Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong

[Anonymous]

You need to be realistic. Your son is already 8. It is just a few years away from your husband wanting to date girls your son’s age. 8 or 9 at the most. Plan accordingly.

[Anonymous]

You and your son can’t go off to Disney on your own? Or you can’t go to Ocean City on your own?

Do you work a job?

[Anonymous]

I assume you are a troll. But just in case, do you work?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are his second family, and he wants to socialize with the first.

You should never have married him or had a child with him. He's a jerk.

I am not criticizing the age gap, BTW. I have a similar age gap with my husband, who has always prioritized our kids and me.

Wow, you are all over the place. You're saying OP's husband is a jerk for wanting to spend time with his family of origin? Good men don't abandon their families like your husband did, just to be clear.

It’s not

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, there’s not really a reason to make such a big deal about an 18 year old being pregnant by a 40 year old. What’s the big issue with that? It’s not that uncommon. OP

It is extremely uncommon in the US, are you writing from another country where men have more of a property interest in their wives?

I’m in the US, I’m just saying that it’s not that uncommon, it does happen thought not often.

I know zero teenagers who married 40 year old men. Is the rest of your marriage a nightmare or just this one vacation?

I honestly don’t get the outrage here. If he were 70, sure, but he was only 40, which seemed too young to me even back then—come on. I was 18 when I got pregnant, but I wasn’t super young, and we were already talking about a long-term marriage. We just went with the flow, and when we found out I was pregnant, of course we were excited. Age was never a big deal for us. I loved my husband for who he was, not because of anything superficial. OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You and your son can’t go off to Disney on your own? Or you can’t go to Ocean City on your own?

Do you work a job?

No, I don’t.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, there’s not really a reason to make such a big deal about an 18 year old being pregnant by a 40 year old. What’s the big issue with that? It’s not that uncommon. OP

It is extremely uncommon in the US, are you writing from another country where men have more of a property interest in their wives?

I’m in the US, I’m just saying that it’s not that uncommon, it does happen thought not often.

I know zero teenagers who married 40 year old men. Is the rest of your marriage a nightmare or just this one vacation?

I honestly don’t get the outrage here. If he were 70, sure, but he was only 40, which seemed too young to me even back then—come on. I was 18 when I got pregnant, but I wasn’t super young, and we were already talking about a long-term marriage. We just went with the flow, and when we found out I was pregnant, of course we were excited. Age was never a big deal for us. I loved my husband for who he was, not because of anything superficial. OP

Well, you’re not 18 anymore and his interest has waned so clearly it was superficial for him. He’s probably spending his vacation ogling teenagers on the beach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hrm. Op, were you the AP, got knocked up (at 21!) and your DH divorced his first wife for you?

At 18 to a 39 year old man.

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Anonymous wrote:-No, I’m not my husbands AP. My husband was already divorced for years when we met.

And This isn’t the first time that he’s taken a vacation with his ex-wife, he’s done it before. My husband doesn’t allow my son a vacation this year, and I do not know why. He just doesn’t care and says he will be busy, and doesn’t have anytime. OP

Do you have a job? Why does your husband get to decide whether you and your son get to go on vacation?

He also had divorced his previous wife when his kids were teens/tweens. Father of the year here.

She got pregnant at 18 with a 40 year old’s 4th kid. I would bet my life’s savings she has never had a real job.

[Anonymous]

All if this is weird
Good luck

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, there’s not really a reason to make such a big deal about an 18 year old being pregnant by a 40 year old. What’s the big issue with that? It’s not that uncommon. OP

It is extremely uncommon in the US, are you writing from another country where men have more of a property interest in their wives?

I’m in the US, I’m just saying that it’s not that uncommon, it does happen thought not often.

I know zero teenagers who married 40 year old men. Is the rest of your marriage a nightmare or just this one vacation?

I honestly don’t get the outrage here. If he were 70, sure, but he was only 40, which seemed too young to me even back then—come on. I was 18 when I got pregnant, but I wasn’t super young, and we were already talking about a long-term marriage. We just went with the flow, and when we found out I was pregnant, of course we were excited. Age was never a big deal for us. I loved my husband for who he was, not because of anything superficial. OP

What teenager thinks 40 year olds are TOO YOUNG for her?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, there’s not really a reason to make such a big deal about an 18 year old being pregnant by a 40 year old. What’s the big issue with that? It’s not that uncommon. OP

It is extremely uncommon in the US, are you writing from another country where men have more of a property interest in their wives?

I’m in the US, I’m just saying that it’s not that uncommon, it does happen thought not often.

I know zero teenagers who married 40 year old men. Is the rest of your marriage a nightmare or just this one vacation?

I honestly don’t get the outrage here. If he were 70, sure, but he was only 40, which seemed too young to me even back then—come on. I was 18 when I got pregnant, but I wasn’t super young, and we were already talking about a long-term marriage. We just went with the flow, and when we found out I was pregnant, of course we were excited. Age was never a big deal for us. I loved my husband for who he was, not because of anything superficial. OP

What teenager thinks 40 year olds are TOO YOUNG for her?

A troll

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, there’s not really a reason to make such a big deal about an 18 year old being pregnant by a 40 year old. What’s the big issue with that? It’s not that uncommon. OP

It is extremely uncommon in the US, are you writing from another country where men have more of a property interest in their wives?

I’m in the US, I’m just saying that it’s not that uncommon, it does happen thought not often.

I know zero teenagers who married 40 year old men. Is the rest of your marriage a nightmare or just this one vacation?

I honestly don’t get the outrage here. If he were 70, sure, but he was only 40, which seemed too young to me even back then—come on. I was 18 when I got pregnant, but I wasn’t super young, and we were already talking about a long-term marriage. We just went with the flow, and when we found out I was pregnant, of course we were excited. Age was never a big deal for us. I loved my husband for who he was, not because of anything superficial. OP

What teenager thinks 40 year olds are TOO YOUNG for her?

This is the same person who doesn’t understand why he would rather spend his vacation time with his first family over his second. Not strong in judgement

[Anonymous]

Your husband and his ex wife are still banging.