Sorority recruitment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dumb question: is it always the case that girls get one bid and one bid only? Or is it possible to receive multiple bids?

They typically get three. Then they rank those.

No that’s incorrect. They may get three invites to the final night of parties and rank those. They will then get one bid based on how their list matches with the sororities’ lists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dumb question: is it always the case that girls get one bid and one bid only? Or is it possible to receive multiplebids?

Different schools are different

That isn’t right. It is never possible to get more than one bid. The actual match works the same at every school.

There are sone claiming there are schools where girls go all the way through rush and receive no bid because so many girls rush. That may be possible but generally, if a girl is invited to at least one sorority on the final night and lists all the sororities to which they were invited to that night on their match list, they will get a bid.

I think there’s confusion about what one bid means.

On the last night, the girl should have three to rank. The houses to do the same. The result of those matching up is the one, final bid.

What some people have experienced though is that they were dropped by all but one BEFORE that last night, so they didn’t have any to rank by preference. So they either choose that one or they drop out.

[Anonymous]

My freshman daughter has all of what is being discussed here as the typical girl that gets into a top sorority (attended an elite private school, pretty, nice, smart, thin, $$, popular, etc.). She was aggressively “dirty rushed” by the 2 top sororities this fall within weeks of moving in by older girls. Dropped by these same 2 sororities on pref night once rush came around in January. She dropped out of rush and is still not feeling back to normal. It was an awful experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My freshman daughter has all of what is being discussed here as the typical girl that gets into a top sorority (attended an elite private school, pretty, nice, smart, thin, $$, popular, etc.). She was aggressively “dirty rushed” by the 2 top sororities this fall within weeks of moving in by older girls. Dropped by these same 2 sororities on pref night once rush came around in January. She dropped out of rush and is still not feeling back to normal. It was an awful experience.

I’m so sorry. They all do some that too: false hopes then suprise rejection. They’re not supposed to do this but they do.

[Anonymous]

To summarize op, if your daughter will be traumatized if she is not given a bid to a “top” sorority, she should consider whether sorority rush is right for her. If she is open minded and looking for a group of girls that she might be compatible with, then she will likely do well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To summarize op, if your daughter will be traumatized if she is not given a bid to a “top” sorority, she should consider whether sorority rush is right for her. If she is open minded and looking for a group of girls that she might be compatible with, then she will likely do well.

The trauma is not about “top houses”. It’s about getting dropped by all but one house (and maybe one they didn’t like) only half way through rush. If that scenario is ok with your DD, then it’s ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To summarize op, if your daughter will be traumatized if she is not given a bid to a “top” sorority, she should consider whether sorority rush is right for her. If she is open minded and looking for a group of girls that she might be compatible with, then she will likely do well.

The trauma is not about “top houses”. It’s about getting dropped by all but one house (and maybe one they didn’t like) only half way through rush. If that scenario is ok with your DD, then it’s ok.

That’s how the process works, both the girls and sororities winnow down so no girl will have more than 3 options on the last night. Other girls may have one or two. This is all explained to the girls beforehand.

If not getting invited back to any particular sorority is going to be traumatic for a girl, rush isn’t for them. Some girls aren’t as invested in a particular sorority or are fine with dropping out of rush if they don’t get into the one they want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To summarize op, if your daughter will be traumatized if she is not given a bid to a “top” sorority, she should consider whether sorority rush is right for her. If she is open minded and looking for a group of girls that she might be compatible with, then she will likely do well.

The trauma is not about “top houses”. It’s about getting dropped by all but one house (and maybe one they didn’t like) only half way through rush. If that scenario is ok with your DD, then it’s ok.

That’s how the process works, both the girls and sororities winnow down so no girl will have more than 3 options on the last night. Other girls may have one or two. This is all explained to the girls beforehand.

If not getting invited back to any particular sorority is going to be traumatic for a girl, rush isn’t for them. Some girls aren’t as invested in a particular sorority or are fine with dropping out of rush if they don’t get into the one they want.

Do you understand that PP isn't talking about not getting invited back by any particular sorority, she's talking about not getting invited back by any sorority that a girl was interested in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To summarize op, if your daughter will be traumatized if she is not given a bid to a “top” sorority, she should consider whether sorority rush is right for her. If she is open minded and looking for a group of girls that she might be compatible with, then she will likely do well.

The trauma is not about “top houses”. It’s about getting dropped by all but one house (and maybe one they didn’t like) only half way through rush. If that scenario is ok with your DD, then it’s ok.

That’s how the process works, both the girls and sororities winnow down so no girl will have more than 3 options on the last night. Other girls may have one or two. This is all explained to the girls beforehand.

If not getting invited back to any particular sorority is going to be traumatic for a girl, rush isn’t for them. Some girls aren’t as invested in a particular sorority or are fine with dropping out of rush if they don’t get into the one they want.

Do you understand that PP isn't talking about not getting invited back by any particular sorority, she's talking about not getting invited back by any sorority that a girl was interested in.

Same difference. Every girl should enter the process knowing she may not get into the sororities she thinks she wants. All that is promised to girls who rush to the end is a bid, it may not be their initially preferred bid. If that prospect is upsetting, they should not rush, but all of this is explained upfront.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To summarize op, if your daughter will be traumatized if she is not given a bid to a “top” sorority, she should consider whether sorority rush is right for her. If she is open minded and looking for a group of girls that she might be compatible with, then she will likely do well.

The trauma is not about “top houses”. It’s about getting dropped by all but one house (and maybe one they didn’t like) only half way through rush. If that scenario is ok with your DD, then it’s ok.

That’s how the process works, both the girls and sororities winnow down so no girl will have more than 3 options on the last night. Other girls may have one or two. This is all explained to the girls beforehand.

If not getting invited back to any particular sorority is going to be traumatic for a girl, rush isn’t for them. Some girls aren’t as invested in a particular sorority or are fine with dropping out of rush if they don’t get into the one they want.

Do you understand that PP isn't talking about not getting invited back by any particular sorority, she's talking about not getting invited back by any sorority that a girl was interested in.

And before that last night. So mid week down to one she doesn’t like. That’s a real and not uncommon scenario. Girls need to be prepared for that possibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To summarize op, if your daughter will be traumatized if she is not given a bid to a “top” sorority, she should consider whether sorority rush is right for her. If she is open minded and looking for a group of girls that she might be compatible with, then she will likely do well.

The trauma is not about “top houses”. It’s about getting dropped by all but one house (and maybe one they didn’t like) only half way through rush. If that scenario is ok with your DD, then it’s ok.

That’s how the process works, both the girls and sororities winnow down so no girl will have more than 3 options on the last night. Other girls may have one or two. This is all explained to the girls beforehand.

If not getting invited back to any particular sorority is going to be traumatic for a girl, rush isn’t for them. Some girls aren’t as invested in a particular sorority or are fine with dropping out of rush if they don’t get into the one they want.

Do you understand that PP isn't talking about not getting invited back by any particular sorority, she's talking about not getting invited back by any sorority that a girl was interested in.

Same difference. Every girl should enter the process knowing she may not get into the sororities she thinks she wants. All that is promised to girls who rush to the end is a bid, it may not be their initially preferred bid. If that prospect is upsetting, they should not rush, but all of this is explained upfront.

Exactly, some girls need to learn that their place is in the reject house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To summarize op, if your daughter will be traumatized if she is not given a bid to a “top” sorority, she should consider whether sorority rush is right for her. If she is open minded and looking for a group of girls that she might be compatible with, then she will likely do well.

The trauma is not about “top houses”. It’s about getting dropped by all but one house (and maybe one they didn’t like) only half way through rush. If that scenario is ok with your DD, then it’s ok.

That’s how the process works, both the girls and sororities winnow down so no girl will have more than 3 options on the last night. Other girls may have one or two. This is all explained to the girls beforehand.

If not getting invited back to any particular sorority is going to be traumatic for a girl, rush isn’t for them. Some girls aren’t as invested in a particular sorority or are fine with dropping out of rush if they don’t get into the one they want.

So every girl who starts the rush process and doesn’t drop out will have 1, 2, or 3 invitations to the final night? No girl will have zero invitations?

And if you’re invited to 1, 2, or 3 final night parties you’re guaranteed to get into one of them/there’s no chance that all of them drop you at that point?

(DP just trying to understand).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To summarize op, if your daughter will be traumatized if she is not given a bid to a “top” sorority, she should consider whether sorority rush is right for her. If she is open minded and looking for a group of girls that she might be compatible with, then she will likely do well.

The trauma is not about “top houses”. It’s about getting dropped by all but one house (and maybe one they didn’t like) only half way through rush. If that scenario is ok with your DD, then it’s ok.

That’s how the process works, both the girls and sororities winnow down so no girl will have more than 3 options on the last night. Other girls may have one or two. This is all explained to the girls beforehand.

If not getting invited back to any particular sorority is going to be traumatic for a girl, rush isn’t for them. Some girls aren’t as invested in a particular sorority or are fine with dropping out of rush if they don’t get into the one they want.

So every girl who starts the rush process and doesn’t drop out will have 1, 2, or 3 invitations to the final night? No girl will have zero invitations?

And if you’re invited to 1, 2, or 3 final night parties you’re guaranteed to get into one of them/there’s no chance that all of them drop you at that point?

(DP just trying to understand).

Still no guarantees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To summarize op, if your daughter will be traumatized if she is not given a bid to a “top” sorority, she should consider whether sorority rush is right for her. If she is open minded and looking for a group of girls that she might be compatible with, then she will likely do well.

The trauma is not about “top houses”. It’s about getting dropped by all but one house (and maybe one they didn’t like) only half way through rush. If that scenario is ok with your DD, then it’s ok.

That’s how the process works, both the girls and sororities winnow down so no girl will have more than 3 options on the last night. Other girls may have one or two. This is all explained to the girls beforehand.

If not getting invited back to any particular sorority is going to be traumatic for a girl, rush isn’t for them. Some girls aren’t as invested in a particular sorority or are fine with dropping out of rush if they don’t get into the one they want.

Do you understand that PP isn't talking about not getting invited back by any particular sorority, she's talking about not getting invited back by any sorority that a girl was interested in.

Bold is what matters. Why aren't they interested? what do they KNOW about that sorority that makes it not what they are "interested in"? What makes a sorority one that they are "interested in"? Alot of times its based reputation and popularity because let's face it that is what freshman girls care about. Which sorority mixes with the fraternity that has the best looking or coolest guys? These girls don't really KNOW anything about any of the houses when they start rush. Its highly unlikely they even know girls in the houses. So the point is, go through the process, don't rule out the houses that invited you back until you have had 3+ opportunities to talk to different girls in the house and then decide if you could see yourself there. My DD was dropped by all but her bottom ranked four houses after first round. Even houses she knew people in and was dirty rushed, even the house where she is a legacy. All dropped her. She called me in tears and said is this wrong, did I rank them wrong? Nope that is just how it was. Thankfully she had one house still on her list that objectively she had the best conversations with the first day. The problem was simply that she'd never heard of them, so she thought they were not a good house. Well I spoke to her and said, you loved the girls you spoke with there, so just keep going, meet more people, see where it goes and you can always pull out at the end of nothing else is a fit. Came down to pref and had this one house she liked and another she could not see herself in, but she had at least met then four times and really gave them a fair shake. Thankfully she got into the one she liked, and would not have accepted a bit to the other one, but again that is her prerogative.

My point is that she gave them a shot, even though they were not "popular" and didn't mix with the top frats (yuck who likes those guys anyway?). So many girls have that initial rejection from what they thought they wanted, and drop, so they don't give the other houses a chance and you can't tell me that in one 20 min conversation with 1-2 girls they knew enough about it to say it wasn't a fit or that they know enough to be "interested" or not. Sometimes someone is just not having a good day and doesn't come across well, or perhaps that one girl wasn't really a fit for the rushee, but if they came back to the next round, they may have met their very best friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To summarize op, if your daughter will be traumatized if she is not given a bid to a “top” sorority, she should consider whether sorority rush is right for her. If she is open minded and looking for a group of girls that she might be compatible with, then she will likely do well.

The trauma is not about “top houses”. It’s about getting dropped by all but one house (and maybe one they didn’t like) only half way through rush. If that scenario is ok with your DD, then it’s ok.

That’s how the process works, both the girls and sororities winnow down so no girl will have more than 3 options on the last night. Other girls may have one or two. This is all explained to the girls beforehand.

If not getting invited back to any particular sorority is going to be traumatic for a girl, rush isn’t for them. Some girls aren’t as invested in a particular sorority or are fine with dropping out of rush if they don’t get into the one they want.

So every girl who starts the rush process and doesn’t drop out will have 1, 2, or 3 invitations to the final night? No girl will have zero invitations?

And if you’re invited to 1, 2, or 3 final night parties you’re guaranteed to get into one of them/there’s no chance that all of them drop you at that point?

(DP just trying to understand).

Yes that is correct. There is no cuts after the final night, the girls and sororities jusr make their lists. As long as a girl lists all the sororities that she was invited to that night on her match card, she will get a bid.