Divorced women in their 40s seem to be doing better in the dating market

[Anonymous]

I am 32 and single. I think women in their 40s are beautiful. But women in their 30s still find me attractive and I prefer dating them. If a divorced woman in her 40s were to approach me, would I date her? No. Not because she is old, it's because women my own age still want to date me. Everytime I go on OLD I don't have an issue finding dates. But right now I am solely focus on building myself and dating is not on my radar.

[Anonymous]

I would correct this thread title to “Good looking divorced 40s women”.
Yes, they do, particular if they are empty nesters.
It’s in fact much better for me at 46 than what it was at 24. Both in terms of the men’s quality and what they are looking for in long term relationships
I’m 46, my dating range for men is 42-59 so far. All for LTR never did flings . I had 2 serious relationships post divorce (at 42), both men were talking marriage. They were 1 year younger and 7 years older from my age, respectively.

[Anonymous]

If you don’t care about having kids/having more kids and your goal isn’t another marriage (you might get married again but also might not), you have so many more options. You could date a younger guy who doesn’t have kids. You could date an older guy whose kids are late teens+. If you have your own money and career, you don’t have to look for a new guy to support you financially or move in with someone right away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it really true that divorced women in their 40s are looking and/or dating younger? I don't know any of my divorced friends who are dating younger men the way some women claim it on this forum. They tend date around the same age.

Yes, it is true. If your divorced friends are dating men around their own age then they probably don’t have their own money, and they need a serious relationship and a man’s money. I’m not taking on any more projects of men or their kids or anything else. I don’t need a man’s money and I don’t want to ever get married again so I only date younger men without kids and I’m always the one who cuts it off because they’re the ones who gets serious. I’ve limited time and it’s just easier to date men without kids who are younger because they’re not as demanding and I don’t have to deal with any other custody schedules. Attractive women can do this really easily.

[Anonymous]

It's easy to date at that age point, but it is much more difficult to find a genuine relationship. Most good men in their forties who are single will be divorced and have kids who are still at home. They are both busy and if they are out there, they are generally looking for a real relationship. They quickly find that there are lots of women in their 30s who are marriage minded. Maybe they want kids. Maybe they don't. Maybe they're fine with assuming a stepmom role. But in any event, there are a lot of relationship-minded younger women out there. That's probably what good men in their 40s are going to gravitate towards when it comes to relationships. Of course for flings women in their 40s will have no shortage of options. But for real relationships, they will more likely be looking toward men in their 50s with kids who are already grown and out of the house. Or they get involved with men a decade younger, but that almost never works over the long term if she doesn't want children. 40 something is a complicated age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's easy to date at that age point, but it is much more difficult to find a genuine relationship. Most good men in their forties who are single will be divorced and have kids who are still at home. They are both busy and if they are out there, they are generally looking for a real relationship. They quickly find that there are lots of women in their 30s who are marriage minded. Maybe they want kids. Maybe they don't. Maybe they're fine with assuming a stepmom role. But in any event, there are a lot of relationship-minded younger women out there. That's probably what good men in their 40s are going to gravitate towards when it comes to relationships. Of course for flings women in their 40s will have no shortage of options. But for real relationships, they will more likely be looking toward men in their 50s with kids who are already grown and out of the house. Or they get involved with men a decade younger, but that almost never works over the long term if she doesn't want children. 40 something is a complicated age.

Many 30s men don’t want children. It is not the same as 15+ years ago.

[Anonymous]

I work as an instructor at one of the very expensive country clubs in the DMV, and I sleep with a lot of divorced women in their 40s. They are dimes and dozens around here.

[Anonymous]

Females 18-80 do better overall on OLD

What’s new?

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would correct this thread title to “Good looking divorced 40s women”.
Yes, they do, particular if they are empty nesters.
It’s in fact much better for me at 46 than what it was at 24. Both in terms of the men’s quality and what they are looking for in long term relationships
I’m 46, my dating range for men is 42-59 so far. All for LTR never did flings . I had 2 serious relationships post divorce (at 42), both men were talking marriage. They were 1 year younger and 7 years older from my age, respectively.

You are very realistic and honestly a catch. Most women your age on this forum talk about men under 35. I am surprised you would even entertain going past 40 because we know on this forum women your age not only go much younger but often view man past 40 as sexually done

[Anonymous]

Real data:

I’m 50 divorced, dad bod, balding, two little kids 50/50. Yes my job title indicates good money and education. But clearly not a billionaire.

I signed up for hinge and paid for one week. Swiped right on attractive 30-42 young, white, professional women. not overweight.

single or divorced, kids or no kids is fine with me.

I only swipe on women attractive to me. I was married to a model for 15yr so have pretty high standards

I got 70+ matches within 30miles of Tyson’s corner. Granted none of the 70 matches are modelesque but they all meet my basic minimum attractiveness criteria

Have 7 dates set up for this week and about a dozen other conversations going on

In previous online dating iterations I was pretty much the one to reject my dates after date one or two as I didn’t feel it

Who said guys don’t have a chance. Don’t let the DCUM crowd of older mostly unattractive women depress you guys

Secret to my success I will admit I had my friend take some really nice and interesting pics of me. Interesting being the key word. I’m definitely not what people would call classically attractive like I said balding dad bod haha

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Real data:

I’m 50 divorced, dad bod, balding, two little kids 50/50. Yes my job title indicates good money and education. But clearly not a billionaire.

I signed up for hinge and paid for one week. Swiped right on attractive 30-42 young, white, professional women. not overweight.

single or divorced, kids or no kids is fine with me.

I only swipe on women attractive to me. I was married to a model for 15yr so have pretty high standards

I got 70+ matches within 30miles of Tyson’s corner. Granted none of the 70 matches are modelesque but they all meet my basic minimum attractiveness criteria

Have 7 dates set up for this week and about a dozen other conversations going on

In previous online dating iterations I was pretty much the one to reject my dates after date one or two as I didn’t feel it

Who said guys don’t have a chance. Don’t let the DCUM crowd of older mostly unattractive women depress you guys

Secret to my success I will admit I had my friend take some really nice and interesting pics of me. Interesting being the key word. I’m definitely not what people would call classically attractive like I said balding dad bod haha

ew

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it really true that divorced women in their 40s are looking and/or dating younger? I don't know any of my divorced friends who are dating younger men the way some women claim it on this forum. They tend date around the same age.

Depends. They might be having flings they aren’t telling you about. The more serious ones who go in for longer or who they are willing to bring to events etc. might be the ones who are closer to their age.

A lot of BS on this forum. Open your eyes when you go out. You see older men younger women all the time. It’s been pretty normalized over the past few thousand yrs

Go out and try to find younger dude with older lady/cougars. Hardly ever. Almost never. I’m sure it happens and some of it is probably just behind closed doors but even with that the percentage of young guys who date older is much (much much) smaller than percentage of older men dating significantly younger women

Get over it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Real data:

I’m 50 divorced, dad bod, balding, two little kids 50/50. Yes my job title indicates good money and education. But clearly not a billionaire.

I signed up for hinge and paid for one week. Swiped right on attractive 30-42 young, white, professional women. not overweight.

single or divorced, kids or no kids is fine with me.

I only swipe on women attractive to me. I was married to a model for 15yr so have pretty high standards

I got 70+ matches within 30miles of Tyson’s corner. Granted none of the 70 matches are modelesque but they all meet my basic minimum attractiveness criteria

Have 7 dates set up for this week and about a dozen other conversations going on

In previous online dating iterations I was pretty much the one to reject my dates after date one or two as I didn’t feel it

Who said guys don’t have a chance. Don’t let the DCUM crowd of older mostly unattractive women depress you guys

Secret to my success I will admit I had my friend take some really nice and interesting pics of me. Interesting being the key word. I’m definitely not what people would call classically attractive like I said balding dad bod haha

ew

Why ew? It’s just a retort to the stupid OP who posits things based on fantasy not fact

[Anonymous]

here are the facts, women over 30 go down in value

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:here are the facts, women over 30 go down in value

here are facts, you’re a dumsh*t incel