Sorority recruitment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
It's a toxic process, where 18 year olds are told to "trust the process" of "mutual selection". What kind of people enjoy being part of a sorority where you have formal recruitment and rank a bunch of young women you only met for a few minutes? Very weird.

That kind of reminds me of the hiring process at my company!

You are hired to do a job you're qualified for, after presenting and discussing your skill set. It's nothing like being hired. Nice try though!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Girls get shut out if they don't accept invites from less popular houses. My daughter has lots of friends that didn't get into a house because they turned down what they perceived as lesser houses at different steps in the process. At her school, about 25% of the girls that start rush end up in a house. Most girls drop at one of the steps if they don't get a house they want. About 1/5 of the houses do not get the numbers that they want, one is likely losing its charter because it can't meet required numbers.
I know it might seem like I'm overly invested, but my work is in social groups in young adults, so I know a lot about sororities!

At what school?

It's a toxic process, where 18 year olds are told to "trust the process" of "mutual selection". What kind of people enjoy being part of a sorority where you have formal recruitment and rank a bunch of young women you only met for a few minutes? Very weird.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:From what I understand, the process is less brutal at SLACs. But you may want to ask around. At my school, it was absolutely brutal. There were houses with horrible nicknames that no one wanted to be in.

My daughter attends a SLAC. She decided to rush and was only asked back to the "loser" sorority for the preference round. Her friends went to other sororities or, in a few cases, also only had the "loser" sorority as an option, so they decided not to pledge at all. They all seemed a little PTSD about the whole experience. Putting 20/21 year olds in charge of 18 year olds: what could go wrong?

+1

If schools did rush in the spring, it would make the connections a little more authentic and it would let the girls adapt to college first before the miserable trauma of it. But I’m convinced that the drama of crying girls is part of the “fun” for the happy girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I would advise against this.

Have her join specific clubs of her interest instead. Sorriorties can be cruel, rush is cruel.

Ugh, our resident Greek Life hater. Hi! Op, my DD pledged a sorority and can be described very much like your daughter. It has had its' ups and downs, but, in the end, has been a very gratifying experience for her and her friend group. I was ultimately on the side of no Greek life, while my DH fully supported it, with us deciding it was her life and her decision. She eventually received six bids to six sororities and wisely chose the one that she knew she would fit into, not the most popular one which was originally her first choice. The rush experience truly helped her sort out the minute differences that helped her arrive at the final selection. It has been a very supportive and enlightening environment she chose to place herself in, no regrets whatsoever. And yes, my DH gets to tell my "I told you so" whenever he wants on the subject. Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Girls get shut out if they don't accept invites from less popular houses. My daughter has lots of friends that didn't get into a house because they turned down what they perceived as lesser houses at different steps in the process. At her school, about 25% of the girls that start rush end up in a house. Most girls drop at one of the steps if they don't get a house they want. About 1/5 of the houses do not get the numbers that they want, one is likely losing its charter because it can't meet required numbers.
I know it might seem like I'm overly invested, but my work is in social groups in young adults, so I know a lot about sororities!

At what school?

It's a toxic process, where 18 year olds are told to "trust the process" of "mutual selection". What kind of people enjoy being part of a sorority where you have formal recruitment and rank a bunch of young women you only met for a few minutes? Very weird.

+1

You obviously have no idea of the process, it's not a few minutes and in the end, the "rushee" really does make the choice. I have never known one sorority girl who only had one choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I would advise against this.

Have her join specific clubs of her interest instead. Sorriorties can be cruel, rush is cruel.

Ugh, our resident Greek Life hater. Hi! Op, my DD pledged a sorority and can be described very much like your daughter. It has had its' ups and downs, but, in the end, has been a very gratifying experience for her and her friend group. I was ultimately on the side of no Greek life, while my DH fully supported it, with us deciding it was her life and her decision. She eventually received six bids to six sororities and wisely chose the one that she knew she would fit into, not the most popular one which was originally her first choice. The rush experience truly helped her sort out the minute differences that helped her arrive at the final selection. It has been a very supportive and enlightening environment she chose to place herself in, no regrets whatsoever. And yes, my DH gets to tell my "I told you so" whenever he wants on the subject. Lol.

“ 6 bids”. This is either a total lie of a post or you’re talking about Little Local College in rural Montana. This. Doesn’t. Happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Girls get shut out if they don't accept invites from less popular houses. My daughter has lots of friends that didn't get into a house because they turned down what they perceived as lesser houses at different steps in the process. At her school, about 25% of the girls that start rush end up in a house. Most girls drop at one of the steps if they don't get a house they want. About 1/5 of the houses do not get the numbers that they want, one is likely losing its charter because it can't meet required numbers.
I know it might seem like I'm overly invested, but my work is in social groups in young adults, so I know a lot about sororities!

At what school?

It's a toxic process, where 18 year olds are told to "trust the process" of "mutual selection". What kind of people enjoy being part of a sorority where you have formal recruitment and rank a bunch of young women you only met for a few minutes? Very weird.

+1

Well, now you have met one.
You obviously have no idea of the process, it's not a few minutes and in the end, the "rushee" really does make the choice. I have never known one sorority girl who only had one choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Girls get shut out if they don't accept invites from less popular houses. My daughter has lots of friends that didn't get into a house because they turned down what they perceived as lesser houses at different steps in the process. At her school, about 25% of the girls that start rush end up in a house. Most girls drop at one of the steps if they don't get a house they want. About 1/5 of the houses do not get the numbers that they want, one is likely losing its charter because it can't meet required numbers.
I know it might seem like I'm overly invested, but my work is in social groups in young adults, so I know a lot about sororities!

At what school?

It's a toxic process, where 18 year olds are told to "trust the process" of "mutual selection". What kind of people enjoy being part of a sorority where you have formal recruitment and rank a bunch of young women you only met for a few minutes? Very weird.

+1

You obviously have no idea of the process, it's not a few minutes and in the end, the "rushee" really does make the choice. I have never known one sorority girl who only had one choice.

Well, now you have met one! Hello.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From what I understand, the process is less brutal at SLACs. But you may want to ask around. At my school, it was absolutely brutal. There were houses with horrible nicknames that no one wanted to be in.

My daughter attends a SLAC. She decided to rush and was only asked back to the "loser" sorority for the preference round. Her friends went to other sororities or, in a few cases, also only had the "loser" sorority as an option, so they decided not to pledge at all. They all seemed a little PTSD about the whole experience. Putting 20/21 year olds in charge of 18 year olds: what could go wrong?

Maybe they could’ve joined the “loser” sorority (what an awful description) and made it better, bigger and healthier? But no, your kid decided she was too good for them, nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From what I understand, the process is less brutal at SLACs. But you may want to ask around. At my school, it was absolutely brutal. There were houses with horrible nicknames that no one wanted to be in.

My daughter attends a SLAC. She decided to rush and was only asked back to the "loser" sorority for the preference round. Her friends went to other sororities or, in a few cases, also only had the "loser" sorority as an option, so they decided not to pledge at all. They all seemed a little PTSD about the whole experience. Putting 20/21 year olds in charge of 18 year olds: what could go wrong?

Maybe they could’ve joined the “loser” sorority (what an awful description) and made it better, bigger and healthier? But no, your kid decided she was too good for them, nice.

+2. Maybe your daughter should have given those welcoming women a chance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From what I understand, the process is less brutal at SLACs. But you may want to ask around. At my school, it was absolutely brutal. There were houses with horrible nicknames that no one wanted to be in.

My daughter attends a SLAC. She decided to rush and was only asked back to the "loser" sorority for the preference round. Her friends went to other sororities or, in a few cases, also only had the "loser" sorority as an option, so they decided not to pledge at all. They all seemed a little PTSD about the whole experience. Putting 20/21 year olds in charge of 18 year olds: what could go wrong?

Maybe they could’ve joined the “loser” sorority (what an awful description) and made it better, bigger and healthier? But no, your kid decided she was too good for them, nice.

NP-Or knew she wouldn't be happy and made an appropriate decision for both involved. Some of you are perpetually miserable and you simply can't help yourself from judging others, sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From what I understand, the process is less brutal at SLACs. But you may want to ask around. At my school, it was absolutely brutal. There were houses with horrible nicknames that no one wanted to be in.

My daughter attends a SLAC. She decided to rush and was only asked back to the "loser" sorority for the preference round. Her friends went to other sororities or, in a few cases, also only had the "loser" sorority as an option, so they decided not to pledge at all. They all seemed a little PTSD about the whole experience. Putting 20/21 year olds in charge of 18 year olds: what could go wrong?

Maybe they could’ve joined the “loser” sorority (what an awful description) and made it better, bigger and healthier? But no, your kid decided she was too good for them, nice.

NP-Or knew she wouldn't be happy and made an appropriate decision for both involved. Some of you are perpetually miserable and you simply can't help yourself from judging others, sad.

Right? These are the same women saying it’s a “mutual selection” and the girls are “interviewing the houses as well.” But heaven forbid she think her one option is a bad fit and be upset about the emotionally miserable week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I would advise against this.

Have her join specific clubs of her interest instead. Sorriorties can be cruel, rush is cruel.

Ugh, our resident Greek Life hater. Hi! Op, my DD pledged a sorority and can be described very much like your daughter. It has had its' ups and downs, but, in the end, has been a very gratifying experience for her and her friend group. I was ultimately on the side of no Greek life, while my DH fully supported it, with us deciding it was her life and her decision. She eventually received six bids to six sororities and wisely chose the one that she knew she would fit into, not the most popular one which was originally her first choice. The rush experience truly helped her sort out the minute differences that helped her arrive at the final selection. It has been a very supportive and enlightening environment she chose to place herself in, no regrets whatsoever. And yes, my DH gets to tell my "I told you so" whenever he wants on the subject. Lol.

“ 6 bids”. This is either a total lie of a post or you’re talking about Little Local College in rural Montana. This. Doesn’t. Happen.

Agree - this just isn't how formal rush works at all. The houses and girls narrow down their choices, so typically you have three houses left by Pref night. They the girls rank their remaining houses and the houses create lists and the system matches them and the girl gets one bid.

[Anonymous]

I feel like my DD has PTSD from rush. I am not trying to be funny. It was BRUTAL. She dropped out at the end when she was dropped by the top two sororities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From what I understand, the process is less brutal at SLACs. But you may want to ask around. At my school, it was absolutely brutal. There were houses with horrible nicknames that no one wanted to be in.

My daughter attends a SLAC. She decided to rush and was only asked back to the "loser" sorority for the preference round. Her friends went to other sororities or, in a few cases, also only had the "loser" sorority as an option, so they decided not to pledge at all. They all seemed a little PTSD about the whole experience. Putting 20/21 year olds in charge of 18 year olds: what could go wrong?

Maybe they could’ve joined the “loser” sorority (what an awful description) and made it better, bigger and healthier? But no, your kid decided she was too good for them, nice.

NP-Or knew she wouldn't be happy and made an appropriate decision for both involved. Some of you are perpetually miserable and you simply can't help yourself from judging others, sad.

Oh, you mean like the middle-aged woman calling a bunch of 18 year old young women losers?