Divorced women in their 40s seem to be doing better in the dating market

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Anonymous wrote:Reading this thread, and seeing what’s really in men’s mind about women, how much hate and contempt they have to 40-50s women, I don’t want to date or use OLD. Very helpful indeed, thanks

Part of the problem is that a lot of divorced men in their 40s are very angry. This anger often comes from the fact that they have a lot of limitations and challenges that their ex wives will not experience on the dating market. And men have a much smaller social network to rely on. So okay divorce they are very isolated and use forums like these to vent.

In my opinion people regardless of gender need to learn love themselves and be happy alone

A lot of people are terrified of growing old alone.

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My ex wife is 41 and the guy she is saying looks much younger than her and he is quite muscular. She seems happy. And I am happy as a result because when her love life is not going well she is angry and has a tendency to take that anger on the kids with lost of short tamoerdness. I am single and will remain so for awhile because I am happy the way it is.

Personally I don't care if a 40 years old woman is dating or banging a 22 years old. How is that affecting my existence? Some of the men on this forum are really deranged or lonely.

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Anonymous wrote:Reading this thread, and seeing what’s really in men’s mind about women, how much hate and contempt they have to 40-50s women, I don’t want to date or use OLD. Very helpful indeed, thanks

do you share the feelings when women here simply unload (pretty regularly and often) their contempt (hatred even, for some prolific posters) for men?

if not, then you need to realize that most things here are not any close to representing the truth of what's out there (applies to both genders).

Nobody is on here deliberately trolling men, lecturing them that they have no value, that they are old and dried up at 40. But there are poster/s doing that incessantly about older women. And women coming on here complaining eg that their DH does no housework is not the same thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Ultimately, it's a supply and demand issue. And the lack of quality men of all ages is warping the market. It's not just men in their 40s and 50s. It's that a lot of young men are checked out from life - professionally, socially, fitness-wise. So that men who do have it together, whether they are 25 or 45, have an incredibly easy time finding dates and partners of all ages. Observationally, watching my single friends, it's the good looking men with great jobs that have a disproportionate amount of power in modern relationship dynamics. For every man who has it together, there are 20 wonderful, beautiful, smart, and kind women who really want to meet him. It's far easier for men these days. The competition for the good ones is fierce. I see it extending down all the way to the college level.

You are falsely assuming that young women who are looking for marriage and children value the same men that older divorced women who already have children do. It's not the same market. There is some overlap, but it's not entirely the same.

I know a late 40s acquaintance who is sleeping with a 20 something year old gym instructor. Were she younger and looking for marriage and children, she wouldn't go anywhere near him.

But she is looking for a good time with someone easy on the eyes. It works for both of them.

That's true. I have a 48 year old very attractive friend who does this. When she's in the mood, she just shows up at the pickle ball court or the college bar and goes home with whoever catches her eye. Women who want one night stands will always have an easier time of it. She certainly doesn't care about their professional prospects. She'd never date them, but that's not what she's looking for.

Does she actually have sex? Its rare for menopausal women to want to do it with me

Fixed it for you.

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50 year old woman who is super horny

Menopause often brings changes in women’s sexual desire and physical comfort due to declining estrogen, leading to issues like vaginal dryness and reduced libido. For many women, sex becomes less appealing or more difficult post-menopause, though some find ways to manage these symptoms with hormone therapy or lubricants. However, for others, the natural decline in sexual interest can feel like a shift in priorities.

On the other hand, men generally do not experience the same significant hormonal changes as they age. As long as they don’t suffer from erectile dysfunction (and with the availability of treatments like Viagra), many men maintain their sexual interest into their later years. This can sometimes lead to a mismatch in desires between partners, with older men often seeking relationships with younger women, particularly those under 40, who haven’t gone through menopause and may have a more consistent libido. This dynamic can contribute to the pursuit of younger partners by older men, especially when sexual compatibility becomes an issue with their age-group peers.

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Anonymous wrote:Divorced women in their 40s seem to be doing better in the dating market. Why are they having more success compared to divorced men the same age. They have the same challenges to deal with kids, child support, life stressors, body image, aging insecurity to name a few. However it seems that many divorced men in their 40s are really struggling to find dates.

It's because women have vaginas. That's it. Nothing more.

Vaginas will always be a hotter commodity than penises are.

And thank God when desperate we can rent one and enjoy. And with more and more women going into sex work it's even easier to get laid.

It's so pathetic that you can't get a woman to WANT to bang you, you have to pay for it.

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Anonymous wrote:50s man here. I totally disagree with the men who say women in their 40s aren't hot. Many are. I think this now. I thought this twenty years ago.

Unfortunately, women in their 50s tend to look a little dried out and masculine to me, especially white women. So most of what the harsh men said here about women in their 40s seems kinda true to me for women in their 50s. Sometimes the same woman can look MUCH different as she goes from age 49 to age 51.

This isn't about how good the actual sex is. Women in their 50s and 60s can be fantastic sexually. I just don't look forward to it as much, for some reason.

If other men in their 50s feel the way I do about women in their 50s, then women in their 40s are going to get plenty of attention from men their own age and men a decade or more older.

How does this affect people who only want committed, LTRs? Not sure.

I seriously doubt that if presented with 25 49 year olds and 25 51 year olds, you could accurately sort them into two groups.

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Where is the data on this? I’m not convinced this is the case. But if it is, the reason is more likely that divorced men want younger women but may not be rich or hot enough to make the cut. Women historically have an easier time getting dates but a harder time finding quality men worth a serious commitment. Men may struggle in dating, but are usually in control when it comes to establishing commitment.