Why did you cheat on your spouse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why will I? I haven't to date.

Because he withholds intimacy from me, he had an EA, I do t like him as a person, his family I cannot stand, he's not a great dad-he once was, though, he has ED.

Do I even need a reason?

Why are you still with him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He cheated on me with 2 women (that I know of), and sextet another. I cheated with one person and then left him. Still with my AP

Do you have kids that are now involved with this mess?

No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is for men and women. If you cheated on your spouse, why? Were you no longer attracted to your spouse? Wanted to see what else is out there? Unhappy marriage? What was your reason?

I thought it was my H's job to make me happy. So when I wasn't happy, I blamed him and looked for someone else to make me happy. After a lot of introspection, I finally realized that the only person who can make me happy is myself. Everyone else either enhances that happiness or not. I also realized that I should not pursue my own happiness at the expense of someone else's.

There were also other reasons...my self-esteem sucked, I was both selfish and self-centered...but above is the main reason I see now why I pursued the A. It was the worst, most hurtful choice I've ever made and I wish I could have made a different decision. Unfortunately there is no do-overs in life so I work hard each day to change my coping skills and thinking so that I would never believe that kind of choice was okay again.

[Anonymous]

People actually cheat when husband get fat?
What is wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People actually cheat when husband get fat?
What is wrong with you?

What's good for the goose is good for the gander I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People actually cheat when husband get fat?
What is wrong with you?

But it's a totally different story if the wife is? Please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People actually cheat when husband get fat?
What is wrong with you?

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He cheated on me with 2 women (that I know of), and sextet another. I cheated with one person and then left him. Still with my AP

Woman here and this is my story too. Except we have a kid so I didn't leave him to be with my AP.

[Anonymous]

Years of lack of sex, other than wifely duty once or twice a month. Many talks, arguments, tears, attempted solutions, nothing worked. A woman showed interest, I was super lonely, felt alive again. Yes, totally cliche, but it's a cliche for a reason. Affair in the past, no one found out, wife and I doing better now. The kind of affair you never hear about, because it was undiscovered and saved a marriage.

[Anonymous]

Lack of sex

[Anonymous]

Because I didnt think I would get caught. I didn't but realized how much I would lose if I did. Just not worth it.

[Anonymous]

Cause guy phucks like a virgin, but he has dough, so she won't dump him. I don't care, as long as I get fresh poon

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People actually cheat when husband get fat?
What is wrong with you?

What's good for the goose is good for the gander I guess.

Agree with this. Getting fat on your spouse is just plain lazy, unattractive, and disrespectful. Demonstrates you have "given up" on the relationship.
Oh am I being too harsh on something that's out of his/her control?
Almost every time I have seen these couples split up, the heavy one suddenly regained control and got thin again to reenter the dating pool.
How incredibly selfish and rude is that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People actually cheat when husband get fat?
What is wrong with you?

What's good for the goose is good for the gander I guess.

Agree with this. Getting fat on your spouse is just plain lazy, unattractive, and disrespectful. Demonstrates you have "given up" on the relationship.
Oh am I being too harsh on something that's out of his/her control?
Almost every time I have seen these couples split up, the heavy one suddenly regained control and got thin again to reenter the dating pool.
How incredibly selfish and rude is that!

Yup. Hear that, dh??

[Anonymous]

Because spouse unilaterally decided that sex and intimacy were not "priorities." After seeing a counselor, numerous discussions and even begging over 3 years to no result, I had an affair with a similarly situated married man. After a while when I stopped mentioning sex to my spouse, and I am sure that they know or suspect as they know that I am a very physically affectionate and sexual person. I do not have any regrets.