Another pregnant teacher

[Anonymous]

6 weeks is when hyperemesis gravidarum might appear, for example. I can't imagine trying to teach while also puking my guts out all day.,

[Anonymous]

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Well, that sort of goes another way too. They SAY they do it b/c they love kids and educating them. We have had lots of teachers miss lots of school in recent years and it IS disruptive. That is their right, so fine. But, don't act like it doesn't negatively affect the kids in their classroom. they have 10-12 weeks in the summer which is more than most people have. I certainly don't get that. i don't get why some of their issues cannot be handled or timed for during that time. Sure, it doesn't always work out. And sure, they CAN do whatever they want. That doesn't mean that they should and then expect parents whose kids aren't being taught sufficiently to be happy about it.

You don't get it both ways.

The FCPS calendar this year gives teachers a 7.5 week schedule. My specific position works longer, so I have 6.5 weeks. Like other teachers, I do my very best to “take care of my issues” during that time. Things I haven’t yet learned to schedule in the summer include:
A surprise broken tooth and subsequent removal and recovery
My father’s death
My house flooding
The flu
Pneumonia
Being in a car wreck
A pregnancy loss

I have nearly 150 days of leave that I have not used and will not be fairly compensated for at retirement. I do everything in my power to never miss a minute with my students, but sometimes I have to be a real human person with real human needs.

I too have not yet learned how to schedule certain life events for the summer. I have inconvenienced families by missing school for:

* My daughter's death
* An emergency surgery
* Hospitalization due to a lung infection
* Two pregnancy losses with my own hemorrhaging
* Being injured in my classroom

I got mean emails from parents about each of these absences. Even when my own child died, at least one parent didn't understand why I needed to be out for more than the day of the burial.

I’m going to call bs on this one.

I don't. My final year at FCPS I had major surgery and came back when I still in so much pain that I could barely walk. No one cared. Then I had a miscarriage at 16 weeks, and again, no one cared. I didn't even miss a day of work for that. When a parent died suddenly, just weeks after my second miscarriage, I told admin that I need a couple of days off. They got angry with me and guilted me into not going to the funeral. That's when I knew I was going to quit as soon as the year was up, and I did, and I'll never go back. FCPS will ask EVERYTHING of you, and give you absolutely nothing in return.

unfortunately, A lot of jobs are this way…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Well, that sort of goes another way too. They SAY they do it b/c they love kids and educating them. We have had lots of teachers miss lots of school in recent years and it IS disruptive. That is their right, so fine. But, don't act like it doesn't negatively affect the kids in their classroom. they have 10-12 weeks in the summer which is more than most people have. I certainly don't get that. i don't get why some of their issues cannot be handled or timed for during that time. Sure, it doesn't always work out. And sure, they CAN do whatever they want. That doesn't mean that they should and then expect parents whose kids aren't being taught sufficiently to be happy about it.

You don't get it both ways.

The FCPS calendar this year gives teachers a 7.5 week schedule. My specific position works longer, so I have 6.5 weeks. Like other teachers, I do my very best to “take care of my issues” during that time. Things I haven’t yet learned to schedule in the summer include:
A surprise broken tooth and subsequent removal and recovery
My father’s death
My house flooding
The flu
Pneumonia
Being in a car wreck
A pregnancy loss

I have nearly 150 days of leave that I have not used and will not be fairly compensated for at retirement. I do everything in my power to never miss a minute with my students, but sometimes I have to be a real human person with real human needs.

I too have not yet learned how to schedule certain life events for the summer. I have inconvenienced families by missing school for:

* My daughter's death
* An emergency surgery
* Hospitalization due to a lung infection
* Two pregnancy losses with my own hemorrhaging
* Being injured in my classroom

I got mean emails from parents about each of these absences. Even when my own child died, at least one parent didn't understand why I needed to be out for more than the day of the burial.

I’m going to call bs on this one.

I don't. My final year at FCPS I had major surgery and came back when I still in so much pain that I could barely walk. No one cared. Then I had a miscarriage at 16 weeks, and again, no one cared. I didn't even miss a day of work for that. When a parent died suddenly, just weeks after my second miscarriage, I told admin that I need a couple of days off. They got angry with me and guilted me into not going to the funeral. That's when I knew I was going to quit as soon as the year was up, and I did, and I'll never go back. FCPS will ask EVERYTHING of you, and give you absolutely nothing in return.

unfortunately, A lot of jobs are this way…

Well, damn, I never considered that. You are absolutely right, I should be HAPPY to be treated like trash, because lots of other people are also treated like trash! Thanks for showing me that it's my fault for expecting to be treated like a human being.

Some of you all are still real mad the US outlawed slavery and it shows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Well, that sort of goes another way too. They SAY they do it b/c they love kids and educating them. We have had lots of teachers miss lots of school in recent years and it IS disruptive. That is their right, so fine. But, don't act like it doesn't negatively affect the kids in their classroom. they have 10-12 weeks in the summer which is more than most people have. I certainly don't get that. i don't get why some of their issues cannot be handled or timed for during that time. Sure, it doesn't always work out. And sure, they CAN do whatever they want. That doesn't mean that they should and then expect parents whose kids aren't being taught sufficiently to be happy about it.

You don't get it both ways.

The FCPS calendar this year gives teachers a 7.5 week schedule. My specific position works longer, so I have 6.5 weeks. Like other teachers, I do my very best to “take care of my issues” during that time. Things I haven’t yet learned to schedule in the summer include:
A surprise broken tooth and subsequent removal and recovery
My father’s death
My house flooding
The flu
Pneumonia
Being in a car wreck
A pregnancy loss

I have nearly 150 days of leave that I have not used and will not be fairly compensated for at retirement. I do everything in my power to never miss a minute with my students, but sometimes I have to be a real human person with real human needs.

I too have not yet learned how to schedule certain life events for the summer. I have inconvenienced families by missing school for:

* My daughter's death
* An emergency surgery
* Hospitalization due to a lung infection
* Two pregnancy losses with my own hemorrhaging
* Being injured in my classroom

I got mean emails from parents about each of these absences. Even when my own child died, at least one parent didn't understand why I needed to be out for more than the day of the burial.

I’m going to call bs on this one.

I don't. My final year at FCPS I had major surgery and came back when I still in so much pain that I could barely walk. No one cared. Then I had a miscarriage at 16 weeks, and again, no one cared. I didn't even miss a day of work for that. When a parent died suddenly, just weeks after my second miscarriage, I told admin that I need a couple of days off. They got angry with me and guilted me into not going to the funeral. That's when I knew I was going to quit as soon as the year was up, and I did, and I'll never go back. FCPS will ask EVERYTHING of you, and give you absolutely nothing in return.

unfortunately, A lot of jobs are this way…

Shut up you disgusting thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:3rd year teacher is pregnant and won’t be back after Spring Break. They will try to find a long term sub for her, but who knows if they will. She is only 12 weeks pregnant and doesn’t have any issues with the pregnancy. i just don’t understand why doesn’t she stay till the end since the baby won’t be due for another 6 months…

Maybe she has some health problems - what business is it of yours?

I left FCPS when I was about 6 weeks pregnant. The job was incompatible with my health to begin with, and I'd already had two miscarriages and several serious health scares while working that incredibly stressful, 65-70 hour a week job. So I don't blame this teacher for leaving, although it could have had nothing to do with that.

If you teach, you don't have time to pee or even have morning sickness. It makes sense to quit when pregnant unless you are super healthy with absolutely no issues whatsoever.

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:3rd year teacher is pregnant and won’t be back after Spring Break. They will try to find a long term sub for her, but who knows if they will. She is only 12 weeks pregnant and doesn’t have any issues with the pregnancy. i just don’t understand why doesn’t she stay till the end since the baby won’t be due for another 6 months…

You're a parent of a student. How would you remotely know if she "doesn't have any issues with the pregnancy"? If she said that to you or others, you have no idea if she was telling the truth. In her situation I wouldn't tell parents if I had health issues in pregnancy or anything else.

You're just sore that your kid will "lose" a teacher for the last part of the year. We get that. But dont' go around making out as if you know this woman or her actual situation outside school. She does not work for YOU. She works for the school and makes whatever arrangements she needs to make with them, not you or your child.

So many parents don't get this, or pretend not to. I was a 12 month teacher so if I had to take care of anything or take vacation it had to be when I had students in session.
Most parents understood this but I had parents that would act like I had no right to use my vacation time (or sick leave for that matter), ever.

I left at 28 weeks pregnant because I was planning to SAH anyway. There was no point in being uncomfortable by the end for so little pay and much stress. If I had any complications I would have left earlier.

[Anonymous]

I worked in IT thru 2 pregnancies. I sat at my desk pretty much all day, give or take a meeting here and there. No one really bothered me and I just did my work. I cannot imagine having morning sickness and having to deal with 25+ kids, some with behavior issues and being pregnant. I can't even imagine how they come back after having the baby. How can they pump?? How can they function on little sleep?? They are amazing! Thank you teachers!!!

[Anonymous]

When I was in like 5th or 6th grade my teacher got hit by a car and missed most of the school year. I somehow managed to make it thru high school and go to college. It will be ok!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Well, that sort of goes another way too. They SAY they do it b/c they love kids and educating them. We have had lots of teachers miss lots of school in recent years and it IS disruptive. That is their right, so fine. But, don't act like it doesn't negatively affect the kids in their classroom. they have 10-12 weeks in the summer which is more than most people have. I certainly don't get that. i don't get why some of their issues cannot be handled or timed for during that time. Sure, it doesn't always work out. And sure, they CAN do whatever they want. That doesn't mean that they should and then expect parents whose kids aren't being taught sufficiently to be happy about it.

You don't get it both ways.

The FCPS calendar this year gives teachers a 7.5 week schedule. My specific position works longer, so I have 6.5 weeks. Like other teachers, I do my very best to “take care of my issues” during that time. Things I haven’t yet learned to schedule in the summer include:
A surprise broken tooth and subsequent removal and recovery
My father’s death
My house flooding
The flu
Pneumonia
Being in a car wreck
A pregnancy loss

I have nearly 150 days of leave that I have not used and will not be fairly compensated for at retirement. I do everything in my power to never miss a minute with my students, but sometimes I have to be a real human person with real human needs.

I too have not yet learned how to schedule certain life events for the summer. I have inconvenienced families by missing school for:

* My daughter's death
* An emergency surgery
* Hospitalization due to a lung infection
* Two pregnancy losses with my own hemorrhaging
* Being injured in my classroom

I got mean emails from parents about each of these absences. Even when my own child died, at least one parent didn't understand why I needed to be out for more than the day of the burial.

I’m going to call bs on this one.

I don't. My final year at FCPS I had major surgery and came back when I still in so much pain that I could barely walk. No one cared. Then I had a miscarriage at 16 weeks, and again, no one cared. I didn't even miss a day of work for that. When a parent died suddenly, just weeks after my second miscarriage, I told admin that I need a couple of days off. They got angry with me and guilted me into not going to the funeral. That's when I knew I was going to quit as soon as the year was up, and I did, and I'll never go back. FCPS will ask EVERYTHING of you, and give you absolutely nothing in return.

Are you alls the one who lost a child and a mean parent wondered why you needed more than one day for the burial?

So you didn’t go to your own parent’s funeral? Again, going to call BS on this. You let someone guilt you into not going to your own parent’s funeral?! That’s really odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I worked in IT thru 2 pregnancies. I sat at my desk pretty much all day, give or take a meeting here and there. No one really bothered me and I just did my work. I cannot imagine having morning sickness and having to deal with 25+ kids, some with behavior issues and being pregnant. I can't even imagine how they come back after having the baby. How can they pump?? How can they function on little sleep?? They are amazing! Thank you teachers!!!

I was a teacher for years, but due to DH's move, took another type of job. I had morning sickness (really all day nausea) all nine months. It was awful, and I could never have made it working if I were teaching. My workplace was very understanding and I took a lot of sick leave that year. I worked up until the last week--I would have left sooner, but people were on travel and they asked me to please stay as long as I could just to cover. No way I could have taught school.

[Anonymous]

"OMG, I just found out my kid's teacher is a human being!"

I fixed the title for you.

[Anonymous]

This is why I planned my pregnancy during Covid closures. I was terrified of throwing up in front of my students and not being able to get to the bathroom. It was a good thing too because I could barely walk my last few weeks of pregnancy (baby was late). I was so glad I was able to work from home. I am seriously considering a leave of absence if I have another child given how my first pregnancy went and how “on” you have to be all day teaching kids. I left my last FCPS school due to safety concerns (kids running in the halls, rough housing, etc.) I actually knew of two staff members who we shoved or hit while pregnant. Not worth it if you can afford to leave!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:3rd year teacher is pregnant and won’t be back after Spring Break. They will try to find a long term sub for her, but who knows if they will. She is only 12 weeks pregnant and doesn’t have any issues with the pregnancy. i just don’t understand why doesn’t she stay till the end since the baby won’t be due for another 6 months…

Maybe she has some health problems - what business is it of yours?

I left FCPS when I was about 6 weeks pregnant. The job was incompatible with my health to begin with, and I'd already had two miscarriages and several serious health scares while working that incredibly stressful, 65-70 hour a week job. So I don't blame this teacher for leaving, although it could have had nothing to do with that.

If the teacher is going out on FMLA, there has to be a reason, you just aren't privy to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:3rd year teacher is pregnant and won’t be back after Spring Break. They will try to find a long term sub for her, but who knows if they will. She is only 12 weeks pregnant and doesn’t have any issues with the pregnancy. i just don’t understand why doesn’t she stay till the end since the baby won’t be due for another 6 months…

You're a parent of a student. How would you remotely know if she "doesn't have any issues with the pregnancy"? If she said that to you or others, you have no idea if she was telling the truth. In her situation I wouldn't tell parents if I had health issues in pregnancy or anything else.

You're just sore that your kid will "lose" a teacher for the last part of the year. We get that. But dont' go around making out as if you know this woman or her actual situation outside school. She does not work for YOU. She works for the school and makes whatever arrangements she needs to make with them, not you or your child.

So many parents don't get this, or pretend not to. I was a 12 month teacher so if I had to take care of anything or take vacation it had to be when I had students in session.
Most parents understood this but I had parents that would act like I had no right to use my vacation time (or sick leave for that matter), ever.

I left at 28 weeks pregnant because I was planning to SAH anyway. There was no point in being uncomfortable by the end for so little pay and much stress. If I had any complications I would have left earlier.

I came back from maternity leave and a parent told me I should get someone to care for my sick kid....she was referring to my 4 month old. A lot of entitlement and no one should be guessing why teachers leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"OMG, I just found out my kid's teacher is a human being!"

I fixed the title for you.

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