I weigh 245 pounds - scare me straight/skinny

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Anonymous wrote:What purpose does being overweight serve you? What will happen if you don't lose weight? What is your ideal weight?

I don't understand the question. Being overweight serves no purpose. I just always have been fat. It feels like part of my identity. It sucks sometimes now, but not enough for me to put in the immense amount of mental and physical work that losing and maintaining weight takes. I don't know what will happen if I don't lose weight. That's what I'm afraid of.

Dp. Think and then answer the question again. You said you gained the weight after a trauma. Start there. You may have to ponder the question for a long while before you know the answer.

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OP, you may need to pursue therapy to address the trauma you suffered that has lead to the prolonged obesity. You will likely experience chronic health issues as a result.

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Therapy first. A certified health coach can be more helpful than a nutritionist because they take time to listen and help you work through your fears about losing weight.

I wouldn’t do a drastic diet. I know quick weight loss feels more satisfying as helps you keep going, but it works against you in that your body tries desperately to get back to that size. Look up the Biggest Loser contestants and how many of them gain the weight back.

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26 is still really young. I’m 37 and a healthy weight, yet aches and pains and aging are starting to creep up, so I can only imagine how it would be magnified by 100+ more pounds, especially if you want to be active. After a workout my ankles and knees feel it a lot more the next day than they used to. Injuries take a little longer to heal (or seem to happen more easily). With all that extra weight, it’s only going to get worse, faster and multiplied.

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My mom is morbidly obese. She had a double hip replacement by 50. Now in her 70's, she is in constant pain and can barely walk more than about 5 steps. She needs about 6 Oxys to get through the day but even that doesn't touch the pain of the damaged joints, lymphodema and sciatica. You might be fine now but the damage is accumulating.

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Two things:

The writer Anne Lamott has a helpful post up about this subject right now:

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1373592516103721&id=115632081899777

And if you happen to be Af Am, you might think about joining GirlTrek. It's been really empowering for a few acquaintances of mine. Not sure if there are other similar groups out there. (Maybe Parkrun? Those folks seem very encouraging.)

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you may need to pursue therapy to address the trauma you suffered that has lead to the prolonged obesity. You will likely experience chronic health issues as a result.

+100000

OP, clearly you are overeating. And clearly this is related to unresolved issues from the trauma you experienced as a child. Therapy will help you get to the bottom of this connection and help break the cycle.

The fact remains is that you are obese, and the extra weight you carry cannot be sustained on your frame - your bones, your joints, your ligaments, etc. It doesn't matter if right now, your tests come back "clean." It will not be that way permanently.

I don't judge you because I have been there myself, but to fix your body (and related unhealthy habits), you have to fix the brain.

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Clean up your diet. Use MyFitness pal and track everything that you eat. Set a calorie goal and stick to it.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been obese probably since I was eight years old after a childhood trauma.

I'm female and I'm 26 years old. Right now I'm perfectly healthy numbers-wise, resting heartrate of 52, very active with workout classes twice a week and walk 4 miles 5-6 times a week. I can (very slowly) run/jog a 13 minute mile. Can't do a pushup though. I have a lot of mental health issues (obviously goes along with the weight) but physically day to day I feel fine and don't hate my body which is why I don't have any urgency to lose the weight. I also see myself as much less fat than I am.

I once got down to 195 on the horrific HCG diet in 2 months. Gained it all back in a year.

I need real talk on how long before being 100 pounds overweight is going to have grave health implications. Wondering if I need to look into weight loss surgery.

It's the food, not the exercise. Don't stop exercising, but you really have to choose food wisely, record every morsel, and plan meals in advance.

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What size clothes do you wear, Op?

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Go to weight watchers and find a meeting time that is convenient for you and where you click with some of the other people. Some times are filled with older people but try to find a meeting time with younger people. You need to attend the meetings every week for support.

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Just make your life easier and get the sleeve surgery. Life is to short to be constantly dieting and slowly losing weight, only to regain it. If you don't qualify for it through your insurance company you should consider getting it done in Mexico. Plenty of reputable doctors there, contrary to what some might tell you.

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Anonymous wrote:Just make your life easier and get the sleeve surgery. Life is to short to be constantly dieting and slowly losing weight, only to regain it. If you don't qualify for it through your insurance company you should consider getting it done in Mexico. Plenty of reputable doctors there, contrary to what some might tell you.

The sleeve is only going to be effective if she’s deals with what’s causing her to overeat. Otherwise she’ll just make her self miserable sick and never lose weight.

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Anonymous wrote:Just make your life easier and get the sleeve surgery. Life is to short to be constantly dieting and slowly losing weight, only to regain it. If you don't qualify for it through your insurance company you should consider getting it done in Mexico. Plenty of reputable doctors there, contrary to what some might tell you.

Surgery is a bandaid. It's not going to fix OP's head and trauma, which she needs to deal with - or it's going to manifest in some other way.

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Not clear what type of chlldhood trauma you faced. Wonder if part of your overeating is an attempt to comfort or protect yourself. That will continue, and get worse, as you age. Find a good therapist first to work through some of that pain; anything else is just a bandaid, covering up the cause. At some point, you may come to feel you have been punishing yourself for something that was not your fault, and your interest in building a better life for yourself will emerge. You can come to view eating well/exercising as self love, and that is the key to success. Good luck on your journey.