I weigh 245 pounds - scare me straight/skinny

[Anonymous]

I just went from 235 to 150 in a year. Being thin and fit, I realize how much energy I had to dedicate to being fat. How it was in my head every time I met someone new or went somewhere. How every slight in the world, I wondered about whether it had to do with my weight. I put energy into feeling physically terrible—exhausted, chronically dehydrated, unable to do much that required activity. I put energy into longing to be someone who could leave the house and say “let’s go hiking/skiing/running.” It was literally part of almost everything I did. So, even though my stats at the doctor seemed okay, I was not okay. I was not living a full life.

I chose a weight goal that I felt was my “happy weight”, meaning I could maintain it and live a full life. I changed my diet drastically. Maintenance is easier than dieting, and I feel so much happier to not think about my weight all the time. To be fit, so I can be with my family and do things without thinking. It’s worth it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been obese probably since I was eight years old after a childhood trauma.

I'm female and I'm 26 years old. Right now I'm perfectly healthy numbers-wise, resting heartrate of 52, very active with workout classes twice a week and walk 4 miles 5-6 times a week. I can (very slowly) run/jog a 13 minute mile. Can't do a pushup though. I have a lot of mental health issues (obviously goes along with the weight) but physically day to day I feel fine and don't hate my body which is why I don't have any urgency to lose the weight. I also see myself as much less fat than I am.

I once got down to 195 on the horrific HCG diet in 2 months. Gained it all back in a year.

I need real talk on how long before being 100 pounds overweight is going to have grave health implications. Wondering if I need to look into weight loss surgery.

Of couse your labs show you as "perfectly healrhy". You are 26. In 10 years, I'd bet money you will be 300lbs and at a bare minimum prediabetic with major joint problems. At 46, i bet you will be on disability and unable to work.

You seem to have a bad, almost arrogant attitude. Good luck, you're gonna need it.

[Anonymous]

For the women I know who experienced sex-related trauma, gaining weight is a way to control/protect themselves in a way that makes them feel safe. I think you need to replace this control mechanism (food/weight) with another more healthy practice, combined with therapy as pp's have mentioned. Some discipline-oriented practices that might help build back your sense of self-control: self defense/martial arts, yoga, meditation, weight lifting, fencing. good luck.

[Anonymous]

Nobody can motivate you to lose weight than you can motivate yourself. Do you value eating junk food more than having a fit body? You will never lose weight if you don't radically transform your lifestyle forever.

Get some therapy for your underlying mental health issues. Reduce your prescription medication to a minimum, the best case scenario is to not take any prescription drugs.

The law of evolution, aka survival of the fittest, is working whether you like it or not. Some people are meant to die out, not to give their defective genes to the future, be fat, dowdy, and mediocre. People with energy, motivation, hunger for life, improvement, opportunity will always seize the future. Where do you belong?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nobody can motivate you to lose weight than you can motivate yourself. Do you value eating junk food more than having a fit body? You will never lose weight if you don't radically transform your lifestyle forever.

Get some therapy for your underlying mental health issues. Reduce your prescription medication to a minimum, the best case scenario is to not take any prescription drugs.

The law of evolution, aka survival of the fittest, is working whether you like it or not. Some people are meant to die out, not to give their defective genes to the future, be fat, dowdy, and mediocre. People with energy, motivation, hunger for life, improvement, opportunity will always seize the future. Where do you belong?

Have you struggled with weight and overeating? This comment is really offensive. Fat people can still live full lives. Of course, quality of life is improved with good health but the quality of the person doesn’t change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody can motivate you to lose weight than you can motivate yourself. Do you value eating junk food more than having a fit body? You will never lose weight if you don't radically transform your lifestyle forever.

Get some therapy for your underlying mental health issues. Reduce your prescription medication to a minimum, the best case scenario is to not take any prescription drugs.

The law of evolution, aka survival of the fittest, is working whether you like it or not. Some people are meant to die out, not to give their defective genes to the future, be fat, dowdy, and mediocre. People with energy, motivation, hunger for life, improvement, opportunity will always seize the future. Where do you belong?

Have you struggled with weight and overeating? This comment is really offensive. Fat people can still live full lives. Of course, quality of life is improved with good health but the quality of the person doesn’t change.

Op asked for motivation.

[Anonymous]

OP ... if I can ask ... what do you eat? what would a person eat to weigh this much? I'm truly interested. Do you eat a lot everyday, or is it that once the weight is acquired it just doesn't come off? (maybe talking about it will help or help others ...thks)

[Anonymous]

Come live with me. Feed you so little you will lose weight so quick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What size clothes do you wear, Op?

18-20

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been obese probably since I was eight years old after a childhood trauma.

I'm female and I'm 26 years old. Right now I'm perfectly healthy numbers-wise, resting heartrate of 52, very active with workout classes twice a week and walk 4 miles 5-6 times a week. I can (very slowly) run/jog a 13 minute mile. Can't do a pushup though. I have a lot of mental health issues (obviously goes along with the weight) but physically day to day I feel fine and don't hate my body which is why I don't have any urgency to lose the weight. I also see myself as much less fat than I am.

I once got down to 195 on the horrific HCG diet in 2 months. Gained it all back in a year.

I need real talk on how long before being 100 pounds overweight is going to have grave health implications. Wondering if I need to look into weight loss surgery.

I will answer your surgery question as someone who has had the surgery. Given the length of time you have been obese, the chance is slim to nil that you will lose weight with diet and exercise alone. Surgery will physically restrict you from overeating which will in turn give you the chance to implement lifestyle changes and become a healthier person. It was really a really hard road but I am glad I did and it's been almost 15 years and I have not regained the weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP ... if I can ask ... what do you eat? what would a person eat to weigh this much? I'm truly interested. Do you eat a lot everyday, or is it that once the weight is acquired it just doesn't come off? (maybe talking about it will help or help others ...thks)

I eat whatever I want. Sometimes that means cooking and sometimes a lot of takeout. I like all food and eat vegetables but I really like bread and pasta and desserts and even have phases where I drink regular soda. I do have to eat a lot to maintain my weight, probably 2300 calories or more. I stay about the same unless I get too frequent with fast food or soda, then it will creep up. I am not a binge eater per se. I will eat a lot at a meal - like I can easily finish a chipotle bowl and be full but not stuffed - but nothing insane. It's just that all my meals are too big. I like to eat and it is emotional comfort in a hard life and always has been. Thinking about counting calories and not being able to eat the things I like is actually depressing and anxiety-inducing. I think about food way way more than a thin or average sized person so I snack a lot in between meals. I also wake up hungry unlike a lot of people who don't like breakfast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not clear what type of chlldhood trauma you faced. Wonder if part of your overeating is an attempt to comfort or protect yourself. That will continue, and get worse, as you age. Find a good therapist first to work through some of that pain; anything else is just a bandaid, covering up the cause. At some point, you may come to feel you have been punishing yourself for something that was not your fault, and your interest in building a better life for yourself will emerge. You can come to view eating well/exercising as self love, and that is the key to success. Good luck on your journey.

When I was young, three important people in my life died in quick succession - first my grandfather, suddenly. Then his wife, my grandmother, had throat cancer at the same time that my mom had pancreatic cancer. My grandmother died first, then my mom shortly after my eighth birthday.

So it was a lot of hospitals, being around sickness, funerals, being uprooted to a different state for my mother's treatment, my healthy parent being busy taking care of my grandmother and mother at the same time. Just a lot. Plus my remaining parent could be quite emotionally abusive/angry - he didn't hit me, but punched walls, that kind of thing. My dad and I were pretty much alone after that with no extended family in the area.

I was chubby before that but I very much remember after my mother dying emotionally coping with food, sneaking food, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been obese probably since I was eight years old after a childhood trauma.

I'm female and I'm 26 years old. Right now I'm perfectly healthy numbers-wise, resting heartrate of 52, very active with workout classes twice a week and walk 4 miles 5-6 times a week. I can (very slowly) run/jog a 13 minute mile. Can't do a pushup though. I have a lot of mental health issues (obviously goes along with the weight) but physically day to day I feel fine and don't hate my body which is why I don't have any urgency to lose the weight. I also see myself as much less fat than I am.

I once got down to 195 on the horrific HCG diet in 2 months. Gained it all back in a year.

I need real talk on how long before being 100 pounds overweight is going to have grave health implications. Wondering if I need to look into weight loss surgery.

Of couse your labs show you as "perfectly healrhy". You are 26. In 10 years, I'd bet money you will be 300lbs and at a bare minimum prediabetic with major joint problems. At 46, i bet you will be on disability and unable to work.

You seem to have a bad, almost arrogant attitude. Good luck, you're gonna need it.

I wish you had offered me that bet- I would have won your money. i had basically the same stats as OP at 26. At 36 I was basically the same- definitely not prediabetic with majro joint problems. Now in 40's I have gained another 20lbs- but no where near the dire picture you paint. I am very unhappy about the weight gain- but it does not impact daily activities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been obese probably since I was eight years old after a childhood trauma.

I'm female and I'm 26 years old. Right now I'm perfectly healthy numbers-wise, resting heartrate of 52, very active with workout classes twice a week and walk 4 miles 5-6 times a week. I can (very slowly) run/jog a 13 minute mile. Can't do a pushup though. I have a lot of mental health issues (obviously goes along with the weight) but physically day to day I feel fine and don't hate my body which is why I don't have any urgency to lose the weight. I also see myself as much less fat than I am.

I once got down to 195 on the horrific HCG diet in 2 months. Gained it all back in a year.

I need real talk on how long before being 100 pounds overweight is going to have grave health implications. Wondering if I need to look into weight loss surgery.

Of couse your labs show you as "perfectly healrhy". You are 26. In 10 years, I'd bet money you will be 300lbs and at a bare minimum prediabetic with major joint problems. At 46, i bet you will be on disability and unable to work.

You seem to have a bad, almost arrogant attitude. Good luck, you're gonna need it.

I wish you had offered me that bet- I would have won your money. i had basically the same stats as OP at 26. At 36 I was basically the same- definitely not prediabetic with majro joint problems. Now in 40's I have gained another 20lbs- but no where near the dire picture you paint. I am very unhappy about the weight gain- but it does not impact daily activities.

It probably doesn't impact daily activities because it doesn't seem like you have any that require athletic ability. If you are sedentary, then of course your daily activities aren't impacted.

[Anonymous]

You are eating enough food to support 1.5 - 2 women. Why do you need / deserve that much food compared to the next person?

This is something I have had to ask myself when I was overeating. Measure those calories / macronutrients!