Divorced women in their 40s seem to be doing better in the dating market

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM Is hilarious, trying to push the narrative that 40-year-old pre menopausal women are raking up young 20-year-old dudes, it's not true, but go ahead with this fantasy. It's quite the contrary, with 40+-year-old men getting the younger women.

Fact.

Look outside every where (except on dcum anonymous forum that is full of old women past prime) and this fact will be in your face so much that it is the norm.

It is norm and has been for thousands of years. Can’t change biology

The old ladies here are hilariously trying to create a make believe fantasy world.

Look at any age gap related threads here and see how pathetically the dcum middle aged moms respond

As a 46yr old married to and having a kid with a 26yr old we see this all the time. when we go out it’s the old middle aged women giving us ugly looks. Guys couldn’t be bothered. Young girls couldn’t be bothered. The only ones bothered by us is the 40+ mediocre looking women.

When it happens I always joke to my wife don’t you be that old jealous lady 20yrs from now when you see an age gap couple.

You’re literally going to look like a great grandpa when your kid graduates from college!

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM Is hilarious, trying to push the narrative that 40-year-old pre menopausal women are raking up young 20-year-old dudes, it's not true, but go ahead with this fantasy. It's quite the contrary, with 40+-year-old men getting the younger women.

Fact.

Look outside every where (except on dcum anonymous forum that is full of old women past prime) and this fact will be in your face so much that it is the norm.

It is norm and has been for thousands of years. Can’t change biology

The old ladies here are hilariously trying to create a make believe fantasy world.

Look at any age gap related threads here and see how pathetically the dcum middle aged moms respond

As a 46yr old married to and having a kid with a 26yr old we see this all the time. when we go out it’s the old middle aged women giving us ugly looks. Guys couldn’t be bothered. Young girls couldn’t be bothered. The only ones bothered by us is the 40+ mediocre looking women.

When it happens I always joke to my wife don’t you be that old jealous lady 20yrs from now when you see an age gap couple.

lol keep fantasizing that older women are seething in rage at the image of you with your wife. The reality is most of them left behind an older man exactly like you, and zero part of them is fantasizing about the 40 year old potbellied baldy pushing around a baby. Why is it men want the approval and attention of older women so bad? Why can’t you just be happy with your young wife? Why do you have to concoct this fantasy that younger women are staring with lust and envy and rage? You sound like a loser.

I've been wondering this as well: Why is the person or persons so riled up about a certain demographic not being interested in them? They claim to not be interested either, so it's a mutual no.

Because it was an older woman who threw them out on their behind and they can’t take it. Even the dating of a young woman is done not out of genuine desire, but spite and a desperate desire to get back at the woman who didn’t see their value. Hence the fixation never really goes away

I am 45. I would love to meet and even marry a 26 years old in an IDEAL world..but I am realistic. I cannot offer anything to a 26 years old at my age. And sexually although I consider myself still really good she would be better better of with a 26 years clone of me from the past.

Personally I think am older woman is better off with a younger man especially if she wants to have some control over the relationship. Younger men tend be more open to changes and pleasing their partners than men my age. Most men my age are stubborn in their way and will not want to make changes to please a new woman. Another reason I believe older divorced women are better off with younger men has to with love. I think a lot of divorced women have not given up on love. The same cannot be said of men. Many of us to be honest are done with that. So an older woman going with a younger guy will enjoy better quality years of companionship with a younger man.

I think a lot of older women are actually pretty pragmatic about it, know exactly what they want. Hence going for the young guy with the good body, good attitude, good d**k

That's a benefit that older woman have. It's not necessarily pragmatism. And older man going for a similarly young and good attitude woman with good p**y is a massive minefield. Biology does not lie. Men are primarily driven by fertility even when they are snipped. Men can say all they long they will not remarry but the minute they need a hot young woman with charm (you know those rolling eyes, feminine mannerism those are killers for men my age). For this reason I stay clear of younger women because I don't believe I will keep my stance of never remarrying again.

Yes women can absolutely fall for the same young hot man. But woman's biology is very different from men's. Once women are past their prime fertility age they are not driven by those raw emotions to go all ga-ga for a hot man.

It is pragmatism. For many women, marriage takes the rose colored glasses off. They realize many men are simply not capable of the kind of deep, selfless love women are. Plus many women experience “real love” with their children and the contrast between that and their selfless DHs behavior is very apparent. Hence going after more surface things like looks and body and bed ability (plus many of them are equally able to bond emotionally with a 20 something man as a 45 year old. Also many 45 year old men have a chip on their shoulder and are deeply damaged, hence why their wife divorced

As a 45 years old man I completely agree with your post. What you said about women and meaningful love is very true. I'll admit that as a divorced man. I don't think I have my ex the kind of love she deserved not because I am a bad person it is what it is. However I am not damaged though lol. Am I stressed? Oh hell yes. Why? Child support, alimony, elderly parents, college savings, midlife crisis, some health issues despite being fit and active you name it. I have a lot of sh**t going with me. And also raising our teens (2 boys going though the typical teenage years). Dating is out of the question for me.I don't have room in my brain for another woman.

My ex wife though she is receiving good alimony and child support, I let them keep the house, and she has a lot of love to offer. So I can see her going with a younger man and being happier. I don't have any anger in me. I wish happiness to everyone.

When a woman loves you she does everything for you it's crazy. All she talks about is you. When she sees you she is happy etc.

But some.of us men who are very high earning and work a lot unfortunately neglect our wives. I never cheated on her but I never reciprocated the love she had for me. So when she requested divorce i wasn't surprised and I made the process as easy as possible.

This why single ladies be careful before marrying a very high earning man. Yes the stability and money is good but these men as PP himself admitted are sometimes not the kind of partner to be there for you emotionally. PP was fair in his shortcomings but some of these men can be very vengeful as well and make the divorce process hell. His ex wife dodged a bullet.

PP actually wrote one of the more honest posts on here. I hope he can reassess priorities in life and actually maybe become a good partner (and better dad?)

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Anonymous wrote:Divorced women in their 40s are overall on average less likely to seek to date very much and more likely to focus on their children, their jobs, their other interests, themselves. Newly divorced men on average do less well with being single. More and more women are successfully having children in their late 30s or even 40s and it is raising the question of whether the conventional wisdom that female fertility falls completely off a cliff at 35 is partly socialized. There is a cohort of 20-something men who pursue substantially older and successfully/secure women. I am not totally sure what trends/motivations are driving that.

I am 28 and I will def not want to have a child with a woman over 35 nope less alone 40+

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Anonymous wrote:Divorced women in their 40s are overall on average less likely to seek to date very much and more likely to focus on their children, their jobs, their other interests, themselves. Newly divorced men on average do less well with being single. More and more women are successfully having children in their late 30s or even 40s and it is raising the question of whether the conventional wisdom that female fertility falls completely off a cliff at 35 is partly socialized. There is a cohort of 20-something men who pursue substantially older and successfully/secure women. I am not totally sure what trends/motivations are driving that.

I am 28 and I will def not want to have a child with a woman over 35 nope less alone 40+

A 40+ woman does not want a kid with you either…but they might enjoy being with you until you want to settle down. Many good looking 40+ women are not going to want to remarry… so your age is not necessarily a problem. Also, tons of 30s men don’t want kids. We are past the “getting married and having kids” pressure and nonsense.

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Women in their 40s are perfect for dating. It's my favorite age range to date. Recently divorced, kids old enough to be gone, or nearly gone, and they are ready to rock and shed their previous sexual hangups.

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An attractive woman will always have options.

Yes, attractive woman in her forties will do better than an unattractive man in his forties. The attractive rich man in his forties will have far more options than the woman.

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Women in their 40s generally look way better than men in their 40s these days. I'm 30 and the 30-40 year old men on apps have been very rough looking, meanwhile the women I see on there are beautiful and still have a youthful look, usually more fit too. (I'm bi). I've dated older men and they are less likely to be feminists as well, which is what many women want.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM Is hilarious, trying to push the narrative that 40-year-old pre menopausal women are raking up young 20-year-old dudes, it's not true, but go ahead with this fantasy. It's quite the contrary, with 40+-year-old men getting the younger women.

It’s true here out west where I live. None of my friends will remarry, they’d die at meeting a man’s parents annd they generally have the means to never have to repartner or cohabitate with a man. They are fit and Attractive and interested in great sex though and dating down is the way to get it. It’s delicious. I’d feel uncomfortable with a man 20 years younger but I had an amazing 18 mos of exclusive amazing sex with my partner who was 12 years younger. He caught too many feels so I ended it.

Your version sounds like it’s based off of what you learned watching mad men. It doesn’t resonate with today’s demographics.

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Another older guy here. 95% women over 41/42 are unattractive to me. Either:

Just old, wrinkly and out of shape

Or so much work done they ruin their faces with the Botox or plastic surgery or whatever

A few who may be physically attractive have the personality of a btch

As I browse tinder/hinge/bumble etc I try hard to find an age appropriate 40+ woman for me but ugh. Even the attractive looking ones who I meet in person look nothing like the photoshopped pics. So I’ve learned to restrict my search to late twenties to late 30s or basically 10yr less than my age. Because 40+ women just look bad bad bad.

Sure there is the 1% Shakira and JLo etc but let’s be real ladies. Unless you have $1m to put into high quality plastic surgery, spa treatments and daily gym training you are not going to look like the 1% top 40s women

Of course if they want young guys they can have them. Someone rightly pointed out the young bucks just need a warm wet hole and why not find a warm wet hole for practice to help the young buck get better at some like skills which they will happily take for ONS to 1-2yr situationship before they move on to an age appropriate match

I’m amazed at how much the 40+ crowd of DCUM takes pride in being what is essentially a warm WAP for guys 10*yr younger LOL

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Anonymous wrote:Another older guy here. 95% women over 41/42 are unattractive to me. Either:

Just old, wrinkly and out of shape

Or so much work done they ruin their faces with the Botox or plastic surgery or whatever

A few who may be physically attractive have the personality of a btch

As I browse tinder/hinge/bumble etc I try hard to find an age appropriate 40+ woman for me but ugh. Even the attractive looking ones who I meet in person look nothing like the photoshopped pics. So I’ve learned to restrict my search to late twenties to late 30s or basically 10yr less than my age. Because 40+ women just look bad bad bad.

Sure there is the 1% Shakira and JLo etc but let’s be real ladies. Unless you have $1m to put into high quality plastic surgery, spa treatments and daily gym training you are not going to look like the 1% top 40s women

Of course if they want young guys they can have them. Someone rightly pointed out the young bucks just need a warm wet hole and why not find a warm wet hole for practice to help the young buck get better at some like skills which they will happily take for ONS to 1-2yr situationship before they move on to an age appropriate match

I’m amazed at how much the 40+ crowd of DCUM takes pride in being what is essentially a warm WAP for guys 10*yr younger LOL

Way to miss the point of the entire thread LOL.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM Is hilarious, trying to push the narrative that 40-year-old pre menopausal women are raking up young 20-year-old dudes, it's not true, but go ahead with this fantasy. It's quite the contrary, with 40+-year-old men getting the younger women.

It’s true here out west where I live. None of my friends will remarry, they’d die at meeting a man’s parents annd they generally have the means to never have to repartner or cohabitate with a man. They are fit and Attractive and interested in great sex though and dating down is the way to get it. It’s delicious. I’d feel uncomfortable with a man 20 years younger but I had an amazing 18 mos of exclusive amazing sex with my partner who was 12 years younger. He caught too many feels so I ended it.

Your version sounds like it’s based off of what you learned watching mad men. It doesn’t resonate with today’s demographics.

I'm sorry but you just got a lonely guy who couldn't do better and got hooked on the p**y.dont get it twisted

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Another older guy here. 95% women over 41/42 are unattractive to me. Either:

Just old, wrinkly and out of shape

Or so much work done they ruin their faces with the Botox or plastic surgery or whatever

A few who may be physically attractive have the personality of a btch

As I browse tinder/hinge/bumble etc I try hard to find an age appropriate 40+ woman for me but ugh. Even the attractive looking ones who I meet in person look nothing like the photoshopped pics. So I’ve learned to restrict my search to late twenties to late 30s or basically 10yr less than my age. Because 40+ women just look bad bad bad.

Sure there is the 1% Shakira and JLo etc but let’s be real ladies. Unless you have $1m to put into high quality plastic surgery, spa treatments and daily gym training you are not going to look like the 1% top 40s women

Of course if they want young guys they can have them. Someone rightly pointed out the young bucks just need a warm wet hole and why not find a warm wet hole for practice to help the young buck get better at some like skills which they will happily take for ONS to 1-2yr situationship before they move on to an age appropriate match

I’m amazed at how much the 40+ crowd of DCUM takes pride in being what is essentially a warm WAP for guys 10*yr younger LOL

Way to miss the point of the entire thread LOL.

Another thing younger men are better at than older men: not being misogynistic. Thanks for proving that point, pp!

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Anonymous wrote:Another older guy here. 95% women over 41/42 are unattractive to me. Either:

Just old, wrinkly and out of shape

Or so much work done they ruin their faces with the Botox or plastic surgery or whatever

A few who may be physically attractive have the personality of a btch

As I browse tinder/hinge/bumble etc I try hard to find an age appropriate 40+ woman for me but ugh. Even the attractive looking ones who I meet in person look nothing like the photoshopped pics. So I’ve learned to restrict my search to late twenties to late 30s or basically 10yr less than my age. Because 40+ women just look bad bad bad.

Sure there is the 1% Shakira and JLo etc but let’s be real ladies. Unless you have $1m to put into high quality plastic surgery, spa treatments and daily gym training you are not going to look like the 1% top 40s women

Of course if they want young guys they can have them. Someone rightly pointed out the young bucks just need a warm wet hole and why not find a warm wet hole for practice to help the young buck get better at some like skills which they will happily take for ONS to 1-2yr situationship before they move on to an age appropriate match

I’m amazed at how much the 40+ crowd of DCUM takes pride in being what is essentially a warm WAP for guys 10*yr younger LOL

At least the younger guys know how to pump, which is exactly what these women are looking for.

What do you have to offer other than your inflated ego? Don't forget that most of these women left men like you. They are not buying what you think you are selling.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM Is hilarious, trying to push the narrative that 40-year-old pre menopausal women are raking up young 20-year-old dudes, it's not true, but go ahead with this fantasy. It's quite the contrary, with 40+-year-old men getting the younger women.

It’s true here out west where I live. None of my friends will remarry, they’d die at meeting a man’s parents annd they generally have the means to never have to repartner or cohabitate with a man. They are fit and Attractive and interested in great sex though and dating down is the way to get it. It’s delicious. I’d feel uncomfortable with a man 20 years younger but I had an amazing 18 mos of exclusive amazing sex with my partner who was 12 years younger. He caught too many feels so I ended it.

Your version sounds like it’s based off of what you learned watching mad men. It doesn’t resonate with today’s demographics.

I'm sorry but you just got a lonely guy who couldn't do better and got hooked on the p**y.dont get it twisted

DP.

You are the one getting it twisted. Women make better friends to other women. Most women have solid friendships. If their finances are solid as well, and they've already had kids, they are not necessarily looking for companionship post divorce. Many are primarily looking for sex and excitement.

Many 40+ year old women know that most men fall very short when it comes to true friendship ( from women's perspective), so they don't bother looking for that in post divorce relationships with men.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM Is hilarious, trying to push the narrative that 40-year-old pre menopausal women are raking up young 20-year-old dudes, it's not true, but go ahead with this fantasy. It's quite the contrary, with 40+-year-old men getting the younger women.

It’s true here out west where I live. None of my friends will remarry, they’d die at meeting a man’s parents annd they generally have the means to never have to repartner or cohabitate with a man. They are fit and Attractive and interested in great sex though and dating down is the way to get it. It’s delicious. I’d feel uncomfortable with a man 20 years younger but I had an amazing 18 mos of exclusive amazing sex with my partner who was 12 years younger. He caught too many feels so I ended it.

Your version sounds like it’s based off of what you learned watching mad men. It doesn’t resonate with today’s demographics.

I'm sorry but you just got a lonely guy who couldn't do better and got hooked on the p**y.dont get it twisted

DP.

You are the one getting it twisted. Women make better friends to other women. Most women have solid friendships. If their finances are solid as well, and they've already had kids, they are not necessarily looking for companionship post divorce. Many are primarily looking for sex and excitement.

Many 40+ year old women know that most men fall very short when it comes to true friendship ( from women's perspective), so they don't bother looking for that in post divorce relationships with men.

Against n that guy didn't catch feelings because she was a catch. He was just lonely man happy that any woman spread her legs for him so he can run through her. And when she closed her legs he got sad cause he knows it will be hard for him to get a woman his age. That's all.