Another pregnant teacher

[Anonymous]

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Well, that sort of goes another way too. They SAY they do it b/c they love kids and educating them. We have had lots of teachers miss lots of school in recent years and it IS disruptive. That is their right, so fine. But, don't act like it doesn't negatively affect the kids in their classroom. they have 10-12 weeks in the summer which is more than most people have. I certainly don't get that. i don't get why some of their issues cannot be handled or timed for during that time. Sure, it doesn't always work out. And sure, they CAN do whatever they want. That doesn't mean that they should and then expect parents whose kids aren't being taught sufficiently to be happy about it.

You don't get it both ways.

The FCPS calendar this year gives teachers a 7.5 week schedule. My specific position works longer, so I have 6.5 weeks. Like other teachers, I do my very best to “take care of my issues” during that time. Things I haven’t yet learned to schedule in the summer include:
A surprise broken tooth and subsequent removal and recovery
My father’s death
My house flooding
The flu
Pneumonia
Being in a car wreck
A pregnancy loss

I have nearly 150 days of leave that I have not used and will not be fairly compensated for at retirement. I do everything in my power to never miss a minute with my students, but sometimes I have to be a real human person with real human needs.

I too have not yet learned how to schedule certain life events for the summer. I have inconvenienced families by missing school for:

* My daughter's death
* An emergency surgery
* Hospitalization due to a lung infection
* Two pregnancy losses with my own hemorrhaging
* Being injured in my classroom

I got mean emails from parents about each of these absences. Even when my own child died, at least one parent didn't understand why I needed to be out for more than the day of the burial.

I’m going to call bs on this one.

You can call BS all you want, but it is true.

Just another example of an a**hole parent.

yup

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Society:

We don't want to pay teachers more. But we want teachers to put their job first.

FCPS: We don't want teachers to take time off.
Also FCPS: We don't care if you have 1,700 hours of unused sick leave when you leave the district. We aren't paying you out for any of it.

+1

To be fair, the federal government doesn't pay out sick leave either. Feds still have separate vacation and sick, vacation gets paid out, sick doesn't. Mainly because sick leave has no ceiling but vacation does. Feds do have a leave bank where you can donate leave to anyone except up your direct reporting chain. I've had coworkers use it for surgeries and maternity leave.

[Anonymous]

You're right, but since it is clear that having teachers be out is so negative, offering an incentive to teachers who avoid using leave would probably have at least a small positive effect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:3rd year teacher is pregnant and won’t be back after Spring Break. They will try to find a long term sub for her, but who knows if they will. She is only 12 weeks pregnant and doesn’t have any issues with the pregnancy. i just don’t understand why doesn’t she stay till the end since the baby won’t be due for another 6 months…

Maybe she has some health problems - what business is it of yours?

I left FCPS when I was about 6 weeks pregnant. The job was incompatible with my health to begin with, and I'd already had two miscarriages and several serious health scares while working that incredibly stressful, 65-70 hour a week job. So I don't blame this teacher for leaving, although it could have had nothing to do with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Well, that sort of goes another way too. They SAY they do it b/c they love kids and educating them. We have had lots of teachers miss lots of school in recent years and it IS disruptive. That is their right, so fine. But, don't act like it doesn't negatively affect the kids in their classroom. they have 10-12 weeks in the summer which is more than most people have. I certainly don't get that. i don't get why some of their issues cannot be handled or timed for during that time. Sure, it doesn't always work out. And sure, they CAN do whatever they want. That doesn't mean that they should and then expect parents whose kids aren't being taught sufficiently to be happy about it.

You don't get it both ways.

The FCPS calendar this year gives teachers a 7.5 week schedule. My specific position works longer, so I have 6.5 weeks. Like other teachers, I do my very best to “take care of my issues” during that time. Things I haven’t yet learned to schedule in the summer include:
A surprise broken tooth and subsequent removal and recovery
My father’s death
My house flooding
The flu
Pneumonia
Being in a car wreck
A pregnancy loss

I have nearly 150 days of leave that I have not used and will not be fairly compensated for at retirement. I do everything in my power to never miss a minute with my students, but sometimes I have to be a real human person with real human needs.

I too have not yet learned how to schedule certain life events for the summer. I have inconvenienced families by missing school for:

* My daughter's death
* An emergency surgery
* Hospitalization due to a lung infection
* Two pregnancy losses with my own hemorrhaging
* Being injured in my classroom

I got mean emails from parents about each of these absences. Even when my own child died, at least one parent didn't understand why I needed to be out for more than the day of the burial.

I’m going to call bs on this one.

I don't. My final year at FCPS I had major surgery and came back when I still in so much pain that I could barely walk. No one cared. Then I had a miscarriage at 16 weeks, and again, no one cared. I didn't even miss a day of work for that. When a parent died suddenly, just weeks after my second miscarriage, I told admin that I need a couple of days off. They got angry with me and guilted me into not going to the funeral. That's when I knew I was going to quit as soon as the year was up, and I did, and I'll never go back. FCPS will ask EVERYTHING of you, and give you absolutely nothing in return.

[Anonymous]

OP, you realize that most elementary school teachers are young women and are likely to go through several pregnancies in their early career. It’s been this way forever. I’m 53 and remember having long-term subs when my teachers were pregnant. It sucks for your child, but it will all be OK. I promise.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:3rd year teacher is pregnant and won’t be back after Spring Break. They will try to find a long term sub for her, but who knows if they will. She is only 12 weeks pregnant and doesn’t have any issues with the pregnancy. i just don’t understand why doesn’t she stay till the end since the baby won’t be due for another 6 months…

Lets say you manage your pregnancy and let her manage hers. How's that sound?

+1

OP, you are wretched. Wretched.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:3rd year teacher is pregnant and won’t be back after Spring Break. They will try to find a long term sub for her, but who knows if they will. She is only 12 weeks pregnant and doesn’t have any issues with the pregnancy. i just don’t understand why doesn’t she stay till the end since the baby won’t be due for another 6 months…

Too bad for you. Lots of women still want to become mothers. Suck it.

[Anonymous]

Teachers have it hard. Whenever I go volunteer at school there are several kids acting up in the hallways. We are at a high ses school also. I have heard stories from my kids of one of two classmates flipping the the teachers desk. Why should the teachers have to deal with these kids??? What if she gets kicked or something?? Why do they even allow these kids to be in regular classrooms? If I had one of these kids I wouldn't send them to a regular school. Poor teachers!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:3rd year teacher is pregnant and won’t be back after Spring Break. They will try to find a long term sub for her, but who knows if they will. She is only 12 weeks pregnant and doesn’t have any issues with the pregnancy. i just don’t understand why doesn’t she stay till the end since the baby won’t be due for another 6 months…

You're a parent of a student. How would you remotely know if she "doesn't have any issues with the pregnancy"? If she said that to you or others, you have no idea if she was telling the truth. In her situation I wouldn't tell parents if I had health issues in pregnancy or anything else.

You're just sore that your kid will "lose" a teacher for the last part of the year. We get that. But dont' go around making out as if you know this woman or her actual situation outside school. She does not work for YOU. She works for the school and makes whatever arrangements she needs to make with them, not you or your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teachers have it hard. Whenever I go volunteer at school there are several kids acting up in the hallways. We are at a high ses school also. I have heard stories from my kids of one of two classmates flipping the the teachers desk. Why should the teachers have to deal with these kids??? What if she gets kicked or something?? Why do they even allow these kids to be in regular classrooms? If I had one of these kids I wouldn't send them to a regular school. Poor teachers!

Thanks for volunteering it means a lot to teachers. There are many IEP parents who are refusing self contained classrooms and their child is creating an unsafe enviornment. They act like we only have their kid to keep safe and educate. This teacher is smart to get out. The respect for teachers is zero and this thread proves it.

[Anonymous]

OP, how in the world would you know that the pregnant teacher has no issues with her pregnancy? Are you privy to her medical history?

Second, your sense of entitlement is appalling. While it's unfortunate that your son will have a sub, you seem to think that the teacher should put your child's well being (and this is hardly the end of the world for him) ahead of her own pregnancy/child.

Maybe instead of coming to DCUM to complain, you should volunteer in the school or do more to improve conditions. Get some perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teachers have it hard. Whenever I go volunteer at school there are several kids acting up in the hallways. We are at a high ses school also. I have heard stories from my kids of one of two classmates flipping the the teachers desk. Why should the teachers have to deal with these kids??? What if she gets kicked or something?? Why do they even allow these kids to be in regular classrooms? If I had one of these kids I wouldn't send them to a regular school. Poor teachers!

Thanks for volunteering it means a lot to teachers. There are many IEP parents who are refusing self contained classrooms and their child is creating an unsafe enviornment. They act like we only have their kid to keep safe and educate. This teacher is smart to get out. The respect for teachers is zero and this thread proves it.

It’s a myth that viciously violent thugs must be in your classroom to threaten you and all the students. Stop drinking their kool-aid. Kids who have threatened to rape or beat you, and have the ability to do it, must never be allowed in your classroom. Full stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Well, that sort of goes another way too. They SAY they do it b/c they love kids and educating them. We have had lots of teachers miss lots of school in recent years and it IS disruptive. That is their right, so fine. But, don't act like it doesn't negatively affect the kids in their classroom. they have 10-12 weeks in the summer which is more than most people have. I certainly don't get that. i don't get why some of their issues cannot be handled or timed for during that time. Sure, it doesn't always work out. And sure, they CAN do whatever they want. That doesn't mean that they should and then expect parents whose kids aren't being taught sufficiently to be happy about it.

You don't get it both ways.

The FCPS calendar this year gives teachers a 7.5 week schedule. My specific position works longer, so I have 6.5 weeks. Like other teachers, I do my very best to “take care of my issues” during that time. Things I haven’t yet learned to schedule in the summer include:
A surprise broken tooth and subsequent removal and recovery
My father’s death
My house flooding
The flu
Pneumonia
Being in a car wreck
A pregnancy loss

I have nearly 150 days of leave that I have not used and will not be fairly compensated for at retirement. I do everything in my power to never miss a minute with my students, but sometimes I have to be a real human person with real human needs.

I too have not yet learned how to schedule certain life events for the summer. I have inconvenienced families by missing school for:

* My daughter's death
* An emergency surgery
* Hospitalization due to a lung infection
* Two pregnancy losses with my own hemorrhaging
* Being injured in my classroom

I got mean emails from parents about each of these absences. Even when my own child died, at least one parent didn't understand why I needed to be out for more than the day of the burial.

I’m going to call bs on this one.

I don't. My final year at FCPS I had major surgery and came back when I still in so much pain that I could barely walk. No one cared. Then I had a miscarriage at 16 weeks, and again, no one cared. I didn't even miss a day of work for that. When a parent died suddenly, just weeks after my second miscarriage, I told admin that I need a couple of days off. They got angry with me and guilted me into not going to the funeral. That's when I knew I was going to quit as soon as the year was up, and I did, and I'll never go back. FCPS will ask EVERYTHING of you, and give you absolutely nothing in return.

I am so sorry you went through all of those traumas. What a horrible year! I hope you are in a more supportive and peaceful place now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:3rd year teacher is pregnant and won’t be back after Spring Break. They will try to find a long term sub for her, but who knows if they will. She is only 12 weeks pregnant and doesn’t have any issues with the pregnancy. i just don’t understand why doesn’t she stay till the end since the baby won’t be due for another 6 months…

Maybe she has some health problems - what business is it of yours?

I left FCPS when I was about 6 weeks pregnant. The job was incompatible with my health to begin with, and I'd already had two miscarriages and several serious health scares while working that incredibly stressful, 65-70 hour a week job. So I don't blame this teacher for leaving, although it could have had nothing to do with that.

If you teach, you don't have time to pee or even have morning sickness. It makes sense to quit when pregnant unless you are super healthy with absolutely no issues whatsoever.