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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is what kills me about this whole thread.  OP can attack perfect strangers in countless ways- their looks, education, etc because in her words, she thinks they need a taste of their own medicine.  Yet, she claims to have no role in her troubles with her sister.  So let me get this straight OP, every time your sister has been rude to you, you take the high road?  How are we supposed to believe this, given your behavior on here? If you can't tolerate a rude comment from someone you don't know..at all, how is it possible that you are truly ignoring your sister? lets put this another way..when you were 15 and your sister was 11, were you ever rude, mean or hostile to her? never?  How about fast forward four years from that point?  never?  It seems like all of your sister's past comments dating back to high school or earlier have traumatized you to the point of insanity, yet you have never, ever said anything back to her?

Your choice to give her the silent treatment now (what has it been a year? two years of silent treatment?) is not reflective of your whole relationship with her, although you would love for your audience to believe you are a delicate flower cringing under the hostile weight of your sister.  Yes, we are supposed to believe this while you offer hostile attack after hostile attack.

Beyond this, giving the silent treatment is still playing a role in the problem.  It does not make you look innocent, mature, or any of the other positive traits you've deluded yourself into thinking- it makes you look like a sullen kid sitting in a sandbox.  [/quote]

I returned tonight from a trip to my parents home. Sis was agitated all weekend as I suspected.  For those who are concerned about DH also being messed up, no need to worry. He's the pillar of decorum and civility and well known in the medical community. We've been married for fifteen years. As for those who are concerned about my child(ren), no need to worry there either. I'm a protective mom and well known as a great mom in the school community. You're grasping at straws now because you're running out of arguments with me.

I never sat back and just allowed my sister to abuse me or humiliate me. When and where did I say that? That's what I mean about being Rinky Dink graduates. You're still not reading well or you have a poor memory. When my sister compared her husband to my DH, I confronted her and asked how that would help endear my DH to her husband. When my sister accused me of marrying DH for money (this after 10 years of marriage), I asked for the evidence. I told her I felt she was just jealous because her DH wasn't helping her out financially. When my sister pestered my mom with numerous questions about my pregnancy, I asked my mom to ask her why she needs or wants to know considering we have no relationship.  But when my sister insisted DC was on the autism spectrum and her child had no problems I kept quiet. Any comments about her DC would have been too low a blow so I stayed out of that one. But I never let her get away with her accusations or snide comments. That's why I think it has fueled the fire between us. Ultimately I realized the best way to stop it all was to avoid her altogether. Sorry PP, your sandbox analogy is just stupid. I hate communicating with stupid people.  Ignoring her jealousy but still keeping in touch with her would be like staying in the sandbox. Walking out of that sandbox to avoid getting sand thrown at me is what I did.

I've realized that the posters I'm dealing with now are the lowest common denominator of all DCUM'ers, the ones with the lowest IQ. [/quote]

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