a bunch of people telling you you are wrong- I do hope you find a way to bow out, because at this point I doubt it's good for your health.

[Anonymous]

I feel really sorry for OP's kids. Hopefully the father is normal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Loopy loopy OP, stop and have some self respect. We pity your family who have to deal with you, especially your poor husband and children.

Sure, lonely woman, as soon as you do.

Hahaha...you are funny without even knowing it because you don't see your own craziness. Unlike you, we don't have to brag about what we have, and really have. Our lives are blessed with love, a strong family unity and we are happy to be in each others lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel really sorry for OP's kids. Hopefully the father is normal.

Ditto 1 million times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Loopy loopy OP, stop and have some self respect. We pity your family who have to deal with you, especially your poor husband and children.

Sure, lonely woman, as soon as you do.

Hahaha...you are funny without even knowing it because you don't see your own craziness. Unlike you, we don't have to brag about what we have, and really have. Our lives are blessed with love, a strong family unity and we are happy to be in each others lives.

We could not agree more. OP is absolutely crazy, delusional, and unstable. Our sympathies go to her husband and children. You can pick your friends but not you crazy mother. As others have suggested OP, get off this board and get help.

[Anonymous]

This is what kills me about this whole thread. OP can attack perfect strangers in countless ways- their looks, education, etc because in her words, she thinks they need a taste of their own medicine. Yet, she claims to have no role in her troubles with her sister. So let me get this straight OP, every time your sister has been rude to you, you take the high road? How are we supposed to believe this, given your behavior on here? If you can't tolerate a rude comment from someone you don't know..at all, how is it possible that you are truly ignoring your sister? lets put this another way..when you were 15 and your sister was 11, were you ever rude, mean or hostile to her? never? How about fast forward four years from that point? never? It seems like all of your sister's past comments dating back to high school or earlier have traumatized you to the point of insanity, yet you have never, ever said anything back to her?

Your choice to give her the silent treatment now (what has it been a year? two years of silent treatment?) is not reflective of your whole relationship with her, although you would love for your audience to believe you are a delicate flower cringing under the hostile weight of your sister. Yes, we are supposed to believe this while you offer hostile attack after hostile attack.

Beyond this, giving the silent treatment is still playing a role in the problem. It does not make you look innocent, mature, or any of the other positive traits you've deluded yourself into thinking- it makes you look like a sullen kid sitting in a sandbox.

[Anonymous]

It's too bad we can't hear from the sister.

[Anonymous]

If there is a sister. Maybe this is OP's make believe sister.

[Anonymous]

you look like a sullen kid sitting in a sandbox

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is what kills me about this whole thread. OP can attack perfect strangers in countless ways- their looks, education, etc because in her words, she thinks they need a taste of their own medicine. Yet, she claims to have no role in her troubles with her sister. So let me get this straight OP, every time your sister has been rude to you, you take the high road? How are we supposed to believe this, given your behavior on here? If you can't tolerate a rude comment from someone you don't know..at all, how is it possible that you are truly ignoring your sister?

Ding ding ding!

[Anonymous]

As someone with a crazy mother, I really feel sorry for OP's kids. I see years of therapy in their future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is what kills me about this whole thread. OP can attack perfect strangers in countless ways- their looks, education, etc because in her words, she thinks they need a taste of their own medicine. Yet, she claims to have no role in her troubles with her sister. So let me get this straight OP, every time your sister has been rude to you, you take the high road? How are we supposed to believe this, given your behavior on here? If you can't tolerate a rude comment from someone you don't know..at all, how is it possible that you are truly ignoring your sister? lets put this another way..when you were 15 and your sister was 11, were you ever rude, mean or hostile to her? never? How about fast forward four years from that point? never? It seems like all of your sister's past comments dating back to high school or earlier have traumatized you to the point of insanity, yet you have never, ever said anything back to her?

Your choice to give her the silent treatment now (what has it been a year? two years of silent treatment?) is not reflective of your whole relationship with her, although you would love for your audience to believe you are a delicate flower cringing under the hostile weight of your sister. Yes, we are supposed to believe this while you offer hostile attack after hostile attack.

Beyond this, giving the silent treatment is still playing a role in the problem. It does not make you look innocent, mature, or any of the other positive traits you've deluded yourself into thinking- it makes you look like a sullen kid sitting in a sandbox.

I returned tonight from a trip to my parents home. Sis was agitated all weekend as I suspected. For those who are concerned about DH also being messed up, no need to worry. He's the pillar of decorum and civility and well known in the medical community. We've been married for fifteen years. As for those who are concerned about my child(ren), no need to worry there either. I'm a protective mom and well known as a great mom in the school community. You're grasping at straws now because you're running out of arguments with me.

I never sat back and just allowed my sister to abuse me or humiliate me. When and where did I say that? That's what I mean about being Rinky Dink graduates. You're still not reading well or you have a poor memory. When my sister compared her husband to my DH, I confronted her and asked how that would help endear my DH to her husband. When my sister accused me of marrying DH for money (this after 10 years of marriage), I asked for the evidence. I told her I felt she was just jealous because her DH wasn't helping her out financially. When my sister pestered my mom with numerous questions about my pregnancy, I asked my mom to ask her why she needs or wants to know considering we have no relationship. But when my sister insisted DC was on the autism spectrum and her child had no problems I kept quiet. Any comments about her DC would have been too low a blow so I stayed out of that one. But I never let her get away with her accusations or snide comments. That's why I think it has fueled the fire between us. Ultimately I realized the best way to stop it all was to avoid her altogether. Sorry PP, your sandbox analogy is just stupid. I hate communicating with stupid people. Ignoring her jealousy but still keeping in touch with her would be like staying in the sandbox. Walking out of that sandbox to avoid getting sand thrown at me is what I did.

I've realized that the posters I'm dealing with now are the lowest common denominator of all DCUM'ers, the ones with the lowest IQ.