At my wit’s end-bullying

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m really sorry OP. We live in this school zone too and are considering private because of the lack of diversity (even though we’re white) and general snootiness. These kids are not being raised right and I’m sorry your DD is suffering because of it. I think you should move her to private school if at all possible.

Just saw in your original post that private is not an option - why?

[Anonymous]

Can you take the issue to a higher ranking school official? With an IEP you have options but not sure how that works if the issue is social vs academic.
So sorry this is happening. Please reinforce her beauty and self worth as much as possible and have her spend time with her non white parent. I'm AA and have a dear friend who really wants us to move to her area because of the schools. It's 95% white. I explained to her why I could never do that because it's hard being one of the few children of color. She went on and on how that doesn't happen with the younger generation. This proves that is still happens. Yes, her schools are rated 10 on great schools but ours are 8 and diverse so for us it's a better school system.

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry OP. You cannot put her back in that environment and if you hire a lawyer nothing probably will change in a month. Catholic is probably the most affordable at this point and there are a couple good options for 22207. Or maybe Rivendale/Rivendell - can’t remember spelling.

BTW, I’m a white parent in 22207 but zoned for different schools because I would not want to send my kids to the ones you’re zoned for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so sorry OP. You cannot put her back in that environment and if you hire a lawyer nothing probably will change in a month. Catholic is probably the most affordable at this point and there are a couple good options for 22207. Or maybe Rivendale/Rivendell - can’t remember spelling.

BTW, I’m a white parent in 22207 but zoned for different schools because I would not want to send my kids to the ones you’re zoned for.

What are the good Catholic options? I think St Agnes and St Ann are probably just as white and very conservative too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so sorry OP. You cannot put her back in that environment and if you hire a lawyer nothing probably will change in a month. Catholic is probably the most affordable at this point and there are a couple good options for 22207. Or maybe Rivendale/Rivendell - can’t remember spelling.

BTW, I’m a white parent in 22207 but zoned for different schools because I would not want to send my kids to the ones you’re zoned for.

What are the good Catholic options? I think St Agnes and St Ann are probably just as white and very conservative too.

St. Thomas More Cathedral School and St. Ann’s. I’ve had non-Catholic friends at St Ann’s who were very happy and it is a very welcoming church. I agree about St. Agnes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where in northern VA are you that the school is that white?

Op-22207

APS doesn't have Deputy Superintendents, and there are no schools in 22207 that have only six non-white families. Try again.

[Anonymous]

OP- this is serious bullying. The school needs to talk with the classroom and send a note home to the parents. If my son ever talked with someone like this I would be pissed and want to know- and it would stop.

Also, FWIW, I talk with my son about how it's fine to be curious, but he needs to be very cautious how his curiosity comes across- that he is not to make other people uncomfortable even if it's unintentional. If he has any questions about someone's appearance, he is to ask me. I guarantee if he was in your DD's class, none of this would be coming from him.

it would be better if your DD was in a more diverse school and I agree with other pp, I would engage a lawyer to make sure that happens. She is being abused by other students and emotionally harmed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP- this is serious bullying. The school needs to talk with the classroom and send a note home to the parents. If my son ever talked with someone like this I would be pissed and want to know- and it would stop.

Also, FWIW, I talk with my son about how it's fine to be curious, but he needs to be very cautious how his curiosity comes across- that he is not to make other people uncomfortable even if it's unintentional. If he has any questions about someone's appearance, he is to ask me. I guarantee if he was in your DD's class, none of this would be coming from him.

it would be better if your DD was in a more diverse school and I agree with other pp, I would engage a lawyer to make sure that happens. She is being abused by other students and emotionally harmed.

my point OP, is that some of the nastiness is parenting or at the very least, the school is not giving other parents the opportunity to address it with their children by not informing them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where in northern VA are you that the school is that white?

Op-22207

APS doesn't have Deputy Superintendents, and there are no schools in 22207 that have only six non-white families. Try again.

Jamestown has 8 kids who self-identify as Black, Nottingham 4, and Tuckahoe 7. They all have more students who self-identify as "multiple," but maybe none of those kids are black-presenting. Same with the Hispanic kids in those zones, they may not present as a racial minority.

But yeah, we have Assistant Superintendents, so I hope this is just a troll post. If it's not, I can guess the school and the one OP is trying to get her kid into. ASFS isn't taking transfers, but there are other "good" schools in APS that are more likely to take a transfer for this upcoming year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where in northern VA are you that the school is that white?

Op-22207

APS doesn't have Deputy Superintendents, and there are no schools in 22207 that have only six non-white families. Try again.

Jamestown has 8 kids who self-identify as Black, Nottingham 4, and Tuckahoe 7. They all have more students who self-identify as "multiple," but maybe none of those kids are black-presenting. Same with the Hispanic kids in those zones, they may not present as a racial minority.

But yeah, we have Assistant Superintendents, so I hope this is just a troll post. If it's not, I can guess the school and the one OP is trying to get her kid into. ASFS isn't taking transfers, but there are other "good" schools in APS that are more likely to take a transfer for this upcoming year.

You're forgetting the Asian column, where Tuckahoe has 30 students, Nottingham has 40 and Jamestown has 22.

[Anonymous]

Here are the totals for last year the least diverse schools in 22207 for Asian, Black and Hispanic, but excluding Multiple:

Discovery: 96
Jamestown: 61
Nottingham: 79
Taylor: 87
Tuckahoe: 67

We are at one of those schools (one of the less-diverse ones even within that group), and I personally know more well more than six families who do not present as white. The least diverse, Jamestown, is 81% white, so nearly a fifth of the school identifies as something other than just white.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where in northern VA are you that the school is that white?

Op-22207

APS doesn't have Deputy Superintendents, and there are no schools in 22207 that have only six non-white families. Try again.

Jamestown has 8 kids who self-identify as Black, Nottingham 4, and Tuckahoe 7. They all have more students who self-identify as "multiple," but maybe none of those kids are black-presenting. Same with the Hispanic kids in those zones, they may not present as a racial minority.

But yeah, we have Assistant Superintendents, so I hope this is just a troll post. If it's not, I can guess the school and the one OP is trying to get her kid into. ASFS isn't taking transfers, but there are other "good" schools in APS that are more likely to take a transfer for this upcoming year.

You're forgetting the Asian column, where Tuckahoe has 30 students, Nottingham has 40 and Jamestown has 22.

I didn't "forget" the Asian column. I suspect/hope OP is a troll, but the experience of being Black/brown in a majority white school is not at all the same as being Asian, though I am not dismissing discrimination Asian students might face in the same circumstances. OP specifically called out the one alleged SE Asian student in her child's class, presumably because she, too, has dark skin. If OP's child is being targeted for her curly hair and dark skin, how many kids there are with ancestors from Japan, Korea, or China is not relevant. It's just not. Again, I hope OP is a troll, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where in northern VA are you that the school is that white?

Op-22207

APS doesn't have Deputy Superintendents, and there are no schools in 22207 that have only six non-white families. Try again.

Jamestown has 8 kids who self-identify as Black, Nottingham 4, and Tuckahoe 7. They all have more students who self-identify as "multiple," but maybe none of those kids are black-presenting. Same with the Hispanic kids in those zones, they may not present as a racial minority.

But yeah, we have Assistant Superintendents, so I hope this is just a troll post. If it's not, I can guess the school and the one OP is trying to get her kid into. ASFS isn't taking transfers, but there are other "good" schools in APS that are more likely to take a transfer for this upcoming year.

You're forgetting the Asian column, where Tuckahoe has 30 students, Nottingham has 40 and Jamestown has 22.

I didn't "forget" the Asian column. I suspect/hope OP is a troll, but the experience of being Black/brown in a majority white school is not at all the same as being Asian, though I am not dismissing discrimination Asian students might face in the same circumstances. OP specifically called out the one alleged SE Asian student in her child's class, presumably because she, too, has dark skin. If OP's child is being targeted for her curly hair and dark skin, how many kids there are with ancestors from Japan, Korea, or China is not relevant. It's just not. Again, I hope OP is a troll, too.

I get what you're saying, but in this specific case OP said she was told there were five families in total at the school that are "of other races." In the context of the credibility of that specific claim, the number of children/families who identify as Asian is relevant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry but did you just say your 8 yr old sticks her ass out when she walks and you encourage that? Am I understanding that statement correctly?

"when she walks she juts her bottom out. It looks very cute to me"

That's what you took away from the OP's post? Seriously?

Rethink your entire life, PP.

[Anonymous]

Assuming this is real, I would seriously consider Catholic school. I have friends with kids at St Thomas Moore and they're very happy there. We're at a different Catholic school outside the beltway, and I couldn't imagine such things being tolerated there.