suspect DW is cheating - any value in getting PI to get proof?

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Anonymous wrote:Is the only reason you want a divorce is that you think she is cheating? Makes sense that you would be sure of that before you discuss splitting up.

yes we have a good marriage, no major arguments, some sex, etc but if she has cheated, no matter what she says/does to repent there will only be a divorce from my end immediately. i just want to know if its worth getting PI to document any illicit affair .. or do courts not give a shit and split assets 50/50 anyway?

Courts don't care. No fault divorce. She's getting the money regardless, just like she would if you were the one cheating. Maybe spend your energy trying to figure out what's really going on rather than trying to cheat her out of money that is also rightfully hers. (hence the cheating being irrelevant)

is cheating a no fault divorce? if adultery is proven? hence my question..

Op here .. would be nice if anyone in legal profession can chime in (we are in VA) .. of course I am also looking at getting legal advice but I feel like I need some answers now (weekend) and will only be torturing myself waiting till the weekday to talk to a laywer

You sound childish.

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Anonymous wrote:Is the only reason you want a divorce is that you think she is cheating? Makes sense that you would be sure of that before you discuss splitting up.

yes we have a good marriage, no major arguments, some sex, etc but if she has cheated, no matter what she says/does to repent there will only be a divorce from my end immediately. i just want to know if its worth getting PI to document any illicit affair .. or do courts not give a shit and split assets 50/50 anyway?

Courts don't care. No fault divorce. She's getting the money regardless, just like she would if you were the one cheating. Maybe spend your energy trying to figure out what's really going on rather than trying to cheat her out of money that is also rightfully hers. (hence the cheating being irrelevant)

is cheating a no fault divorce? if adultery is proven? hence my question..

Op here .. would be nice if anyone in legal profession can chime in (we are in VA) .. of course I am also looking at getting legal advice but I feel like I need some answers now (weekend) and will only be torturing myself waiting till the weekday to talk to a laywer

It won’t matter in VA. Try to have an amicable divorce and not give $$$$$$$ to a lawyer out of spite.

divorce will not be amicable if she has cheated.

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The trolls are OUT today. How many different threads can they start to insist that many - most? - women are cheaters who don’t work? Amazing!

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Anonymous wrote:Is the only reason you want a divorce is that you think she is cheating? Makes sense that you would be sure of that before you discuss splitting up.

yes we have a good marriage, no major arguments, some sex, etc but if she has cheated, no matter what she says/does to repent there will only be a divorce from my end immediately. i just want to know if its worth getting PI to document any illicit affair .. or do courts not give a shit and split assets 50/50 anyway?

Courts don't care. No fault divorce. She's getting the money regardless, just like she would if you were the one cheating. Maybe spend your energy trying to figure out what's really going on rather than trying to cheat her out of money that is also rightfully hers. (hence the cheating being irrelevant)

is cheating a no fault divorce? if adultery is proven? hence my question..

What state are you in? First off, she is still getting 50/50 in assets in a divorce regardless in most states. If you want to file for adultery in VA, you can, and it can be hard to prove. But the only thing this does is 2 things: 1) run up your attorney fees to divorce sky high and 2) it could prevent her from getting alimony if proven. Most people do not get alimony but you make enough that she might.

You should consult an attorney before doing anything, including getting a PI. She is still getting 50/50 assets in a divorce regardless.

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Anonymous wrote:Is the only reason you want a divorce is that you think she is cheating? Makes sense that you would be sure of that before you discuss splitting up.

yes we have a good marriage, no major arguments, some sex, etc but if she has cheated, no matter what she says/does to repent there will only be a divorce from my end immediately. i just want to know if its worth getting PI to document any illicit affair .. or do courts not give a shit and split assets 50/50 anyway?

Courts don't care. No fault divorce. She's getting the money regardless, just like she would if you were the one cheating. Maybe spend your energy trying to figure out what's really going on rather than trying to cheat her out of money that is also rightfully hers. (hence the cheating being irrelevant)

is cheating a no fault divorce? if adultery is proven? hence my question..

Op here .. would be nice if anyone in legal profession can chime in (we are in VA) .. of course I am also looking at getting legal advice but I feel like I need some answers now (weekend) and will only be torturing myself waiting till the weekday to talk to a laywer

It won’t matter in VA. Try to have an amicable divorce and not give $$$$$$$ to a lawyer out of spite.

divorce will not be amicable if she has cheated.

It should be. If she cheated, and you want to be done, it is OVER. There is no need to make it ugly. Making it ugly just costs you money. Money you could keep yourself if you don't fight with attorneys. Only stupid people give their money to attorneys fighting in a divorce. My ex said this--he is an attorney.

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If you can prove she is cheating you will not need to pay alimony.

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If you want to hire a PI for your own edification, then do that first and then you can get an attorney. But either way, it seems this marriage is over.

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Anonymous wrote:If you can prove she is cheating you will not need to pay alimony.

But she’s getting half the pie anyway. And I am a lawyer.

[Anonymous]

Slowly start moving money into a new account she can't find. And once enough money has been moved, start divorce proceedings.

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Anonymous wrote:Is the only reason you want a divorce is that you think she is cheating? Makes sense that you would be sure of that before you discuss splitting up.

yes we have a good marriage, no major arguments, some sex, etc but if she has cheated, no matter what she says/does to repent there will only be a divorce from my end immediately. i just want to know if its worth getting PI to document any illicit affair .. or do courts not give a shit and split assets 50/50 anyway?

Courts don't care. No fault divorce. She's getting the money regardless, just like she would if you were the one cheating. Maybe spend your energy trying to figure out what's really going on rather than trying to cheat her out of money that is also rightfully hers. (hence the cheating being irrelevant)

is cheating a no fault divorce? if adultery is proven? hence my question..

Op here .. would be nice if anyone in legal profession can chime in (we are in VA) .. of course I am also looking at getting legal advice but I feel like I need some answers now (weekend) and will only be torturing myself waiting till the weekday to talk to a laywer

You sound childish.

+1 such a baby

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I can’t believe you make that much per year and have not bothered to google - many law firms answer these questions in the faqs.

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Anonymous wrote:Slowly start moving money into a new account she can't find. And once enough money has been moved, start divorce proceedings.

I don’t think committing fraud and perjury is a good solution.

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https://www.livesaymyers.com/adultery/

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe you make that much per year and have not bothered to google - many law firms answer these questions in the faqs.

This.
Troll fail. Try somewhere else, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:https://www.livesaymyers.com/adultery/

Thanks for being the only helpful response here. Most others seem to be biased at me being a man who has self respect to divorce a cheating wife. I will be contacting this lawyer for more advice.