Another pregnant teacher

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"OMG, I just found out my kid's teacher is a human being!"

I fixed the title for you.

I'm waiting for

"Teacher is pregnant and didn't check with parents first."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:3rd year teacher is pregnant and won’t be back after Spring Break. They will try to find a long term sub for her, but who knows if they will. She is only 12 weeks pregnant and doesn’t have any issues with the pregnancy. i just don’t understand why doesn’t she stay till the end since the baby won’t be due for another 6 months…

You're a parent of a student. How would you remotely know if she "doesn't have any issues with the pregnancy"? If she said that to you or others, you have no idea if she was telling the truth. In her situation I wouldn't tell parents if I had health issues in pregnancy or anything else.

You're just sore that your kid will "lose" a teacher for the last part of the year. We get that. But dont' go around making out as if you know this woman or her actual situation outside school. She does not work for YOU. She works for the school and makes whatever arrangements she needs to make with them, not you or your child.

So many parents don't get this, or pretend not to. I was a 12 month teacher so if I had to take care of anything or take vacation it had to be when I had students in session.
Most parents understood this but I had parents that would act like I had no right to use my vacation time (or sick leave for that matter), ever.

I left at 28 weeks pregnant because I was planning to SAH anyway. There was no point in being uncomfortable by the end for so little pay and much stress. If I had any complications I would have left earlier.

Oh you poor thing. . . I worked commuting into DC until the day I gave birth. Uncomfortable . . . LOL.

Look, the thing is, leave. Don't leave. Take time off. Don't take time off. But the fact is you ARE accountable to the kids and their parents. You may think you're not, and it's kind of funny how many teachers on here think that, but you are. You have every right to take your leave, but don't think that you being out all the time (and there teachers that are) and having that affect the kids, is going to make parents respect you very much. They won't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:3rd year teacher is pregnant and won’t be back after Spring Break. They will try to find a long term sub for her, but who knows if they will. She is only 12 weeks pregnant and doesn’t have any issues with the pregnancy. i just don’t understand why doesn’t she stay till the end since the baby won’t be due for another 6 months…

You're a parent of a student. How would you remotely know if she "doesn't have any issues with the pregnancy"? If she said that to you or others, you have no idea if she was telling the truth. In her situation I wouldn't tell parents if I had health issues in pregnancy or anything else.

You're just sore that your kid will "lose" a teacher for the last part of the year. We get that. But dont' go around making out as if you know this woman or her actual situation outside school. She does not work for YOU. She works for the school and makes whatever arrangements she needs to make with them, not you or your child.

So many parents don't get this, or pretend not to. I was a 12 month teacher so if I had to take care of anything or take vacation it had to be when I had students in session.
Most parents understood this but I had parents that would act like I had no right to use my vacation time (or sick leave for that matter), ever.

I left at 28 weeks pregnant because I was planning to SAH anyway. There was no point in being uncomfortable by the end for so little pay and much stress. If I had any complications I would have left earlier.

Oh you poor thing. . . I worked commuting into DC until the day I gave birth. Uncomfortable . . . LOL.

Look, the thing is, leave. Don't leave. Take time off. Don't take time off. But the fact is you ARE accountable to the kids and their parents. You may think you're not, and it's kind of funny how many teachers on here think that, but you are. You have every right to take your leave, but don't think that you being out all the time (and there teachers that are) and having that affect the kids, is going to make parents respect you very much. They won't.

So?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:3rd year teacher is pregnant and won’t be back after Spring Break. They will try to find a long term sub for her, but who knows if they will. She is only 12 weeks pregnant and doesn’t have any issues with the pregnancy. i just don’t understand why doesn’t she stay till the end since the baby won’t be due for another 6 months…

You're a parent of a student. How would you remotely know if she "doesn't have any issues with the pregnancy"? If she said that to you or others, you have no idea if she was telling the truth. In her situation I wouldn't tell parents if I had health issues in pregnancy or anything else.

You're just sore that your kid will "lose" a teacher for the last part of the year. We get that. But dont' go around making out as if you know this woman or her actual situation outside school. She does not work for YOU. She works for the school and makes whatever arrangements she needs to make with them, not you or your child.

So many parents don't get this, or pretend not to. I was a 12 month teacher so if I had to take care of anything or take vacation it had to be when I had students in session.
Most parents understood this but I had parents that would act like I had no right to use my vacation time (or sick leave for that matter), ever.

I left at 28 weeks pregnant because I was planning to SAH anyway. There was no point in being uncomfortable by the end for so little pay and much stress. If I had any complications I would have left earlier.

Oh you poor thing. . . I worked commuting into DC until the day I gave birth. Uncomfortable . . . LOL.

Look, the thing is, leave. Don't leave. Take time off. Don't take time off. But the fact is you ARE accountable to the kids and their parents. You may think you're not, and it's kind of funny how many teachers on here think that, but you are. You have every right to take your leave, but don't think that you being out all the time (and there teachers that are) and having that affect the kids, is going to make parents respect you very much. They won't.

Look the thing is. Parent your kids don't parent your kids. But the fact is that you as parents are accountable for the ridiculous behaviors schools are seeing. You have every right to act like you don't care or don't owe society respectful functioning community members but please know that teachers have lost respect for you as well. WE don't respect many of you and the ones we do respect it's typically a mutual feeling so stuff your pretentious teachers owe me attitude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:3rd year teacher is pregnant and won’t be back after Spring Break. They will try to find a long term sub for her, but who knows if they will. She is only 12 weeks pregnant and doesn’t have any issues with the pregnancy. i just don’t understand why doesn’t she stay till the end since the baby won’t be due for another 6 months…

You're a parent of a student. How would you remotely know if she "doesn't have any issues with the pregnancy"? If she said that to you or others, you have no idea if she was telling the truth. In her situation I wouldn't tell parents if I had health issues in pregnancy or anything else.

You're just sore that your kid will "lose" a teacher for the last part of the year. We get that. But dont' go around making out as if you know this woman or her actual situation outside school. She does not work for YOU. She works for the school and makes whatever arrangements she needs to make with them, not you or your child.

So many parents don't get this, or pretend not to. I was a 12 month teacher so if I had to take care of anything or take vacation it had to be when I had students in session.
Most parents understood this but I had parents that would act like I had no right to use my vacation time (or sick leave for that matter), ever.

I left at 28 weeks pregnant because I was planning to SAH anyway. There was no point in being uncomfortable by the end for so little pay and much stress. If I had any complications I would have left earlier.

Oh you poor thing. . . I worked commuting into DC until the day I gave birth. Uncomfortable . . . LOL.

Look, the thing is, leave. Don't leave. Take time off. Don't take time off. But the fact is you ARE accountable to the kids and their parents. You may think you're not, and it's kind of funny how many teachers on here think that, but you are. You have every right to take your leave, but don't think that you being out all the time (and there teachers that are) and having that affect the kids, is going to make parents respect you very much. They won't.

So?

+1 I may lose a whole second of sleep over this statement

[Anonymous]

Division is the goal of our handlers.
“Let them eat each other.”

[Anonymous]

Look, the thing is, leave. Don't leave. Take time off. Don't take time off. But the fact is you ARE accountable to the kids and their parents. You may think you're not, and it's kind of funny how many teachers on here think that, but you are. You have every right to take your leave, but don't think that you being out all the time (and there teachers that are) and having that affect the kids, is going to make parents respect you very much. They won't.

The number of teachers that are “out all the time” is far, far smaller than the number of teachers who go to great lengths to avoid taking time off. The bell curve of teacher absences has most teachers missing just a few days each year.

I think what some people on this thread are really angry about is that teachers—women—are no longer excessively self-sacrificing. It’s hard for some people to see teachers don’t feel obligated to beg forgiveness for taking care of their and their family’s’ health.

My students and their parents matter to me very, very much, but they won’t be there to help me care for a dying family member and they won’t be picking me up off the bathroom floor when I am sick, so they are not my #1 life priority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:3rd year teacher is pregnant and won’t be back after Spring Break. They will try to find a long term sub for her, but who knows if they will. She is only 12 weeks pregnant and doesn’t have any issues with the pregnancy. i just don’t understand why doesn’t she stay till the end since the baby won’t be due for another 6 months…

You're a parent of a student. How would you remotely know if she "doesn't have any issues with the pregnancy"? If she said that to you or others, you have no idea if she was telling the truth. In her situation I wouldn't tell parents if I had health issues in pregnancy or anything else.

You're just sore that your kid will "lose" a teacher for the last part of the year. We get that. But dont' go around making out as if you know this woman or her actual situation outside school. She does not work for YOU. She works for the school and makes whatever arrangements she needs to make with them, not you or your child.

So many parents don't get this, or pretend not to. I was a 12 month teacher so if I had to take care of anything or take vacation it had to be when I had students in session.
Most parents understood this but I had parents that would act like I had no right to use my vacation time (or sick leave for that matter), ever.

I left at 28 weeks pregnant because I was planning to SAH anyway. There was no point in being uncomfortable by the end for so little pay and much stress. If I had any complications I would have left earlier.

Oh you poor thing. . . I worked commuting into DC until the day I gave birth. Uncomfortable . . . LOL.

Look, the thing is, leave. Don't leave. Take time off. Don't take time off. But the fact is you ARE accountable to the kids and their parents. You may think you're not, and it's kind of funny how many teachers on here think that, but you are. You have every right to take your leave, but don't think that you being out all the time (and there teachers that are) and having that affect the kids, is going to make parents respect you very much. They won't.

Where in your post did you explain how I am accountable to the parents? You mentioned affecting kids, but that’s not accountability.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why I planned my pregnancy during Covid closures. I was terrified of throwing up in front of my students and not being able to get to the bathroom. It was a good thing too because I could barely walk my last few weeks of pregnancy (baby was late). I was so glad I was able to work from home. I am seriously considering a leave of absence if I have another child given how my first pregnancy went and how “on” you have to be all day teaching kids. I left my last FCPS school due to safety concerns (kids running in the halls, rough housing, etc.) I actually knew of two staff members who we shoved or hit while pregnant. Not worth it if you can afford to leave!

But OP says the pregnant teachers need to stay!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Look, the thing is, leave. Don't leave. Take time off. Don't take time off. But the fact is you ARE accountable to the kids and their parents. You may think you're not, and it's kind of funny how many teachers on here think that, but you are. You have every right to take your leave, but don't think that you being out all the time (and there teachers that are) and having that affect the kids, is going to make parents respect you very much. They won't.

The number of teachers that are “out all the time” is far, far smaller than the number of teachers who go to great lengths to avoid taking time off. The bell curve of teacher absences has most teachers missing just a few days each year.

I think what some people on this thread are really angry about is that teachers—women—are no longer excessively self-sacrificing. It’s hard for some people to see teachers don’t feel obligated to beg forgiveness for taking care of their and their family’s’ health.

My students and their parents matter to me very, very much, but they won’t be there to help me care for a dying family member and they won’t be picking me up off the bathroom floor when I am sick, so they are not my #1 life priority.

No one at your job cares about you. Please care for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:3rd year teacher is pregnant and won’t be back after Spring Break. They will try to find a long term sub for her, but who knows if they will. She is only 12 weeks pregnant and doesn’t have any issues with the pregnancy. i just don’t understand why doesn’t she stay till the end since the baby won’t be due for another 6 months…

You're a parent of a student. How would you remotely know if she "doesn't have any issues with the pregnancy"? If she said that to you or others, you have no idea if she was telling the truth. In her situation I wouldn't tell parents if I had health issues in pregnancy or anything else.

You're just sore that your kid will "lose" a teacher for the last part of the year. We get that. But dont' go around making out as if you know this woman or her actual situation outside school. She does not work for YOU. She works for the school and makes whatever arrangements she needs to make with them, not you or your child.

So many parents don't get this, or pretend not to. I was a 12 month teacher so if I had to take care of anything or take vacation it had to be when I had students in session.
Most parents understood this but I had parents that would act like I had no right to use my vacation time (or sick leave for that matter), ever.

I left at 28 weeks pregnant because I was planning to SAH anyway. There was no point in being uncomfortable by the end for so little pay and much stress. If I had any complications I would have left earlier.

Oh you poor thing. . . I worked commuting into DC until the day I gave birth. Uncomfortable . . . LOL.

Look, the thing is, leave. Don't leave. Take time off. Don't take time off. But the fact is you ARE accountable to the kids and their parents. You may think you're not, and it's kind of funny how many teachers on here think that, but you are. You have every right to take your leave, but don't think that you being out all the time (and there teachers that are) and having that affect the kids, is going to make parents respect you very much. They won't.

To think that your respect matters more to me than my own family is a very self centered type of thinking.

[Anonymous]

MYOB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:3rd year teacher is pregnant and won’t be back after Spring Break. They will try to find a long term sub for her, but who knows if they will. She is only 12 weeks pregnant and doesn’t have any issues with the pregnancy. i just don’t understand why doesn’t she stay till the end since the baby won’t be due for another 6 months…

You're a parent of a student. How would you remotely know if she "doesn't have any issues with the pregnancy"? If she said that to you or others, you have no idea if she was telling the truth. In her situation I wouldn't tell parents if I had health issues in pregnancy or anything else.

You're just sore that your kid will "lose" a teacher for the last part of the year. We get that. But dont' go around making out as if you know this woman or her actual situation outside school. She does not work for YOU. She works for the school and makes whatever arrangements she needs to make with them, not you or your child.

So many parents don't get this, or pretend not to. I was a 12 month teacher so if I had to take care of anything or take vacation it had to be when I had students in session.
Most parents understood this but I had parents that would act like I had no right to use my vacation time (or sick leave for that matter), ever.

I left at 28 weeks pregnant because I was planning to SAH anyway. There was no point in being uncomfortable by the end for so little pay and much stress. If I had any complications I would have left earlier.

Oh you poor thing. . . I worked commuting into DC until the day I gave birth. Uncomfortable . . . LOL.

Look, the thing is, leave. Don't leave. Take time off. Don't take time off. But the fact is you ARE accountable to the kids and their parents. You may think you're not, and it's kind of funny how many teachers on here think that, but you are. You have every right to take your leave, but don't think that you being out all the time (and there teachers that are) and having that affect the kids, is going to make parents respect you very much. They won't.

Wrong. What makes you think a teacher is accountable to parents, or students? I actually laughed at that.

What makes your child's teacher accountable to YOU?

[Anonymous]

It’s annoying and inconvenient but the teacher is looking out for #1 (herself and her unborn child) as she should be.

We need to think of teaching more cold-bloodedly as a real profession and not some sacrificial call of duty where we expect more from teachers because they genuinely love kids and do it for the kids. If my manager or company asked me to do something I didn’t want to because of my genuine love for spreadsheets I would tell them to STFU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s annoying and inconvenient but the teacher is looking out for #1 (herself and her unborn child) as she should be.

We need to think of teaching more cold-bloodedly as a real profession and not some sacrificial call of duty where we expect more from teachers because they genuinely love kids and do it for the kids. If my manager or company asked me to do something I didn’t want to because of my genuine love for spreadsheets I would tell them to STFU.

In that case, money from contracts should be withheld until the contract is over. It would be no different from companies using year end bonuses with delayed payouts to retain employees