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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To summarize op, if your daughter will be traumatized if she is not given a bid to a “top” sorority, she should consider whether sorority rush is right for her.  If she is open minded and looking for a group of girls that she might be compatible with, then she will likely do well.[/quote]

The trauma is not about “top houses”. It’s about getting dropped by all but one house (and maybe one they didn’t like) only half way through rush. If that scenario is ok with your DD, then it’s ok. [/quote]

That’s how the process works, both the girls and sororities winnow down so no girl will have more than 3 options on the last night. Other girls may have one or two.  This is all explained to the girls beforehand.

If not getting invited back to any particular sorority is going to be traumatic for a girl, rush isn’t for them.  Some girls aren’t as invested in a particular sorority or are fine with dropping out of rush if they don’t get into the one they want.[/quote]

Do you understand that PP isn't talking about not getting invited back by any particular sorority, she's talking about not getting invited back by [b]any sorority that a girl was interested in[/b]. [/quote]

Bold is what matters. Why aren't they interested? what do they KNOW about that sorority that makes it not what they are "interested in"? What makes a sorority one that they are "interested in"? Alot of times its based reputation and popularity because let's face it that is what freshman girls care about. Which sorority mixes with the fraternity that has the best looking or coolest guys? These girls don't really KNOW anything about any of the houses when they start rush. Its highly unlikely they even know girls in the houses. So the point is, go through the process, don't rule out the houses that invited you back until you have had 3+ opportunities to talk to different girls in the house and then decide if you could see yourself there. My DD was dropped by all but her bottom ranked four houses after first round. Even houses she knew people in and was dirty rushed, even the house where she is a legacy. All dropped her. She called me in tears and said is this wrong, did I rank them wrong?  Nope that is just how it was. Thankfully she had one house still on her list that objectively she had the best conversations with the first day. The problem was simply that she'd never heard of them, so she thought they were not a good house. Well I spoke to her and said, you loved the girls you spoke with there, so just keep going, meet more people, see where it goes and you can always pull out at the end of nothing else is a fit. Came down to pref and had this one house she liked and another she could not see herself in, but she had at least met then four times and really gave them a fair shake. Thankfully she got into the one she liked, and would not have accepted a bit to the other one, but again that is her prerogative.

My point is that she gave them a shot, even though they were not "popular" and didn't mix with the top frats (yuck who likes those guys anyway?).  So many girls have that initial rejection from what they thought they wanted, and drop, so they don't give the other houses a chance and you can't tell me that in one 20 min conversation with 1-2 girls they knew enough about it to say it wasn't a fit or that they know enough to be "interested" or not. Sometimes someone is just not having a good day and doesn't come across well, or perhaps that one girl wasn't really a fit for the rushee, but if they came back to the next round, they may have met their very best friend.[/quote]

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