Well if you must know, we could not visit any schools due to an extended illness and death in the immediate family. Also had an issue with duplicate email addresses getting into the database at one school. |
| A school that has a reputation for deferring/denying/waitlisting high stats students, and/or considers demonstrated interest per section C7 of their Common Data Set, should be automatically excluded from being considered as a possible safety, by definition. Low target, yes. Safety, no. |
You don’t have to visit to show interest. My younger child did not want to do visits until after she got in. She did the online tours and attended online admissions events and talked to reps when they came to her school. Had great results. |
Well yes, your kid can only attend ONE school. Yet most apply to 8-10+. My kid would have been happy at any school they applied to. They chose great Safeties. Obviously, you prefer your reaches and targets more, but it truly is your job to convince a school why you want to attend. It's not "lying"---it's about writing essays about why the school is a great fit for you, doing research so you include details beyond basic to show you care and have knowledge about the programs you are interested in. Hint: most kids who get in (when your kid didn't) also have great stats. They just presented themselves better and convinced the school they would be a great fit. Because they recognize that there is more to a well rounded person than SAT scores and GPA (and realize that a 3.9UW is not that far off from a 4.0UW). But you go ahead and have your kid just apply to one school ED, if they don't get in, then apply to only 1 school, because you "cannot try to convince more than 1 school you want to attend". Let me know how that works out. |
I never said to "lie about ECs and awards". Presenting yourself in essays and questions to the AO to try and show each school is your #1/that you really want to attend is simply about presenting yourself. Writing great supplemental essays that demonstrate you truly understand the university and more in-depth about programs you are interested in is not "lying", it's doing the work needed. Schools want kids who want to attend. Anyone who can present themselves in a good manner will go far. Just like in the real world---it's Called EQ and goes a long way. Someone with that and a 1540 will likely go further than your 1580 kid who thinks all that matters is a high gpa. |
Yeah you cannot be "yield protected" at a school with sub 20% acceptance rates. Also, even in the 20-50% acceptance rates, if a school does not think you really want to attend, why the hell would they offer you admission? They want kids who want to attend. And your kid likely doesn't if they consider that their "safety" |
I'm the PP---By "tell every school they are your #1 choice" simply means convince the school you are very interested and demonstrate why. Visit (if you can), tour the depts you are interested in, as meaningful questions of the AO that show you have researched the school and are not just "tossing darts at safeties/targets". Just like when you go for a job interview, you don't tell them "oh, I have 3 other interviews this week and you guys are not really my favorite" you present yourself in the best light and act like you really want that job. That's not lying, that's simply what good candidates do. And just like your kid, my high stats kid got into all their targets and safeties, WL at one T30, Deferred then rejected at their ED (T10), rejected at another T25 and in at NEU for a year abroad. So in reality only "rejected" from two schools (both T25) and accepted or WL at everything else. Because they visited most (all were a huge distance), and did online visits/seminars at the other two and communicated at the AO at all of them. |
Post covid, visits can be done "online". Communicate with a AO and ask meaningful questions and get more details, and mention why you are so sorry you were not able to physically visit---you can demonstrate interest without a physical visit easily at most schools |
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Calm down, my kid hasn't applied yet. But they would certainly prefer to use their time pursuing their actual interests as opposed to researching a dozen or so schools themselves so they can write a fake essay on how they must go there or nowhere else. Intellectually, it's a waste of time. You love it because that advantages students who have time to waste, I guess? |
DP: wow, you are quite literal/ b&w thinker. No one is saying write a fake essay. Why would you apply to a school that you need to fake that you want to attend? People on this thread are trying to tell you that kids should 1) pick targets/safeties that they ACTUALLY want to attend and 2) write an essay explaining WHY you want to attend and are a good fit. How would your child know if they want to attend if they don't do the research?! I am hiring for a position and we received over 200 applications. Half the applicants clearly didn't do any research about our organization and didn't express in their cover letter why we should consider them for the position. Why should I consider them? |
You sound like an HR drone ecstatic that the crappy school your growling child attends have similar people working there. "I am a very important person working for a very important company and you must show me respect". Meanwhile, kids apply to a bunch of schools because going to college anywhere is better than going nowhere. So yeah, they will attend a crappy safety if they didn't get anywhere else. Just like your husband married you after every other woman rejected him. |
You do the research Not to just write the essays, but to inform yourself what each school offers, so that you can have an amazing list of Reach, targets and safeties that you actually want to attend. It doesn't take that much time. You ask AO questions to show demonstrated interest, and make the questions "beyond basic stuff" to show you have researched the school and have actual interest in knowing more in depth information. or you don't do that, and then you sit back and complain "my really smart kid was Yield protected" when they don't get admitted to their low targets or safeties. Any school is searching for kids who will be a great fit there and who ALSO want to attend. If they think they can tell that, they will use the information when making decisions. It's the smart thing to do. |
Exactly! This carries over to "real life" in the future. Demonstrated interest, perseverance, willing to do a bit more work (or in this case just any effort) take you far in life. |